Popular media on UKEscorting.com (free site!)

UKPunting is a free, independent and not-for-profit paid sex buyer site.


Author Topic: Help Needed; Negotiating Price and Self Harm  (Read 3319 times)

Offline enzio

I was looking for a punt which included sub services in Bournemouth and came across one girl on AW who I emailed last night and asked whether her prices where inclusive of everything on her enjoys list, she said that her prices where not, asked what services I was after, I told her, she responded last night with higher prices and I did not respond last night.  This morning she emailed me saying her prices were open to "fair negotiation".  I emailed back this evening saying that I don't haggle over the worth of a girl and her prices were acceptable.  In reality the prices she has quoted even at the higher rate for the services I want are reasonable.  I also want a girl who was going to be comfortable with what she was doing at the price she had set and not one that was thinking that I had negotiated her down to the minimum I could get her for (thereby, affecting the quality of her service).

I, therefore, said that I was happy to see her if she was going to provide a good service, comfortable with what I had requested, looked like her profile etc. and amongst other matters "you have no self harm scars and there are no other signs that you are mentally unstable/ not keen on what you do".  She responded with "I'm going to be straight with you, I do have self harm scars.. As I used to self harm over 3 years ago due to family problems, but since I have had my daughter I dont do it anymore, most of the time the scars are barely visible".

Two questions:

1: Would anyone have done differently and negotiated;
2: Would anyone go ahead and see her knowing she has self harmed.

I am leaning away from seeing her given the self harm scars.  I have not enjoyed punts in the past with girls that I have met who I have found out on turning up have self harmed as I always think that the self harming indicates that they are not doing their job for the right reasons.  Point is that there are not too many other girls in that area that do what I am after and she has been straight with me.  I think my next port of call if I was to turn this girl down would be to place a reverse booking for the services I am after.

Not certain I should post this as you never know whether the girl you are corresponding with reads this forum or not (if she does; sorry but I need some advice - probably to be talked out of the punt).  Also not sure whether to make this two threads (one about negotiating and the other about self harm) or have done the right thing in just starting one thread.  Just thought it was help I needed with one punt I am thinking about and would, therefore, post one thread.

Offline Fannytastico

  • Banned
  • Service Provider
  • Posts: 508
If you are happy with the price quoted, then I think your first instincts about not negotiating down are right for the reasons you state.    However, you will get lots of different views on this, no doubt.

Do you believe her?  You said she was straight with you, so presumably you do believe she hasn't self harmed in 3 years. 

I would make the booking, have a chat with her (raise any questions you have) when you meet and make up your mind whether you want to stay within the first 10 minutes..... and before you pay.

However, if you don't believe her....  don't go near her.  There is nothing worse than booking a punt and worrying about it beforehand.  Healthy anticipation, with maybe some realistic doubts is OK.  If you blantantly don't believe her and have nagging worries - steer clear, you're punt will be ruined before you start.

Offline smiths

Too much baggage for me, i would look elsewhere if it were me. To be honest i wouldnt want to know about her self harming, thats her personal business which unless i became a regular and got to know her a bit, wouldnt make for a fun punt for me. I would also be concerned about her mental wellbeing and this would put me off.

I never negotiate on hour long punts as i choose those WGs i fancy in the price bracket i am prepared to pay, you mention the possible downside of haggling, getting the price lowered but the lady not having as good an attitude as she might have had had you not haggled. For me the ladies attitude being good or better is more important than trying to save a few pounds.

Offline James999

What is her AW Nic ?

PM it to me if you don't want to say in public.

Offline cunnyhunt

I did not realise asking for "self harm scars" was usual before a punt.

Offline foresight

I did not realise asking for "self harm scars" was usual before a punt.
I don't imagine it is. It is however something I try and check pics for, if the arms can be seen.
She might not have self harmed for a long time but most likely is still a needy and emotionally delicate personality, someone who would best be out of prostitution.
Not much one can do for her but for one's own self respect, I would not go there.

Offline SteveNova

The cutting scars would be a bit off-putting for the reasons you mentioned - but many WGs and, I'm sure, punters carry emotional baggage and the kind of scars you cannot see.  She may have worked through her 'issues' but if you're not comfortable it's best, as you say, to stay away.

Offline Lady Poppy

  • Banned
  • Service Provider
  • Posts: 514
Looking at it from another point of view, if she was willing to negotiate she must need the money and she has a daughter to look after.  If she offers what you want and originaly gave a fair rate, then I expect she would be what you are looking for and in a way you are helping her stay on her feet and support the child she stopped self harming for.

Offline enzio

Thanks to everyone for their sound advice.  Contemplated everything everyone said lots and still could not make up my mind; so I just thought I would go with "he who dares" etc. and have submitted a booking request.  Will let you know how it goes.

Offline Lady Poppy

  • Banned
  • Service Provider
  • Posts: 514
Thanks to everyone for their sound advice.  Contemplated everything everyone said lots and still could not make up my mind; so I just thought I would go with "he who dares" etc. and have submitted a booking request.  Will let you know how it goes.

Fingers crossed.  I look forward to hearing the outcome.

Offline Mellow

Just my opinion.....

Once again the hooker uses her child to manipulate the fluffy client. So being a self-harming nutter was no concern to the Children's social services. yeah right.

....and before you all jump to the wg's defence.

My ex, a wg is also self-harming. I spoke to CSS about this and because I have 24/7 custody of the children, "they" are now discussing how to prevent me from taking the children to see her on contact. I am shortly going to face a court order, if they have there way, that I must follow.

People who self-harm are but one step away from harming the people around them.

OP. Good luck to you but watch out for knives when you've got your todger out.

Offline Lady Poppy

  • Banned
  • Service Provider
  • Posts: 514
Just my opinion.....

Once again the hooker uses her child to manipulate the fluffy client. So being a self-harming nutter was no concern to the Children's social services. yeah right.

....and before you all jump to the wg's defence.

My ex, a wg is also self-harming. I spoke to CSS about this and because I have 24/7 custody of the children, "they" are now discussing how to prevent me from taking the children to see her on contact. I am shortly going to face a court order, if they have there way, that I must follow.

People who self-harm are but one step away from harming the people around them.

OP. Good luck to you but watch out for knives when you've got your todger out.

Surely the only common denominator between your ex and this lady is that they have both self harmed.  No two women are the same and you can't judge one by the other.  We have no way of knowing her mindset or if she is still doing it and shouldn't assume the worst.  People do change!

I hope the court case has the best outcome for your children by the way, what ever that is and you have the support you need.

Offline Strawberry

  • Banned
  • Service Provider
  • Posts: 1,251
I'm sure there are will be other factors surrounding each individual too. Social services look at the whole picture, run assessments and don't assume anything without looking at the full story. Some self-harmers go on to make a full recovery, and should not be penalised for doing so.


Offline Strawberry

  • Banned
  • Service Provider
  • Posts: 1,251
By the way Lady Poppy what are we doing up this early?We are WGs and I remember someone on here saying WGs can't get up in the morning.

Offline Simple

By the way Lady Poppy what are we doing up this early?We are WGs and I remember someone on here saying WGs can't get up in the morning.
Bet she hasn't even been to bed yet and will probably fall asleep in some punter's lap while giving a BJ, typical prossie...

Offline Lady Poppy

  • Banned
  • Service Provider
  • Posts: 514
lol I'm awake for 7am every morning.  I went out last night with friends and was lead astray.  I had 3 double vodkas with redbull and 2 pints of cider.  I didn't get to bed till 2am and was awake at 6.30am.  I'm shattered now! lol.

I think I will be having an early night tonight.

Offline Strawberry

  • Banned
  • Service Provider
  • Posts: 1,251
I myself decided to charge off into the hills bright and early. Had 7 miles through hilly, muddy terrain under my belt by lunchtime.

Did go out last night for a few hours, had a bit of a boogie all on a fizzy orange.

Offline enzio

Damn.  She let me know yesterday that her periods have become very unpredictable.  According to her she has not had a period since February 9th.  She was holding out hoping she would start shortly and could make the punt.  Assuming she is not pregnant (which one would think she would have checked) and given I was really not into period play I have canceled for the moment.  That means that I have to find someone else for next Tuesday.  Anyone know any good subs in Bournemouth or who would be willing to travel to Bournemouth?

Offline Lady Poppy

  • Banned
  • Service Provider
  • Posts: 514
Damn.  She let me know yesterday that her periods have become very unpredictable.  According to her she has not had a period since February 9th.  She was holding out hoping she would start shortly and could make the punt.  Assuming she is not pregnant (which one would think she would have checked) and given I was really not into period play I have canceled for the moment.  That means that I have to find someone else for next Tuesday.  Anyone know any good subs in Bournemouth or who would be willing to travel to Bournemouth?

Just out of curiousity, is she very slim?  The body has to be a certain weight in order to carry a baby full term and often the body will stop having periods in order to prevent a pregnancy during these conditions.  That I have to admit, for me, would be cause for concern.

Offline enzio

Just out of curiousity, is she very slim?  The body has to be a certain weight in order to carry a baby full term and often the body will stop having periods in order to prevent a pregnancy during these conditions.  That I have to admit, for me, would be cause for concern.

No she is definitely a larger girl

Offline Lady Poppy

  • Banned
  • Service Provider
  • Posts: 514
Cool, I'm glad that one can be ruled out then.  I have to admit I was over the moon when I had the depo injection and my periods stopped.  I was adviced to go on the mini pill being in my late 30s and am glad to say I still don't have periods.  I hate them and won't be worried if I never have another.

Offline enzio

I know that I should probably let this thread die but I just can not help boasting.  Hope I'll be forgiven.

After hearing from her about her period, I put out a reverse booking for a sub.  Got back 25 responses with some great prices for some great girls.  Given the prices were so low, I decided that I'd have a threesome.  Then she emailed me again and said that her period has not started.  I'm getting her to come along for a foursome   :D

I can not wait until tonight gets started.  :yahoo:

Offline smiths

I know that I should probably let this thread die but I just can not help boasting.  Hope I'll be forgiven.

After hearing from her about her period, I put out a reverse booking for a sub.  Got back 25 responses with some great prices for some great girls.  Given the prices were so low, I decided that I'd have a threesome.  Then she emailed me again and said that her period has not started.  I'm getting her to come along for a foursome   :D

I can not wait until tonight gets started.  :yahoo:

I hope it goes well. Enjoy. :D


Offline Fannytastico

  • Banned
  • Service Provider
  • Posts: 508
Bet by now he's absolutely shagged out!


Latest media on UKEscorting.com (free site!)