1. Before talking to anyone are you clear on what you’re looking for yourself? The level of connection (or not) you’re looking for, the sort of dynamic you’re looking for, the type of dates you want?
2. Are you clear on what it is you offer? Is it just money, or are you more than a wallet?
3. Is your profile written in such a way that it aligns to 1 and 2. There are different fishies in that sea, what you catch depends on your bait.
4. Are you talking to girls whose profiles match the things you’re looking for or are you just reaching out to ones you really fancy based on pics alone?
These questions aren’t necessarily easy, might even require a bit of work on your part. But if you do this well it can pay off.
I have put efforts in creating a nice profile (it helps and I usually get compliment on that) and then I read profile very carefully before approaching.
You can easily make out who is there only for cash and who is looking for some connection by reading profile or by initial few messages. Usually girls with provocative pics etc are in rush and others with decent pics, nice profile with description etc are usually looking for more than just money.
If a girl sounds professional then I just follow different approach. I still treat her with respect and try to understand what PPM she is looking for and then i see if she is worth meeting or not. Advantage is that she wont need too much attention between meet and wont bother you but at the same time she will meet whoever is willing to pay her what she want and cant be reliable (these are the type of girls who will ghost you at last moment etc).
Other type of women would like to know you, see if you are attractive (I am an average looking man...but do try to stay fit and present nicely and never had issue with looks etc. Unless someone woman is looking for a male model there) and want to feel connection and establish trust. You cant compare straightaway with the money(though I have higher limit in my head but I am good in convincing and show other aspect) you are going spend because if things work out well...the experience can be heavenly. My current(regular) SB is a young girl(in mid 20s), lives alone, work in London and I meet at her place whenever I want and for as long as I want....but it took time and initial few meets were at hotels. I also had arrangement with women who are very successful and some of them are friends for years. They have busy life and want meet occasionally...which works well even for me.
I must admit that chat with few(man?
of them to keep things exciting send occasional gifts to regular ones to keep conversation flowing. Its a nice pass time (may I say addiction?) while I am alone at home and get exciting messages in between.
I am using SA for over 8 yrs now and I met only one escort so far during that time. No one else could justify spending money for one hour meet when I could have someone for many hours.
Again, if you want to meet a girl just for sex...it is easier to meet other well reviewed girls on UKP forum. If you want something long term...then SA is better.
