ParisB on Mumsnet helping wives catch their husbands

[Daffodil]

Fucking unbelievable and should serve as a warning that there are some prossies out there who will actively try to out you. Just for kicks or because they hate men and/or punters.

On this thread:

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Several posters (prossies, with one even stating as such) claim to have an intimate knowledge of adultwork and either offer general advice so as to catch us or offer their personal services to help dig up dirt (charlearose, for example).

Talk about biting the hand that feeds 

[Andre 3000]

Wow.

Absolute nutters. 

[cornbeefinspector]

they should ban women from using the internet !!!!!

[CBPaul]

Should serve as a warning for all of us.

I sometimes wonder if I'm being over cautious. I never use my smart phone or an iPad for accessing  AW, only my personal (work) laptop. Only I have control over it and I only ever use private browsing. For good measure I clear history and cookies anyway. This reminds me that I'm not being fussy.

Leaving AW on an iPad when going for a shower, what a twat. Spending 2 minutes logging in again can potentially save a world of shit descending.

As for a couple of jaded ex prossies advising significant others - just what we bloody need !

[cjkanye02]

It's a good reminder how AW and internet sites can fuck is over.

Keep your inbox empty, clear your history, feedback is more hassle than its worth, vary your usernames.

I can't think of anything worse than having my AW account discovered. I would be fucked with a capital F.

[a10]

I especially like the post about having "a little affair because he was distant" and then getting on her moral high horse when she found out he was doing the same to her! 

Mad bitches!

Even the ones "with no reason to be suspicious" are checking their fellas laptops for evidence AW. Insane. 

[Daffodil]

I especially like the post about having "a little affair because he was distant" and then getting on her moral high horse when she found out he was doing the same to her! 

Mad bitches!

Even the ones "with no reason to be suspicious" are checking their fellas laptops for evidence AW. Insane. 

It's a good thread for getting an insight into the mind of your partner. You can't be too careful!

[Daffodil]

For those who can't be arsed reading the thread, here is what one 'ex' prossie had to say:

After a strenuous namechange, hope I won't get flamed for this but am hoping I can advise.

In a past life I was a user of Adultwork (AW) as a worker in the sex industry. It's a very, very well known and popular site and well known for not only facilitating contact with 'ordinary' prostitutes but also for providing access to sex workers who provide specialist services. Even among sex workers there is a lot of unhappiness about the fact it does not regulate its members in any way and there are a lot of women offering bareback (unprotected) sex.

Anyway. As someone familiar with how the site works I will say that I think your husband is lying. Six years is a long time to be a member of AW without 'doing anything'. Similarly 50 messages is just what you saw on the computer screen at one time, and maybe does not even reflect the extent of his messaging, as members manage their inboxes just like Outlook etc, deleting the old and irrelevant.

If you can recall the username your H used on AW it might be worth doing a google search or if you can stomach it go on to AW and do a search on there. A lot of the male members (service users) do things like give ratings and write 'field reports' if they have met up with an escort. For the purposes of the site it is a way of both parties to show they are genuine, reliable, not 'fakes', 'safe' etc (I know, I know).

Men who message escorts repeatedly without making any bookings are generally given short shrift and regarded as 'timewasters'. They are unlikely to last six years doing it especially under the same nickname. For what it's worth, your H's comment about 'moving on to make arrangements by phone' probably has some truth in it. Many, perhaps most escorts on AW quickly go from email to phone contact because you need a phone number as a point of reference and to finalise booking details in person. He was trying to put you off the scent there but actually what he said is exactly how it works.

Your H will have deleted all his messages by now but a google search might flag up if he has used his nickname elsewhere on similar sites.

An associated search for clues might be to look at your joint finances and see if there are any unusual or significant withdrawals of cash, and whether their timing is significant. You might also wish to be on the look out for second/spare phones or sim cards (they all have one) and secondary, 'hidden' email accounts.

I hope I haven't offended anyone by posting. Good luck and I'm so sorry.

[circusbizarre]

always cover your tracks just in case

[Hellraiser]

For those who can't be arsed reading the thread, here is what one 'ex' prossie had to say:

Absolute fucking bitch.

It's one thing to talk about how Adultwork works. It's another to give someone a fucking manual with detailed instructions on how to dig even deeper.

Hope this cunt rots on hell.

[Sailormack]

Simple solution.

Dump the old hag that you're married to. OK you've been stooopid and it might cost you a few quid, but trust me, it will be well worth it .

Then with all the extra disposable cash you have, you are free to pick off the young hotties at your leisure. Fill in the rest of your days with your hobbies.

Nobody needs all the stress that all that sneaking about/worrying about getting caught out brings.

Listen to the sailor guys, you all know it makes sense 

[Sailormack]

Fucking unbelievable and should serve as a warning that there are some prossies out there who will actively try to out you. Just for kicks or because they hate men and/or punters.

On this thread:

External Link/Members Only

Several posters (prossies, with one even stating as such) claim to have an intimate knowledge of adultwork and either offer general advice so as to catch us or offer their personal services to help dig up dirt (charlearose, for example).

Talk about biting the hand that feeds 

May I take this opportunity to remind the honourable gentlemen of UKP of my recent advice on another thread...

NEVER trust a prostitute with ANYTHING that you are not afraid to lose. 

[Freddybigstuff1983]

A good well timed bump

[Tony Montana]

It's like an arms race with each side trying to out flank the other.

The dangerous ones are the double agents...

[SeekingtheTruth]

I especially like the post about having "a little affair because he was distant" and then getting on her moral high horse when she found out he was doing the same to her! 

Mad bitches!

Even the ones "with no reason to be suspicious" are checking their fellas laptops for evidence AW. Insane. 

I couldn't help but chuckle to myself when I read that one. Some people....

[akauya]

Maybe a good argument is to stick with EE prossies... they don't give a fuck about cuntsnet or saafe or any other crap like that.

Fuck the double agents British prossies 

[PuntingPete]

There are so many things you have to watch out for these days, just 5 mins ago I noticed on one of my work e-mail accounts there was a new folder called notes. I curiously clicked it and it seems my I-Phone had transferred all my notes across to this e-mail folder. One of the notes was directions and the address for a girl I went to see last week.
If the e-mail account was a Google or GMail account I wouldn't have been surprised, but it isn't either 

Technology is scary these days 

[rockharders]

For the paranoid out there:

1) Use a separate punting phone
2) Use a separate punting email address
3) Use a punting name when you meet, not your real name
4) Incalls only

Did I miss anything?

[Daffodil]

For the paranoid out there:

1) Use a separate punting phone
2) Use a separate punting email address
3) Use a punting name when you meet, not your real name
4) Incalls only

Did I miss anything?

This is the bare minimum. If it's all you're doing then yes, I suspect you have missed something.

[PuntingPete]

For the paranoid out there:

1) Use a separate punting phone
2) Use a separate punting email address
3) Use a punting name when you meet, not your real name
4) Incalls only

Did I miss anything?

I do all those things, another thing I do is try to park out of sight of the girls house.

Maybe someone should start a thread listing all the things you should do to stay incognito

[Tony Montana]

Clear your copy/paste buffer. I started a program at work the other day and the URL for an escort site was helpfully auto pasted into one of the fields. It was a site I had been looking at the night before.

[mattylondon]

For the paranoid out there:

1) Use a separate punting phone
2) Use a separate punting email address
3) Use a punting name when you meet, not your real name
4) Incalls only

Did I miss anything?

5) Use a basic, non smart phone, for punting. Calls and basic texts only.
6) Use an unregistered sim and top up with cash only, not your credit or debit cards.
7) Never take anything to an incall which could personally identify you. Cash only. No wallet.
8) Always drive a street away from the incall location and walk.
9) Don't reveal other personal details. Marital status, occupation and so on. Change the subject.
10) Never reveal personal details to especially a prossie, but also punters via the Internet.
11) Don't go posting personal shit on forums. You're very easy to profile, if you do.
12) This has happened to me twice during my punting so be very careful. Watch out for hidden cameras, mobile phones, laptops or any other device which could record you. This especially applies when the prossie has a pimp or partner. They have been know to get off on their woman being fucked by other men and it could also be used against you as blackmail material. Do a sweep of the room with your eyes. If you see a laptop open which has a camera, insist that it is closed.

13) Prossies do read these forums avidly, including those who are members here or who lurk. They also have fluffies who tell tales about what goes on here. If you cross them, some wouldn't hesitate to out you and there was a deleted threat recently about a %%% poster who was outed on the Internet by somebody who got hold of a photo of him on Twitter. 

It looks like a long list, but most of it is very simple, common sense. Better to be overly cautious than getting outed.  Yes, enjoy punting with prossies but never, ever trust them with anything which could identify you personally. They will talk about you with other people. 

[James999]

9) Don't reveal other personal details. Marital status, occupation and so on. Change the subject.

Better still tell them you're a web designer and in exchange for a few freebies create them a website, the fact it will be a crap one and take about 10 mins (from one of those freeweb type sites) isn't really the point 

never, ever trust them with anything which could identify you personally. They will talk about you with other people. 

Also mix your Punting name up a bit, Steve one day Clive the next, then John, I once returned to a Pro$$ie as Clive and she said wasn't your name Alan before, I simply said that's my punting name and now I know you I use my real name of Clive. Is amusing if you arrange a threesome and one knows you as Dean and the other knows you as Cyril, they both seem to just assume the other ones got your name wrong 

[mattylondon]

Admin's call, obviously, but I wonder if this would be better in off topic, rather than for every hostile prossie who isn't a member of UKP to read and gather information? Including the mumsnetters

[mattylondon]

Better still tell them you're a web designer and in exchange for a few freebies create them a website, the fact it will be a crap one and take about 10 mins (from one of those freeweb type sites) isn't really the point 

I have indeed assisted in IT things for certain benefits and I lose track of all the jobs/names I've been. My best one was an underwater welder.   

[Victor7522]

One of my favourite occupations was posing as an architect specialising in bus shelters

[a10]

Jetwasher operator for a power line cleaning crew.

[James999]

My favourite, that kills conversation dead is saying that I work in a car park 

[Sailormack]

My favourite, that kills conversation dead is saying that I work in a car park 

That one might just stun them a bit.

Try telling them you're a tax inspector and you'll know what dead really looks like 

[mattylondon]

Jetwasher operator for a power line cleaning crew.

I like that! And I'm sure she swallowed it wholesale, if you forgive the pun! Hopefully not the only thing she swallowed that day! 

[mattylondon]

My favourite, that kills conversation dead is saying that I work in a car park 

I can see that would work!  Traffic warden or how about a policeman or HMRC, along the lines of what sailormack said!!! See the whites of their eyes, as they're sucking you balls deep!   

[Sailormack]

I can see that would work!  Traffic warden or how about a policeman or HMRC, along the lines of what sailormack said!!! See the whites of their eyes, as they're sucking you balls deep!   

Ask to see their latest tax return just as you are skooshing on their face   

[mattylondon]

Ask to see their latest tax return just as you are skooshing on their face   

Fuck that. She might try and bite my cock!  But it's very tempting to say it whilst balls deep. 

[Sailormack]

Fuck that. She might try and bite my cock!  But it's very tempting to say it whilst balls deep. 

But the shaking hands make up for it

[Strawberry]

I have indeed assisted in IT things for certain benefits and I lose track of all the jobs/names I've been. My best one was an underwater welder.   

Ah so it was you.......

[James999]

I can see that would work! 

It's a quality job, if they try to waste time talking about it the results are hilarious, one said to me once, that's interesting do you get to drive any nice cars, I just replied that my office was in the corner and didn't even see the cars and that I didn't drive anyway.

She tried again and said what did my job involve (clever tactic, an open question) and I said it involved helping if the barrier got stuck or the ticket machine didn't work, she tried to expand saying do you provide change for the machine and I said in a very serious manner that we were not insured to handle cash 

[mattylondon]

Ah so it was you.......

What are you talking about? 

[Sailormack]

It's a quality job, if they try to waste time talking about it the results are hilarious, one said to me once, that's interesting do you get to drive any nice cars, I just replied that my office was in the corner and didn't even see the cars.

She tried again and said what did my job involve (clever tactic, an open question) and I said it involved helping if the barrier got stuck or the ticket machine didn't work, she tried to expand saying do you provide change for the machine and I said in a very serious manner that we were not insured to handle cash 

Quite amazing game you have there mate.

I'm astounded that they're not paying you

[mattylondon]

It's a quality job, if they try to waste time talking about it the results are hilarious, one said to me once, that's interesting do you get to drive any nice cars, I just replied that my office was in the corner and didn't even see the cars and that I didn't drive anyway.

She tried again and said what did my job involve (clever tactic, an open question) and I said it involved helping if the barrier got stuck or the ticket machine didn't work, she tried to expand saying do you provide change for the machine and I said in a very serious manner that we were not insured to handle cash 

I think we play similar games. I'm sure that we're not alone either. Oh such fun we have. 

[Sailormack]

What are you talking about? 

I think that Strawberry fucked an underwater welder, and hoped that it was you 

[Sailormack]

I think we play similar games. I'm sure that we're not alone either. Oh such fun we have. 

Yeah mate but J999 has GAME and he is pimpin' it bad 

[Ali Katt]

Looks like charlearose is looking for advice:
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I'm guessing she's retired now.

I would recommend using tails on a stick or disc for anyone in a serious relationship, if you send a lot of messages on AW.
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[mattylondon]

I think that Strawberry fucked an underwater welder, and hoped that it was you 

I'm sure she's positively dripping at the thought, but alas I've never had the pleasure. 

However, if I do venture up to the lakes, I'll be sure to think up something very special for her. But only if she promises to take me balls deep. 

[mattylondon]

Yeah mate but J999 has GAME and he is pimpin' it bad 

He does indeed! 

[Sailormack]

I'm sure she's positively dripping at the thought, but alas I've never had the pleasure. 

However, if I do venture up to the lakes, I'll be sure to think up something very special for her. But only if she promises to take me balls deep. 

Sounds like a plan.

But remember, she only drips if the money is right 

[mattylondon]

Sounds like a plan.

But remember, she only drips if the money is right 

She'll now be on the lookout for every potential tax inspector or underwater welder! 

[Sailormack]

He does indeed! 

I have visions of all those pro$$ies he sees friggin' themselves off thinking of him and his "fabulous fraudulent ticket" stories not forgetting the "extra penalties for parking over the white line" stories

These bitches must be heatin' up 

[Sailormack]

She'll now be on the lookout for every potential tax inspector or underwater welder! 

But surely the pinnacle must be the retired tax inspector who has taken up underwater welding as a hobby.

That girl has no chance with that dude 

[Strawberry]

Do you have supporting accessories?

[James999]

"fabulous fraudulent ticket" stories not forgetting the "extra penalties for parking over the white line"

That's outsourced, we know nothing about that