Embarassment of a thread, this.
You know I raise an eyebrow to the minority of guys playing devils advocate.
After I got bullied in my employment at a prestigious investment bank, I temporarily developed PTSD like symptoms and thought bad things would happen to me and there were people out to get me.
When MissLouise accused me of hating women and abusing her...for a fleeting moment it brought back memories of my traumatic experience at the Investment Bank, why? Well as I said I have had huge problems dating civvies, I look for intelligent educated professional and attractive women and as we know that is a rare combination. However, I tried really hard with desirable civvies, I worked out, wore expensive designer suits, groomed well and did a lot of activities like acting classes, salsa dancing and learning an instrument . It wasn’t all with the hopes of meeting a desirable partner, but for a better state of mind after my traumatic life...I was hoping meeting the right partner was a by product. For a more direct approach me and a friend in a similar boat would study PUA techniques and go to Mayfair/West End bars and establishments to do direct approaches.
However, we got rejected 100s of times and sometimes frequently led on and then flaked on. I couldn’t understand what was going wrong as I’m in good shape, decent looking,personable, intelligent and at the time had close to 6 figures in the bank.
Given my cerebral and analytical nature I started researching dating psychology and found a lot of research to explain my experience. The big breakthrough moment came when I stumbled across a group called MGTOW, while I think they are potentially a bit extremist in advocating abstention from women, their research really opened my eyes and I discovered the following terms:
-Alpha Fux/Beta Bux : In that when women are at their peak attractiveness they want aggressive tall rugged rough Alpha males to date and have relationships with. However, when they reach their 30s they want to settle down with a stable beta “nice guy” in a good financial position.
-Hypergamy: Women want to marry/date up, 80% of women want the top 20% of guys.
There are many others but these two concepts explained my experience: they couldn’t put me in the right box. I have the image of a beta but the personality of an Alpha, I had a good cash balance but a high risk job. Therefore they couldn’t designate me in either category or satisfy their hypergamous desires.
Why is this relevant to Miss Louise? Well it comes back to what I said about my historical episode of PTSD. She was defending herself by claiming I hate women, which is what mainstream media say about people who read about MGTOW. For a fleeting moment I wondered if this was some kind of clandestine sabotage and she was fed the right information about what I read and talk to friends about in relation to my research into female nature on the dating market. MGTOW also coined the term False Rape Allegation, where a woman accuses you of assault/rape if you piss her off. If you read my reviews you will see I have had many positive experiences with escorts and I have posted pictures of sp who rebook me frequently. However, within 5 minutes Miss Louise somehow figures out I hate women and then says I tried to assault her?? She then refuses to give me any of my £150 back and claims she reported me to the police? It has been 2 months now and I still haven’t heard anything, even after preemptively calling them. As I said before Escort services have helped me immensely and I understand the risky nature of the job, so there is no way I would want to jeopardise that relationship, secondly I have an Ivy League education and Investment Bank experience, there is no way I would be stupid enough to jeopardise future career opportunities by getting a criminal record over £150.
For the record I do not hate women, I am a frequent user of escorts initially out of necessity, but now out of choice . It is less traumatic for me than dealing with time wasted and large amounts of rejection. I simply look at MGTOW philosophy to try to understand why so many men like me are unable to have dating success. I actually think escorts are the true honest women, true to evolution because of the well known fact that women desire financial stability in a partner and ideally them earning more money and supporting them. In return they provide affection and intercourse. Escorts cut out the expensive mating ritual and maintenance and provide intercourse for a fixed price with no future risk.
