Do you enjoy this secret life?

[RedKettle]

I get the impression that for the vast majority of us the fact we punt is a pretty well hidden facet of our lives. Indeed for those of us maintaining valued relationships with OHs or for whom divorce is a far too expensive option then secrecy is vital.

I also suspect that for many of us our circle of family and friends would be truly shocked by such a revelation - other than the ones who also punt.

Does all this add a certain thrill to the whole experience?

It does for me. It is the only thing I do that is off the perceived normal track of a "respectable" British middle class chap and being part of this world, including the membership of UKP, is frankly fun.

Indeed given all the poor and frustrating experiences we have punting, despite UKP, then there almost has to be a buzz about it to make you do it.

[baranabus96]

I enjoy it but not because of the secrecy.

I really couldn't give a shit if anyone knew what I did on a personal level but it just happens that there would be consequences if someone did know so I keep it a secret.

[Davido0007]

I enjoy it but not the secrecy part. Kind of sad IMO that it needs to be secret at all. Although for me the consequences of a family member finding out would be none to minimal. Don't care if my friends know and 2 do as I explicitly told them and they seemed to take it fine. Were curious, if anything. Appreciate that isn't the same for everyone though.

[Jimmyredcab]

All my friends know that I have spent most of my life shagging prostitutes.

I wear my badge with pride.     

[PepeMAGA]

Indeed given all the poor and frustrating experiences we have punting, despite UKP, then there almost has to be a  about it to make you do it.

Hopefully not that many, or why do it?
There's very few experiences I get nothing out of.

[Shearer1955]

I don't think it would make any difference to me; I'm over 60, divorced & nearly all my family are no longer here so whilst I don't shout it off the rooftops even if it came out it wouldn't register as anything out of the ordinary. That said i can understand that if you have a partner the consequences and fallout could be very real if others found out what you do for pleasure

[scottwallace99]

I love the whole thing.  Absolutely love the thrill of the chase and can live with the odd poor punt for the excitement of all the good ones.  I have a bit of a thing for the odd daliance with TS girls and I don't think that's something I could achieve in every day life.  It's good to have somewhere to talk with like minded people too.

[king tarzan]

This double life is best kept secret. ..
Any spillage can be catastrophic if married
The consequences are abhorrent if disliked

Disgraced to say the very least...

[mediumjoe]

 I agree Wallace,thrill of the chase, probably why I like to Toftt .   I work on my own and it's nice to have a break and a natter with my "mates" on here. There is a certain frisson  at the elicit nature of all this ,  completely out of character for me.  Joe

[vw]

This double life is best kept secret. ..
Any spillage can be catastrophic if married
The consequences are abhorrent if disliked

Disgraced to say the very least...

Are you disliked KT ?

[threechilliman]

I love the secret side to it. That satisfied feeling when you complete another successful mission!!

tcm

[two20]

Whist not prolific I really enjoy my secret life. For whatever reason I'm guilt free, and punting keeps me sane in this increasingly mad world. I also enjoy a voyeuristic peep into worlds I wouldn't normally see.

[mrdiamond77]

I enjoy it yes, although not mainly because it's a secret life/hobby. 

[king tarzan]

I enjoy paying renting sleeping with extremely beautiful women who otherwise I would never ever even got near to smell let alone fuck!!

[cueball]

I always have and still do get an hilarious buzz from sneaking about podging different lasses for money. 

[pking_paul]

I always have and still do get an hilarious buzz from sneaking about podging different lasses for money. 

I've been a bit bored of late but I do like the variety on offer 

[Plan R]

Yes I enjoy my secret life immensely. 
Psychologists reckon it shows (healthy) self regard to reward yourself with a treat occasionally.
Once a month does me - love it     

[bristolqwerty]

  Enjoy the buzz of meeting different nationalities.   Its not just 100% about the sex.  OH is quite vanilla plus long distance relationship helps the hobby.  I'd retire when I'm hitched.  Up to then if I find the right escort and it continues to make me happy, there's no harm...  I did once feel a bit down and guilty post punt BUT perhaps this was due to wasting time on average prossies. Good quality punts where I learn something new = bringing something to my own relationship is almost like research or training to me  .  OH has never complained.   

[king tarzan]

I enjoy the buzz of getting to touch feel kiss fuck a beautiful woman every week who would never look at me twice..

[stewpid]

Yes I enjoy my secret life immensely. 
Psychologists reckon it shows (healthy) self regard to reward yourself with a treat occasionally.
Once a month does me - love it 

I'm single so have no guilt there, mostly keep this hobby quiet (especially from work colleagues and family) but I have a few non-judgmental close friends I share my exploits with, some have dabbled in the past anyway. Would be too tough to just keep some if the more awesome experiences to myself.

I also see my punts as a reward to myself for doing the 9-5 and putting up with work shit. I don't go out clubbing anymore as mates are all tied down, rarely go out drinking or eat at restaurants so my leisure money is spent on this and it generally makes me a happier and complete person.

[king tarzan]

I'm single so have no guilt there, mostly keep this hobby quiet (especially from work colleagues and family) but I have a few non-judgmental close friends I share my exploits with, some have dabbled in the past anyway. Would be too tough to just keep some if the more awesome experiences to myself.

I also see my punts as a reward to myself for doing the 9-5 and putting up with work shit. I don't go out clubbing anymore as mates are all tied down, rarely go out drinking or eat at restaurants so my leisure money is spent on this and it generally makes me a happier and complete person.

Same with me to be honest...

[pewpewpew]

I seem to be contrary to everyone else. I don't enjoy it. I find it stressful and shameful but it's a need I need to fill. I am an uptight shit though. I wish my partner was a filthy sex maniac but she's not and that's why I do it.

Don't get me wrong. I enjoy the experiences I've had, it's just the sneaking around that I can't stand

[bristolqwerty]

it generally makes me a happier and complete person.

Couldn't have said it better, glad you have a positive approach, completely agree. 

[mikexxlong]

The sneaking around, covering my tracks and making sure i maintained a certain ammout of anonymity and safety held no particular appeal

 but anticipation ,meeting someone new and (hopefully) getting sexual satisfaction did

[BlueRock]

Love the cloak and dagger of it all. A mate once asked if I pay for sex and I did just say yeah. The main thrill is making the arrangement and driving over knowing in a few mins I'm gonna see my cock in a birds mouth, fanny and maybe ass too. Old enough now to realise not much else in life except fucking.

[dubs]

I think the risk is part of the thrill, like someone who does skydiving or motor racing for a hobby.

But when you consider it, being found out would really fuck up your life.  I know I'd be ostracised by not only my wife but my own family and friends too.  It's not like they're going to take my side of the argument and pleading to the father-in-law that "she wouldn't suck my cock any more" isn't going to help.

[RedKettle]

I think the risk is part of the thrill, like someone who does skydiving or motor racing for a hobby.

But when you consider it, being found out would really fuck up your life.  I know I'd be ostracised by not only my wife but my own family and friends too.  It's not like they're going to take my side of the argument and pleading to the father-in-law that "she wouldn't suck my cock any more" isn't going to help.

But without the consequences there would be no risk! It is like dangerous sports such as climbing, part of the buzz is the risk.

[RedKettle]

I love the secret side to it. That satisfied feeling when you complete another successful mission!!

tcm

  exactly

[fatboy]

Best (and most expensive) hobby I have ever had. Could have done with not doing model aircraft but at least it kept my hands busy, just wish I had started earlier. Love every aspect of it especially perusing the AW sweetie shop and knowing I could shag any one just for some dosh. Would hate to get found out though.
Happy punting ! Cheers, FB 

[Lucky Luke 70]

... the fact we punt is a pretty well hidden facet of our lives.
Does all this add a certain thrill to the whole experience?
It does for me. It is the only thing I do that is off the perceived normal track of a "respectable" British middle class chap and being part of this world, including the membership of UKP, is frankly fun.

Agree. It definitely adds a thrill factor in my "so respectable life", like "I'm a rebel" 

[JV547845]

For me it adds to the adrenalin rush, but it's such a big part of my life it's a shame I can't talk to anyone about it and am nervous about getting caught.  My mates and family, possibly even my boss won't care.  And it just wouldn't occur to anyone what you're doing so just have a plan B (buying something on ebay) and you'll be fine.  Someone told me they suspected a property near where we were staying in a sleepy holiday vilage was being used as a brothel.  The parking was fucking shit there and it was news to me as I'd already checked there was nothing on adultwork so I surmised they were just dealing drugs instead.  Nothing to be gained by telling them that though.

I've had some of the best sex in my life and did my best to ensure everyone enjoyed it and I don't see it matters that money changed hands.  Some of them appreciated it more than I would've.  I don't want there to be a world where women have to be WGs, but they'd be shit WGs if they don't want to do it and that's got more to do with poverty.  I defend to the hilt a woman's right to become a WG, and a lot of women would do it to support their child.  You don't want that for your daughter, but at the end of the day, fucking deal with it Daddio, that's your daughter's decision.  If noone's getting hurt, the state has no business interfering in the lives of consenting nymphomaniacs.  Even the Sun allows `Vegas rules' for Prince Harry and all squaddies on this one.  What the fuck are they fighting for if we civilians can't have the same fun as soldiers?  So it's not immoral.  I don't see I've got anything to apologise for at all.  But I just don't want it to put off potential civvy partners!  It sucks that that forces me to withhold certain areas of my life, but I reallly don't care what they got up to or how many partners they had in their past, and never enquire.  Talking about punting (without outing yourself) is a good test about what kind of feminist someone is, and whether someone's right for me, just like how they are talking about kink or gay experiences or fetishes.

All my friends know that I have spent most of my life shagging prostitutes.

I wear my badge with pride.     

Brilliant Jimmy!  Good for you, old chap.

[monstar]

The sneaking around, covering my tracks and making sure i maintained a certain ammout of anonymity and safety held no particular appeal

 but anticipation ,meeting someone new and (hopefully) getting sexual satisfaction did

This also for me.

The journey to and from a punt is often stressful as I have a weak alibi should I be caught while out for my fun, and add a bit of anxiety due to meeting someone new and pretty for sex.

[webpunter]

In order to work out how much we enjoy this sport then try for a moment to figure how you would feel if you didn't do it 
Being on UKP just adds to the fun - its the Encyclopædia Britannica of all things hookering.  And a right laarf too 

[Jonestown]

Eventually a secret life like this will almost certainly turn round and bite you in the ass, one way or another.

[dobob]

Eventually a secret life like this will almost certainly turn round and bite you in the ass, one way or another.

Thanks for that prophecy of doom. Do you have any useful information to back it up?

[webpunter]

Consider this more of a sabbatical.  The only question is for how long    A leopard doesn't change its spots !

I'd retire when I'm hitched

[stampjones]

pleading to the father-in-law that "she wouldn't suck my cock any more" isn't going to help.

Haha - thats brilliant mate - I love that idea 

[stampjones]

For me not so much that its secret but i get a kick from the fact that its something I shouldnt be doing, and by extension, I suppose, the risk. As an example Im a big buyer of FBSM, not cos I like all the shit massages or crap tug jobs, but for that occasional time where it feels like you got something you werent supposed to get - that it was only supposed to be a masssge but now your cock is in her hands. Doesnt happen that often but sometimes it does.

[dobob]

I seem to be contrary to everyone else. I don't enjoy it. I find it stressful and shameful but it's a need I need to fill. I am an uptight shit though. I wish my partner was a filthy sex maniac but she's not and that's why I do it.

Don't get me wrong. I enjoy the experiences I've had, it's just the sneaking around that I can't stand

I sympathize with you. I have arrived at an understanding with my partner that gives me some spare time for a side of my life that she's no longer interested in. So  what used to feel like sneaking around feels like acceptable "me-time". If you feel brave enough, you could come clean with your partner about your use of working girls (which is what I did, unintentionally, during a row). However, I appreciate that that is a very difficult and risky step.

Cheers!

[webpunter]

You are picking the wrong masseuses.  The will-she-won't-she aspect is fun.  As long as it turns out to be a yes.  If an absolute stunner & all the signals for extras on the 2nd visit i might ponder.  Its never happened - 'thunderbirds are go' on the 1st.  My idea of a 2nd visit is to get extras over & above a HJ

Doesnt happen that often but sometimes it does.

[anonyorks]

Yes I do. I enjoy being an anonymous punter and it gives me a break from everyone at home and work.

[playpal69]

I'm single so have no guilt there, mostly keep this hobby quiet ......................................................

I also see my punts as a reward to myself for doing the 9-5 and putting up with work shit. I don't go out clubbing anymore as mates are all tied down, rarely go out drinking or eat at restaurants so my leisure money is spent on this and it generally makes me a happier and complete person.

Pretty much sums me up, we all need a treat ;-)

[stampjones]

You are picking the wrong masseuses.  The will-she-won't-she aspect is fun.  As long as it turns out to be a yes.  If an absolute stunner & all the signals for extras on the 2nd visit i might ponder.  Its never happened - 'thunderbirds are go' on the 1st.  My idea of a 2nd visit is to get extras over & above a HJ

Not making myself clear - absolutely most girls do, but sometimes you meet girls that you are sure wont, but in the end do; or even better say they wont but after a couple of visits definitely do!

Those are rare and fucking awesome when they happen. But in most cases, I agree you'll probably never find out cos at £25/30 entry fee, you want something for your dosh.Doesnt stop me trying though

[cash2spare]

All the posts so far seem to be implying seeing a wg is wrong, but why? if a guy needs a release from time to time and his partner/wife/boyfriend isn't providing it then go shag a wg!
And how do you know your other half isn't turning tricks when you are at work? You don't do you?
Live once, live well, shag as many women as possible and always smile!
Do I enjoy this secret life? hell yes, if her indoors finds out then tough shit!

[RedKettle]

All the posts so far seem to be implying seeing a wg is wrong, but why? if a guy needs a release from time to time and his partner/wife/boyfriend isn't providing it then go shag a wg!
And how do you know your other half isn't turning tricks when you are at work? You don't do you?
Live once, live well, shag as many women as possible and always smile!
Do I enjoy this secret life? hell yes, if her indoors finds out then tough shit!

Not quite implying it is wrong, just that many others would see it as wrong. Hence keeping it secret.

[Revolver69]

Love the cloak and dagger of it all. A mate once asked if I pay for sex and I did just say yeah. The main thrill is making the arrangement and driving over knowing in a few mins I'm gonna see my cock in a birds mouth, fanny and maybe ass too. Old enough now to realise not much else in life except fucking.

Oh shit... dare I ask you how old you are?   Im wondering whether Im at that age yet, or Ive still got a few years left.....

[MaxDeane]

When I started my hobby 2-years ago it was a case of need.

In some early posts & reviews I made the point that 'if I had a bad back I would go and see a professional to sort it out....but I don't have a bad back.'

That was after over a year with no sex at home, at that time the 'risk & reward' kick also added to the spice of the hole experience.

Divorce is now underway and kids (grown up) are already saying that I should be looking for a new partner. I say Fuck That, the hassle of finding some woman who I like enough to bother and who likes me enough to bother, then dating, dining, romancing her to get what would likely be an average fuck, and then get all the fucking shite attached to being in a relationship again, No Thanks.

I'd much rather spend my hard earned on red hot meets with someone who I know is gong to put out the moment I get it out.

That said, during the time that my hobby being discovered would have caused a huge headache, I did find out that I'm a better liar than I thought, and also a lot better at making money disappear with no questions asked. Did a tot up earlier this year and realised that I have managed to spend over £5k in 2-years in secret. God I'm good.

Also, finding UKP has helped to know I'm not alone, just a horny guy.

My philosophy is that when you look back on life, it is simply a collection of experiences and I want to have a great 'highlights reel'.

[Bud$]

Yes, I still enjoy it, that is probably most of the time. It's my hobby, one of them anyway, and the most expensive. I worked out that it costs me on average about £7 a day or £2500-ish a year. That's probably on a par with golf (no pun intended) or being a football supporter or fishing, any one of which could cost that or more. There are many thoughtful replies on this topic and I appreciate all those who have so far contributed. It shows that we all think about our pastime and that we tend to be intelligent people. The grey areas of it do concern the morality question. We all feel we're not doing anyone any harm, that we are doing no wrong. However, there are those in the world who would definitely disagree, and we know that. This isn't the case with golf or football or fishing. I keep this aspect of my life to myself and I don't need to keep it secret or lie about it. I just choose not to go telling all and sundry. It's none of their business what I do in my free time with my money. I do this because I don't need their almost inevitable self-righteous judgementalism. I have 2 friends, whom I met through punting, who obviously know and they still indulge in it as well. Often we compare notes but we tend to like different things. Our conversations now are probably only 5% about punting.
The parts I still enjoy are, as someone else has said, the planning, the getting there, the anticipation and of course, mostly, the being there with a willing, nice looking and experienced young woman. I try to say to myself, while I'm there, "Wow! This is good." I stay in the moment. When it's over and I'm leaving I usually feel a little sad maybe, disappointed perhaps, let down possibly; I don't know exactly, it's a strange one and I think it's just normal really and comes from being excited, happy and then it's over till the next time. I've felt the same way when I've played sport and it's over, or performed on stage and it's over, so I guess it's similar. I soon come out of it and after a week or two start anticipating the next time.

[playpal69]

Divorce is now underway and kids (grown up) are already saying that I should be looking for a new partner. I say Fuck That, the hassle of finding some woman who I like enough to bother and who likes me enough to bother, then dating, dining, romancing her to get what would likely be an average fuck, and then get all the fucking shite attached to being in a relationship again, No Thanks.

I'd much rather spend my hard earned on red hot meets with someone who I know is gong to put out the moment I get it out.


Also, finding UKP has helped to know I'm not alone, just a horny guy.

My philosophy is that when you look back on life, it is simply a collection of experiences and I want to have a great 'highlights reel'.

+1 Divorced several years back, just can't be doing with a relationship again, miss the company of a partner, but, nice bloke as I may be, if anyone wants to get close to me, I question their judgement anyway !

[dudezilla]

The secrecy and subterfuge is part of the attraction. The hidden phone, the travel to the punt and the anticipation, the scoping out of the venue, the sneaking past the hotel reception or navigating past the neighbours in the flats, the avoiding knocking on next door (almost did that). Then the reward. If its a shit punt dump and go, but when its great, the buzz with me lasts for hours.