I'm much the same as the OP, married, sex practically nil, but i love my wife to pieces. I do feel guilty (mainly after the punt....and more so if it's been a shit one). Prior to a punt my testosterone is running amok and guilt doesn't come into it. I am seriously considering giving up punting because of the guilt, fear of being caught, catching an STD, and the cost but i know i'll then get bugger all sex at all. I don't consider shagging a WG anything like having an affair (which i would never do, but have had the opportunity at least 3 times) so i have a dilemma. Even when we did have sex it was me who decided positions, etc, my missus would never take the lead, and eventually it became boring so, in the end, i couldn't be bothered. Like Bod, shagging escorts has enabled me to have FFM and FFFM sessions, shag loads of totty half my age, have anal, some mind-blowing BJs and carry out many fantasies. Like others have said, you only have one life, so live it. So do i carry on....or do i stop? I haven't a fucking clue.