Author Topic: Failure to perform  (Read 2655 times)

Offline Bigwilts

Not directly punting related, but we can pretty much guarantee I’ll be seeking professional services tomorow (or today as it’s 2am!)

A recent tinder match, without much chat until the message “do you want to fuck me” arrived earlier
There’s not a lot you can say to that, so ask for an address and hop in the car. (Though I did grab wine and nibbles on the way)

All was looking good greated by a French red head in a black negligee behind the door, a nice few minutes up against the wall then upstairs to bed.
..... and then for the first time it happens - or to be more precise - fails to happen

Mr Floppy didn’t want to play, I can’t even claim condom droop as only the slightest semi would occur, so not even the chance to attempt to put a condom on.
Drop down the bed for some tongue and finger action, getting a nice tasty wet pussy which failed to help.
Try and avoid the vicious circle stressing about not performing, just having cuddles then kissing, beginning to get a stir...... but nothing again, and again and again !!!!!!

 
The odd comment that I’m not drinking my wine - I really don’t want alcohol adding to the mix!

There’s the thought of trying to relax and see what pops up, but at the slightest stir she’s trying to give encouragement.... and after a few hours I make my apologies giving up - I may as well get some sleep, and leave. 
Drive to the end of the road and get on my phone to book the holiday inn I passed on the way
Check in, go to the bar for a drink then head to bed .... and what do you think happens when I decide to have a feel ‘just to check’?
A prime erection!!!!!



 

Wouldn't worry about it too much. It happens to the best of us. It can be the excitement or nerves of meeting a new fuck partner. Sometimes the body is not really horny.  But we get a offer we can't refuse because we think we may not get another chance.

This is why most of the older ones on here like myself will pop a blue pill when going to meet someone for the first time. Whether its a SP or a civvy. First impressions count, so if your ok on the first meet the next meet should be easier. If you do experience a failure in the following meets she is likely to be more understanding.

Offline Bigwilts

Wouldn't worry about it too much. It happens to the best of us. It can be the excitement or nerves of meeting a new fuck partner. Sometimes the body is not really horny.  But we get a offer we can't refuse because we think we may not get another chance.

This is why most of the older ones on here like myself will pop a blue pill when going to meet someone for the first time. Whether its a SP or a civvy. First impressions count, so if your ok on the first meet the next meet should be easier. If you do experience a failure in the following meets she is likely to be more understanding.
Thanks - yes, c’est la vie

I’m less frustrated about it now

Offline Jeremy

It is an irritating factor, when you have planned a booking that slots nicely into some spare time later in the week, rock solid alibi for the punt, with a WG you have been eager to see but tricky to get hold of... all running smoothly and then at the last hurdle this happens.
Any other obstacle - WG cancelling, illness, traffic, getting too pissed, WG turning out to be a munter etc etc can all be blamed on other things or at least you can hold your hands up and say "it's my fault because so and so". But when this happens on a meet you see no reason not to get aroused for it does leave one with a sense of frustration and a bitter taste of wasted time/money.

Yep. Just happens.
When I was in my early forties I fell in with an 18yo student nurse who decided she wanted to have me. Booked into a fancy hotel, got naked, into bed then...nothing! My first ever fail. Very distressing, it was.
Tried again weeks later and, BINGO, all worked swimmingly. Going too well, in fact, and got caught by her mum who put a stop to it, but that's another story.
Anyway, I'm late sixties now and everything still works well. Hence my recently acquired interest in punting.

Offline Stevensmiles

Yep, good advise your fellow punters on here. No sense in worrying about a one off.

If it happens regularly then a quick chat with your GP is in order.
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Offline Bigwilts

Normal service resumed this afternoon, but via a massage and oral at a cost as opposed to a free night of passion
It’s not the first time not to have been able to stand up, but the first time without a reason such as too much alcohol
..... and I’ve been unmatched on tinder
I still have her number but I’ll take it that she was disappointed!

Never mins, still more fish out there

Loving the username/subject combination here  :lol:

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Having a bad SP
100% to blame..

Offline EnglishRebecca121

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Having a bad SP
100% to blame..


wtf.. cocks sometimes have a mind of there own .... sometimes fuck all to do with the sp on why a guy cant preform on the day  :dash: :dash:

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wtf.. cocks sometimes have a mind of there own .... sometimes fuck all to do with the sp on why a guy cant preform on the day  :dash: :dash:

stop waving the flag up for shit service providers..

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stop waving the flag up for shit service providers..

stop being such a dumb ass


Offline Bigwilts

Having a bad SP
100% to blame..
In this case the lady was certainly not to blame, it wasn’t for the lack of inspiration

Having a bad SP
100% to blame..

Don't think you read his post. It was a civvy on Tinder not a SP.

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In this case the lady was certainly not to blame, it wasn’t for the lack of inspiration

How would you know?
Were you sitting in the room with a fucken pen and pad and taking notes observing myself and the escort ?

What are you on about. The thread is about the OP and his experience.


wtf.. cocks sometimes have a mind of there own .... sometimes fuck all to do with the sp on why a guy cant preform on the day  :dash: :dash:

Pretty sure it don't help, when you give the guys todgers names, during the punt...

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wtf.. cocks sometimes have a mind of there own .... sometimes fuck all to do with the sp on why a guy cant preform on the day  :dash: :dash:

Are you defending lying conning bad attitude escorts then?

Offline spz1234

I had a case of this on my last punt.

All was fine and dandy at first. A bit of oral, first position cowgirl, no problem. Onto Doggy and I quickly started losing my erection. Didn't end up cumming by the end of the.punt which is a bit of a first.

Just chalked it up as one of those things and will get back on the bike so to speak in a couple of weeks.

Offline m4rmite

It's happened to me on the following:
1 miserable cunt who i walked on (review posted on here)
1 sp twice,  not her fault as hot and service top notch. 
I found her very attractive and extremely easy to get on with.
Latest punt, again very sexy and easy too get along with.
Review for the last one needs adding,  well reviewed so nothing new to add.
I thin i mint need a sp who clamps on tight and does the fake encouragement loudly.

It could be because i need to lose some weight.

The blue pills help but pre planned punts seem to lose their excitement :unknown:.
A phone and punt meet and I'm popping in minutes.

Offline Jeremy

Are you defending lying conning bad attitude escorts then?
The two aren't mutually exclusive? Saying that sometimes it isn't down to the escort why a cock doesn't decide to work isn't the same as saying that there's no such thing as an escort with a shit attitude.

Online king tarzan

The two aren't mutually exclusive? Saying that sometimes it isn't down to the escort why a cock doesn't decide to work isn't the same as saying that there's no such thing as an escort with a shit attitude.

During a booking, a tantrum, a tut, etc from an escort does have an negative effect on the old truncheon..
And I 100% firmly stand by blaming escorts who are non passionate, shit attitude, rushing etc for lack of truncheon performance..

Offline Jeremy

During a booking, a tantrum, a tut, etc from an escort does have an negative effect on the old truncheon..
And I 100% firmly stand by blaming escorts who are non passionate, shit attitude, rushing etc for lack of truncheon performance..
You seem to misunderstand, no-one is saying escorts NEVER have anything to do with it, only that sometimes they don't.

In my late 20's, I'd been seeing this girl for a couple of months, then one night, nothing, not even a stirring, I was devastated, she very helpfully said 'Don't you fancy me anymore'  :dash: I hardly slept all night with worry. Eventually fell asleep, then woke up with a stiffy, I immediately jumped on and we both ended up with big smiles on our faces  ;) . It happens.

Offline Bigwilts

How would you know?
Were you sitting in the room with a fucken pen and pad and taking notes observing myself and the escort ?
In the case I’m referring to I was there in the room, without a pen and paper, lieing on the bed, kneeling on the bed, straddling her, rubbing Mr floppy on anything I could think of, stuffing fruit here and there, nibbling biting & chewing body parts

We’re argueing at cross purposes

Offline JamesKW

I rarely get it up for the first girl at a party,I usually use them as a kind of warm up.There are a fair number of men who wouldn't be able to get it up without a tablet and they are not always that old nowdays.

Offline roberto23

Before I used to meet anyone and I knew I was getting some just take a blue pill and everything will be ok  ;)
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What are you on about. The thread is about the OP and his experience.

This tit tries to make most threads about him. And when he doesn't, he almost always gets the wrong end of the stick - not the brightest button...

Offline mickmac

Don't want to hijack the OP, but I've got similar performance concerns.

I only started seeing WGs late last year and have just seen 3 different ones uptil now, the second one being the best. When I was with her, all was well, nice strong erection, she suggested a 69, so I was on my back fingering and licking her lovely pussy as she sucked away on my cock. Anyway, it was sooo good I knew I couldn't hold back, so I told her I was going to cum, expecting her to stop and take my load over her tits, but no, she started sucking harder and this literally blew my mind as I blew my load into her mouth.

I'm in my late forties and that's the first time I'd even cum inside a woman's mouth.

Anyway, to get to my point, since then (including during the rest of that session), none of my erections have been anywhere near as strong/firm as they used to be, and I've sometimes struggled to keep an erection. Did she 'break' my cock? Will a little blue pill help?

I go through phases of this. Fine for the first cum in an hour but then if the WG makes no effort, I can't get it up again. Then on the next punt, its in my mind and then it makes it worse as the worry of getting it up twice is there. Oh, and if the WG starts making comments about it, well, game over :(

Isn't the big elephant in the room the fact that many of us are married or hitched and are thus saddled with unconscious guilt, pressure or issues? I'm not suggesting we're eaten up by it and in my case I've totally rationalised and self-justified my slinking off to fuck an escort. But...... I reckon there's an element of my infidelity that gets into my cock occasionally and drains the lead out of it at crucial moments.

Offline mickmac

I think you're right.

I'm in a loveless/sexless marriage with someone who suffers from a serious mental illness.  I feel that I've done my best for her over the years, which is how I justify what I'm doing now, but it's still not easy and I'm sure guilt is part of my current problem.

Isn't the big elephant in the room the fact that many of us are married or hitched and are thus saddled with unconscious guilt, pressure or issues? I'm not suggesting we're eaten up by it and in my case I've totally rationalised and self-justified my slinking off to fuck an escort. But...... I reckon there's an element of my infidelity that gets into my cock occasionally and drains the lead out of it at crucial moments.

Spot on, I'd say.

Offline Colston36

Be of good cheer! I am 82 and I seek lurve 2/3 times a week. So I rely on Mr. Cialis.

But strangely  the only three times failure has stricken me, besides once when I forgot the magic pill were when I was a lot more excited than usual in amazing three somes; and on one of those occasions another guy there couldn't come either.

Offline Ce95

A message on tinder wanna fuck! I wish I’d get one of those messages! If I get a match she never responds :dash:

Offline Home Alone

Be of good cheer! I am 82 and I seek lurve 2/3 times a week. So I rely on Mr. Cialis.


Being 'nobbut a lad'- 72! - compared with Colston36 - I also rely on Cialis  but even so, have the occasional problem.

According to Google ;) , it's attributable to Ignatius of Loyola, founder of the Jesuit RC Order of Priests* who said, "Give me the child until the age of seven and I will give you the man."

It's MANY years since I lapsed from the Church I was born into, but still that phrase sometimes haunts me when with an Escort. :(

* Some sources say it's a quote from Aristotle.

Offline cueball

It happens to all of us at some point.

Sometimes you're just not feeling it but I'd say you just cannot dwell on it and move on.

How you are in your civvie life can certainly effect how you are in your punting life.

Being 'nobbut a lad'- 72! - compared with Colston36 - I also rely on Cialis  but even so, have the occasional problem.

According to Google ;) , it's attributable to Ignatius of Loyola, founder of the Jesuit RC Order of Priests* who said, "Give me the child until the age of seven and I will give you the man."

It's MANY years since I lapsed from the Church I was born into, but still that phrase sometimes haunts me when with an Escort. :(

* Some sources say it's a quote from Aristotle.

'Lord, make me chaste...but not yet!' St Augustine

Offline ViperKai

Isn't the big elephant in the room the fact that many of us are married or hitched and are thus saddled with unconscious guilt, pressure or issues? I'm not suggesting we're eaten up by it and in my case I've totally rationalised and self-justified my slinking off to fuck an escort. But...... I reckon there's an element of my infidelity that gets into my cock occasionally and drains the lead out of it at crucial moments.

100% I second that. It sometimes can get you when you least expect it

Offline tynetunnel

Isn't the big elephant in the room the fact that many of us are married or hitched and are thus saddled with unconscious guilt, pressure or issues? I'm not suggesting we're eaten up by it and in my case I've totally rationalised and self-justified my slinking off to fuck an escort. But...... I reckon there's an element of my infidelity that gets into my cock occasionally and drains the lead out of it at crucial moments.
Perfectly explained squire  :thumbsup:

Offline Bigwilts

A message on tinder wanna fuck! I wish I’d get one of those messages! If I get a match she never responds :dash:
It’s a numbers game - and the first time it’s been so blatent

There are women out there who just want sex, clearly a lot less than men.
They may be looking for Prince Charming to sweep them off their feet but in the meantime may settle for one night while they are waiting

I’m on tinder for real dates that might go to something more permanent, but there’s nothing wrong with some basic fun along the way

As a top tip use an alternate add on app instead of tinder itself.  Though you can buy extra features in tinder I got beyond those capabilities on a free app and more with a one off purchase. 
Some allow you to move on without rejecting women.  With proper tinder you say yes or no to them. The likes might not turn into matches, but you never know if you’ve rejected someone who was about to like you and beg for your body!

I use “MatchesTinder”, this shows me who has already liked me, that means I can decline the definate no’s and choose from the possibles.  I can also ‘tactically’ decide when to match and be ready to chat
It’s still necessary to match but it keeps my market more open.
The write up may not be so absolute, a lot say they don’t want dick pics or one night stands, but that doesn’t always turn out to be 100% true

It may be that I’m an adonis, but I doubt that



Offline JamesKW

none of my erections have been anywhere near as strong/firm as they used to be, and I've sometimes struggled to keep an erection. Did she 'break' my cock? Will a little blue pill help?


It should help in the sense that it effects bloodflow,so it relaxes blood cells directs it to the penis,a bit like the erections you get in your sleep at night.I am older than you and luckily not needed it yet,I am a bit reluctant to take it as heart attacks are very common in my family at my age and I wish to avoid something that may bring one on.

Offline Home Alone

Don't want to hijack the OP, but I've got similar performance concerns.

... ... ...

Anyway, to get to my point, since then (including during the rest of that session), none of my erections have been anywhere near as strong/firm as they used to be, and I've sometimes struggled to keep an erection. Did she 'break' my cock? Will a little blue pill help?

You're in a different home situation from me, mickmac; but when I started punting, I had a similar problem. The  Parlour Girl I saw most often in those days - 2005 or '06 - said she could get me some Kamagra  but I said I wanted to have my heart & blood pressure checked first.

So I went to my GP & cracked on that I had a new girlfriend  ;) who'd suggested Kamagra. The GP checked me medically, said I was okay and because of the medical condition with which I was born, I qualified for 4 Viagra a month on prescription. Which has been the subject of a repeat prescription every month since! :yahoo:

However, a few years later, notwithstanding the medication, I had a similar problem to the one you describe. My Regular at the time suggested using a cock ring. Which I bought & have used satisfactorily, in conjunction with the Cialis, which replaced the Viagra a couple of years ago on my prescription. Perhaps a cock ring might be the solution for you?

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Be of good cheer! I am 82 and I seek lurve 2/3 times a week. So I rely on Mr. Cialis.

But strangely  the only three times failure has stricken me, besides once when I forgot the magic pill were when I was a lot more excited than usual in amazing three somes; and on one of those occasions another guy there couldn't come either.

Legend, salutations are in order  :thumbsup: