This is an interesting thread.
Perhaps because I went to a mixed school up until 5th form I was relaxed about being in the company of girls. (When in the 6th form I was at a boys only school I found myself rather surprised at the pent-up testosteronic behaviour of my new school mates.
All of that was over 40 years ago but I'm still relaxed about being around 'wimmen'.
Does being relaxed make one more attractive? Perhaps it does. Only the ladies could say.
As respects punting, with which I've only been involved for c. 11 years, I was as nervous as any bloke would be at my first booking. Things are now much improved, however despite, as one would expect, always being a bit on edge when seeing a new lady for the first time.
I take more care with my appearance than perhaps I sometimes used to do. I need to take care here lest Auntie smells a rat. I'm no oil painting (at 66 what do you expect?). But generally, though, I find that arriving at a punt freshly washed and shaved reaps value for my hard-earned pension.
So to answer the question - possibly BECAUSE I punt I am a bit more attractive.
Civies are out for me. An affair I've had. Won't go there again.
'Friends with benefits' would be nice perhaps but they're just as bad as affairs in most respects for me.
No: The commercial contract of shagging a WG suits me just fine and nobody has ever convinced me that I can't be close and valued friends with a pro$$ie. My experience as respects my regulars tells me otherwise.