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Author Topic: Is there something wrong with telling a punter 'no'?  (Read 2280 times)

Offline rhubarb

So I'm in this strange situation with 2 girls on AW; I've met each of them before and had a successful meet. Each of them was contacted initially thru AW and have given a mobile number to me. I've tried to re-book both of them and despite being able to see their profiles are current (and the fact that they're reading my AW emails), neither of them bother replying. In each case, worried about pestering people, I've simply sent a follow-up email suggesting that I'd like to meet but if they would rather not, just to let me know (so I can just draw a line under the whole thing and move on). The fact that they don't reply to this at all leaves me in this infuriating limbo of not knowing whether I should get back in touch at some point or not! Maybe their connection was playing up or the PC crashed... any number of reasons that mean I should keep trying to make contact.
So my question to you all is whether there's some sort of taboo about saying no to a punter? Is there a reason they might be sitting there seeing these emails and wishing I'd just stop, but making them feel unable to just say this?! I've posted about one of these women elsewhere on the forum, but I've tried maybe 4 times over the last 2 years to make a return visit but I never get any sort of reply.

I know its their prerogative who they see etc, thats not what I'm driving at.. its just that I don't understand why they don't respond.
The way I see it, its a no-brainer to reply to these sort of emails and just say 'no thanks, id rather not meet you again' or 'im only seeing regular clients now'.. anything really that would prevent me from bothering them again.

I should add that I've got a long history of good feedback from numerous people on AW, and have actually met both these women before too, so I don't think its as simple as me being a horrible punter (hope not anyway). I manage to meet other women with no problems through AW.. its just these 2!

any thoughts?

Offline Tailpipe

Strange and unusually is there feedback still been added to i.e. do they continue
To work.

I would say for some reason they appear not to want your business so I would
Move on and not worry about it. 

You have good feedback so why worry .

I suspect that saying no to a single punter is something a WG would avoid unless
There was a very go reason to.

Did those WG leave feedback on your visit to them and did you give them feedback.

Offline potato

I don't understand it either. WG's seem to be capable of totally ignoring you for no reason sometimes.  Maybe they don't say no so that they can always pick it up in the future. I had one girl that I saw a few times that totally blanked me. She told me she was off on hols for 6 weeks so  I put an RB on AW for the period whilst she was away and she has not spoken to me since!

panel999

Just seen this new thread on this subject -
I have had a wg email me today to say that she rather not see me as i have seen too many girls in a short space of time AND I have 5120 'red aliases' on my AW panel even though I have 64 ecellent positive feed backs from AW girls. She may think i am a pimp or similar bad boy.

I did explain to her that these Red Aliases were as a result of me stupidly logging on to a WG AW members laptop to set up a meeting and do a review - some of the cookies and emails that were on the wg's AW profile were somehow attached onto my AW profile. There are several threads on this subject on UKP forum, AW said nothing they can do about it and it should disappear off my profile in 6-9 months time. If you click on any of these +5,000 aliases then it comes up as blank so ALL wg's can see there is nothing there. so should not be worried.
However all the wg's i have seen in the last 2/3 months have all said NOT an issie as i have +64 positive FB's on AW.

This expensive AW girl -£160ph is not willing to see me  so have left it to her to email me when she may be OK to see me in the future... happens to us all, leave it and move on...

Happy Punting


Offline rhubarb

I would say for some reason they appear not to want your business so I would
Move on and not worry about it.

I know what you mean, but this is also my point.. it appears they don't want my business but if thats the case, whats the harm in letting me into the secret? I really enjoyed both these meets a lot (far more than most other meets I've had, truth be told) which makes it very difficult to completely write them both off.

both of them still working and getting feedback from others btw so its not that they've vanished.

As for feedback - as it happens they were both arranged at fairly short notice after communicating by email, so no actual meeting was booked on AW. What i tend to do in these cases (if i want to leave good feedback) is suggest I make a 'fake' booking and feed back against that one. I actually want to do this with the most recent booking but since they don't reply, I cant even arrange this!
« Last Edit: July 01, 2013, 06:18:47 PM by rhubarb »

Offline smiths

So I'm in this strange situation with 2 girls on AW; I've met each of them before and had a successful meet. Each of them was contacted initially thru AW and have given a mobile number to me. I've tried to re-book both of them and despite being able to see their profiles are current (and the fact that they're reading my AW emails), neither of them bother replying. In each case, worried about pestering people, I've simply sent a follow-up email suggesting that I'd like to meet but if they would rather not, just to let me know (so I can just draw a line under the whole thing and move on). The fact that they don't reply to this at all leaves me in this infuriating limbo of not knowing whether I should get back in touch at some point or not! Maybe their connection was playing up or the PC crashed... any number of reasons that mean I should keep trying to make contact.
So my question to you all is whether there's some sort of taboo about saying no to a punter? Is there a reason they might be sitting there seeing these emails and wishing I'd just stop, but making them feel unable to just say this?! I've posted about one of these women elsewhere on the forum, but I've tried maybe 4 times over the last 2 years to make a return visit but I never get any sort of reply.

I know its their prerogative who they see etc, thats not what I'm driving at.. its just that I don't understand why they don't respond.
The way I see it, its a no-brainer to reply to these sort of emails and just say 'no thanks, id rather not meet you again' or 'im only seeing regular clients now'.. anything really that would prevent me from bothering them again.

I should add that I've got a long history of good feedback from numerous people on AW, and have actually met both these women before too, so I don't think its as simple as me being a horrible punter (hope not anyway). I manage to meet other women with no problems through AW.. its just these 2!

any thoughts?

Who knows what is happening here for sure. My advice is move on and dont waste your time anymore.

Offline Dani

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If you read Saafe and other forums you will see that girls are often advised to just ignore people they don't want to see to save getting anyone upset and to also stop any nastiness that can happen when you refuse to see someone.

There seem to be two separate schools of thought
1.  Tell them that you feel you don't click and therefor it is best if you don't meet again and
2.  Ignore them and hope they will eventually get the hint and go away.

You may even find they have blocked you so do not even get your emails anymore.  I think it is because so many girls experience the abuse you can get when you tell the wrong person that you do not want to see them anymore and I mean non stop emails and texts and calls and fake bookings and calls all day from withheld numbers blocking your phone, that they now find it easier to have no contact at all rather than just send a polite NO sorry I do not want to see you anymore.   

It is not a great way to act but for some it saves so much hassle as they do not know how you are going to react if they say they don't want to see you

I hear what the Sisterhood is saying, Dani; but last year, I saw a WG who's a "Featured Escort" on AW from time to time.

During the course of the session, I mentioned "Paying for Pleasure", the book by Teela Sanders, the Leeds University sociologist who had interviewed a sample of punters [including me] to get our take on the scene.  Because I'd been interviewed for the book, I bought it and mentioned this to the WG.  She asked to borrow it, and I left it with her on my next appointment.  Which turned out to be my last with her, because she ignored any request for future meetings.

If I want to, I can always get another copy of the book.  And as for the "Featured WG", when she didn't reply I just thought it's a "Buyers' market" and moved on to a different and, imo, better WG.

Very short-sighted of her, imo.

Offline k

Who says it is her who reads the emails?  Many women on AW have no idea what is on their profile, let alone respond to emails.  Why don't you just ring them on their mobile?

As has been said already: it's no use pestering, move on to the next profile.
« Last Edit: July 01, 2013, 08:03:58 PM by k »

Offline rhubarb

If you read Saafe and other forums you will see that girls are often advised to just ignore people they don't want to see

thanks so much for this Dani.. thats exactly what I wondered about. Guess I'll 'take a hint' then and abandon my hopes for these 2.

My last 2 cents on the matter - I've got to say I find a deafening silence to be the most annoying response to get. I know I get infuriated dealing with banks or the council when you phone and email over and over but noone responds.. the only solution in real life is to absolutely bombard someone at these institiutions until you get a proper response, and I can't help wondering if punters who pester WG for contact are just doing the same thing? THe silent treatment may be whats fuelling the fire for some of these punters..perhaps someone needs to think up a better way of saying 'no' that just gets the message across without triggering bad responses.

Hear hear, rhubarb.

If the WGs would have the manners to tell us that they'd prefer not to see us again, I'm sure many of us would accept that.

panel999

Yes in most cases , however there are a few punters who can take it a different way and may feel rejected so may then cause issues to the WG.

In my case its her loss - There are plenty of WG's out there that i have yet to see, so move on and do the next review..

Offline Dani

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Yes in most cases , however there are a few punters who can take it a different way and may feel rejected so may then cause issues to the WG.

In my case its her loss - There are plenty of WG's out there that i have yet to see, so move on and do the next review..

Some men do cause issues but it is a very small minority and it also depends how you say no to them.  For instance saying "I am sorry but I did not feel we clicked so I could not give you the best service"  is not going to annoy someone half as much as saying "Im not seeing you as you have bad breath and creep me out"
You can easily turn someone down without causing offence but many cant be bothered.  They feel ignoring it doesn't matter as there will always be another one along to pay.
I always respond to sensible emails even if it is to say no, its just good business sense to be polite

panel999

In my case it was - 'Sorry you have seen too many girls' ???? and 5120 red aliases - which i have explained to the girl in question .

But not an issue - i will move on and make another booking tomorrow.

In my case it was - 'Sorry you have seen too many girls' ???? and 5120 red aliases - which i have explained to the girl in question .

But not an issue - i will move on and make another booking tomorrow.

Just get a new profile - ok loose the good feedback but you also loose the aliases... Block your ip or use rolling ip/bnc for your ip and book WGs and ask for feedback etc - after 3-4 good feedbacks most WGs don't bother

Or just phone them and don't mention your profile?!

Offline Daffodil

Prossies are lazy and, in the main, couldn't give a fuck about you. There is nothing in it for them in emailing you to say not to bother so they won't.

As others have said, don't worry about it and move on  :hi:

Offline Daffodil

In my case it was - 'Sorry you have seen too many girls' ???? and 5120 red aliases - which i have explained to the girl in question .

But not an issue - i will move on and make another booking tomorrow.

Seen too many? What the fuck! They're lucky we don't apply that same rule to them.

Offline Tailpipe

Seen too many? What the fuck! They're lucky we don't apply that same rule to them.


Good to see you back daff


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