first time punting, vigin too, some advice needed.

[dietCoke]

like it say in the title i never used an escort and to make matters worse in in my early 20's and still a virgin.


i'm glad i've found these forums as i already learned a few things by reading around, and found couple of girls that i like the look of with good feedback here and on AdultWork.

i'm just not sure how to approach this situation, the logical thing to do would be to find a girl that offers good GFE and see what happens.

but at the same time as i think of all those years i've lived without getting any the idea of making up for it and going all out by booking 2 girls seems tempting...


i thought i'd ask here first before i do anything as i think this will be a one time thing only for me, i got to get that shit over with as its always in the back of my mind whenever i'm around women....

[Dani]

DO not book two girls for your first time. You will probably be nervous as hell before hand and two girls could leave you totally floppy or spent in minutes.
It will also be a very poor experience for your first time especially if you pick two girls who don't get along that well or who don't click with each other..
You are better off emailing one you like and stating that you are nervous and inexperienced (you don't have to say virgin) and does she cater for this type of client.
If she does then make a booking for 30minutes as being a virgin you probably wont need longer for your first few times and I doubt you want to spend half an hour just chatting.  Also ensure she will allow you two pops in that time as the first will probably be very quick.  If you only want to pop once explain you would like to take it slowly with lots of foreplay so she doesn't dive on and finish you in minutes

[HarryRoss]

Dani already gave you many useful advice.

What I'm suggesting is what's your wish or expectation about your first punt? I agree with Dani that two girls for first punt is not a good idea, one experienced girl is your best choice.

If you need more time to warm up or wanna more time stay with the wg, then you can book 1 or even 2 hours, if you don't feel well then leave earlier.

If you want an out call which means the girl will come to your home (I don't know if that will make you more comfortable?), then have a try. You should feel much better at your place. I think you will be okay for both incall or outcall in your age.

Anyway, there're few tips for outcall, part of these can also work for incall, may be can give you some helps.
Here's the link and you can find my reply: https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=26660.0

[wristjob]

I'd go along with what Dani said. First time will be fraught so 3x 30 mins would do you more good than an hour with 2 girls. Do your 30 mins and if you want another go 2 hours later book the same or a different girl.

Prob worth asking for advice on who to book in your regional section too.

[dietCoke]

thanks for replying so quickly

i had my doubts about getting 2 girls, and after reading your replies it seems i was right after all...

as for my expectations, i'm not sure if its as much about sex but more about finally doing it, i feel like i've got this psychological block whenever i'm around women (whether i'm nervous right away, or i realise she likes me and sex could happen) , i could've gotten laid on few separate occasions but rejected them /played dumb because i was afraid i'd finish in seconds/etc...



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[password02]

My biggest mistake on my first ever punt a couple of years ago was with a 2 girl session in Euston at £250 -

Biggest mistake of my life - lased 15 mins and spent the other 45 mins in the bathroom too nervous too come out as I blew my load and just could not get hard again - Don't do a 3some as your 1st punt NOT worth the hassle.

Best to find a very good reviewed AW girl - and then do a 30 mins or a 1 hour session.

[CBPaul]

I go along with what others have said, don't go for a duo.

Look for a prossie with decent fb and reviews on here. You may be in your early 20's but my advice is go for a girl in her later 20's onwards, you stand more chance of her having more experience and knowing how to handle your situation. Of course that'll be good for you in the punt and in the long run.

Also don't be afraid to say it's your first time, she'll probably guess it anyway.

[Anadin]

My advice is look for WGs you really fancy, a proper fantasy shag, then check out her feedback and reviews here and elsewhere to make sure she's gonna provide a good service . As mentioned before, 1 at a time to begin with & then you can try and get 2 ladies you enjoyed together for a threesome down the line.

If you want an out call which means the girl will come to your home (I don't know if that will make you more comfortable?), then have a try.

I've had a few outcalls never to my home though and not sure I'd be entirely comfortable with that, I personally much prefer budget hotels rooms.

[garyrcc]

Best of luck, I recently was in your situation and I can assure you its no big of a deal I thought I would have dwelled I finally got the monkey off my back but honestly I have not really thought about it since

Fill your boots

[HarryRoss]

I've had a few outcalls never to my home though and not sure I'd be entirely comfortable with that, I personally much prefer budget hotels rooms.

This buddy is a Virgin, so anything familiar may get him relax at least a bit. However hotel and wg's flat are both strange places. So I'm not sure which is the best choice for him, but these all can be options. 

[jcdmj12]

My biggest mistake on my first ever punt a couple of years ago was with a 2 girl session in Euston at £250 -

Biggest mistake of my life - lased 15 mins and spent the other 45 mins in the bathroom too nervous too come out as I blew my load and just could not get hard again - Don't do a 3some as your 1st punt NOT worth the hassle.

Best to find a very good reviewed AW girl - and then do a 30 mins or a 1 hour session.

An FFM for your first experience? That's like drinking neat overproof rum for your first ever taste of alcohol!

Take it slowly, and don't expect too much to start off with.  Sex isn't all that great when you get started, because it takes some practice to learn how to really enjoy it.

[Rochdull lad]

like it say in the title i never used an escort and to make matters worse in in my early 20's and still a virgin.


i'm glad i've found these forums as i already learned a few things by reading around, and found couple of girls that i like the look of with good feedback here and on AdultWork.

i'm just not sure how to approach this situation, the logical thing to do would be to find a girl that offers good GFE and see what happens.

but at the same time as i think of all those years i've lived without getting any the idea of making up for it and going all out by booking 2 girls seems tempting...


i thought i'd ask here first before i do anything as i think this will be a one time thing only for me, i got to get that shit over with as its always in the back of my mind whenever i'm around women....

Without being patronising, diet; "Ah bless!"  For a lad in his early 20s to be using phrases like "all these years": I know it must seem like you're way behind your contemporaries but we had a thread on here last year from a bloke in his late 30s [I can't remember his nickname now] in the same situation.

As others have implied, don't run before you can walk; don't think about a Duo until you've tried several sessions with WGs who offer GFE. 

Have a look on the Reviews Board https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?board=3.0 on here for the area in which you live and be guided by what's put on there.  As an older punter who didn't lose his virginity till he was 27 and wishes UKPunting had been around in those days, I'd suggest that you may be better off considering a more mature WG, who's likely to be experienced with a somewhat nervous virgin.

[seedygit]

dietCoke, here is my two pennorth.  Losing your virginity is a big thing and not to be taken lightly.  Do you really want to lose it to a WG?  Wouldn't it be a lot nicer to find a nice girl you're happy with?  I don't think it's that difficult to find a real actual girl who will spend time with you, have a look on Blendr or Plenty of Fish.  I am ugly and overweight and get plenty of interest on Blendr. 

Also, while you've still got it, maybe it would be worth hanging on to.  You're still able to save yourself for marriage if you want to.  Given my time again I know I would.

Before you sleep with a WG, think about whether you'll be able to live with the guilt.  I battled with that for a long time (I'm pretty desensitized to it now, but that's not a good thing).  Will you be able to keep a punting past secret from future girlfriends?  My ex knowing about my nighttime habits while single played a big part in ending a relationship that meant everything to me.

Finally, please don't feel you're weird for still being a virgin.  I didn't sleep with a girl till I was 21.

People may think this is a weird post to put on a punting forum, but it's what I really think.

PM me if you want to talk privately about what it's like the first time and reasons to do / not do it.

Increase the peace mate.

[garyrcc]

dietCoke, here is my two pennorth.  Losing your virginity is a big thing and not to be taken lightly.  Do you really want to lose it to a WG?  Wouldn't it be a lot nicer to find a nice girl you're happy with?  I don't think it's that difficult to find a real actual girl who will spend time with you, have a look on Blendr or Plenty of Fish.  I am ugly and overweight and get plenty of interest on Blendr. 

Also, while you've still got it, maybe it would be worth hanging on to.  You're still able to save yourself for marriage if you want to.  Given my time again I know I would.

Before you sleep with a WG, think about whether you'll be able to live with the guilt.  I battled with that for a long time (I'm pretty desensitized to it now, but that's not a good thing).  Will you be able to keep a punting past secret from future girlfriends?  My ex knowing about my nighttime habits while single played a big part in ending a relationship that meant everything to me.

Finally, please don't feel you're weird for still being a virgin.  I didn't sleep with a girl till I was 21.

People may think this is a weird post to put on a punting forum, but it's what I really think.

PM me if you want to talk privately about what it's like the first time and reasons to do / not do it.

Increase the peace mate.

You make it sound like 21 is 40, is it really that weird to be a virgin at 21? hardly

I also disagree about it being a big thing, it seems like it if you are a virgin but as I said I have not given it much thought since, even mentioning guilt is a tad out of order I think

[seedygit]

garyrcc, sorry you feel I was being out of order.  I was trying to share the benefit of hindsight.

[Anadin]

This buddy is a Virgin, so anything familiar may get him relax at least a bit. However hotel and wg's flat are both strange places. So I'm not sure which is the best choice for him, but these all can be options.

I am aware but my first time with a WG was in a hotel and given that it's a stranger neutral ground was very relaxing imho, plus no chance of Mum deciding to randomly pop round.

[domino131]

I think seedygit is making a valid point and it's good to give that side of the issue an airing.  It may apply to the OP or it may not, but I do think it's something he should consider.  Even if you don't feel odd about it straight after, there is always the fact that if you later get a girlfriend, and you talk to each other about your past experiences, you might feel very uncomfortable hiding the fact that your first time was with a WG.  I suppose you could just say it was a 'one-off encounter'.

On the other hand, the OP's point about that feeling at the back of his mind when he talks to girls is something I can relate to.  Before punting, much as I tried not to, I would very often think of girls that I met as a potential girlfriend or sexual partner.  Now that's not really an issue because I know I can just go and pay for it.  Much easier to put it to the back of my mind.

[Gigabyte]

FWIW If the virginity thing is starting to get to him and he cant get himself to go through with it with a civvie I absolutely agree to go with a WG. No pressure, she wont care if you take 5 minutes to pop. Gets you over the hump, boosts your confidence in that you know you have done it, plus you can ask the WG for advice on technique etc... But I would say go for a positively reviewed on UKP girl.

As to the girl go for what makes you comfortable if thats a 40m yr old milf and you think you would be more comfortable then do that, if its a girl your own age then go for her. The key is to do what makes you as comfortable as you can as your nerves will be going haywire as not only is it your first punt but it will be your first time. Don't believe what your subconcious tells you at that moment in time and go for it. After that go wild with the civvie girls for a bit and just enjoy vanilla sex, before you think about doing the more unusual things like A lvls, Duo's or whatever floats your boat.

Good luck

[James999]

Ignore all the above, just book the cheapest you can find for the shortest time you can book, it's going to be a trainwreck anyway at least that way you won't wast time or money. 

Perhaps even a fat ugly old one as you may last a bit longer 

[gorge]

James999 is right.
Losing you Virginity : -Don't make it a big deal - just get it over with. Second time round won't be as bad. Budget for a few times and then you might start having fun.

[CBPaul]

I can understand the idea of feeling more comfortable at home but personally if it were my first time - having sex and seeing a wg - I wouldn't be having her in my place as I would be too off guard.

A flat would be ideal for me, a hotel at a push but with a hotel you add first time passing through reception to the list.

[Gigabyte]

Hotel meets always make me nervous if I have never been into the hotel before.

[CBPaul]

Hotel meets always make me nervous if I have never been into the hotel before.

They can be awkward, the last one I visited I marched straight past the list, past reception, round the corner and into a dead end with a coffee place. Felt a Muppet, walked back and spotted the lift.

Still, at the end of the day the receptionist knew exactly what I was up to and most others probably thought I was looking someone perfectly innocently.

Might be a bit nerve wracking for a newbie but still better than an outcall imo. A working flat would be best bet.

[Aspen]

FWIW If the virginity thing is starting to get to him and he cant get himself to go through with it with a civvie I absolutely agree to go with a WG.

After that go wild with the civvie girls for a bit and just enjoy vanilla sex,

I think you're missing the point here a bit.

The reason the OP is asking is that he wants some experience that the civvie girls he meets/knows won't provide. So how's he going to go wild afterwards?

I would advise the OP to be very selective over who he chooses to do it with. It's not a great idea to do it first time with a WG, but if that's how it's to be at least make it a good experience with someone who is considerate.

[CBPaul]

I think you're missing the point here a bit.

The reason the OP is asking is that he wants some experience that the civvie girls he meets/knows won't provide. So how's he going to go wild afterwards?

I would advise the OP to be very selective over who he chooses to do it with. It's not a great idea to do it first time with a WG, but if that's how it's to be at least make it a good experience with someone who is considerate.

I'm not so sure he is after something something a civvie won't provide, just popping his cherry. He mentions a GFE and the duo thing I reckon he knew was a bad idea anyway.

I agree, be selective. Find an experienced prossie, not too young and he should be fine, takes all the pulling shit out of the equation as it's guaranteed sex.

[CBPaul]

like it say in the title i never used an escort and to make matters worse in in my early 20's and still a virgin.


i'm glad i've found these forums as i already learned a few things by reading around, and found couple of girls that i like the look of with good feedback here and on AdultWork.

i'm just not sure how to approach this situation, the logical thing to do would be to find a girl that offers good GFE and see what happens.

but at the same time as i think of all those years i've lived without getting any the idea of making up for it and going all out by booking 2 girls seems tempting...


i thought i'd ask here first before i do anything as i think this will be a one time thing only for me, i got to get that shit over with as its always in the back of my mind whenever i'm around women....

Who are the couple of girls on AW you like the look of ? Post links and you'll get advice of them.

[Thepacifist]

I know how you feel Dietcoke. I felt the same way and lost my virginity at 18 to a prossie in Amsterdam. Happy punting 

[Anadin]

Hotel meets always make me nervous if I have never been into the hotel before.

Yeah if it's her hotel and I have to find the room then I find the whole thing disquieting. If it's my room and I'm just waiting for her to turn up well that's tremendously exciting although potentially terribly expensive.

[Rochdull lad]

Is my Troll-meter twitching; or has the OP gone awfully quiet on us?

[dietCoke]

i'm definitely not a troll, i'm looking for the right WG (and the right approach, 15/30 mins quicky vs non-rushed hour) and at the same time i'm still thinking if its the best decision, i see that not all of you agree if its a good idea to lose the virginity to a WG (i don't think i'd regret it but who knows how i'd feel afterwards ?)

[abdul]

i'm definitely not a troll, i'm looking for the right WG (and the right approach, 15/30 mins quicky vs non-rushed hour) and at the same time i'm still thinking if its the best decision, i see that not all of you agree if its a good idea to lose the virginity to a WG (i don't think i'd regret it but who knows how i'd feel afterwards ?)

Also it is important that from which position you will start your session so you can watch some porn movie or clip to get intial idea.

[Benboybristol]

Dietcoke.....you're getting some good advice here (and not so good !) but just remember the choice is yours and I know you've got the monkey on your back but take your time to make the right decision for you.

In my experience, rarely someone's first time with a woman is that great. Mine was terrible ! Don't expect too much. Get some of the practicalities out of the way beforehand (learn to put a condom on if you haven't already!) and don't try and copy what you might have seen in porn because it's not going to happen like that first time.

You might think your cowardly going with a WG first time instead of a civvie but I actually think it's quite brave. And whilst you say it's a one time thing, you might find you want to return.

I would suggest you book and hour and don't jump into the sex straight off. Have an idea in your mind how you want it to go, what you want to do with her and what you want her to do to you, and if the sex is over in 5 seconds that's fine....u might be up for round 2 !

One word of caution though, if you think you're going to regret it in the future, think hard before you take the plunge.

Good luck my man !

[cunnyhunt]

i'm definitely not a troll, i'm looking for the right WG (and the right approach, 15/30 mins quicky vs non-rushed hour) and at the same time i'm still thinking if its the best decision, i see that not all of you agree if its a good idea to lose the virginity to a WG (i don't think i'd regret it but who knows how i'd feel afterwards ?)

My troll meter is twitching as well

But if I am wrong then my advice is not to punt with full sex but to visit and have a BJ &HJ, you will experience female attention and orgasm without pressure to perform. It will also give you a taste of what punting is.

[vorian]

My troll meter is twitching as well

But if I am wrong then my advice is not to punt with full sex but to visit and have a BJ &HJ, you will experience female attention and orgasm without pressure to perform. It will also give you a taste of what punting is.

Good advice, takes the pressure off for sure.

[knight5648]

"But if I am wrong then my advice is not to punt with full sex but to visit and have a BJ &HJ, you will experience female attention and orgasm without pressure to perform. It will also give you a taste of what punting is"


For what its worth, I agree. Take it slow, there is plenty of time to take things up a notch or two in future visits.........on the other hand it might be worth going to your first meet with the thought of 'I'm just going for a toppless HJ' it will take the pressure off you before you get there, and I bet that once you are there, within ten minutes you will be relaxed/comfortable and going a little further than you thought you would....

[Madone1]

I think the virgin troll on here is hornyuklad231 from never even feeling a pair of tits before too anal barebaker.

the advice her is spot on a two girl would be a big expensive mistake take your time a 30 minute 121 with an older WG 27+ say would be the place to start.

good luck.

[Dani]

Also it is important that from which position you will start your session so you can watch some porn movie or clip to get intial idea.

Please don't do this. Nothing worse than a guy who thinks porn movies are like real life and bookings start with him ass fucking her to start. Porn is not real and nothing like a first time experience. Let her lead you and then you won't be disappointed when she doesn't make the awful noises porn stars do as that is also very fake

[CBPaul]

Also it is important that from which position you will start your session so you can watch some porn movie or clip to get intial idea.

Totally agree with Dani, very bad idea and will only end with a pissed off WG and your major disappointment. You have to separate reality and porn.

[dietCoke]

Ok so I met this girl and I actually like her (which is very rare) and it looks like she's interested and my close friend is of the same opinion, the problem is she rents her room in the same house that 2 of my friends live in (so if I had "gone in 60 seconds" and she decided to share that with anyone I'd have to live with them knowing about it), she's also older than me (26 or 27 don't remember tbh) which for some reason I find intimidating (but only in when I think about the potential sex), I wanted to ask if it'd be better to maybe visit a WG first just to get an idea of what will it be like, etc or just go with the girl in question and take it easy, (if I knew u wouldn't see her again I wouldn't even ask this question)

[cockneybstrd]

Ok so I met this girl and I actually like her (which is very rare) and it looks like she's interested and my close friend is of the same opinion, the problem is she rents her room in the same house that 2 of my friends live in (so if I had "gone in 60 seconds" and she decided to share that with anyone I'd have to live with them knowing about it), she's also older than me (26 or 27 don't remember tbh) which for some reason I find intimidating (but only in when I think about the potential sex), I wanted to ask if it'd be better to maybe visit a WG first just to get an idea of what will it be like, etc or just go with the girl in question and take it easy, (if I knew u wouldn't see her again I wouldn't even ask this question)

This isnt Dear Derdrie

But so what if your mates know your quick draw mcgraw you just laugh it off

[cunnyhunt]

so if I had "gone in 60 seconds" and she decided to share that with anyone I'd have to live with them knowing about it

I do not understand ? who would give a shit.

Do not believe what you see in porn a lot of men do not last very long, what matter to a girl (civvy) is how you pleasure her which is usually not banging her for hours, what matters to a pro$$ie is ££££'s so a quick cummer is a prefered customer.

[vorian]

Ok so I met this girl and I actually like her (which is very rare) and it looks like she's interested and my close friend is of the same opinion, the problem is she rents her room in the same house that 2 of my friends live in (so if I had "gone in 60 seconds" and she decided to share that with anyone I'd have to live with them knowing about it), she's also older than me (26 or 27 don't remember tbh) which for some reason I find intimidating (but only in when I think about the potential sex), I wanted to ask if it'd be better to maybe visit a WG first just to get an idea of what will it be like, etc or just go with the girl in question and take it easy, (if I knew u wouldn't see her again I wouldn't even ask this question)

Fuck knows, can't give you relationship advice. Personally I would fuck both,  then ask for a threesome.

[CBPaul]

Ok so I met this girl and I actually like her (which is very rare) and it looks like she's interested and my close friend is of the same opinion, the problem is she rents her room in the same house that 2 of my friends live in (so if I had "gone in 60 seconds" and she decided to share that with anyone I'd have to live with them knowing about it), she's also older than me (26 or 27 don't remember tbh) which for some reason I find intimidating (but only in when I think about the potential sex), I wanted to ask if it'd be better to maybe visit a WG first just to get an idea of what will it be like, etc or just go with the girl in question and take it easy, (if I knew u wouldn't see her again I wouldn't even ask this question)

Is this really the place to ask ? Is this older woman your teacher by any chance ?

You are worried about releasing the load too soon, are you not also concerned about a visit from Mr Floppy ? As above, stop watching the porn, it doesn't happen like that.

[oldfart]

Every one of us on here has gone through this, dietcoke....my first time lasted about 30 secs...i exploded in her hand..lol

just get it over  with the older woman...then fuck as many as you can till your cock drops off..