No it's not unusual to feel attraction with a punter but it is a different type of attraction and is very hard to explain to someone who doesn't do this job. It's more of a. Oh thank god he is nice. Than a I would like to date him
She us not trying to have power to validate you. She us probably unaware you feel like this considering you have only spent two half hours with her.
I can understand done punters feeling this way when they have been seeing a prossie for months but not after such a minuscule amount if time
As I said it is not her you have feelings for as you only know the actress and then not very well. I think you feel lonely and have latched on to the fantasy
Believe me we don't try to validate clients and if we have only seen them for shirt bookings once or twice we don't even remember their names so have to put it in our notes so we know for next time.
I feel a total bitch as it seems lately all I am saying to guys is you are just a job, a pay packet it new handbag. This one has actually said according to you she does not want a punter as a partner so perhaps she is slightly aware and said it to let you down gently
You paid. You got the fantasy. You enjoyed every moment if it so her job is done. Then you walk away and book someone else.
Well, i guess when you are having sex with 10 men a day you do become desensitized. When you meet someone attractive its probably more relief than anything , and a more pleasant 'job'. But, a job nonetheless because you probably put all of us in the 'punters' box.
Oh, i doubt she is trying to have the power to validate me. But, i would rather she not have the chance to have the power to validate/non-validate me. I'm not going to visit her again, so i'm not going to give her that chance.
Does it not give you an ego though to reject the punter? Really? If we are being honest about it. And no, at the time of the conversation i feigned disinterest in relationships like i usually do. I can act too. My guard is pretty high up and for good reason.
No, i don't feel like the punting world is offering me much anymore. When i started 4 years ago i was younger and only interested in having sex with as many physically attractive girls as possible. What i want has changed, i find it all a bit empty these days. I also find the non-punting "pulling" scene a bit empty too. With this girl, i felt vulnerable inside and i do not like that. So, whilst i enjoyed the sex i really felt threatened by the emotional intimacy i felt.
But, whatever. I have made my mind up now.