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Offline Tania

Why does a guy book a prossie, if all he wants is a kiss, a cuddle and a chat?  This particular person, who I've seen once before, thinks it would be disrespectful to me to do anything else.  What is it about being a prostitute he doesn't get?  OK, my profile might be a bit different to other peoples, but not that much. He's a nice enough chap, but is it the start of a stalker-type weirdo personality coming through?

It could be - he's not a train spotter by any chance  :lol:

I used to see a guy like that who would book 2 hrs with me, but was never interested in anything sexual.  He'd get a stiffy but whenever I tried to play with it he said he just prefered to lie there and cuddle.  The outcome was he kept ringing me up and telling me how I was the perfect women for him and he would love to marry me.  I ended up ignoring his calls in the end, mainly because I felt to continue seeing him would be cruel, as he was so far removed from anyone I would envisage marrying and seeing him may encourage his belief that there was something special between us.

Offline Fannytastico

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I used to see a guy like that .....
Do you think it's the same guy?  Sounds spookily alike.  I think I will have to knock him on the head (so to speak) and cancel this and any future bookings.  He knows where I live though!

Offline Lady Poppy

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This time, he was angling for a discount and said he was broke, then said he would drive his new car to see me.  He wants no services this time either (disrespectful to me). Will this all end badly?  Should I just refuse to see him for his own good.

I think you should stop seeing him for 'you'.  I take it you are not looking for a relationship at the moment?  He is angling at best for freebies but I feel he may be looking to waste your time full stop and make you feel undervalued.

His card is marked, get rid!

Offline Fannytastico

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....I take it you are not looking for a relationship at the moment?  ......
Darn right, huny chile. The only way I could have a relationship is if we lived in different parts of the world.  Or if he was away.  A LOT.

perhaps he believes the bit that says   you are paying for my time and companionship .....

Offline Strawberry

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I've had two clients in the last month who just wanted to talk. They were both nervous, one had never had a relationship of any sort with a woman and was convinced he wouldn't even known how to have a conversation with one. As it was we ended up chatting for a couple of hours. Some men are incredibly shy with the opposite sex, often as a result of bad experiences. With nervous types I don't jump all over them, nor make sudden moves that could scare them witless. One of them paid my usual rate for the time, the other only paid for 1 hour but we were getting on well and I had the time so it ran into 2 hours. I do have a rate of £50 for social time so it was only fair. If someone booked me regularly at a reduced rate, on the basis of 'social' only then thought he could angle for 'freebies' then he'd be out the door and I probably wouldn't see him again.

Offline Jimmyredcab

Darn right, huny chile. The only way I could have a relationship is if we lived in different parts of the world.  Or if he was away.  A LOT.

Or he was a multi-millionaire.   :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

Offline Wife4rent

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Should I just refuse to see him for his own good.

No.. Just keep taking his money

He came to deliver a bouquet of roses anyway and stayed for a cup of tea.

And did not pay you for your time?

This time, he was angling for a discount and said he was broke

A discount for a regular payer is not too bad an idea, but he has to be regular and be a client, not somebody you share a cup of tea more times than seeing as a client

said he would drive his new car to see me.

And take you out for lunch with the (your) meter running.....

Sounds to me like if you do not take a firm hand in the matter he will become a problem and you will feel guilty about having to upset such a nice guy, get him signed up to match.com or something similar.


Offline Tania

Yes it is and the sort of comment that makes people think badly about sex workers.

I am pleased to say we are not all as callous as that.

Albert

If the guy knows the rate yoiu charge, and is willing to pay it, then if all he wants is a chat, kiss and cuddle, then thats what he likes, and you are boh happy.

Spell out to him that some guys want to go further and that is okay, and treat him like you would any other guy, let him know though that its only a business transaction, and your not prepaired to meet outside of that area.


Offline Wife4rent

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Isn't that a bit heartless?

Why is it heartless? If you are providing a service that he requires then surely that is not a problem. If you allow somebody to intrude in your life on personal time your inviting them to be friends, then boundaries get clouded and they read more into it than they should. Unless that is what you want.

Think of it like, if he did not visit me, would I visit him?

Offline softlad

Why is it heartless? If you are providing a service that he requires then surely that is not a problem. If you allow somebody to intrude in your life on personal time your inviting them to be friends, then boundaries get clouded and they read more into it than they should. Unless that is what you want.

Think of it like, if he did not visit me, would I visit him?

No doubt some prossies do have your attitude, as I have found to my cost.
Suffice to say I never return to such prossies.
I look for friendly welcoming types, who enjoy their role,
and who don't have to force themselves to do a job that so obviously grates.
I have made many friends over the years with WG's, and they have benefited by my repeat business.

Offline Wife4rent

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No doubt some prossies do have your attitude, as I have found to my cost.

My attitude as you put it is simply business and I do not allow that line to be crossed, inviting people in and giving them cups of tea is not for me, not that I work from my own home. I am not looking to increase my circle of friends and, as stated above feel that it can lead to the punter getting the wrong idea, such as...

He's a nice enough chap, but is it the start of a stalker-type weirdo personality coming through?

And I would suggest if you feel that way then, maybe it is not something you should be doing. As this post then details

I used to see a guy like that who would book 2 hrs with me, but was never interested in anything sexual.  He'd get a stiffy but whenever I tried to play with it he said he just prefered to lie there and cuddle.  The outcome was he kept ringing me up and telling me how I was the perfect women for him and he would love to marry me.  I ended up ignoring his calls in the end, mainly because I felt to continue seeing him would be cruel, as he was so far removed from anyone I would envisage marrying and seeing him may encourage his belief that there was something special between us.

And yet then states

Yes it is and the sort of comment that makes people think badly about sex workers.

So now it all gets a little confusing !!!

There is no right or wrong but how you feel about doing certain things. If the guy wishes to visit you as a punter then why not, if he try's to be your next best friend, that is ok if it is what you want, but if it is not then take it back to a business relationship quickly. If he is not happy with that then he will move on

Offline smiths

Why does a guy book a prossie, if all he wants is a kiss, a cuddle and a chat?  This particular person, who I've seen once before, thinks it would be disrespectful to me to do anything else.  What is it about being a prostitute he doesn't get?  OK, my profile might be a bit different to other peoples, but not that much.  He's a nice enough chap, but is it the start of a stalker-type weirdo personality coming through?

I knew a WG who was stalked by a punter, he was a initially a nice guy, polite, and good to talk to. He was grooming her as he had no doubt done with others before, he was in his 50s, i saw some of his texts, ranging from pledging undying love to serious threats of violence. The lady felt she couldnt go to the police due to her personal circumstances which this guy was aware of.

This guys behaviour you have already noted as odd, this has made you post a thread about it so i would advise stop having any contact. :)

Offline Matium

All things considered, it would be best if Fanny stopped seeing that man and ignored all his calls from now on.

If Fanny has an Android phone, she can block his number.

That'll be the simplest thing to do.

Offline Tania

My attitude as you put it is simply business and I do not allow that line to be crossed, inviting people in and giving them cups of tea is not for me, not that I work from my own home. I am not looking to increase my circle of friends and, as stated above feel that it can lead to the punter getting the wrong idea, such as...

And I would suggest if you feel that way then, maybe it is not something you should be doing. As this post then details

And yet then states

So now it all gets a little confusing !!!

There is no right or wrong but how you feel about doing certain things. If the guy wishes to visit you as a punter then why not, if he try's to be your next best friend, that is ok if it is what you want, but if it is not then take it back to a business relationship quickly. If he is not happy with that then he will move on

I just feel that if a punter is getting deluded and starting to believe that there is more to the 'prostitute/punter' relationship, other than simply paying for sex, then it is not fair on them to continue seeing them.  Yes, it would be easy to see them as just another pound sign and continue taking their cash, but I happen to think there are enough arseholes in the world who take advantage of other people, that there really is no need to add my name to the list (not that I am calling you an arsehole by the way, I mean that in  general terms).  I would not feel good about myself if I felt I was taking advantage of someone's vulnerability in any way, but thats just me.

Offline softlad

Yes, it would be easy to see them as just another pound sign and continue taking their cash, but I happen to think there are enough arseholes in the world who take advantage of other people,
I would not feel good about myself if I felt I was taking advantage of someone's vulnerability in any way, but thats just me.

Well said Tania, nice to see some compassion.  ;)

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...If Fanny has an Android phone, she can block his number.....
Blocking does worry me in general, not about this specific guy.  I would have a conversation with them, say it is unacceptable then block.
But, look at that 14 yo teenager.  She blocked a boy's calls and he came round and stabbed her in the neck.   What is wrong with people these days.  There are more and more stories of parents harming/killing their children, so their ex-partner can't spend any more time with them.  WTF.   

Offline Wife4rent

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Yes, it would be easy to see them as just another pound sign and continue taking their cash, but I happen to think there are enough arseholes in the world who take advantage of other people,

Err... Sorry I must be in the wrong business, punters come for a service pay their money and then leave, that is business. Somebody once said "prostitutes make money out of others misfortunes".

I just feel that if a punter is getting deluded and starting to believe that there is more to the 'prostitute/punter' relationship, other than simply paying for sex, then it is not fair on them to continue seeing them

Any post if taken out of context can be miss used, my point is that I do not allow people to cross the line, I do not look to make friends with then, invite them for cups of tea or get to know them with intimate chats etc.., they arrive, have sex and leave. If you feel that they are being deluded then it is right to set them straight, to simply ignore them could possibly turn them into a stalker. But each person is different and some people enjoy the fantasy of the delusion. maybe your GFE is too good?

Personally, I prefer to think of myself as a prostitute not an escort, I offer a sexual service for men to relive themselves, I do not offer friendship, counselling or other such services. WG's that I have known do this, have usually run into problems

Most punters tell lies, embellish the truth and I am not into exchanging bullshit for the sake of it

I do not think that is harsh, it simply lays down the line that should not be crossed. Nor does it take advantage of somebody as I make quite clear that there is nothing else in it, in fact, I do not recall a time when I had anybody think there was.

But as I said before, people do as they wish to, just because they do not do it my way does not make it wrong, nor do I feel that if I treat business as business to keep it that way I do not think that I am

Offline softlad

Personally, I prefer to think of myself as a prostitute not an escort, I offer a sexual service for men to relive themselves, I do not offer friendship, counselling or other such services.

You are very much the old school type of prostitute, my first ever punt was with such a prossie in a soho walk up.
I'm going back over 20yrs, she charged £15 for what can only be described as a fuck and out.
Many still operate as such but charge accordingly, I've no idea what the rate is these days in Soho.
I'm curious why you see fit to charge escort rates, yet don't consider yourself to be one ?
« Last Edit: April 05, 2011, 05:45:23 PM by softlad »

Offline oconnor

What exactly is an escort?  Isn't it simply a 'dressing up' description of a prostitute?  A marketing ploy?   Being  an escort does not mean the term automativcally deserves a higher price/value/whatever.  I have seen some so called 'escorts' who were piss poor in their delivery of a service.  Fanny can charge whatever she likes, and the term 'prostitute' sits right with me, it's far more honest for one thing. :)

Offline softlad

Fanny can charge whatever she likes, and the term 'prostitute' sits right with me, it's far more honest for one thing. :)

You might want to read who's posting what before you dive in feet first !  :rolleyes:


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What exactly is an escort?  Isn't it simply a 'dressing up' description of a prostitute?

Exactly.... AW do not have a selection for "Prostitute" when joining

You are very much the old school type of prostitute, my first ever punt was with such a prossie in a soho walk up.

Am I ?

I'm curious why you see fit to charge escort rates, yet don't consider yourself to be one ?

Escort rates? Is there a different rate card that you use depending on what you are classed as?
How do you do the classification and can I not charge £70 for 30 minutes being a prostitute?


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