So.... a digest (excluding many of the byways) for anyone new who can’t face all 54 pages (and counting). And then a rant which may well be taken as being against ‘the ethos of this Board’ and hence lead to my departure from membership.
A digest only really works if you get the facts right. This is more a biased misinterpretation (wilful or due to being a mindless fluffy).
Once upon a time, I think in 2012, ParisB probably, or just possibly her sister, as a Mumsnet member gave a woman poster there advice on how to use the AW site to track her man’s movements in an attempt to find out whether he was seeing prostitutes.
This paragraph implies it was just one woman she offered advice to. In the original thread on mumsnet she offers her service to
any woman who wanted it. There was a post immediately below that offer saying that ParisB has helped
others before. There is evidence, therefore, that she has helped
several women. Who knows the real number, but it is not just one poster. In addition, ParisB also posted the advice openly, thus helping
every woman who read it to out their partners.
A damn fool thing for a prostitute to do. But that’s basically it. No punter was ‘outed’. It even seems that the woman on Mumsnet had already sorted out her problem. So ParisB (or just possibly whoever) didn’t name anyone, didn’t betray an individual client. It is nothing like the unforgiveable case of 2011 when a prostitute named a punter and circulated details to all and sundry. (The fact that the punter had blown his own cover is irrelevant, but is a lesson about web security for all punters and posters everywhere.)
I disagree with saying it's a 'fool thing for a prostitute to do'. Fool, for me, implies a naivety that ParisB does not have. She knew what she was doing and knew that it was wrong. She did it anyway. Again, you talk like the service was offered to just one woman. It was not (see above). You have no idea how many punters have been outed (it might be none, it might be many). It is the fact that she willingly offered her services to women to help out their partners that is the problem. As mentioned above, there is a post below the original by ParisB saying that she
has helped
others before.
And since then we’ve had a bloody feeding frenzy. A relatively few posters have kept on – and on – and on. Others have come along, seen, maybe contributed once or twice, and got on with their lives. But a few seem to be in a state of moral hysteria not unlike that of feminazis.
Let’s destroy ParisB’s reputation (which could have been achieved in five posts, and all done with). Let’s out her. Let’s make all sorts of threats. Let’s get her AW profile taken down. In the interest of The Greater Good let’s circulate confidential Personal Messages. We’ll resort to personal abuse heaped on anyone who isn’t actively supporting our opinions. Let’s wonder where our toys went when we threw them out of the pram.
ParisB has destroyed her own reputation. She is an absolute disgrace. This thread has ran to 50+ pages because, despite what you think, her actions are despicable and it has generated that interest. The posts are not purely about ParisB though and relate to the issues raised by her behaviour e.g. discretion in general, a punter's responsibility, %%%'s ridiculous censorship.
No wonder the woman has started hitting back: after however many days of constant harassment. I guess that many of us would do the same, under that level of attack.
So you're defending her subsequent action? Many have taken her tweets to be a threat to out more punters. She tries to help out punters, is maybe successful (who knows, but the intent was there), her actions are rightly brought to the attention of many and she is condemned with every reason, and then she gets pissed off with that fact and you think it's ok for her to go the attack? You are an idiot.
How bloody dare some posters here assume that they have the right to sink to this level all over one damn fool set of posts on Mumsnet, and some blogs? They have let this whole thing become an obsession and need to stop.
ParisB actively tried to help women out there partners. There is public evidence that she helped several. This is essentially the worst crime a prossie can commit. All that has happened to her since is that a concerted effort has been made to inform any punter of what she has done. And quite right.
And if this is my last post here, thanks for all the fish.
Cheerio
