I’ve heard CJs mentioned a few times but I don’t like the idea of having to provide ID to get in, especially when you’re wanting to be discreet

I found the issue of id being asked for, not to be such a big problem, and in real terms they doing this for there own safety, so are you over 18, or more in there eyes over 21
You need some sort of id, to prove this, and to make you at ease, no copies are taking of the id, but rather noted, on a sheet
If I was holding a sex party, and inviting girls and guys, I would want to know who everyone one was, and believe this would be the norm for sex partie, who ever is hosting them