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I started punting in 2012 driven by a rather sexless marriage (25 years) and keen to explore life whilst young and fit and with enough spare cash to do so (age 45). I'd watched porn on and off and certain things 'ticked my boxes'. I wanted to try some of that. Of two 'one night stands' they were exciting and the two different girls showed that some women are completely up for dirty full on sex - but that route was far too dangerous.

But now I look back after around 60 punts and note that I am enjoying it, generally, more and more. I like to try new things (hence the name), and like all of us enjoy the excitement.
Im not overtly concerned but now I tend to punt every 10 days or so (and its heading to wanting to do it weekly) whereas as it was every couple of weeks and before that every month - I have a regular that I like to see - but even so, enjoy the newness of a new hour.

i didn't expect it to be so often, i have no desire or wish to turn it down (i am happy to spend the money and love the experience) - but my question is (sorry, rather long winded to get to the point) is should I expect this to escalate further? Will i want more and more punts, perhaps every week.   I find myself on UKP almost every other day - I like the scene and banter so to speak - but not on auto-censored or AW so much.

My main concern is that i am busy at work but I find myself looking to make sure I have punting 'slots' in my diary and whilst I am not searching for the perfect punt so to speak, is it a slippery slope?

Offline Urban_G

Why wouldn't it escalate further? It is already happening and as long as you have the money and opportunities to continue and enjoy doing it, then why should it stop?

It can become addictive so I think some level of control is needed so that it doesn't take over your life. Then you might end up taking risks which could affect your normal life outside of punting.

Offline smiths

I started punting in 2012 driven by a rather sexless marriage (25 years) and keen to explore life whilst young and fit and with enough spare cash to do so (age 45). I'd watched porn on and off and certain things 'ticked my boxes'. I wanted to try some of that. Of two 'one night stands' they were exciting and the two different girls showed that some women are completely up for dirty full on sex - but that route was far too dangerous.

But now I look back after around 60 punts and note that I am enjoying it, generally, more and more. I like to try new things (hence the name), and like all of us enjoy the excitement.
Im not overtly concerned but now I tend to punt every 10 days or so (and its heading to wanting to do it weekly) whereas as it was every couple of weeks and before that every month - I have a regular that I like to see - but even so, enjoy the newness of a new hour.

i didn't expect it to be so often, i have no desire or wish to turn it down (i am happy to spend the money and love the experience) - but my question is (sorry, rather long winded to get to the point) is should I expect this to escalate further? Will i want more and more punts, perhaps every week.   I find myself on UKP almost every other day - I like the scene and banter so to speak - but not on auto-censored or AW so much.

My main concern is that i am busy at work but I find myself looking to make sure I have punting 'slots' in my diary and whilst I am not searching for the perfect punt so to speak, is it a slippery slope?

Obviously it will depend on you, nothing wrong with punting once a week, loads of punters do that, i punted at least three times a week for a few years but then needed a six month break.

The crucial things are as long as your enjoying it, can afford it and can control it without getting caught out i dont see the problem.

Yes it can escalate, perhaps too far.

I am not limited by means or opportunity and as a result I've gone way too far down the rabbit hole at times. During periods last year I was seeing 1 or 2 most days and spending time in between in strip clubs, watching porn and planning increasingly kinky punts!

For various reasons i've pulled back this year, but I think you can addicted to this stuff and it's worth keeping an eye on escalation and trying to control it a bit.

jcdmj12

I started punting in 2012 driven by a rather sexless marriage (25 years) and keen to explore life whilst young and fit and with enough spare cash to do so (age 45). I'd watched porn on and off and certain things 'ticked my boxes'. I wanted to try some of that. Of two 'one night stands' they were exciting and the two different girls showed that some women are completely up for dirty full on sex - but that route was far too dangerous.

But now I look back after around 60 punts and note that I am enjoying it, generally, more and more. I like to try new things (hence the name), and like all of us enjoy the excitement.
Im not overtly concerned but now I tend to punt every 10 days or so (and its heading to wanting to do it weekly) whereas as it was every couple of weeks and before that every month - I have a regular that I like to see - but even so, enjoy the newness of a new hour.

i didn't expect it to be so often, i have no desire or wish to turn it down (i am happy to spend the money and love the experience) - but my question is (sorry, rather long winded to get to the point) is should I expect this to escalate further? Will i want more and more punts, perhaps every week.   I find myself on UKP almost every other day - I like the scene and banter so to speak - but not on auto-censored or AW so much.

My main concern is that i am busy at work but I find myself looking to make sure I have punting 'slots' in my diary and whilst I am not searching for the perfect punt so to speak, is it a slippery slope?

When I was younger, I spent a good 10 years being frequently off my face on various illegal substances.  It was fun. A lot of fun.  But whilst I enjoyed it, and did some pretty stupid and risky things, I just about had enough self-preservation to stop it becoming what defined my life.  That's not to say it didn't cause problems sometimes - it did - but by recognising it for what it was, a little holiday from the real world, I managed to avoid calamity.

Now, older, I come to other experiences like punting and I see parallels.   The ability to get your rocks off with a new woman simply by making a phone call is a incredible rush.  The uncertainty of who you are going to see when you open the door sets the heart pounding and the palms sweating in a way few other things can.    The clandestine nature of it all adds a frisson of excitement which is otherwise missing in our daily lives.

I attempt to respect punting in the same way I learned to respect psychoactive chemicals. Fun, seductive, naughty, and with the ever-present threat of disaster if you allow it to go too far.   You need self-control to be able to do this successfully, and if it's an area where you're weak, then treat this as an opportunity to learn some.

But this leaves questions - how far is too far? how often is too often?  That, I'm afraid is something only you can answer, and sometimes the answer can only be found by pushing the boundaries slightly further than you really should have.

A good personal yardstick I've learned over the years is that when it stops being fun, and starts to feel like a compulsion, it's time to back off, at least for a while.





Great and useful comment from all four of the above, thanks.

It's not compulsion yet, I'm mindful to spot that, but I have noticed the push to try new things and make some of the punts slightly 'harder' or more extreme- but again, only some as the mood takes me.

Interestingly, I am seeing Pam at HOD for the second time next week and it's my intention to push a bit harder and further with this rather nubile young 18 year old, who's relatively new to the game. Here I am seeing a side to myself which is slightly 'dark' but it feels like something that needs to be tried.

I guess this is ok - it's the regularity I am careful to monitor and as the lads above point out - if I find myself 'craving' ( as opposed to 'wanting' ) then I'll know I've got a problem.


jcdmj12

Great and useful comment from all four of the above, thanks.

It's not compulsion yet, I'm mindful to spot that, but I have noticed the push to try new things and make some of the punts slightly 'harder' or more extreme- but again, only some as the mood takes me.

Interestingly, I am seeing Pam at HOD for the second time next week and it's my intention to push a bit harder and further with this rather nubile young 18 year old, who's relatively new to the game. Here I am seeing a side to myself which is slightly 'dark' but it feels like something that needs to be tried.

I guess this is ok - it's the regularity I am careful to monitor and as the lads above point out - if I find myself 'craving' ( as opposed to 'wanting' ) then I'll know I've got a problem.

Good plan. She looks hot. Please review  when you're done :)

Offline Aspen

I started punting in 2012 driven by a rather sexless marriage (25 years)

It's what happens isn't it.

It's interesting reading these forums. I've learned so much.

It sounds like you're a bit on the young side, but I have to say that talking to my friends and comparing notes, it's apparent most women stop having sex with their partners by the time they reach their mid 40's. I've spoken to a dozen or so friends who are married about this and it's happened to every single one of them as well. I think few if any of them go punting, but it's still a fact of life.

Get this for an example:- In one case it was the wife who told me, she volunteered the information when she was telling me how worried she was at the deterioration of her relationship with her husband - my long standing friend. They were just coming up to their silver wedding (25 years) and she revealed to me that she hadn't slept with him for 18 years! I asked her why not, and she said she just didn't feel like it any more. When I suggested that her marriage would never get back on track if that's the case she said I was a typical man and quite unreasonable, and that she'd rather die than sleep with him again.

All I can say is that if that's the general attitude (which I hope it isn't - but not much hope) then wives and partners have only themselves to blame for the playing away that is going on. I have no sympathy whatsoever.

Although I did get on with her very well, I am really angry with that woman for subjecting my friend to a sexless life for so long. I ignore her now I know the reality behind the façade of their marriage, and it's made me very suspicious of what my other friends wives are like behind the scenes.
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jcdmj12

It's what happens isn't it.

It's interesting reading these forums. I've learned so much.

It sounds like you're a bit on the young side, but I have to say that talking to my friends and comparing notes, it's apparent most women stop having sex with their partners by the time they reach their mid 40's. I've spoken to a dozen or so friends who are married about this and it's happened to every single one of them as well. I think few if any of them go punting, but it's still a fact of life.

Get this for an example:- In one case it was the wife who told me, she volunteered the information when she was telling me how worried she was at the deterioration of her relationship with her husband - my long standing friend. They were just coming up to their silver wedding (25 years) and she revealed to me that she hadn't slept with him for 18 years! I asked her why not, and she said she just didn't feel like it any more. When I suggested that her marriage would never get back on track if that's the case she said I was a typical man and quite unreasonable, and that she'd rather die than sleep with him again.

All I can say is that if that's the general attitude (which I hope it isn't - but not much hope) then wives and partners have only themselves to blame for the playing away that is going on. I have no sympathy whatsoever.

Although I did get on with her very well, I am really angry with that woman for subjecting my friend to a sexless life for so long. I ignore her now I know the reality behind the façade of their marriage, and it's made me very suspicious of what my other friends wives are like behind the scenes.

You should have a quiet word with you mate, and help spark a sexual renaissance for him!

Mine seems to go through multi-month phases where she goes off sex, but tbh it doesn't really bother me any more.   Once I started punting, the genie was out of the bottle, and it's got to the stage where I can take or leave sex at home.   I'm still considering whether or not to leave in the long term, but everything else apart from the sexual arrangements suit me, so it's not a pressing matter.

« Last Edit: March 01, 2014, 08:32:06 PM by jcdmj12 »

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IF the money is not an issue then I say keep doing it, enjoy it while you can.

It can be addictive, but I cant see it being a harmful addiction aslong as you can afford it


Offline Hellraiser

IF the money is not an issue then I say keep doing it, enjoy it while you can.

It can be addictive, but I cant see it being a harmful addiction aslong as you can afford it

Well... it can be a very harmful addiction if you become overly attached to the whore, expect discounts, get upset that doesn't give you free time and she basically doesn't give a fuck about you in any shape or form whatsoever, but you are still obsessing over her and proceed to make shitty, whinging posts about her on punting forums...

Then it is harmful  ;)

jcdmj12

Well... it can be a very harmful addiction if you become overly attached to the whore, expect discounts, get upset that doesn't give you free time and she basically doesn't give a fuck about you in any shape or form whatsoever, but you are still obsessing over her and proceed to make shitty, whinging posts about her on punting forums...

Then it is harmful  ;)

Although moreso to the poor bastards who have to read such self-pitying drivel than to the actual perpetrator, one suspects.

It's what happens isn't it

It sounds like you're a bit on the young side, but I have to say that talking to my friends and comparing notes, it's apparent most women stop having sex with their partners by the time they reach their mid 40's. I've spoken to a dozen or so friends who are married about this and it's happened to every single one of them as well. I think few if any of them go punting, but it's still a fact of life.

The problem is, now I'm having really interesting great sex with all these girls and I've improved my technique and staying power - so basically an ideal training programme to be able to go back and have a better go (it's not all her fault tbh) with he -  but of course, when I'm in bed at home, I'm not thinking about her so much, but next weeks shaggathon... So it's  a self fulfilling prophecy - once you get it going with WG's you aren't that interested at all at home. I better make an effort soon me thinks or she will wonder why her other half ain't at least trying it on like usual - but she hasn't asked yet over the last year or so...

jcdmj12

The problem is, now I'm having really interesting great sex with all these girls and I've improved my technique and staying power - so basically an ideal training programme to be able to go back and have a better go (it's not all her fault tbh) with he -  but of course, when I'm in bed at home, I'm not thinking about her so much, but next weeks shaggathon... So it's  a self fulfilling prophecy - once you get it going with WG's you aren't that interested at all at home. I better make an effort soon me thinks or she will wonder why her other half ain't at least trying it on like usual - but she hasn't asked yet over the last year or so...

Same here - I honestly wonder what the hell is going through their heads that this doesn't occur to them.  The tricky bits come when I'm completely unable to concentrate on conversation at the dinner table, because all I can think of it what it was like the night before having my face buried in some fit 20-something year old's twat.

Same here - I honestly wonder what the hell is going through their heads that this doesn't occur to them.  The tricky bits come when I'm completely unable to concentrate on conversation at the dinner table, because all I can think of it what it was like the night before having my face buried in some fit 20-something year old's twat.
.. Haha yes, me too.
Also, occasionally when I'm in a meeting in the city that dragged  on past it's useful point,  I've got a punt lined up for after, I completely start planning all the despicable things I'm going to do (well try to do) and then drift off only to be asked "what's on your mind"  - gawd help them if I told the truth.. But it does make me smile.

Offline Gordo987

.. Haha yes, me too.
Also, occasionally when I'm in a meeting in the city that dragged  on past it's useful point,  I've got a punt lined up for after, I completely start planning all the despicable things I'm going to do (well try to do) and then drift off only to be asked "what's on your mind"  - gawd help them if I told the truth.. But it does make me smile.

Fuck me, your name isn't David Cameron is it? That would explain a lot  :bomb:
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Offline Aspen

You should have a quiet word with you mate, and help spark a sexual renaissance for him!

Not possible. He would be mortified if he found out that I know, and that would definitely finish his marriage off. He's a proud guy and a sportsman of some standing, plus I was told in confidence which I can't break. I'd noticed that he's taken to liking a good few beers in the last dozen years plus, and now I know why. I can see the same symptoms all around me, and no longer wonder why there are so many misogynists around. My wife did it, as soon as there was a lull in our sex life she turned the tap off, and when I think back about it I know my mother did the same thing to my father. The big question in my mind is, why do they do it?

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Some women (we're mainly talking about 40+ right?) will have a sudden hormone drop thanks to the menopause, others just can't be arsed or feel like they're that far into their marriage they don't have to bother because he won't leave.
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It's not compulsion yet, I'm mindful to spot that, but I have noticed the push to try new things and make some of the punts slightly 'harder' or more extreme- but again, only some as the mood takes me.


I can relate to this. I have punted for a few years now, but since finding this site, I have definitely sought, and will contine to seek out, new experiences, such as 'best in class' - so best party experience, best porn star, best FFM and best body to body/tantric type experience. I guess you could say I'm enjoying the quest.  :D

jcdmj12

Some women (we're mainly talking about 40+ right?) will have a sudden hormone drop thanks to the menopause, others just can't be arsed or feel like they're that far into their marriage they don't have to bother because he won't leave.

What I don't get is why they don't wonder exactly why he's not so bothered about sex any more.  Or is it just willful blindness?

I can relate to this. I have punted for a few years now, but since finding this site, I have definitely sought, and will contine to seek out, new experiences, such as 'best in class' - so best party experience, best porn star, best FFM and best body to body/tantric type experience. I guess you could say I'm enjoying the quest.  :D
Agree - definitely ticking off experiences is part of the hobby but can I say if you do find a 'best of' that you post some reviews (none yet I note!) so we can all benefit from it. The site only works if the info on 'best of' is two way ...

Some women (we're mainly talking about 40+ right?) will have a sudden hormone drop thanks to the menopause, others just can't be arsed or feel like they're that far into their marriage they don't have to bother because he won't leave.
Fair point I didn't think about that.

However some women just plain have a higher sex drive- you can see that from how they dress, how they act, the eyes, the whole attitude. My other half is really fit, age 46, fantastic figure, great enhanced tits, but just isn't that interested anymore when I try. She doesn't dress provocatively unless I really beg her . She'd always wear a higher cut top than lower one, slightly less high shoes, slightly longer skirt etc etc. it's a pity really.

It does come down to her finding it easier to say no - or more commonly 'tomorrow'. I suspect she would be happy if my needs we're serviced and as long as she didn't have to know about it, she wouldn't push to find out (I hope!)

Offline Mr Br1ghts1de

Agree - definitely ticking off experiences is part of the hobby but can I say if you do find a 'best of' that you post some reviews (none yet I note!) so we can all benefit from it. The site only works if the info on 'best of' is two way ...

Fair comment. Computer has been knackered, so all posts from mobile to date and had some issues with WiFi cutting out meaning retyping messages, but promise to post some reviews going forwards.

Offline what-a man

Not possible. He would be mortified if he found out that I know, and that would definitely finish his marriage off. He's a proud guy and a sportsman of some standing, plus I was told in confidence which I can't break. I'd noticed that he's taken to liking a good few beers in the last dozen years plus, and now I know why. I can see the same symptoms all around me, and no longer wonder why there are so many misogynists around. My wife did it, as soon as there was a lull in our sex life she turned the tap off, and when I think back about it I know my mother did the same thing to my father. The big question in my mind is, why do they do it?

Its a no brainer really. They do it because they can and they damn well know they can get away with it

I started last year and had a nice young sort, me being 20 I was originally going for a milf but this one wg caught my eye, she was great and everything, had a cracking arse but I found it hard to keep going so to speak due to nerves, but I still had a great time, ever since then ive been going out with a few birds and whilst doing so ive found myself continually browsing AW and I just got bored of the girls I was going out with...it's been 3 months since my last punt and i'm seeing another tomorrow. I think once you know getting you're getting a guaranteed shag with a nice looking bird then thats it, theres no turning back, btw im new here so hello lads! :drinks:


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