Unfortunately I have seen them all to often. Only twice when I've been punting in the last couple of years, thank goodness. Normally self harmers use something very sharp to cut themselves with. Scissors, razor blade, stanley blade, that sort of thing. In the more extreme cases you will see scarring on legs, arms, shoulders and neck. Often there will be scars over scars as they recut themselves after healing. Often associated with abuse, mental, physical etc in childhood.
Please don't judge those that have done, they may have been through things you would have difficulty in imagining.
I agree. I have met two such girls through punting, and in both cases the girls admitted to self harming as children due to physical and sexual abuse, one from her father, one from her mother's partner. Both had bad scars on the inside of their arms, from their elbows to their wrists, and one had scars on her inner thighs as well. I deduced that both girls suffered from lack of self-esteem and self-worth, and this had attracted them to escorting. Both girls told me that they had previously had been in relationships with violent partners.
On the more recent occasion, the girl told me she was very submissive and preferred it if her clients treated her roughly. Although I am dom by nature I did not feel happy about this, it felt as though she expected me to abuse her too. I admit that I felt really sorry for her, and as a result we ended up just chatting and drinking coffee. She had been the subject of abuse all her life, some of it horrific, and she admitted that she had experienced no other type of relationship.
She stopped escorting soon afterwards; I would like to think it was partly because of my advice but who knows?
The tragedy is that such damaged girls seem to be attracted to violent abusive men, when ideally they need considerate and loving partners.