I read the topic title and then the username of the poster and said that is 100% fake so did not even bother to read his post.
But I did read the first reply out of curiosity. And reading this reply, I just feel the need to post, as Alyons this is good advice, but kind of lacking on how do you achieve those things?
Sincerely could you make some suggestions on how people would "making your life valuable and becoming a valuable person" What exactly were you having in mind to achieve this.
To say again I am not asking to be sarcastic, I am genuinly curious what you or others would suggest for this. Are you suggesting take up a hobby for example? If so which hobbys are deemed as making you a valuable person as many people for example play football as a hobby but I doubt anyone would say that person is a valuable person for it.
Fair point. I come from the philosophy of telling it like it is. So:
1) Read this article when it's working: http://www.cracked.com/blog/6-harsh-truths-that-will-make-you-better-person/
(I have no idea why the article is redirecting to the home page of the website).
2) When I refer to becoming a valuable person, I am talking about being someone who can do things for people. This doesn't have to make money, but it has to provide benefits to people so that they value having you in their life.
Value comes in various forms, if it's your career I am talking about becoming the type of guy the company/customer must keep because you know so much that they want to give you raises or promotions every year to keep you happy.
If you de-construct from there, you can figure out how to become a valuable person. It might be that you need some technical skills to be able to fulfil the role, find what those skills are, go learn them through education and experience and demonstrate them.
Exactly the same applies to being a valuable friend, being a valuable boyfriend, being a valuable team player in sports.
For example if you go to parties a lot, you can become a valuable person by being the cool guy who introduces people to each other, someone who has a good dress sense, can crack jokes, can carry good conversations, can dance a little, has knowledge about music and current events. You are providing value to the event/party for the host by being there because you are the type of person people like to meet when they go out. An example of a non-valuable person is someone who is creepy, shy, doesn't talk to anyone or is like a tail hanger or a complete bore that people want to avoid.
If you have issues with your looks (assuming you have no major disabilities) - going to gym regularly, working out, lifting weights can really give you a good physique. Girls dig a guy with a good physique.
If you lack confidence, there are lots of good books/courses out there on improving confidence.
If you lack familiarity with women, go to dance classes, yoga classes, circuit training in gyms, hell even talk to guys before you talk to girls to calm your nerves.
It's about taking the little steps. You must first ask yourself why you are experiencing a shortfall in an area, and then work forward to see how you can improve on those areas. The Internet is your friend in finding resources to solve those matters.
But to want to go down this path, you must want to change, you must want to improve. If you don't want to put in the effort required, you deserve what you are currently getting and your situation will not change because no one will hand it to you on a plate.