I think what I was getting at has gone completely over your head and I suppose I'll have to take some part in taking the blame for that, as I am obviously not explaining myself very well.
I am not saying that I will if presented with one of you be able to say, 'Ah I think you must be soinso from UKP' but I am saying is that she or who ever, even if it were me would notice that something was wrong and that the guy clearly did not want to be there. Now... maybe my point of view is distorted by the fact that I have never had anyone walk on me and I have never met anyone who was not happy with me or what I have to offer, but... surely anyone would notice if someone was not keen?
With regards to swinging or parties, yes I can see how it can happen there, as you can either get carried away in the moment and as said on here, if there is still someone visually stimulating in view you can kind of over ride your disdain for the person you are actually with if not face to face at the time (ie doggy), but we are talking a one to one here.
The majority of people that see me have read my profile, read my blogs and seen my face. There is no reason for them to be surprised at the way I look, as it is all recent. There is nothing particularly hidden or surprising to be found. I suppose that is why it works? So if someone was planning to see me when they held me in utter contempt, as many of you seem to the lady you were discussing meeting I think it would be obvious, unless you really didn't feel that way and it was just an act for the boys?