I would say most certainly not.
Although we go there for our enjoyment mainly. I've learnt that finding out what the lady likes as well will help future meetings be more intense and as time goes one you'll learn more then a few tricks to put into practise with any partners you may later get.
Just be prepared with a good explanation as to how your so good in bed.
Just never forget that in the real world, sex is supposed to be good for both parties.
It may sound mad, but when i start a non punting relationship. I like to find out what my partner likes first and encourage discussion at the earliest opportunity. This way you don't fumble around cluelessly and have the relationship end prematurely.