Hi! I did read the FAQ and I did run a search and find some interesting and valuable information about safety when punting.
However, one topic that's not covered in detail (probably because it's niche) is advice on safety/privacy from the power exchange community (AKA, paying to have your balls kicked: rolleyes:)
I must admit I'm 41 and married, and what has held me back so far is the fear of :
a) Ending up tied up and the previously nice lady turns psycho, which at worst could turn into kidnapping or at best a mugging (in both cases, however, my 'secret' life would be uncovered and my work/family life effectively over).
b) Being in a place rigged with cameras and getting blackmailed a week later, or outright publicly humiliated at work (and for those with public jobs, that's also game over)
c) Being put in a position of inability to defend oneself leading to going over limits (with at worst, the threat of unsafe sex, which is terrifying of course!)
However talking to my therapist (yes - believe or not my therapist encouraged me to just go punting, she's great!
- and realizing that my very specific fetishes (various kinky stuff, very embarrassing) will never be fulfilled by my wife or any other partner (simply because they are well, too specific to be of any enjoyment to a 'normal' person), I decided i won't die without having at least tried out all my fantasies, and punting is great for that.
I contacted individual workers, escorts, etc, and i'm glad to say, I have received a few replies! But apart from one agency (can i name them here?) that appeared very professional, I'm not sure how I can protect myself from the above 3 points. I thought, for example, ensuring that at no time I would be fully bound, and also to insure that the session would take place in a hotel, not a dungeon/brothel (to avoid cameras or 'surprises').
Anyways I'm sure by now you all understand what my problem is, and I'd love to hear your experienced opinions, tips, and advice on how to successfully be a male sub in the punting world!