As a psychotherapist myself, let me assure you that that type of advice never, ever works. It might sound good and world-weary, but it would never truly help someone who was in need of aid.
Well 'as a psychotherapist' yourself you'll br familiar with the concept 'you can give someone great advice to help someone or rubbish advice. It doesn't really matter if the key piece of the jigsaw is missing as it seems to be in your case. That missing piece is the desire to change their behaviour.
You say all you wanted is to understand how AW aliases work AND THAT'S BEEN EXPLAINED TO YOU.
There was really no need to give us chapter and verse or to keep trying to rationalise and justify your 'relationship'
to the members here.
My advise to you is either
Sit down with the woman and try to sort this out
Seek assistance from a real psychotherapist
Or move on
Any combination of the above would be a positive step.
To the members here I'd say let's stop throwing jellybabies at the OP he asked a question he got an answer if he receives no further responses he'll get fed up and go elsewhere I'd recommend mumsnet😁😁