Have you been caught or almost caught?

[lvtpunt]

Not a woman, just a Class A tosser.   

 

Class A tosser indeed, some of those posts just felt like someone trying too hard. Also the weird negative comments about our "hobby".

[mrbluerunner]

Not exactly on topic but had been to a Stringfellows whilst on a stag weekend and the best man had insisted we all wear evening suits.  Outside the club, on of the guys pointed at my trousers and was pissing himself as I had a mixture of make up and glitter all over the crotch and legs of my trousers.  I then pointed out that so did he and pretty much all of us - that was goes of wearing black I guess.  I made sure that I dropped my suit into the dry cleaners on the way home; the wife was a little suspicious but I just said something about them having drink over them.

There was another time years ago (and before incognito mode) where someone close went through my pc and threatening to out me for having looked at porn and AW; I was genuinely furious that anyone should do that to someone close and went mad at them - basically chucked them out of the house and wouldn't speak to them for the best part of a year.  They eventually apologised and we rebuilt a relationship from there.  The wife took my side as they agreed it was harmless to look at porn and AW if it wasn't going to be followed up on.  Won't go into detail but I can tell you I felt sick to my stomach and angry for a long time.

[Ali Katt]

Threads a little old now but one time my missus found a condom wrapper in the car with a "what is this?". The adrenaline kicked in and I just said that must be from last week when we shagged in the car, which was true luckily (the johnny wrapper wasn't from then though). She laughed and went red so I knew it was just a close shave.

Slightly off topic but looking at a few of wooderz' posts, did anyone else get the feeling it may have been a snooping woman and not a real bloke?

Hendrix was the first who thought he might a woman so credit where it is due.

[webpunter]

All blokes look at porn
If they don't there is something wrong with them
The only answer to the question - do you look at porn ? - is yes

As for it being OK for you to look at Awank i wouldn't believe a word of what wifey said
Women are like elephants - they never forget
Be careful

As for sick to the stomach i've had a few close shaves
One upside is that soon after i've managed a huge dump
Felt lighter on my feet with a hop skip & a jump in my step 
Re-assess in self debrief & analyse where / how the wheels nearly came orf
Live & learn

The wife took my side as they agreed it was harmless to look at porn and AW if it wasn't going to be followed up on.  Won't go into detail but I can tell you I felt sick to my stomach and angry for a long time.

[Litmwa]

Easier to get a wife into swinging and punting. The fuck if I would go through the shit some of you do.

[tazz]

Saw a girl off seeking and was shocked about a story she told me about a millionaire sugar daddy she had for 3 months. He would only see her at his house despite having a wife, give her over a £1k a time and extra cash for his request as he got off on it and had some fantasy about being caught. One day when they were at it his wife unexpectedly came home and that ended her arrangement. She wasn't lying as shes not been in this business that long.

[GingerNuts]

She wasn't lying as shes not been in this business that long.

Since when has how long someone's "been in the business" a measure of truthfulness?

[Payyourwaymate]

Saw a girl off seeking and was shocked about a story she told me about a millionaire sugar daddy she had for 3 months. He would only see her at his house despite having a wife, give her over a £1k a time and extra cash for his request as he got off on it and had some fantasy about being caught. One day when they were at it his wife unexpectedly came home and that ended her arrangement. She wasn't lying as shes not been in this business that long.

How was she certain that he was a millionaire?  If he really was, he would really risk his wealth for such foolishness? 

[Jeremy]

If he really was, he would really risk his wealth for such foolishness? 

Doesn't stop the married punters on here. It's the same thing, just on a larger scale.

[tazz]

How was she certain that he was a millionaire?  If he really was, he would really risk his wealth for such foolishness? 

No end of craziness with men. Just look up some of the humiliation videos and read up on these fetishes. Well she was going to his huge multi million pound house in london for 3 months and he has a bentley. He was getting through £5k a month on her so im preety sure hes a millionaire.

[GingerNuts]

Well she was going to his huge multi million pound house in london for 3 months and he has a bentley. He was getting through £5k a month on her so im preety sure hes a millionaire.

Assuming she's telling the truth it could be the wife who's the millionaire.

[Laney08]

No end of craziness with men. Just look up some of the humiliation videos and read up on these fetishes. Well she was going to his huge multi million pound house in london for 3 months and he has a bentley. He was getting through £5k a month on her so im preety sure hes a millionaire.

Agreed and interesting this thread has surfaced again as within the past 6 months several blokes I know have had their marriages self-combust.

It's interesting the perspective you get when it's people you actually know - I know for sure 2 punted and the missus found out. That said in all cases seems to be multiple problems with their marriage not just punting. Which goes with what some have said about women turning a blind eye to some side-fucking. If the marriage is fundamentally sound a bit of indiscretion seems excusable.

I still feel marriage in this day and age seems to be a fucking sham for both men and women. More around keeping up appearances in the pursuit of middle-class respectability, financial security and avoiding sweet sweet solitude. Peel back the surface and all the vows and gash-talk come to nowt really.

[MrMatrix]

Agreed and interesting this thread has surfaced again as within the past 6 months several blokes I know have had their marriages self-combust.

It's interesting the perspective you get when it's people you actually know - I know for sure 2 punted and the missus found out. That said in all cases seems to be multiple problems with their marriage not just punting. Which goes with what some have said about women turning a blind eye to some side-fucking. If the marriage is fundamentally sound a bit of indiscretion seems excusable.

I still feel marriage in this day and age seems to be a fucking sham for both men and women. More around keeping up appearances in the pursuit of middle-class respectability, financial security and avoiding sweet sweet solitude. Peel back the surface and all the vows and gash-talk come to nowt really.

How did your two friends get found out that they punted? Think we all want to know just so we dont make the same mistake

[OakTree]

My missus found out a couple of years ago. Strangely we’re still together.

She obviously thinks I've stopped punting.

[Laney08]

How did your two friends get found out that they punted? Think we all want to know just so we dont make the same mistake

Fair enough 

One started using his personal email address with a girl and on a machine he shared both of which the wife had sporadic access too. Also sounded like some EAS action going on between him and the WG. I think he was super keen on keeping in as immediate contact with the WG as possible for some meets but honestly having heard about it I think he was trying to prove something to himself or the WG about how close they were (hence my EAS assumption). On the plus sides the wife thinks it was just this one WG rather than full punting with a range of hoes (I don't know for sure, impression I got).

Other one scared me - wife had known for a while. Don't know him too well and mostly second hand info but basically she'd picked up on bits n pieces over the years. Bloke thought his wife was a moron and he could get away with lots. Turns out when his business went to shit and he wasn't bringing home as much she had a nice little exit plan and a list of his misdeamonours to get the most out of the divorce settlement.

Bear in mind for both it was 1 problem among loads that broke both marriages. And I think there's some element of middle-life crisis shit going and some self-defeating behaviours. Sad really, aside from the obvious pretty decent blokes all round.

[MrMatrix]

Fair enough 

One started using his personal email address with a girl and on a machine he shared both of which the wife had sporadic access too. Also sounded like some EAS action going on between him and the WG. I think he was super keen on keeping in as immediate contact with the WG as possible for some meets but honestly having heard about it I think he was trying to prove something to himself or the WG about how close they were (hence my EAS assumption). On the plus sides the wife thinks it was just this one WG rather than full punting with a range of hoes (I don't know for sure, impression I got).

Other one scared me - wife had known for a while. Don't know him too well and mostly second hand info but basically she'd picked up on bits n pieces over the years. Bloke thought his wife was a moron and he could get away with lots. Turns out when his business went to shit and he wasn't bringing home as much she had a nice little exit plan and a list of his misdeamonours to get the most out of the divorce settlement.

Bear in mind for both it was 1 problem among loads that broke both marriages. And I think there's some element of middle-life crisis shit going and some self-defeating behaviours. Sad really, aside from the obvious pretty decent blokes all round.

1st guy made some basic punting errors really.
2nd guy , well she was calculating when it came to the crunch. You can never under estimate the OH or indeed your children as I found out last year. One of them caught me with my punting phone an old Nokia. Well some how I dodged that bullet and since been a lot more vigilent.

[MrMatrix]

My missus found out a couple of years ago. Strangely we’re still together.

She obviously thinks I've stopped punting.

Go on Oak Tree, how did she find out?

[LLPunting]

My missus found out a couple of years ago. Strangely we’re still together.

She obviously thinks I've stopped punting.

Well if she's smart she's stalking this site and you've just outed yourself.  Good luck with the spanking she's about to give you.

[OakTree]

Go on Oak Tree, how did she find out?

It truly was a school boy error. iphone and ipad linked. She heard my ipad going off and picked it up and read the messages between me and the agency as I parked up and they sent me the room number. Even though she couldn't unlock the ipad, she was seeing the notification which included the message and number. She rang the number and it was game over.

As I was going up to the room I got a text off her saying I know exactly what you're up to or words to that effect. I was in a quandry what to do and decided fuck it I'll deal with it later and went ahead with the punt.

By the time I'd got home she'd gone through the bank accounts and worked out when I'd drawn money out or thereabouts and come up with a figure of what I'd spent. That account only was five of six years old so she could only work on that.....It was alot.

[OakTree]

Well if she's smart she's stalking this site and you've just outed yourself.  Good luck with the spanking she's about to give you.

I think my actual going out and punting is far more riskier than what I might write on here.

At the time I informed Admin and he changed my username. He would of also been able to tell me of someone using the same wifi if she was on this site.

[LLPunting]

I think my actual going out and punting is far more riskier than what I might write on here.

At the time I informed Admin and he changed my username. He would of also been able to tell me of someone using the same wifi if she was on this site.

The fact you're actively using a punting site after being caught (and perhaps telling her you've stopped) and used the words you did is sufficient evidence for her to question you. 

So Admin told you he would actively aid and abet you to elude your missus?  How does he know you haven't registered a second profile from the same location.  Any excuse you might give, whether in writing, by voice or face to face could be a lie depending on your conviction to deceive.    No offence, just trying to surface the risk/uncertainty from Admin's POV.

[OakTree]

The fact you're actively using a punting site after being caught (and perhaps telling her you've stopped) and used the words you did is sufficient evidence for her to question you. 

So Admin told you he would actively aid and abet you to elude your missus?  How does he know you haven't registered a second profile from the same location.  Any excuse you might give, whether in writing, by voice or face to face could be a lie depending on your conviction to deceive.    No offence, just trying to surface the risk/uncertainty from Admin's POV.

Huh? So you think I'd use the excuse of being caught out to register another account? You've lost me there. If I was going to do that I'd hardly make myself noticed to admin. I'm sure he would of noticed if I was registering from the same location and I would of been banned long ago.

Besides Admin didn't tell me anything of the sort. I told him of my plight and asked if I could change my username. The use of my wifi by another was my assumption. Not anything he said.

How on earth have you come to this conclusion on a subject about getting caught out?

[threechilliman]

It truly was a school boy error. iphone and ipad linked. She heard my ipad going off and picked it up and read the messages between me and the agency as I parked up and they sent me the room number. Even though she couldn't unlock the ipad, she was seeing the notification which included the message and number. She rang the number and it was game over.

As I was going up to the room I got a text off her saying I know exactly what you're up to or words to that effect. I was in a quandry what to do and decided fuck it I'll deal with it later and went ahead with the punt.

By the time I'd got home she'd gone through the bank accounts and worked out when I'd drawn money out or thereabouts and come up with a figure of what I'd spent. That account only was five of six years old so she could only work on that.....It was alot.

This is one of the reasons I won't go near apple products.

[LLPunting]

Huh? So you think I'd use the excuse of being caught out to register another account? You've lost me there. If I was going to do that I'd hardly make myself noticed to admin. I'm sure he would of noticed if I was registering from the same location and I would of been banned long ago.

Besides Admin didn't tell me anything of the sort. I told him of my plight and asked if I could change my username. The use of my wifi by another was my assumption. Not anything he said.

How on earth have you come to this conclusion on a subject about getting caught out?

Sorry, you misunderstood.  I was challenging " He would of also been able to tell me of someone using the same wifi if she was on this site." to determine if Admin had indeed made any offer of assistance in such matters.  If he hadn't then as Admin doesn't know you from Adam, if he were to id a second profile from your IP (presuming you have a fixed one) and he was nice enough to query rather than instaban then he'd only have your word about the whole wifey spying on you thing.  As you've clarified you made an assumption.

[LLPunting]

This is one of the reasons I won't go near apple products.

Android can do the same, although you probably have to take more steps unless they're all one brand and you use a pre-loaded config tool.

[Al R]

This is one of the reasons I won't go near apple products.

As oaktree said though it was a basic error. It’s very easy to unlink iphone / ipad messages or not have notifications showing when the device is locked, which is how mine are set up irrespective of punting. It also highlights the advantages of using a punting phone.

I know someone who got caught out the same way, not through punting but with a bit on the side - his missus was sitting at home reading all the messages they were sending to each other 

[threechilliman]

As oaktree said though it was a basic error. It’s very easy to unlink iphone / ipad messages or not have notifications showing when the device is locked, which is how mine are set up irrespective of punting. It also highlights the advantages of using a punting phone.

I know someone who got caught out the same way, not through punting but with a bit on the side - his missus was sitting at home reading all the messages they were sending to each other 

My devices are not linked. I also use a punting phone which can't connect to anything. No idea why folk don't keep punting simple.

[OakTree]

Sorry, you misunderstood.  I was challenging " He would of also been able to tell me of someone using the same wifi if she was on this site." to determine if Admin had indeed made any offer of assistance in such matters.  If he hadn't then as Admin doesn't know you from Adam, if he were to id a second profile from your IP (presuming you have a fixed one) and he was nice enough to query rather than instaban then he'd only have your word about the whole wifey spying on you thing.  As you've clarified you made an assumption.

Ah right. Understood.

[Convince Me]

In my early twenties I was living in Germany & had just split from my German policewoman girlfriend when I decided to visit the local red light district, one way in/out. As I was leaving she pulls up in the patrol car & I run like the clappers up a side pedestrian street.

I was more than sweating the next time we met & she started to quiz me. Fortunately I managed to blag my way out but only just.

[Dipper]

It truly was a school boy error. iphone and ipad linked. She heard my ipad going off and picked it up and read the messages between me and the agency as I parked up and they sent me the room number. Even though she couldn't unlock the ipad, she was seeing the notification which included the message and number. She rang the number and it was game over.

As I was going up to the room I got a text off her saying I know exactly what you're up to or words to that effect. I was in a quandry what to do and decided fuck it I'll deal with it later and went ahead with the punt.

By the time I'd got home she'd gone through the bank accounts and worked out when I'd drawn money out or thereabouts and come up with a figure of what I'd spent. That account only was five of six years old so she could only work on that.....It was alot.

Fuck!

Yeah, as has been said never allow notifications to show punter or not.(easy for me to say now.) Seems this was the root of it. 

[Jonestown]

In my early twenties I was living in Germany & had just split from my German policewoman girlfriend when I decided to visit the local red light district, one way in/out. As I was leaving she pulls up in the patrol car & I run like the clappers up a side pedestrian street.

I was more than sweating the next time we met & she started to quiz me. Fortunately I managed to blag my way out but only just.

Prostitution is legal in Germany, and you had just split up with her, so what's her beef ?

Sounds like you were well shot of that one.

[webpunter]

You think she bought your story
She gave you that impression
Women will let you think what they want you to think
Much more likely that she knew what was going on as a she was a rozzer

In my early twenties I was living in Germany & had just split from my German policewoman girlfriend when I decided to visit the local red light district, one way in/out. As I was leaving she pulls up in the patrol car & I run like the clappers up a side pedestrian street.

I was more than sweating the next time we met & she started to quiz me. Fortunately I managed to blag my way out but only just.

[webpunter]

Junior school !
I'm presuming that you had a separate punting mobile ?
Apple products seem to have a knack of connecting 
Hence why my punting mobile is android not iPhone

Edit:  ie main phone is Iphone

It truly was a school boy error. iphone and ipad linked

[Home Alone]

I recently committed a more low-tech error which may be a salutory lesson for others.

Although I'll never re-marry, punting over the last 15 years has given me much more self-confidence with women than I ever used to have. To the extent that I'm now in the early stages of a friendship - nothing more, nothing less - with a personable woman who lives in a nearby town and seems to think - correctly! - that I'm a personable old chap. Neither of us has any intention of living together, but we meet up for the afternoon perhaps once every five or six weeks, alternating between her visiting me and vice versa. Afaik, she doesn't know I'm an almost-retired punter.

Whichever of us is visiting picks up a couple of butties in  M & S for lunch and our afternoon together - just chilling out; nothing more strenuous - is rounded off with a meal in a Wetherspoon's or somewhere like that.

Last month, I had a 10-day holiday in the South on my own; the question of holidays together hasn't yet been discussed. When she rang me to wish me a good holiday she said something like "Don't be frugal about what you eat while you're away; you know you can afford better than Wetherspoon's!"

When I asked how the hell she knew that, she told me that I'd used the ATM in Marks & Sparks at the time I bought the sandwiches and left the receipt in the bag the butties had been in!

So, if you're using an ATM before a punt, either don't get a receipt or, if you do, then destroy it before you get home!

[RogerBoner]

 

I told her I had a shower at work ( I very rarely do) as I felt a bit grubby but I don't think she's buying it.

This panic reply about the shower is the giveaway. I like the suggestion that you wear them back to front again. But that could remind her of her original suspicions.

My wife said I smelt nice but my daughter said I smelt raunchy after a trip to the local Chinese.

Recently my civvie gf wanted to give me a last BJ before I went on my trip to Thailand (she thought I was going elsewhere on business) but it was only when in the shower before the deed that I remembered that I had Veeted down below and behind for my adventures.

She must be a bit daft not to have noticed though.

[GingerNuts]

She must be a bit daft not to have noticed though.

Just because she didn't say anything at the time doesn't mean she didn't notice.

[MrMatrix]

It truly was a school boy error. iphone and ipad linked. She heard my ipad going off and picked it up and read the messages between me and the agency as I parked up and they sent me the room number. Even though she couldn't unlock the ipad, she was seeing the notification which included the message and number. She rang the number and it was game over.

As I was going up to the room I got a text off her saying I know exactly what you're up to or words to that effect. I was in a quandry what to do and decided fuck it I'll deal with it later and went ahead with the punt.

By the time I'd got home she'd gone through the bank accounts and worked out when I'd drawn money out or thereabouts and come up with a figure of what I'd spent. That account only was five of six years old so she could only work on that.....It was alot.

OMG Oaktree, ultimate nightmare scenareo. But she forgave you as you are still together. Thats extraordinary she'd do that. She must have felt some guilt I reckon. Its a reminder that we must be vigilant , keep our options open.. Good to hear your still together

[Plan R]

When I asked how the hell she knew that, she told me that I'd used the ATM in Marks & Sparks at the time I bought the sandwiches and left the receipt in the bag the butties had been in!

Be it as complex as a 'smart' phone syncing with other devices,
mid range like a speed camera snapping you,
or simple like a paper receipt - technology will always tell on you.

Gotta be vigilant about tech broadcasting your movements, whatever form that tech takes.

[Bogof60]

I recently committed a more low-tech error which may be a salutory lesson for others.

Although I'll never re-marry, punting over the last 15 years has given me much more self-confidence with women than I ever used to have. To the extent that I'm now in the early stages of a friendship - nothing more, nothing less - with a personable woman who lives in a nearby town and seems to think - correctly! - that I'm a personable old chap. Neither of us has any intention of living together, but we meet up for the afternoon perhaps once every five or six weeks, alternating between her visiting me and vice versa. Afaik, she doesn't know I'm an almost-retired punter.

Whichever of us is visiting picks up a couple of butties in  M & S for lunch and our afternoon together - just chilling out; nothing more strenuous - is rounded off with a meal in a Wetherspoon's or somewhere like that.

Last month, I had a 10-day holiday in the South on my own; the question of holidays together hasn't yet been discussed. When she rang me to wish me a good holiday she said something like "Don't be frugal about what you eat while you're away; you know you can afford better than Wetherspoon's!"

When I asked how the hell she knew that, she told me that I'd used the ATM in Marks & Sparks at the time I bought the sandwiches and left the receipt in the bag the butties had been in!

So, if you're using an ATM before a punt, either don't get a receipt or, if you do, then destroy it before you get home!

WTF is she doing nosing around your ATM receipts.
Seems to me like she has you as a high spending High Roller who can afford to spend  more on HER 

Beware HA

[GingerNuts]

WTF is she doing nosing around your ATM receipts.

She wasn't.

When I asked how the hell she knew that, she told me that I'd used the ATM in Marks & Sparks at the time I bought the sandwiches and left the receipt in the bag the butties had been in!

[Bogof60]

She wasn't.

Mmmmmm 

[Home Alone]

WTF is she doing nosing around your ATM receipts.
Seems to me like she has you as a high spending High Roller who can afford to spend  more on HER 

Beware HA

Doing what all women do best, imo, Bogof!

I just never thought about screwing up the ATM receipt & putting it in my trousers pocket or taking home the bag the butties came in - on which I'd wasted 5 whole pence!

I'll be much more on my guard in future.

[MrMatrix]

Doing what all women do best, imo, Bogof!

I just never thought about screwing up the ATM receipt & putting it in my trousers pocket or taking home the bag the butties came in - on which I'd wasted 5 whole pence!

I'll be much more on my guard in future.

I always ditch car park tickets as well. Its so easy to make a mistake from the most unlikeliest of sources....

[threechilliman]

I always ditch car park tickets as well. Its so easy to make a mistake from the most unlikeliest of sources....

With carparks I leave the ticket poking out of the machine. So if you find one, you'll know.

[Fat Bob]

Be it as complex as a 'smart' phone syncing with other devices,
mid range like a speed camera snapping you,
or simple like a paper receipt - technology will always tell on you.

Gotta be vigilant about tech broadcasting your movements, whatever form that tech takes.

Yeah, I was almost rumbled due to technology, with a bit of complacency by me thrown in for good measure.

I attended an all day/evening business seminar in a city centre hotel and used the controlled hotel car park as instructed.  When I was leaving the hotel mid-afternoon (not in the evening as the OH was told)  I had to confirm the vehicle registration details at reception to ensure that I did not receive a ticket for unauthorised parking, but as my mind was on other things (like shagging a hot WG that afternoon) I left the hotel without registering the vehicle at reception.

I didn't think about this again until about 2 weeks later when the OH gets a parking ticket through the post for unathorised parking at the hotel, yeah, I was driving her car, so she got the ticket through the post addressed to her.  She scanned over the ticket, confirming the location and date and then passed it to me, "this must be yours!" she said sternly, and then quizzed me on why I got a ticket for parking at the event.  When I looked at the ticket I just about shit myself.  Two photographs of the car; one entering the car park and the other leaving the car park, both time stamped.   Thank feck the OH did not pickup on the time stamps on the photos as I would have had great difficulty explaining why the car left the venue mid-afternoon but did not arrive back in the drive until dark o'clock.

That morning, I went online and succesfully appealed the ticket, and thought to myself, pheeew that was a lucky escape.  ...Well not quite.  The appeal process takes around 2 weeks to conclude and in that time they send out a freckin reminder to the OH with a further copy of the time stamped photos.   But my luck was holding, as soon as she seen what was inside envelope she passed it to me with the words "I thought you got this sorted?" - Guys, be careful and don't get complacent; check and double check, and then triple check everything.

[RogerBoner]

That morning, I went online and succesfully appealed the ticket, and thought to myself, pheeew that was a lucky escape.  ...Well not quite. 

You should have paid immediately to put this behind you. It wasn't worth the risk to keep it in play, unless you subconsciously wanted a dangerous thrill.

[MrMatrix]

You should have paid immediately to put this behind you. It wasn't worth the risk to keep it in play, unless you subconsciously wanted a dangerous thrill.

Agreed Roger. I too had a nice picture sent to me c/o hotel camera. Its a real fill your pants moment. Luckily OH was away and I just paid it.
Ever since I never park in hotel car parks just in case another fuck up happens.

[Fat Bob]

You should have paid immediately to put this behind you. It wasn't worth the risk to keep it in play, unless you subconsciously wanted a dangerous thrill.

Agreed Roger. That was an under pressure "thinking on your feet" kind of moment that could have went horribly wrong.  In hindsight, it is possible that the car park operator may well have issued an automatic reminder regardless of whether the ticket was paid or not, as they often do.

[LLPunting]

Agreed Roger. That was an under pressure "thinking on your feet" kind of moment that could have went horribly wrong.  In hindsight, it is possible that the car park operator may well have issued an automatic reminder regardless of whether the ticket was paid or not, as they often do.

All automated chase systems seem to operate independent of payments received whether it's retailers, banks, utilities, councils so never bank on payment settling all matters, even if you confirm with a human operator at the time.  I've had chase letters appear weeks after payments were settled and clearly sent after payment.  Quite clear that the IT services providing and creating these systems are all piss poor at designer customer service improvements.  Perhaps Scutty B could redirect his ire that way and make some serious bank and an ethical hero badge.

[webpunter]

+1

Its a reminder that we must be vigilant , keep our options open..

The focus on this thread is about what 'we' are doing.  Amongst other things these include
- not getting caught on speed cameras
- not getting parking tickets
- not having tech comm problems
- not putting on undies back to front 

It's important to maintain the same routine on day-to-day stuff that the OH will be used to
I liken this to focusing on things that we are NOT doing
For example
If when getting back from work you have a drink straight away coz a stressful day then breezing in all casual & relaxed will raise suspicions
Just coz the tanks have been emptied with your fave WG on the way home / during the day, then best not to show a visible hop skip & a jump in your step
I can see the words "you seem happy ......" etc & then "WHY ?"
The OH's mumsN radar will kick into gear
Best that this remains dormant
Best way is to keep things consistent

And FFS don't ever feel guilty & buy flowers !