I recently came across this 'review' of the new book and film ' Gone Girl' on Daily Mail Online
Considering it is written by a female journalist , it is a brilliant insight into society (and women in general ) .
'Man bashing ' as I call it is prevalent in the media.....and I really think that instead of putting up with it men will start to rebel in their own subtle ways .
Hence the blanking of any suggestion of sex ...I've just passed the anniversary (Sept ) of us NOT having sex ......I'll give it another six months , - but given the right circumstances I could easily walk away based purely on this one fact ... At the age I am (late fifties) I am NOT ready to curl up and die ...... three men I know have been diagnosed with prostate cancer in the last year .
You are only on this planet once ...make the best of it !!!.. Anyway ,--I digress (as usual )
Here is the article....
'The book has sold six million copies. The film has taken £53 million at the box office. No wonder everyone is talking about Gone Girl — not least because Gillian Flynn’s thriller invites all married couples to assess just how well they truly know their other halves.
Flynn said the basis of the novel was her belief that marriage is one ‘long con’. Herein lies the most chilling aspect of her story — its casual demonising of husbands as ineffectual, unreliable, selfish oafs.
This has become a constant refrain in popular culture today. Whether in films, books, newspaper columns, TV shows or adverts... husbands are inevitably portrayed as irritating, inadequate, barely house-trained Neanderthals.
If they don’t snore or leave their wet towel on the floor, they refuse to do their fair share of household chores. Like the husband in Gone Girl, they disappoint at every level.
But do we ever stop to think how much we women might disappoint men in marriage? If we are honest, how often does he come last in our list of priorities — behind the children, our parents, our careers, even our pets?
Much though we may moan, the vast majority of husbands I know work themselves to the bone, trying to do the best for their families in tough economic times. Is it any wonder young men are put off marriage altogether? The average age a man marries is now 37.
Do women think constantly harping on about their men’s shortcomings is conducive to a deep and fulfilling relationship? It’s basic psychology that if you constantly tell a person they’re worthless, they will act as if they are.
A particularly nasty side-effect of the feminist revolution is that in securing equality, too many women seem hell-bent on reducing men to second-class citizens.
We want men to play an equal part in parenting. Yet fathers rarely win custody of their children if a marriage falls apart, though they are inevitably forced to foot the bill to care for an ex-wife and family, even if it’s the wife who has left.
Women should remember they are not perfect. So why do so many of us expect our men to be? Why denigrate the men we fell in love with?
One thing I am sure of. That if we take a Gone Girl view of marriage, the only thing likely to be gone is our husbands.'
Ironically, my wife has just got a kindle and this is the first book she has downloaded ......!!!!