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Author Topic: Fallen off the wagon  (Read 4579 times)

Offline dj3k

Well I feel disappointed, I knew it would be hard to stop punting as I'm so use to sex on demand with different women, I wonder if I will ever stop paying for sex.

My girlfriend is a former escort but she said few days ago she has to start working again as she can't pay her bills this month and needs the money.  I had no choice but to agreed.  I can't say no you can't. She's going to do what she want to.

But apparently this is only one sided.  I told her I went to see one of my regulars again, but she (gf) just went crazy with me, saying I can't see escorts anymore whilst we're together.   

She said does it for the money, but I do it for the enjoyment.  She seen 20 men so far this week, and I understand and accept it. But her banning me from seeing other women, whilst she seeing other men ??  So I think maybe this is not going to work out with her.  :(


Offline Strawberry

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You need to come to an agreement that works for both of you within the relationship, or it's not going to work.

You need to come to an agreement that works for both of you within the relationship, or it's not going to work.

The highlighted text is probably the only words necessary  :(

Offline dj3k

The highlighted text is probably the only words necessary  :(

Yes I agree.  The disappointing thing is that we talked about this before we started the relationship.  I actually said to her she should continue escorting, not to stop because of me, but she said no we both have to stop sex with other people for it to work.

But now, she needs money so she's working again so for me to deal with that I think I need to see other women.  But obviously not her thinking.
So when she's back the weekend time to have a talk :(

Offline dj3k

You need to come to an agreement that works for both of you within the relationship, or it's not going to work.

Actually I think it's her with the problem, clearly she sees escorting as only a way to make money.  Regret telling her now.
Oh well, maybe go see someone else tonight to drown my sorrows.

Offline Ray55

The highlighted text is probably the only words necessary  :(

Fully agree, won't work. Did she say how long she is planning to do it? Just a short time thing because of her financial situation or for good? For most WGs it's hard to manage their finances when going back to a normal day job, once they are used to the income they get out from escorting.

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Yes I agree.  The disappointing thing is that we talked about this before we started the relationship.  I actually said to her she should continue escorting, not to stop because of me, but she said no we both have to stop sex with other people for it to work.

But now, she needs money so she's working again so for me to deal with that I think I need to see other women.  But obviously not her thinking.
So when she's back the weekend time to have a talk :(

I'd be asking you are you seeing other women because you want to, or because you think it's the way to make things even. If the latter then you can only be on a soul destroying path. Tit for tat usually doesn't make anyone feel better, only bitter.

Offline dj3k

Fully agree, won't work. Did she say how long she is planning to do it? Just a short time thing because of her financial situation or for good? For most WGs it's hard to manage their finances when going back to a normal day job, once they are used to the income they get out from escorting.

A month to get money problem resolved, but maybe again if things don't get better. Her income has dropped by £2000 a month but she still spending and run up her credit card and doesn't want to use her saving to clear the balance.  She's now working in a different area to where we live to try to get higher paying clients.

Offline dj3k

I'd be asking you are you seeing other women because you want to, or because you think it's the way to make things even. If the latter then you can only be on a soul destroying path. Tit for tat usually doesn't make anyone feel better, only bitter.

It's because I want to, I get on well with my regulars and I like to see 4 or 5 different women a month and I'm finding it difficult staying to one women.  Hardcore punters will know (or maybe it's just me) but I've paid for sex for over 15 years, if I feel like having sex, or seen a hot women out shopping or something. It's hard to contain that urge so I have always booked an escort.
It's an impulse thing, I rarely per-arrange days in advance to see an escort.

With her being away, I'm not getting any so I want some, if you know what I mean. Nothing spiteful.  I just like sex with many different women. Maybe I have a problem with wanting lots of sex with different women.

But with this situation with her, I just feel, if she doing it, then if I want to as well, then she shouldn't be telling me no I can't, considering this is her chosen job.


Offline Ray55

A month to get money problem resolved, but maybe again if things don't get better. Her income has dropped by £2000 a month but she still spending and run up her credit card and doesn't want to use her saving to clear the balance.

That's what I mean, she is still spending as much despite the lower income, I doubt that this is going to be a one-off. You have to ask yourself if she is worth it and if yes, stop punting. Tricky one, you will have to make a decision mate.

Neither of you sound anywhere near committed to monogamy and if that is what is required, the writing is clearly on the wall. If she continues to spend cash like a prossie (so that she HAS to escort), and she can't accept you punting while she is escorting, you don't have a prayer  :(



As she decided to start escorting again, and you had originally said you wouldn't have minded, she changed the terms of your agreement. So it's only fair you can pursue your hobby. If she calls it a day, so be it.

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'appen if you paid her what you pay the other wgs you see she wouldn't have to see other men?

Offline Ray55

'appen if you paid her what you pay the other wgs you see she wouldn't have to see other men?

He wants to fuck different girls and she seems to need a lot of money, already saw 20 guys this week and it's Wednesday, how could he afford that?

Offline MidlandsEscortxo

Maybe it's just me but no matter how hard it is she will never give this up unless she earns the same amount in a civvie job as what she does escorting. When my partner found out about me and I went and got a normal job all I could think about was the money I could be earning escorting and eventually went back to it. It's a very tricky situation as she cant expect to be able to do this job and you be completely faithful. If you were to see this WG and their be no feelings involved then their shouldn't be a problem; an eye for an eye etc. However it would be different if feelings were to evolve with the WG IMO. :)

He wants to fuck different girls and she seems to need a lot of money, already saw 20 guys this week and it's Wednesday, how could he afford that?
I was just going to say that this seems to be the problem, that she is used to spending a great deal of money.  Unless she can learn to happily live more modestly, I'm afraid I'm not optimistic about this resolving itself happily.

Troyb

I am totally confuse or I didn't get it
If you have money to pay for fk a pussy why u not help her to stop or work less in this job ?

Please correct me if i am not right  :crazy:

Offline finn5555

Well I feel disappointed, I knew it would be hard to stop punting as I'm so use to sex on demand with different women, I wonder if I will ever stop paying for sex.

My girlfriend is a former escort but she said few days ago she has to start working again as she can't pay her bills this month and needs the money.  I had no choice but to agreed.  I can't say no you can't. She's going to do what she want to.

But apparently this is only one sided.  I told her I went to see one of my regulars again, but she (gf) just went crazy with me, saying I can't see escorts anymore whilst we're together.   

She said does it for the money, but I do it for the enjoyment.  She seen 20 men so far this week, and I understand and accept it. But her banning me from seeing other women, whilst she seeing other men ??  So I think maybe this is not going to work out with her.  :(

I'd fuck her off mate relationships with pro$$ies are doomed  :dash:

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I am totally confuse or I didn't get it
If you have money to pay for fk a pussy why u not help her to stop or work less in this job ?

Please correct me if i am not right  :crazy:

You idea works if the difference between her salary and that she can earn as an Escort is the 4 or 5 booking a month her partner makes. It probably it sounds like the difference could be a lot more, plus she may have to put less hours in working and prefer not to be tied to a 9-5 5 days a week commitment.
« Last Edit: December 18, 2013, 04:57:32 PM by Strawberry »

Offline dj3k

Maybe it's just me but no matter how hard it is she will never give this up unless she earns the same amount in a civvie job as what she does escorting. When my partner found out about me and I went and got a normal job all I could think about was the money I could be earning escorting and eventually went back to it. It's a very tricky situation as she cant expect to be able to do this job and you be completely faithful. If you were to see this WG and their be no feelings involved then their shouldn't be a problem; an eye for an eye etc. However it would be different if feelings were to evolve with the WG IMO. :)

She escorts for a few months. Stops then starts again. I said to her before she'll never quit escorting as she just can't earn the level of money elsewhere.
I don't have a problem with her escorting, I chat on here with some of her past clients.  But I would expect that if she's escorting again and we stay together as a couple then she doesn't question what I do and who with etc.  I am close to my regulars so maybe that the problem.  And yes the terms we agreed have changed but I'm willing to continue the relationship with her, but she just is so one sided.  Very frustrating.

Time for a chat with her. Thanks for the advice :)

Offline dj3k

I am totally confuse or I didn't get it
If you have money to pay for fk a pussy why u not help her to stop or work less in this job ?

Please correct me if i am not right  :crazy:

She won't accept my help or money. Wants to solve the problem herself.

Offline dj3k

You idea works if the difference between her salary and that she can earn as an Escort is the 4 or 5 booking a month her partner makes. It probably it sounds like the difference could be a lot more, plus she may have to put less hours in working and prefer not to be tied to a 9-5 5 days a week commitment.

She use to make about £5000 from around 40 clients a month. But now easily half that amount.

Troyb

Hey mate
This kind of relation goes no where

Good luck

Don't put up with this one sided bs. Be firm and stand your ground or just move on to the next  :hi:

She won't accept my help or money. Wants to solve the problem herself.

Post up her aw link, then maybe I could help  :cool:


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