seeking.com - Open Topic

[Cunning Punt]

A couple of observations this past week. I've started to notice there are 3 types of women on there in my area. The genuinely curious, girl next door type. Probably not on here for a long time but wants some fun. The escort. They know about pay per meets and have some professional photos. And the mental cases.

I seem to be getting good success with offering £100-£150 per hour in my area

I'm still getting used to women asking for a photo beforehand. I have to be honest I don't feel all that comfortable with sharing a pic on whatsapp that will be in their domain forever and that's my only downside to SA at present which is holding me back a little.

I open with the same line and get 95% success rate but ones that seem genuinely interested and up for it, to the point we arrange a day and time and then give me radio silence.

A couple of observations from reading your post.

• Most of the girl next door types, particularly at the moment are curious but not genuine so timewasters.
• If you're offering by the hour then you will get the pro types while most girl next door types will be put off being treated like a per hour escort - even if they seem interested at first.
• Like with any normal internet dating, it's natural the other person wants to see what you look like to see who you are and that you're genuine. If someone doesn't show their picture, then it looks very dodgy. You expect to see a girl's pics so it's only fair you do likewise.

For the reasons above, it's not surprising that ultimately nothing happens. If you're paranoid about sharing a photo and are looking to book a girl by the hour, then SA is probably not for you and you would be better sticking to AW.

[Carl Adams]

Tinder does my nut in at the moment too - at least with SA you know its a transaction

So many lasses playing it cool on Tinder and then dropping in that they basically want money, etc.

I wonder if there is a route from failing at SA to Tinder/Bumble, etc

[bash_eer]

Tinder does my nut in at the moment too - at least with SA you know its a transaction

So many lasses playing it cool on Tinder and then dropping in that they basically want money, etc.

I wonder if there is a route from failing at SA to Tinder/Bumble, etc

I have profile on Tinder which stats I am looking for an arrangement and I have had some good responses you get the odd girl who is curious about what I am after they tend to be a waste of time but on a whole its a good free alternative to SA but can take some time getting matches.

[billybobsmith]

I have profile on Tinder which stats I am looking for an arrangement and I have had some good responses you get the odd girl who is curious about what I am after they tend to be a waste of time but on a whole its a good free alternative to SA but can take some time getting matches.

Tinder is dead for me locally so I've now uninstalled it.  Even when it was busy, couldn't get anything on there, even in big cities, bar a couple of women who either accidently swiped right on me, or were swiping everything.  Messaged them and unliked straight after.  Making it fairly obvious that a sugar based hotel meet was on offer didn't appeal to anyone, so probably way too ugly even to pay them!

Radio silence so far from the woman I was going to meet tonight socially.  To be honest, too bloody cold outside, nothing open, and I was hoping she would just say "Come round to my place.  We'll share a bottle and a order in a takeaway, and take it from there", but was giving me the impression of a meet / date and then the possibility of another "date" later.  Fine with an unpaid meet & greet though, but a hint of more would have been better.
Don't think I could get a hotel in my town with the present situation when I live 1.5 miles away anyway.

[andlew3]

Don't think I could get a hotel in my town with the present situation when I live 1.5 miles away anyway.

If only SA had a "can accomodate " box for the search. They seem to be few and far between in Manchester and having just discovered one it makes all the difference. Although to be fair ive stayed in local hotels and given my address as somewhere less than a mile away whilst we were in tier 3 and not an eyebrow was raised.

[Cunning Punt]

Don't think I could get a hotel in my town with the present situation when I live 1.5 miles away anyway.

Actually, totally the opposite as being so close is in your favour. In the highly unlikely event you get asked by staff, you simply say that you are having loud, emergency plumbing/building work done on your house and it is making it impossible to concentrate and have important phone calls. Your office is closed long term so this hotel booking is essential for work purposes.

[stampjones]

Actually, totally the opposite as being so close is in your favour. In the highly unlikely event you get asked by staff, you simply say that you are having loud, emergency plumbing/building work done on your house and it is making it impossible to concentrate and have important phone calls. Your office is closed long term so this hotel booking is essential for work purposes.

Nice one 

[Home Alone]

Actually, totally the opposite as being so close is in your favour. In the highly unlikely event you get asked by staff, you simply say that you are having loud, emergency plumbing/building work done on your house and it is making it impossible to concentrate and have important phone calls. Your office is closed long term so this hotel booking is essential for work purposes.

Indeed! As one who's also enjoyed having to concoct a cover story from time to time, I almost applauded this one when I read it, Cunning Punt.

[Carl Adams]

I can see a plumbing boom looming!

[tynetunnel]

Actually, totally the opposite as being so close is in your favour. In the highly unlikely event you get asked by staff, you simply say that you are having loud, emergency plumbing/building work done on your house and it is making it impossible to concentrate and have important phone calls. Your office is closed long term so this hotel booking is essential for work purposes.

That is brilliant, and I will park that in the back of my head, should an opportunity arise. Cheers 

[billybobsmith]

Here's a lovely response from someone in Yorkshire (another one who doesn't put a town / city, just a county) who replied on SA:

Good to hear. I'm fine thanks 😊 Tbh a lot of men here are quite disrespectful, and make it clear they want to use me for sex in exchange for money but it's not what I want... ugh, surly I can find someone normal on this site that want a normal kind of relationship..... something natural, a good connection.. loving company without any dramas. x

Tempted to either play along and see if there's a scam in there, or she's just expecting £££ for nothing, or just tell her that I'm the very thing she's talking about

[Brumish]

Here's a lovely response from someone in Yorkshire (another one who doesn't put a town / city, just a county) who replied on SA:

Good to hear. I'm fine thanks 😊 Tbh a lot of men here are quite disrespectful, and make it clear they want to use me for sex in exchange for money but it's not what I want... ugh, surly I can find someone normal on this site that want a normal kind of relationship..... something natural, a good connection.. loving company without any dramas. x

Tempted to either play along and see if there's a scam in there, or she's just expecting £££ for nothing, or just tell her that I'm the very thing she's talking about

I'm sure there are seeking manuals out there telling these young fillies that the site is full of cash. All you have to do is sign up and say you're there

[NightKid]

Here's a lovely response from someone in Yorkshire (another one who doesn't put a town / city, just a county) who replied on SA:

Good to hear. I'm fine thanks 😊 Tbh a lot of men here are quite disrespectful, and make it clear they want to use me for sex in exchange for money but it's not what I want... ugh, surly I can find someone normal on this site that want a normal kind of relationship..... something natural, a good connection.. loving company without any dramas. x

Tempted to either play along and see if there's a scam in there, or she's just expecting £££ for nothing, or just tell her that I'm the very thing she's talking about

There's a chance she could be genuine and turn out to be the gold you're sifting for, but you'll need to know how to test for it.

Tell her to meet you for a M&G asap and see if the usual excuses doesn't come up, that's the fastest way. 

[billybobsmith]

Actually, totally the opposite as being so close is in your favour. In the highly unlikely event you get asked by staff, you simply say that you are having loud, emergency plumbing/building work done on your house and it is making it impossible to concentrate and have important phone calls. Your office is closed long term so this hotel booking is essential for work purposes.

Would that work well if you were checking in at 6pm and leaving at 9am?  Can't be too many people having plumbing work being done overnight

[datwabbit]

Would that work well if you were checking in at 6pm and leaving at 9am?  Can't be too many people having plumbing work being done overnight

Water's off. Plumbers coming tomorrow.

[billybobsmith]

Water's off. Plumbers coming tomorrow.

Last time I had that actual issue due to a new bathroom taking 2-3 days to install, I just went to my local swimming pool / gym and had a swim and showered there.
Might try it although practically no-one local to actually get to a local hotel.

Anyway, the woman who was radio silent the other day when we were going to meet messaged me last night saying that she thought I must have been busy as I never got back to her.  I assumed she was going to say when and where, so could be mixed messages? Either she's legitimate, or something else didn't work out so she's just checking to see if I'm on her "only if no alternatives" list.


One other gave me her phone number and said "chat on to me on WA" but it doesn't come up with a WA link.

Some others have looked at me probably in disgust.

One girl, who joined 2 days ago in Manchester is on my fake Instagram page so I know who she is.  Must have seen her on Tinder.  She's read my message but not replied.

There's one in Barton-Upon-Humber who gave me her number.  Sure there used to someone working there when she wasn't in a parlour in Hull, but can't remember her name.

[Steve2]

One other gave me her phone number and said "chat on to me on WA" but it doesn't come up with a WA link.

WA = Whatsapp?

If you have her number, you have her Whatsapp so no link needed or am I being thick?

[billybobsmith]

WA = Whatsapp?

If you have her number, you have her Whatsapp so no link needed or am I being thick?

It came up after a while, but normally it's there within a few seconds.

[billybobsmith]

Anyway, the woman who was radio silent the other day when we were going to meet messaged me last night saying that she thought I must have been busy as I never got back to her.  I assumed she was going to say when and where, so could be mixed messages? Either she's legitimate, or something else didn't work out so she's just checking to see if I'm on her "only if no alternatives" list.

Decided to take a chance of message this one asking if she was up for some fun?  She replied "what sort of fun?" and when I mentioned "bedroom fun" she came back with something about making her an escort.
Tried making it seem like she was getting gifts / treats after having fun times, but no idea if she'll be one of these who is solely there for dating (got 2 at present who seem a bit confused by the nature of the site).

Getting a few bites within an hour of me, but may have to pop into a big city, say Manchester, for the better options.

[Cunning Punt]

Tempted to either play along and see if there's a scam in there, or she's just expecting £££ for nothing, or just tell her that I'm the very thing she's talking about

It is faintly possible she is a genuine girl next door not seeking an allowance but more likely not. Rather than a scammer, she may be a platonic princess who could be fine with an initial non-paid M&G.

The fastest way to find out what precisely they are, and save time and money, is to sympathise, say similarly all girls you've spoken to only want money so is she not looking for any financial aid?

[hungrypunt]

Here's a lovely response from someone in Yorkshire (another one who doesn't put a town / city, just a county) who replied on SA:

Good to hear. I'm fine thanks 😊 Tbh a lot of men here are quite disrespectful, and make it clear they want to use me for sex in exchange for money but it's not what I want... ugh, surly I can find someone normal on this site that want a normal kind of relationship..... something natural, a good connection.. loving company without any dramas. x

Tempted to either play along and see if there's a scam in there, or she's just expecting £££ for nothing, or just tell her that I'm the very thing she's talking about

I get this a lot, and have had some good girls out of it.
My usual line is something like ah yeah well they are just awful dirty pervs where im a nice perv who likes to connect and look after my girl. I know what you mean about the money and sex etc but you have to be looked after blah blah


creepy I know but they lap it up for me, if you get a giggle or a laugh your in.

[extraa]

A couple of observations from reading your post.

• Most of the girl next door types, particularly at the moment are curious but not genuine so timewasters.
• If you're offering by the hour then you will get the pro types while most girl next door types will be put off being treated like a per hour escort - even if they seem interested at first.
• Like with any normal internet dating, it's natural the other person wants to see what you look like to see who you are and that you're genuine. If someone doesn't show their picture, then it looks very dodgy. You expect to see a girl's pics so it's only fair you do likewise.

For the reasons above, it's not surprising that ultimately nothing happens. If you're paranoid about sharing a photo and are looking to book a girl by the hour, then SA is probably not for you and you would be better sticking to AW.

Thanks for the tips  What's everyone's style of messaging to avoid offering money per hour? To be honest I've had a decent response rate from it. Although I did have one girl throw a hissy fit. She was cautious about meeting a stranger (fair point) so I suggested meeting for a quick coffee in a public place. She responds saying I'll have to be paid regardless. I said I don't pay for meet and greet and she says well I got paid £300 for just dinner before. Are there genuine mugs out there with more money than sense?

I've had another 2 overly keen to the point it makes me feel their hookers as everyone else is rather reserved, one was prepared to travel an hour to me, constantly pushing me but upon closer inspection of her photos she wasn't all that and felt like a catfish.

I've had a lot of flakers. Managed to get 15 numbers since being on there and currently only have 4 that seem genuine about meeting. I hope to arrange something Sunday so will report back if second time lucky.

[NuruGuru]

Looking to find others experiences of seeking on line

For the last 8 months Iv been using exclusively seeking arrangement have 2 current girls I see fortnightly off the site you carnt compare the services these girls offer as compared to traditional escorts
300 for overnights with girls who actual want you as much as you want them I mean there soaking wet when you take there pants off you’ve actually got to put some effort in like compliments meals out etc more nice words but in my opinion the girls you can find on seeking are far far better than anything you will find on Adult work or with agency girls

Does anyone agree

Having recently started using Seeking I completely agree. On the normal AW and Escort sites, I'm tired of hearing guys who say "she costs too much etc" - with Seeking, it ends up being way more expensive in terms of cash you hand over, but what you get in return is something much more than a fuck. I'm gutted I hadn't used it sooner, but it's all part of my journey.

[southcoastpunter]

Decided to take a chance of message this one asking if she was up for some fun?  She replied "what sort of fun?" and when I mentioned "bedroom fun" she came back with something about making her an escort.
Tried making it seem like she was getting gifts / treats after having fun times, but no idea if she'll be one of these who is solely there for dating (got 2 at present who seem a bit confused by the nature of the site).

In my experience, most ladies on SA absolutely HATE the idea/suggestion/inference that they are a WG/Escort and any comments that they pick up in that way often gets you ghosted or reported.

Also, with respect, I would ask whether its maybe you that are a little confused by the nature of the site. It is not a replacement for AW, Its different things to different ladies as it is indeed different things to us guys. Not all of us after just after a quick cheap fuck.

On the normal AW and Escort sites, I'm tired of hearing guys who say "she costs too much etc" - with Seeking, it ends up being way more expensive in terms of cash you hand over, but what you get in return is something much more than a fuck. I'm gutted I hadn't used it sooner, but it's all part of my journey.

I agree  - if you think you are going to get cheap sex on SA, most of the time you will be very disappointed. And frankly if you are put off SA by the monthly fee, then SA is def not the place for you as it will end up costing you much more than that!  But boy can it be worth it when you find a good one! Perhaps i have been lucky because i have found 3 real gems in my time and a few others that i would classify as "lovely/nice" - but it is time consuming and expensive!

One last thought - from my own personal viewpoint (and i know some guys will say tough luck mate) - the guys who go on SA and, in the eyes of the ladies,  treat them like they are Escorts are ruining it for guys like me. More and more ladies have given SA up or are thinking about giving it up because they are getting treated like an escort!

[stampjones]

One last thought - from my own personal viewpoint (and i know some guys will say tough luck mate) - the guys who go on SA and, in the eyes of the ladies,  treat them like they are Escorts are ruining it for guys like me. More and more ladies have given SA up or are thinking about giving it up because they are getting treated like an escort!

Yeah Ive seen some of the messages girls get and s lot of guys issue a list of sexual demands in their first message. Im sure thats fine with the escorts on there (if you dont get banned) but you’ll get nowhere with the non professional users which is what the experience is all about. If you want an nsa girlfriend type relationship with a hot 20 something that isnt fucking 10 other guys each day, then that is available on seeking - but you cant just rock up and list demands. You have to work for it a bit

[Mr_Shins]

In my experience, most ladies on SA absolutely HATE the idea/suggestion/inference that they are a WG/Escort and any comments that they pick up in that way often gets you ghosted or reported.

Also, with respect, I would ask whether its maybe you that are a little confused by the nature of the site. It is not a replacement for AW, Its different things to different ladies as it is indeed different things to us guys. Not all of us after just after a quick cheap fuck.


I agree  - if you think you are going to get cheap sex on SA, most of the time you will be very disappointed. And frankly if you are put off SA by the monthly fee, then SA is def not the place for you as it will end up costing you much more than that!  But boy can it be worth it when you find a good one! Perhaps i have been lucky because i have found 3 real gems in my time and a few others that i would classify as "lovely/nice" - but it is time consuming and expensive!

One last thought - from my own personal viewpoint (and i know some guys will say tough luck mate) - the guys who go on SA and, in the eyes of the ladies,  treat them like they are Escorts are ruining it for guys like me. More and more ladies have given SA up or are thinking about giving it up because they are getting treated like an escort!

Yes, it will always be that way. Men are after a woman for sex, women are after a man for his money. Arrangements may mean more selectiveness on her part, it may mean she has a day-job and wants a bit of extra money in exchange for giving you some company and for a long meetup the rate could be way short of what an escort changes, but in the end, you'll be paying her probably every time you meet and these meetings may well have to be more frequent or she'll lose interest, so I can see my escort once a month or even after 3 months but what do you think your "arrangement" girl will think if you only want to see her once a month for £300 because that's "your budget".

The only thing that really attracts me so much is the girls are far prettier, or possibly that the photos are primarily not pornographic, i.e., the kind of photo I'd like to see on escort sites.

[billybobsmith]

In my experience, most ladies on SA absolutely HATE the idea/suggestion/inference that they are a WG/Escort and any comments that they pick up in that way often gets you ghosted or reported.

Also, with respect, I would ask whether its maybe you that are a little confused by the nature of the site. It is not a replacement for AW, Its different things to different ladies as it is indeed different things to us guys. Not all of us after just after a quick cheap fuck.


I agree  - if you think you are going to get cheap sex on SA, most of the time you will be very disappointed. And frankly if you are put off SA by the monthly fee, then SA is def not the place for you as it will end up costing you much more than that!  But boy can it be worth it when you find a good one! Perhaps i have been lucky because i have found 3 real gems in my time and a few others that i would classify as "lovely/nice" - but it is time consuming and expensive!

One last thought - from my own personal viewpoint (and i know some guys will say tough luck mate) - the guys who go on SA and, in the eyes of the ladies,  treat them like they are Escorts are ruining it for guys like me. More and more ladies have given SA up or are thinking about giving it up because they are getting treated like an escort!

Well, there does seem to be a lot more on there who are treating it as a dating site with no guarantee of anything beyond paying for dinners, drinks etc.  For a full dating experience, SA is one of the last places I would personally be trying my luck on.

I've definitely had times where there woman doesn't seem to have any issues with the intimacy part.  The site used to be pretty easy for that sort of thing.

I don't mind dating aspects, but I don't want to end up in a situation where I'm getting nothing but company on the off chance she may feel something.  As far as I know, she's shagging every Tom, Dick and Harry when not with me. 

Got a couple at present who I haven't mentioned sex with.  One seems happy for drinks and something to eat sometime, and has sent a sort of racy picture without any nudging.
Another asked if I wanted to go for a coffee today and take it from there, but then pulled out.  Either a better offer / someone could see her straightaway (did tell her I had to have a shower and get dressed first), or second thoughts.  Has mentioned tomorrow though although I'm working then.  Whether this would turn out to be a coffee and "bye, you're boring and ugly to me" meet, or "You seem normal, let's go back to my place", I've no idea.
A third one was really eager to come to see me on Monday, but I was at my parent's so couldn't do anything.  Looking at next week if my work schedule allows, and I can get a hotel sorted.  Just don't like booking on the day as the price tends to double sometimes if you don't book >3 days in advance.

Some woman do require the pandering to their emotional needs before anything might happen.  Others you might need to shove them in the right direction to show you're not just wanting to endlessly chat.

I do have one elsewhere in the country I've seen more than once, but it's just trying to fit in within each other's schedules that's the issue.  With her, we had a social meet with chatting and drinks first.  Intimacy on the second meet.

[Mr_Shins]

For a dating site where you pay for these kind of things, What's Your Price is far better as you will often get such a date for less than £100. Don't expect any sex on the first date, but if you play things right you might meet someone very nice and pretty and be able to treat them to a few dates.

That's the kind of thing I had with "Elegant Duchess" for a short while.

Kind of broke down when another woman in my life who was abroad at the time came back to England and moved into my house.

[Rockhead]

Guys - got a feeling I'm about to ask an exceptionally dumb question but...how exactly are you managing to meet anyone at all at the moment, let alone SA girls? I was in Stamford yesterday and while there were plenty of folk about, pretty much everything was shut, except for takeaways, even coffee shops. So how are these meetings happening?
I am a former SA member and had some good times using it (about three years ago now). I'd really like to have some more SA adventures but I honestly thought it would be impossible right now. Am I wrong?

[90125]

Just spotted this when I logged on:

Price change! On January 1st 2021, a 30 days premium membership will cost £79.95, and a 90 days premium membership will cost £229.95. Lock in the current rates with a subscription. If you need help converting to subscriptions, please reach out to customer support.

[hungrypunt]

Just spotted this when I logged on:

Price change! On January 1st 2021, a 30 days premium membership will cost £79.95, and a 90 days premium membership will cost £229.95. Lock in the current rates with a subscription. If you need help converting to subscriptions, please reach out to customer support.

and plus vat

[Hobbit]

Guys - got a feeling I'm about to ask an exceptionally dumb question but...how exactly are you managing to meet anyone at all at the moment, let alone SA girls? I was in Stamford yesterday and while there were plenty of folk about, pretty much everything was shut, except for takeaways, even coffee shops. So how are these meetings happening?
I am a former SA member and had some good times using it (about three years ago now). I'd really like to have some more SA adventures but I honestly thought it would be impossible right now. Am I wrong?

Back allies, cars, sheds, public toilets. There are options. 

[southcoastpunter]

Guys - got a feeling I'm about to ask an exceptionally dumb question but...how exactly are you managing to meet anyone at all at the moment, let alone SA girls? I was in Stamford yesterday and while there were plenty of folk about, pretty much everything was shut, except for takeaways, even coffee shops. So how are these meetings happening?
I am a former SA member and had some good times using it (about three years ago now). I'd really like to have some more SA adventures but I honestly thought it would be impossible right now. Am I wrong?

I think it depends on 3 things
- which tier you live in
- whether either of you can accomodate
- whether you mind bending the covid rules a little
I live in a Tier 2 area so cafe's and restaurants are open. I can accomodate - and no comment on my last point .

Even during lockdown2 I still had a "coffee/getting to know you" meet albeit outside takeaways and a walk. (Lining them up for later).

[Hobbit]

I think it depends on 3 things
- which tier you live in
- whether either of you can accomodate
- whether you mind bending the covid rules a little
I live in a Tier 2 area so cafe's and restaurants are open. I can accomodate - and no comment on my last point .

Even during lockdown2 I still had a "coffee/getting to know you" meet albeit outside takeaways and a walk. (Lining them up for later).

Correct. You have to be creative. Outside takeaways is a good idea. Some girls can host. Personally I'll wait until lockdown is over. 

[datwabbit]

Just spotted this when I logged on:

Price change! On January 1st 2021, a 30 days premium membership will cost £79.95, and a 90 days premium membership will cost £229.95. Lock in the current rates with a subscription. If you need help converting to subscriptions, please reach out to customer support.

That's interesting. Just under £100 a month with tax. Given that many women don't know that you pay at all, this will increase the number of posts on this site of frustration with women not replying. It will also increase the number of women frustrated that men are pushy. Surprised at Brandon's logic given the state of men's earnings since Covid.

[Bobbins1973]

That's interesting. Just under £100 a month with tax. Given that many women don't know that you pay at all, this will increase the number of posts on this site of frustration with women not replying. It will also increase the number of women frustrated that men are pushy. Surprised at Brandon's logic given the state of men's earnings since Covid.

Is it because he thinks everyone wi be shag/cash happy when things get back to normal
Still worth it if you know what you are doing - only need 1 subs per year if can master the site

[Cunning Punt]

Thanks for the tips  What's everyone's style of messaging to avoid offering money per hour? To be honest I've had a decent response rate from it.

I've had a lot of flakers. Managed to get 15 numbers since being on there and currently only have 4 that seem genuine about meeting. I hope to arrange something Sunday so will report back if second time lucky.

A decent response rate to your initial messages means diddly squat if they end up backing out - as it seems they are doing. I'm afraid that most of the girls on there are timewasters - and even more so at the moment. However, coming across as a normal guy not just looking for sex will increase your chances and reduce the flake rate.

Offering to pay by the hour may well get some success but girls who are up for that are usually pros - it depends on what type of girl you're looking for.

Just describe it as an allowance which you provide on a per meet basis, certainly at first while you establish if the two of you fully click. Avoid saying ppm - it makes you look like a player and will get you banned if you mention it on SA.

[Cunning Punt]

For a dating site where you pay for these kind of things, What's Your Price is far better as you will often get such a date for less than £100. Don't expect any sex on the first date, but if you play things right you might meet someone very nice and pretty and be able to treat them to a few dates.

You may well have gotten lucky but with most girls who demand paying for a platonic date then generally don't expect sex on any date - and if it is does become on offer, then it is not likely to be cheap or any good.

[billybobsmith]

The local woman who was looking for a social meet at first, myself mentioning bedroom fun, which caused her to say that was escort like, and then went quiet, is chatting a bit again.
Either she's bored, decided I'm the lesser to two evils after having no luck, or something else. 

[Mr_Shins]

Current lockdown rules can make it simpler as you can't take her to expensive restaurants, only for takeaways to eat in the park.

You can also probably agree lower rates and get a chance to know each other.

[extraa]

A decent response rate to your initial messages means diddly squat if they end up backing out - as it seems they are doing. I'm afraid that most of the girls on there are timewasters - and even more so at the moment. However, coming across as a normal guy not just looking for sex will increase your chances and reduce the flake rate.

Offering to pay by the hour may well get some success but girls who are up for that are usually pros - it depends on what type of girl you're looking for.

Just describe it as an allowance which you provide on a per meet basis, certainly at first while you establish if the two of you fully click. Avoid saying ppm - it makes you look like a player and will get you banned if you mention it on SA.

Thanks appreciate the tips 

[Sa69]

Total newbie question here (just signed to SA today) - is the midrange £60 quid a month membership worth it? Or do I need to spend 300 quid a quarter to get a chance of any replies???

[Steve2]

Total newbie question here (just signed to SA today) - is the midrange £60 quid a month membership worth it? Or do I need to spend 300 quid a quarter to get a chance of any replies???

A month is better as a starter

[Sa69]

Do u mean a 'diamond' month or a 'premium' month though mate?

[Jumping Jack Flash]

Do u mean a 'diamond' month or a 'premium' month though mate?

I don’t think that the enhanced memberships are worth it, particularly during the current situation. If you think about it, they cannot guarantee that you will receive messages. I have never had an enhanced membership and always did ok on SA, I personally wouldn’t pay for a Seeking membership at the moment though.

[Sparta Prada]

Total newbie question here (just signed to SA today) - is the midrange £60 quid a month membership worth it? Or do I need to spend 300 quid a quarter to get a chance of any replies???

If you have only signed up but not yet paid for premium or diamond membership my advice is to hold off from paying for now. Within 3 weeks there’s a decent chance you will receive and email from Seeking offering you 30 days membership with a discount up to 33%, and take up that option.

And I would only sign up for premium membership. Like others have said, I cannot see what extra value diamond membership will give over premium.

[Mr_Shins]

A lot of reasons why I prefer What's You're Price to Seeking. On WYP you buy credits to open conversations with people once you have agreed the amount you will pay to meet them, and if you don't make matches you essentially save these.

I've met more people on WYP than any other dating / matching up site.

[dmitrybulgakov]

A lot of reasons why I prefer What's You're Price to Seeking. On WYP you buy credits to open conversations with people once you have agreed the amount you will pay to meet them, and if you don't make matches you essentially save these.

I've met more people on WYP than any other dating / matching up site.

Interesting idea. How many of them actually convert into a shag?.
Or have you made it somewhat clear on your profile that intimacy is a must?

Thanks

[extraa]

Had one lined up for today and the lockdown in Wales was brought in from 28th to midnight Saturday  absolutely gutted. Hopefully I can keep them interested during the new restrictions. Already had a few drop off and stop replying to messages, I've always found meeting in person sooner rather than later is always best - even from dating I never liked to text for too long before meeting.

[Mr_Shins]

Interesting idea. How many of them actually convert into a shag?.
Or have you made it somewhat clear on your profile that intimacy is a must?

Thanks

I didn't care that much if I didn't get sex with them, I have Melysa for that. But I've had sex with 1 that I met on WYP and 1 I met on seeking.