I might be generalising but Its very common today for women to use men in that fashion. And so what if I don't love the majority of women? Tell me why is it ok for women to constantly drone on about how men are useless and how pig-headed they are and not every be accused of lacking anything? but if a man so dares to speak out against a women they are this misogynistic caveman?
Let me just ask... where are you from? Because in my, general, experience, I don't meet many women who bitch and moan about how useless men are. For sure, there are some women who do indeed moan about how crappy their boyfriends/husbands are... but by that same token, I also have male friends who complain about their own relationships.
I think you are just on a spectacular level of bad luck that you're meeting bad women.
How does me saying that I take each one at face value contradict the fact that the majority are gold diggers? The decent ones are obviously in a small minority
I have met a lot of women over the years, friends, colleagues, people I have dated, through University and work and in my experience, they are not like that. Sure, there are women who do want the guy to pay and 'be a gentleman' but there are also girls that will go halves. You can't say the 'majority' of girls are like that, unless you've met thousands of women and 99% of those expect you to pay for everything.
When very young admittedly I've been unsuccessful with women but to say I've been a woeful failure is an inaccurate assumption. I've had my fair share of successes with women in the dating world and maintaining friendships but admittedly on occasions it's been difficult to win some over.
I feel it should be a lot more fairer and men shouldn't have to bend over backwards in order to successfully court a woman
Then if you're feeling that you are doing too much work to court a woman... stop seeing her and move on to the next one? If you're not enjoying the experience then forget about her and move on.
If you feel someone is too difficult to win over, or that you are doing too much hard work, it's clearly making you unhappy. Not every girl is gonna make you jump through hoops.
The reason why there is anger and frustration is because of this imbalance where all a woman has to do is turn up and the guy has to do everything to please and even then it's not even enough. Or they do everything right and then later down the line get short changed in the court system. This then causes me to ask where is our pride? When are we going to say enough is enough?!
Don't really know what to say here. I mean this in a good way, but I think you might need to talk this over with someone or at least take a step back. When you go out with someone on a date, or whatever, you shouldn't feel you have to please them or impress them. You should just be out to have a nice time.
Just an example: last night, Saturday, I went out with someone for the first time. We chatted for a couple of hours and I felt we had a nice time. I enjoyed talking with her and after it was over, I felt I had a nice, fun night. I didn't look at it as anything more than that. Now, I hope I can take her out again somewhere. She may either 1:
wanna go out again, in which case great, or 2:
text or call me back and say "Sorry Devil Man, not interested in hanging out with you again. Have a nice life. Bye."
For me, both options are absolutely fine. If she liked hanging out and wants to do it again, then great, we can be friends, but if she doesn't, then also fine, because I'd rather she be happy and do something that she will enjoy and have a good time with. Because everyone's different. You can't force someone to like you. Nor would it hurt my 'pride' because I am happy with who I am and I think I have an okay personality. I'd rather people who hung out with me did so because they liked my personality, but if they don't, that's okay. You should only be around people you like and feel comfortable with.
If you got a girl who became obsessed with you, and she felt she had done all the right things to get your interest, but you felt nothing for her, either sexual or as a friend, would you force yourself to constantly see her? Of course not. You shouldn't expect it the other way either.
And I think you should have a similar outlook on it as well. You seem like you are either jaded or sensitive, or you put too much pressure when you go out with a girl, rather than trying to enjoy yourself and appreciate the encounter for what it is.