Would you be OK with your GF/fiance/wife/mother of your children to be a pro$$ie

[Ass-Bo]

Not that i would get myself in that situation but if it did happen then NO!!

[sarahjayneleeds]

To put a spin on it would you be ok with your ex boyfriend/fiance/husband /dad/ father of your children being a punter? We get a rough deal as the sellers but you buy it no different

[skipper121]

To put a spin on it would you be ok with your ex boyfriend/fiance/husband /dad/ father of your children being an punter? We get a rough deal as the sellers but you buy it no different

Absolutely spot on SJ and a point I've tried to make in other threads (the Emotional Attachment one most recently) 

What's sauce for the goose...

[Ass-Bo]

To put a spin on it would you be ok with your ex boyfriend/fiance/husband /dad/ father of your children being a punter? We get a rough deal as the sellers but you buy it no different

FORWARDING TO SAAFE... please wait

[skipper121]

FORWARDING TO SAAFE... please wait

That's just avoiding the argument

[sarahjayneleeds]

Absolutely spot on SJ and a point I've tried to make in other threads (the Emotional Attachment one most recently) 

What's sauce for the goose...

  Exactly too many judgement's  tonight not the reality   in punting land:hi:

[sarahjayneleeds]

FORWARDING TO SAAFE... please wait

Why ? you asked a question I asked it from a different perspective ?

[skipper121]

Some guys just seem to want to have their jollies with WGs but can't imagine the girls themselves leading a normal life.  Like they exist in some kind of parallel universe

[Ass-Bo]

The poll was originated from Skippers earlier comment "But sadly I suppose most men can't handle that" so i created a poll to ask the men of the forum. but if want to look at it from a pro$$ie perspective, So the question would be without putting a "spin on it"

Would you be OK with your BF/fiance/husband/father of your children to carry on punting (even if you met him as a punter)

[Wiltsboy01]

Some guys just seem to want to have their jollies with WGs but can't imagine the girls themselves leading a normal life.  Like they exist in some kind of parallel universe

I agree. 

I have 1 WG and 1 Cam-Girl on my Facebook and they are 100% real people with lives, friends, siblings and all that. 

What would happen if the 'Cosa Nostra' type secrecy we observe on how we know each other is broken god alone knows.  My guess is they both have too much to lose for that to ever happen, as do I.

[sarahjayneleeds]

Some guys just seem to want to have their jollies with WGs but can't imagine the girls themselves leading a normal life.  Like they exist in some kind of parallel universe

I have said before trust issues will be a major factor to me involving someone in my personal life. does the same not apply to single guys that consider dating the drinks, meals , chatting up, being nice to someone who you may not fancy? alternative book a girl on AW who you wouldn't pull in real life, same result sexwise, costs the same  but no grief 

[skipper121]

I have said before trust issues will be a major factor to me involving someone in my personal life. does the same not apply to single guys that consider dating the drinks, meals , chatting up, being nice to someone who you may not fancy? alternative book a girl on AW who you wouldn't pull in real life, same result sexwise, costs the same  but no grief 

Fair point Sarah but I thought the thread geared along the lines of would a man accept his partner being involved in escorting if he's met her through "normal" social circles and established a relationship, rather than about an escort striking up a personal relationship with a client.  Apologies if I've misinterpreted your post

[Northernbloke]

I would imagine that in the current economic climate  there are quite a few blokes who have found themselves having to be ok with it if it means keeping a roof over their head. If prossies can compartmentalise their work from their private life perhaps men can put their wives hooking into a separate area of their lives too.

[sarahjayneleeds]

The poll was originated from Skippers earlier comment "But sadly I suppose most men can't handle that" so i created a poll to ask the men of the forum. but if want to look at it from a pro$$ie perspective, So the question would be without putting a "spin on it"

Would you be OK with your BF/fiance/husband/father of your children to carry on punting (even if you met him as a punter)

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Why ? was your poll? it's not a prossie forum ?  better off at Saafe you said I never attacked you    I asked for perspective as in don't judge the blokes here can handle it and probably will vote. Tell ya what chuck when you quote me don't make out I'm dissing anyone that enough of a "spin on it "  for you ? or do you need to turn round a few more times?

[sarahjayneleeds]

Fair point Sarah but I thought the thread geared along the lines of would a man accept his partner being involved in escorting if he's met her through "normal" social circles and established a relationship, rather than about an escort striking up a personal relationship with a client.  Apologies if I've misinterpreted your post

Frankly Skip escort or punter, revealed or not, I think you can't be anywhere near as you would previously before Escorting or punting.

[skipper121]

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Why ? was your poll? it's not a prossie forum ?  better off at Saafe you said I never attacked you    I asked for perspective as in don't judge the blokes here can handle it and probably will vote. Tell ya what chuck when you quote me don't make out I'm dissing anyone that enough of a "spin on it "  for you ? or do you need to turn round a few more times?

Forget it Sarah.  I think someone has an axe to grind...

[skipper121]

Frankly Skip escort or punter, revealed or not, I think you can't be anywhere near as you would previously before Escorting or punting.

point taken

[sarahjayneleeds]

Forget it Sarah.  I think someone has an axe to grind...

Me too  he will turn out to be someone previously banned wheres JRC or James ?

[skipper121]

Me too  he will turn out to be someone previously banned wheres JRC or James ?

They're just sitting back and waiting to come in and deliver the killer blow 

[sarahjayneleeds]

 

[Ali Katt]

To put a spin on it would you be ok with your ex boyfriend/fiance/husband /dad/ father of your children being a punter? We get a rough deal as the sellers but you buy it no different

Considering on Mumsnet (an insular space admittedly and not representative of all women) described punters as pervy weirdos, says volumes about the lack of understanding.

I think this question has been brought up before, but I'll answer it anyway. I personally would have more of a problem going out with a woman that has had sex with say 300 people without being a prostitute.

I think men seem to have a Victorian idea that purity and virtue should be rewarded, personally I wouldn't want to shag a virgin and if she was still a virgin at 30, well, questions need to be asked; religious reasons being the only real plausible reason why. Having said that when the question of number of sexual partners comes up for some punters it would be difficult to say 1000+ or maybe it wouldn't, the same applies to an ex-prostitute in a new long term relationship because it's difficult to explain with out revealing what we do and it is still frowned upon by many.

[sarahjayneleeds]

Considering on Mumsnet (an insular space admittedly and not representative of all women) described punters as pervy weirdos, says volumes about the lack of understanding.

I think this question has been brought up before, but I'll answer it anyway. I personally would have more of a problem going out with a woman that has had sex with say 300 people without being a prostitute.

I think men seem to have a Victorian idea that purity and virtue should be rewarded, personally I wouldn't want to shag a virgin and if she was still a virgin at 30, well, questions need to be asked; religious reasons being the only real plausible reason why. Having said that when the question of number of sexual partners comes up for some punters it would be difficult to say 1000+ or maybe it wouldn't, the same applies to an ex-prostitute in a new long term relationship because it's difficult to explain with out revealing what we do and it is still frowned upon by many.

Do you mean irrelevant Ali as in how would you know unless she or he said?

[Ali Katt]

Do you mean irrelevant Ali as in how would you know unless she or he said?

I should have checked it more thoroughly. Technically, I wouldn't know. When I have been in long term relationships the question of partners does come up, no idea why. I think if the number was in treble or quadruple figures, there would be some serious questions asked. I think I if someone shags a different person up against a set of Biffas (or even with a set of biffers) every Friday night that to me is skanky and childish once you get past a certain age; if you are a punter or prostitute you have a legitimate reason for a high number of partners. But, I digress.

Getting back to the original question I care more about whether they are a good person than their sexual history. I think the real reason men and women are worried about a person's past sexual partners, comes from some fears of sexual inadequacy.

[Rochdull lad]

Getting back to the original question I care more about whether they are a good person than their sexual history. I think the real reason men and women are worried about a person's past sexual partners, comes from some fears of sexual inadequacy.

I'd agree with you here, Ali.  Just because a woman's a WG doesn't make her a bad person.

Nor, to pick up on the debate which seems to have been going on here after I'd gone to bed last night, is a bloke automatically a nasty bastard because he's a punter.

[overhead]

I don't think it makes any difference at all. What is more important is what they are like as a person, and their genetics.

I have heard of prostitutes falling preg to clients, bound to happen sometimes, and in fact a couple of hundred years ago that was normal. If you go back through the family history blurb you will find if you look hard enough that most of us have a prostitute in our female line not too many generations back, so inevitably there will be clients as well. It's part of nature, and probably rarer now than it's ever been.

[Thepacifist]

No, I wouldn't be ok with it. When i'm in a relationship i'm faithful and loyal and expect the same of my partner. I would dump someone if they cheated on me. If i had a daughter i wouldn't want her to be a pro$$ie. She would be daddy's little girl and i would spoil her. I wouldn't want any Tom Dick or Abdul having their way with her.

[Northernbloke]

......and yet you are quite happy to fuck someone else's little princess!

[GrumpyoldGit]

......and yet you are quite happy to fuck someone else's little princess!

Very good point

[skipper121]

......and yet you are quite happy to fuck someone else's little princess!

Spot on.  Every WG is someone's daughter/sister/mother 

[potato]

My perspective is slightly different in that I like the girls to be single and independant. It doesn't give me a thrill fucking someone else's partner. So I wouldn't want my wife/GF/partner to be engaged in this business.  I don't have kids so I can't comment whether I would be happy for a hypothetical daughter to be escorting -  I presume I wouldn't be at all happy but its her life to do with what she wants. I suppose I would be questioning whether I brought her up correctly for her to make that decision.  On the other hand, if I were a female and knowing what I know from my punting experiences, I would be having a go at this "profession" - part time at least!

[ncarter]

Hands up, in all honesty I am a hypocrite sort of!

For me it would be the paranoia about their safety and sexual health also due to the intimate nature that a bond could be created with a particular client and they turn around and leave me.

I will say that I would never punt if in a relationship and couldn't cope if a partner was working as a WG whilst we were together, but what happened before is what happened before, I accept that there is an intimacy to a relationship that you cannot get from a punt.

Still would not stop me from worrying....

[squeezebox]

Depends...

If I'd met her while she was escorting, I'm okay with her carrying on. (Her choice)

If she started after meeting her, without discussing it, not gonna happen.

[Wiltsboy01]

My partner has had sex outside of our relationship and we are still together, so it would be hypocritical of me to say it is impossible for a WG and civvy bloke to live together and not go nuts.

[ncarter]

My partner has had sex outside of our relationship and we are still together, so it would be hypocritical of me to say it is impossible for a WG and civvy bloke to live together and not go nuts.

That is an interesting slant on the question. Is it the partner having sex with others when in a relationship with you that is the issue or that they get paid for it? I could be wrong but I think it may be the payment received that would upset more men than the actual sex aspect?

[Paulie]

Yes, I would - probably not punt with them though, at least not all at once 

[Paulie]

Seriously though, I have experienced a swinging relationship, where most of the time the sex is with people she fancied (although we have played some games based on random coupling). I imagine that prostitutes have to be less selective. For me, it would all depend on the motive. If it was for money, I would give her the money.

[overhead]

That is an interesting slant on the question. Is it the partner having sex with others when in a relationship with you that is the issue or that they get paid for it? I could be wrong but I think it may be the payment received that would upset more men than the actual sex aspect?

I would have thought it would be the other way around.

If a partner of mine was sleeping with others for payment, it would bother me a lot less than if it was for nothing. It's easy to say, but I think I could live with a prostitute knowing what I do about it, but I wouldn't want to hear the detail of every client, or even of any of them.


I know of a single guy, who is divorced, has no relationship - non punter - who has a prossie living in his house. They are good friends, but she refuses to sleep with him, but at the same time does about 20 clients a week, and he even drives her to the bookings sometimes. That can't be very nice for him. I only know about it because they have frequent arguments about it and one of them tells me. Funny how sex/power/personal politics always seems to come into play between men and women, and that's got to be the most stupid situation I've encountered. They must both be sado/masochists or whatever. Not a lot of self respect either of them, either.

[ncarter]

Overhead, I suppose my thinking was that there is unfortunately a negative image / stigma associated with being a prostitute whereas having sex with other men in itself is not necessarily 'acceptable by general society' might not be seen as a worse option.

I suspect this view is partly influenced by the media and bleeding heart lie-berals who tell us all prostitutes are forced into this whilst a woman who sleeps around is doing this out of freewill / choice.

[Paulie]

If a partner of mine was sleeping with others for payment, it would bother me a lot less than if it was for nothing. It's easy to say, but I think I could live with a prostitute knowing what I do about it, but I wouldn't want to hear the detail of every client, or even of any of them.


I know of a single guy, who is divorced, has no relationship - non punter - who has a prossie living in his house. They are good friends, but she refuses to sleep with him, but at the same time does about 20 clients a week, and he even drives her to the bookings sometimes. That can't be very nice for him. I only know about it because they have frequent arguments about it and one of them tells me. Funny how sex/power/personal politics always seems to come into play between men and women, and that's got to be the most stupid situation I've encountered. They must both be sado/masochists or whatever. Not a lot of self respect either of them, either.

Obviously, it depends on your outlook on sex. I know plenty of couples who enjoy extramarital sex, and none of them (as far as I know) are sadomasochistic. Hearing your woman describing every detail of an encounter can be a real turn on, as can watching her with another man. It's only fucking 

[Insatiableillie]

When I first started working years ago I had my then partner find out what I was doing via a national and regional newspaper. A certain agency got busted and screen shots of the website were in all the papers. Needless to say he wasn't happy to begin with, went ballistic (I was with him in person when he found out) but after a while he accepted it.. Or so I thought.. Arguments used to happen and the rest, so it was a downwards spiral and doomed to fail.. However I have told people I've got close to about my "past" and never sugar coated it...

[Daffodil]

......and yet you are quite happy to fuck someone else's little princess!

I'm also happy for somebody else's 'little princess' to clean my work's toilet, it wouldn't mean I'd want my daughter to aspire to being a toilet cleaner 

[NIK]

As someone pointed out earlier in the thread this topic is more suited to SAFFE or Prossynet rather than UKP.

[Daffodil]

Me too  he will turn out to be someone previously banned wheres JRC or James ?

They're just sitting back and waiting to come in and deliver the killer blow 

Skipper, for somebody who supposedly had never even punted a couple of weeks ago and, as far as I've read, only had one punt to date, you seem very opinionated and quick to leap to the defence of prossies.

It would be absolutely no surprise to me to find out that it's you who is the returnee with 'the axe to grind' 

[Daffodil]

I have said many times that I would never enter into a long-term relationship with a prossie. I do not respect a woman who sells herself or, at the least, respect them far less than I would somebody who didn't.

Before anybody spouts the bollocks that it is therefore hypocritical or odd that I punt with them I'll preempt you and say I also don't respect bankers particularly, but I still use banks 

I also expect my partner to be faithful and I would never trust a prossie to be so. Now I accept that this is hypocritical, but I suspect most of the guys in relationships here feel the same.

For what it's worth, I also wouldn't expect a prossie to be overly keen on having a punter as a partner.

[Rochdull lad]

Depends...

If I'd met her while she was escorting, I'm okay with her carrying on. (Her choice)

If she started after meeting her, without discussing it, not gonna happen.

At my age, I'm unlikely to start seeing someone who wasn't a WG but then decided to start, but I could go along with the first half of squeezebox's answer.

[The President]

Would I get more/better sex into the bargain or less than a few times a year already? Could I join in on FF etc if so maybe, if not no - but my mrs would be a courtesean not a WG 

[Riptor]

My philosophy in life is- if you bullshit others you're only bullshitting yourself.

Would I want an attractive woman as my girlfriend? Yes please thank you very much.

Would I want a girlfriend I am knowingly, aware has 4-8 men cumming in her mouth and expects a kiss at the end of the day- or whose vagina is too torn, loose and sore for a fuck?

 

To quote the US Italian mafia.

There are women for commitment marriage, whom have and raise your children.

There are whores for whom you fuck.

And finally the wisdom of the great Snoop Dogg.

"Can't make a hoe a housewife".

 

[Wiltsboy01]

Would I want a girlfriend I am knowingly, aware has 4-8 men cumming in her mouth and expects a kiss at the end of the day- or whose vagina is too torn, loose and sore for a fuck?

I wonder if WGs with a partner (Louise maybe can help when she's next on) see this as a problem?

[Wiltsboy01]

Would I want a girlfriend I am knowingly, aware has 4-8 men cumming in her mouth and expects a kiss at the end of the day- or whose vagina is too torn, loose and sore for a fuck?

Sorry left it too long to modify the above post.

Punters kissing that WG and getting their face into that pussy don't care what she has done already that day.  Maybe their partners don't either.

[skipper121]

Skipper, for somebody who supposedly had never even punted a couple of weeks ago and, as far as I've read, only had one punt to date, you seem very opinionated and quick to leap to the defence of prossies.

It would be absolutely no surprise to me to find out that it's you who is the returnee with 'the axe to grind' 

Well you'd be disappointed because that's not true.  I'm just someone with a lot of time on my hands to fill.  I was interested in the discussion and so I joined in and expressed my honest opinions.  That is after all what any forum is for.  I wasn't leaping to anyone's defence, just saying what I truly thought.  However, I seem to be developing the knack of (unintentionally) pissing people off so it's probably best if I just stop posting.

I'll just lurk and read instead