I've been punting about 15 or so years. Always been safe, always used condoms, even for oral. However, 6 months ago I caught herpes from a WG (see the reviews south-west page for details) . I didn't catch it from the actual sex, but at the end she rubbed her pussy then rubbed her pussy wetness on my cock. To say my life has been wrecked ever since would be an understatement.
Constant pain for 3 months with no sores and every Dr saying no it's nothing. Blood tests all negative. Then, after 3 months, repeat the bloods and it shows up herpes as positive. Nearly 6 months in and still no sores as such but every day there is nerve pain, tingling, and done redness on the top of my penis. I can't have sex, can't masturbate, pain in my back and legs makes walking difficult somedays, burning in my hands and feet, nausea and feeling like someone had kicked me in the nuts every day since.
Dr says it's post hepatic neuralgia, caused by the virus infecting the nerves but not producing sores . I contacted the WG concerned.... She didn't even reply, still cobtinued to work that day, still works now... Doesn't care less. As far as I am concerned she already knew she had it, in fact I think she infected me on purpose at the end.
So that's it, life over really, the impact it has despite anti virals is understated. It is a BIG thing in your life. The pain somedays in unbearable. Worst part is..... If you have standard std screenings on the nhs THEY DON'T TEST FOR HERPES. You have to go private and the test is 150 quid. Also, unlike other std's, herpes can hide, and may not be detected in blood for 3-6 months, or even longer. By testing after the event, then testing 3 months again it showed it was that WG which had the virus.
So yes. It's stopped me now from doing anything. I wished I had learnt more about herpes .... I would never have gone punting from day 1. Sure I've had some amazing sex but is one shag worth the rest of your life in pain??? I'd think about that one very carefully chaps..... And ladies. Remember, even condoms are only 30% effective against catching herpes.