Losing interest in punting :(

[dp1817]

So I first began punting 4 years ago age 19 its not something I thought I would do until I came across AdultWork website.
When i first started i was seeing a WG about 3 times a month for a year i enjoyed it and loved going back. Then i started doing it less and less.

Now i just see a girl every 3 or 4 month and just feel bad afterwards. I have always thought that i hate the fact that i discovered adultwork so i guess this is a good thing. But now i just browse through the site with no intention of seeing any of them. its just not appealing anymore its like chasing the dragon you never have fun that you first got

Does anyone have a similar experiance? Like punting is not as good as it was so the hobby ends

[Melfort212]

Fully agreed, not punted since August and not really bothered, get a thrill from booking though with every intention of seeing her, but from then it's like I don't get excited, just nervous, if that makes sense. It's a thrill in itself booking the woman, her accepting, then going to the place and seeing her open the door.

[PD11]

I've had a few girls ask me back and fucked a few out of hours, I think that's why I still punt; just chasing free fucks and feeding a bit of an ego I've picked up. Sad really.

[NIK]

So I first began punting 4 years ago age 19 its not something I thought I would do until I came across AdultWork website.
When i first started i was seeing a WG about 3 times a month for a year i enjoyed it and loved going back. Then i started doing it less and less.

Now i just see a girl every 3 or 4 month and just feel bad afterwards. I have always thought that i hate the fact that i discovered adultwork so i guess this is a good thing. But now i just browse through the site with no intention of seeing any of them. its just not appealing anymore its like chasing the dragon you never have fun that you first got

Does anyone have a similar experiance? Like punting is not as good as it was so the hobby ends

Totally relate to this. I don't really get excited about punting anymore. Although I was a damn site older than you when I started and punted for a hell of a lot longer before ennui set in. 

[Jimmyredcab]

Totally relate to this. I don't really get excited about punting anymore.

I agree --------------------- but mainly because the quality of girls on offer is totally abysmal, Adultwork has gone downhill over the last 18 months, either headless photos or Romanians.     

[Zack D]

I have to agree as well, 2013 was a totally shit year for punts for me, girls never look like their pictures or they have put on several pounds/years since they were taken, EEs spamming AW making even doing a search a chore these days, bullshit text messages from girls some of who have good feedback cancelling at last moment '(something has come up') and so on, can only really hand on heart say two punts were half decent in 2013. The thrill and excitement of discovering AW seems a distant memory now, think I will stick to booking some top quality girls like Dee and Platinum Cindy in 2014 and get it out of my system once and for all (no pun intended)...

[SirFrank]

I blow hot and cold tbh. I don't punt regularly as such, it's as and when the mood takes me. When I get bored I tend to leave it for a while and then dip my toes back in when I fancy sinking the pink. Have to agree re EE girls though. I phoned a girl last week to arrange a meet and she shouldn't have answered really as we couldn't understand a fucking word either were saying. I tried talking loudly and slowly as I find that usually works with foreigners........ Anyway I gave up in the end. She then text me. Well I say she - she either has better written English or someone else text me. I politely replied it's ok etc. walking through Cardiff today and all the big issues sellers are now also EE. Mind you they couldn't advertise on AW unless you've always wanted to fuck olive off on the buses

[explicitencounters]

Good topic, nothing compares to that first feeling of a punt, the novelty, it does soon wear off. I suppose at one point I was punting regularly but these days i only have the odd one now and again which retains the excitement for me. 

[Toshiba]

 Been a while for me, im attached and im scared of std's

Thats what stops me punting at the minute and the lack of cash

Its an expensive hobby

[TheDoctor]

I got totally cheesed off with the continual let downs last year and I have started a sugar daddy / sugar babe arrangement with a 22yo Italian girl instead. Gorgeous and does some modelling, and a genuinely lovely person.

Won't stop me keeping one eye on AW but unless an outcall profile really stands out I won't be partaking.

[Bangers and Gash]

I got totally cheesed off with the continual let downs last year and I have started a sugar daddy / sugar babe arrangement with a 22yo Italian girl instead. Gorgeous and does some modelling, and a genuinely lovely person.

An ex member from UKP perhaps? 

[whiterussian]

does she do the biz Doc ?

[TheDoctor]

An ex member from UKP perhaps? 

Nope, but I can't deny I did approach her about it. 

[TheDoctor]

does she do the biz Doc ?

For sure. Part of the deal is there's plenty of sex in the arrangement. But there's other stuff - bit of an emotional connection, friendship, walks and coffee, cinema, dinners out, cocktail bars, or just chilling with pizza / beer and DVDs.

[whiterussian]

Fair do's Doc.  Good on ya pal!

[Stealthshagger]

I can relate. For me, punting was about the fact that if I suddenly felt horny, I could choose a woman from pictures and likes, call, do the deed and all conveniently. Now it's all a drag. Fake pics, fake enjoys list, bad attitude, why you thinks I make Orals without darlink I'm not that kind of girl, etc.

I email or call to make sure they do the enjoys list they have put up, and I'm a time waster for not going ahead with it when they don't? "Oh I love anal, but not today and it's £100 extra". Mmm owo is soooo nice I charge 30 extra. Ooh yes baby Please come on my face...20 extra, I'm told, manseed in mid air. Fuck that, I'd have jumped in the way and taken my own shot to not get duped, on principle.

If one wants to do this job for the amount one makes, why not put real pictures, only offer to do what you will do, and say what the cost is, upfront?  Oh, anal at discretion...what is this, a dating site? You're too big....great, since I'm average for my size. They expect me to be over 6 foot and have a pepperami? I'm average for my height, I have no illusions about that. Shoot straight and you'd get a lot more business, darlink, baby honey or whatever I am for the next hour. The convenience has gone, and it was the selling point.  God knows we all like to see a new vagina..and I'll never grow out of seeing new boobs...or a lovely new arse in doggy or walking in a nice string. But it isn't convenient anymore.

[Roland D Hay]

There's always a little self loathing afterwards, tempered to a greater or lesser degree by the quality of punt.

[grandaddybadman]

And I thought it was just me losing interest.

[grandaddybadman]

I have noticed that the wencam girls look way better than the escorts and with prices going down may be  the best women are losing interest in escorting. Now we are left with the ones that just do it for the money with no intentions of staying in shape or making a good effort.

[what-a man]

I have resolved this year that I will stick to the tried and tested where I am 99% sure I'll have a good time.

[Nimrod]

Can't really add much to the majority but count me in. It's become a chore and largely a waste of time and money. The percentage of truly good punts is vanishingly small (less than 10%). Another 25% are fun. The other 65% veer from forgettable (if you're lucky) to downright awful (as often as not). As others have said, perusing AW remains fun, but the reality falls far short of the expectation. I have every intention of punting significantly less in 2014 as I think my brain is finally catching up with my cock. I simply can't be bothered to waste money any longer. The sugar daddy thing would, frankly, be ideal.

[jimbobwood]

For sure. Part of the deal is there's plenty of sex in the arrangement. But there's other stuff - bit of an emotional connection, friendship, walks and coffee, cinema, dinners out, cocktail bars, or just chilling with pizza / beer and DVDs.

How much is this deal costing you? and how does this work? Is it a case of you paying for sex and the friendship part is free, like watching films, walks, coffee etc.

I've found I only need 30mins to do my business. This way I can dramatically reduce the cost of punting. I can only cum once and it takes about 2-3 hours to cum again. I've got it down to a find art and cum in the last 5 mins.

I have lost a bit of interest in punting and I'm looking for other sources of excitement.

[Timo]

I've decided to try and get as many fucks as l can with civvies. And then just have 3 or 4 punts in a year. I think that helps to maintain the interest in punting for me. Just take some time out from punting completely.

[brummierob]

Have to agree with lots of whats been said on this thread....nowhere near as active as i was mainly thru boredom with  it , main years were late 90's to late 00's when i was a regular punter...the last few years the interest has dropped off for sure in part to too many poor punts with WG's who have no clue about the job they do !!...AW just weighed down with EE girls who don't float my boat...also i think has you get older you get more picky who you spend your cash on & with the state of AW its easy to be picky !!!

[itk]

Totally agree with OP, although for me it's because of the lack of decent WG's available.

[eldritch]

For sure. Part of the deal is there's plenty of sex in the arrangement. But there's other stuff - bit of an emotional connection, friendship, walks and coffee, cinema, dinners out, cocktail bars, or just chilling with pizza / beer and DVDs.

Sounds like a perfect GFE. Give it 12 months and you'll be gagging for a punt.

[TheDoctor]

How much is this deal costing you? and how does this work? Is it a case of you paying for sex and the friendship part is free, like watching films, walks, coffee etc.

I've found I only need 30mins to do my business. This way I can dramatically reduce the cost of punting. I can only cum once and it takes about 2-3 hours to cum again. I've got it down to a find art and cum in the last 5 mins.

I have lost a bit of interest in punting and I'm looking for other sources of excitement.

Your best bet is to wade through the somewhat lengthy sugar daddy thread that was active a few months ago. No two arrangements are the same, but it'll give you a good idea as to how it all works. As to money - there are very few SDs who will tell you that - and I am not going to buck that trend. 

[Ramone78]

I have resolved this year that I will stick to the tried and tested where I am 99% sure I'll have a good time.

My Thoughts exactly - Been Punting 25 years and getting picky

[spz1234]

Haven't punted since April. A combination of having other commitments, not feeling like it and a couple of tries inbetween that just didn't pan out.

That said, I now have a  couple of things in the pipeline..

[Taggart]

Last year I went 10 months without a punt, through a combination of two long holidays, illness and family bereavements.

While on my sabbatical, I was keeping pace notes, well trying to, and it was a disappointment. I ended the drought with a session with a cute 19 y/o (who's now on holiday) and a more experienced 30 year old. Both were perfect punts.

As I have mentioned in previous posts, my 'free' time takes me to Lincolnshire once a month for an overnight stay, but it's the worst fecking county for escorts (other than the outer hebredies).

Having spent time paying week searching AW playing cherchez la femme, we now seem to have a fecking Romanian or three in every town and city as part of their drive for world sexual domination. Throw in the B&S girls and those that simply fail to deliver, those with epic sized profiles or offer BB, and it's got like too much hard work.

I'm overnight in Grantham next week, have a couple of hundred in hand for a punt, but have got to the disillusioned/cant be arsed stage, and seriously debating with myself whether to throw the towel in and walk away the paid sex scene, particularly as not dubbed the most boring town in England for nothing.

[UnrealisticExpectations]

This just about sums up my feelings about punting, all exciting to start and saw some great girls but in the last 18 months there has been a steady increase in the # of fake profiles on AW and the "genuine" girls just seem to be disappearing (at least from Oxfordshire).

[Madone1]

I find I'm going through AW finding a possible punt sending an email or two then I just lose interest. I put it down to the poor standard of WG in my area and one too many long trips for shit punts.

[ulander]

I'm usually a glass-half-empty kind of person so I'm surprised to find, reading this thread, that I seem to be the odd one out.  After 35 years of punting I still get a great deal of satisfaction from it.  I enjoy scouring AW and working out who is going to be worth seeing.  I find it exciting, contacting the woman and arranging the meet.  Then, if I haven't seen her before, there's the hopeful anticipation of what's to come.  Then the meet itself, which is seldom a complete disappointment and usually thoroughly enjoyable.  And I never have feelings of guilt or regret afterwards.  My only regret is that I didn't start punting much earlier in my life.

As for the standard on AW, I'm in the southwest so I can't speak for other regions.  But in my opinion there's plenty of talent around.  Sure, there are a lot more EE girls around these days, muddying the waters.  Many of them look gorgeous but I'm highly suspicious of them so I just ignore them.  Choosing someone who is going to give you what you want and vfm has never been easier, thanks to the web.  I don't look back with any pleasure on the days when cards in newsagents' windows and small ads in local papers were about all you had to go on when making your selection.  AW has plenty of faults but I wouldn't want to be without it.

[Taggart]

Just wish I could do an AW search where there was an option to exclude certain nationalities.....
It's got to the stage when I can look at their pictures and I say to myself Romainan......

[dilettante]

Just wish I could do an AW search where there was an option to exclude certain nationalities.....
It's got to the stage when I can look at their pictures and I say to myself Romainan......

Yes this came up recently - check in and around my post for some solutions suggested.  Personally I get notified of all new profiles in my local area, any interesting ones I add to a special "New talent" hotlist, the rest get blacklisted and I'll generally ignore (0)s anyway in normal searches esp if Romanians.

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=19925.msg304722#msg304722

[richardlbym]

Filtering for primary language "English" removes most Eastern Europeans.

[silvermonkey]

I got totally cheesed off with the continual let downs last year and I have started a sugar daddy / sugar babe arrangement with a 22yo Italian girl instead. Gorgeous and does some modelling, and a genuinely lovely person.

Won't stop me keeping one eye on AW but unless an outcall profile really stands out I won't be partaking.

How does this work exactly?

What's the costs involved?

Just curious.

[overhead]

An ex member from UKP perhaps? 

Nope, but I can't deny I did approach her about it. 

Don't you mean Romanian/Italian? lol

I still miss her cutting sarcasm, but I wouldn't ever go there because of her extortionate rates.

[overhead]

Filtering for primary language "English" removes most Eastern Europeans.

Not by any means all. But only have to read the first few lines to see through them. If they can't be bothered to get the wording dead right I completely ignore them.

[Toshiba]

I'm usually a glass-half-empty kind of person so I'm surprised to find, reading this thread, that I seem to be the odd one out.  After 35 years of punting I still get a great deal of satisfaction from it.  I enjoy scouring AW and working out who is going to be worth seeing.  I find it exciting, contacting the woman and arranging the meet.  Then, if I haven't seen her before, there's the hopeful anticipation of what's to come.  Then the meet itself, which is seldom a complete disappointment and usually thoroughly enjoyable.  And I never have feelings of guilt or regret afterwards.  My only regret is that I didn't start punting much earlier in my life.

As for the standard on AW, I'm in the southwest so I can't speak for other regions.  But in my opinion there's plenty of talent around.  Sure, there are a lot more EE girls around these days, muddying the waters.  Many of them look gorgeous but I'm highly suspicious of them so I just ignore them.  Choosing someone who is going to give you what you want and vfm has never been easier, thanks to the web.  I don't look back with any pleasure on the days when cards in newsagents' windows and small ads in local papers were about all you had to go on when making your selection.  AW has plenty of faults but I wouldn't want to be without it.

Are you single btw?

[Ben4454]

Have to admit Adultwork is not what it used to be. I no longer do incalls as WGs just cancel on you at the last minute or give you the sherlock holmes investigation to find them. I stick to agencies.

[potato]

I still look at AW and get the new girl messages but to be honest, I still haven't seen anything that takes my fancy in my area that doesn't look suspect.  If it wasn't for my "off the radar" regular I would be close to giving it up - in fact I did for a good 6 months last year when she wasn't around.  The thrill of the chase is less important to me than finding a good consistent regular where I know what i am getting and can be inventive enough so it doesn't go stale. We treat it more as "friends with benefits" which suits me and her and it still pays better than her normal full time job.
I can see why people get bored due to the constant let downs, B&S, poor service for the price etc., Too many girls don't give a toss about standards as there is always another mug coming along in a minute. Its a shame for the small number of decent girls out there that actually take a professional view of their job and actually give a dam.   I know I am lucky and probably unusual in what I have got and I intend to keep hold of it as long as I can!

[Dani]

How much is this deal costing you? and how does this work? Is it a case of you paying for sex and the friendship part is free, like watching films, walks, coffee etc.

He might have an extremely good deal so wont mention price but normally in a SD/SB relationship you pay a Large monthly sum which covers all costs as in time for sex and time for companionship.  Look at the very long thread on safe and you will see the rough prices talked about and most expect a couple of grand at least a month and some want all their bills paid on top of that.  some will be happy for just rent and bills to be paid as well as expensive gifts being given regularly as in perfume, handbags and jewellery.

I had a look on a couple of sites for a laugh to see rough charges and around £1.5K a month is probably the lowest most of them expect regardless if it is cash or bills paid and gifts.  It is also for only a set amount of time each month but she is at your beck and call when it comes to what day and time unless you have reached the maximum agreed or you want to pay more which would mean redefining your agreement.

Not a cheap way to go about it and you would probably be better off finding a good regular and just paying her for her time as most will offer a decent non sexual rate for the non sex stuff.  so say she is £100 an hour for sex and £50 an hour for social.  4 hours social time a week and two hours of sex works out at £1600 a month and no gifts or bills to pay on top.  Plus you don't have to do it every week to get your moneys worth or if one month you are a bit short you don't have to pay as have no agreement

Either that or keep your fingers crossed you meet someone who would offer a much lower rate for a SD but I doubt it as most chaagre more per hour than an everyday prossie does when you add it all up

[TheDoctor]

What you say is largely true but you have some things wrong. I really don't want to hijack this thread because it has been done to death before. You have not mentioned that it's a buyer's market. There are many more ladies wanting an arrangement than there are *GENUINE* SDs. On sugardaddie.com I would hazard well over 95% of the blokes cannot afford to pay any monthly salary. They are they trying to get free sex or sex for a couple of dinners. Sounds odd because on here we are punters and would hire a pro$$ie for less, but many guys like the idea of fucking non-pro$$ies for paying for a few few nights out. Of course, sugardaddie.com is loaded with pro$$ies anyway so by and large the blokes doing this are probably deluding themselves.

Secondly the 'beck and call' statement is utter, utter, utter nonsense. I am on arrangement numero 4 and have NEVER had a SB on call. It really isn't rocket science when you meet a lady on say a Saturday night (my usual) you 'do diaries' and decide which night the following week you meet - an evening that will be mutually convenient. After that we may have an ad hoc coffee in Starbucks during the week which can be arranged with 24hrs notice IF both parties want it. There is always a constant trickle of emails / wapp / SMS between you during the week to keep it fresh and because you should like talking to each other.

On top of that with each girl I have dated there have been bonus dates when the girl wanted to see me. The framework is not redefined. There is no more money paid to the girl for a Tuesday evening fuck on top of the normal payment. Why? Read below.

For an arrangement to work there has to be chemistry and friendship and respect. I really like my SB as a dear friend and value what she says. I know she feels the same way about me.

The tone of your email misses this point - it is not a spreadsheet of debits and credits and having to pay for every encounter. It is two people who like each other's company and therefore there is flexibility.

The key is finding the correct girl. I met my Italian lady a year ago. She wasn't ready for an arrangement but I knew she would be perfect for it when her circumstances dictated. We kept a friendship going largely by email and when her regular career nose-dived in October I was able to step in and commence the arrangement. She can now afford to do the college exams she always wanted to do.

An important point you have missed is this: Being a SB does NOT suit all girls. They have to have a certain personality. Most girls just don't have the mindset and no SD would ever take them on. I have interviewed scores and scores over the years and most don't get passed an informal coffee before I can tell they are not right for it. That returns me to my first point. It's a buyer's market out there.

[Nimrod]

I have to say that I have not found it difficult to get dates with girls I get on really well with (not that the number in that category is huge). At the moment I have two girls I see regularly punting-wise and get on really well with and I have been out socially with both. No fee is involved. Just a nice meal, film, or in one case spa visit for a facial and massage. There is not (or has not been) any sex on the dates (I have not tried -- that is not the intention or the plan). It's taken a few visits before going out but basically, once it's established that we enjoy each other's company the rest has followed pretty naturally. Maybe I'm just lucky.