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Why not just pick out a few you like the look and sound of and write something amusing instead of the normal all about me type of email.
I met one guy on there for sex for about a year after he sent me an email.  He had read I love Rudyard Kipling poetry so he changed the end of each line in one of my favourite poems to mean something else totally (about sex), I then did the same back and we held a conversation like this for about a week each time changing the ending of each line of the poem, until I got stuck so just asked for his phone number as he had made me laugh so much I just wanted to meet up with him

Find something she has said she really likes and write your email from that, if it is quirky and not the same old you will get a response.  You need to stand out from the crowd as so many men are using it now and literally emailing everyone within a couple of hundred miles hoping for a free shag.  Even if you don't know anything about her hobbies you can always say I have never tried doing that but it sounds like something I may enjoy, can you tell me more about it.

Women are self absorbed, we want to know you are more interested in us than yourself, that our hobbies will be something you will be willing to be dragged along to without moaning, that you wont brush off spending time reading poetry to go out with your mates (even if that is what will really happen we don't want to know it) .  By all means talk about yourself but talk more about her

Doesn't work. Tried it :) Not handsome enough for them nice girls and unfortunately I am too picky for my own looks. I am sure I'd have better luck in a bar/disco if I can be bothered with that.

As I said it might work with older girls - but girl I write to in their very early 20s I think are much more interested in looks...and I completely understand why.

Offline Kalium

Women are self absorbed, we want to know you are more interested in us than yourself, that our hobbies will be something you will be willing to be dragged along to without moaning, that you wont brush off spending time reading poetry to go out with your mates (even if that is what will really happen we don't want to know it) .  By all means talk about yourself but talk more about her
Lol - you said it even better.

There's nothing wrong with that, but it's why they string us along endlessly and it all becomes a ridiculous waste of time. Before you know it months have passed and you've still go nowhere.

Thinking about it, you have just explained precisely why prostitutes exist. For men, sex always comes with conditions attached. There's always the euphoric beginning to a new relationship of course, but that doesn't last for ever, if even for more than a few months.
« Last Edit: June 24, 2013, 05:31:11 PM by Kalium »

Online jackdaw

I never used to bother about POF being a waste of time. Just occasionally when I'd nothing better to do would do a quick search, identify a few potential WG's and fire off a quick email or two saying "any chance?". Never got anywhere.

But last couple of times I've been on site it appears that you have to upgrade (from free membership) to search for intimate encounters, and I've been barred from any search outside a few years of my own age. (Don't know if coughing up dough also sorts that out.)

Not been remotely tempted to pay to upgrade membership: happy to while away time sometimes, but got better uses for my money than making POF owner even richer.
« Last Edit: June 24, 2013, 05:36:03 PM by jackdaw »

Online Marmalade

I never used to bother about POF being a waste of time. Just occasionally when I'd nothing better to do would do a quick search, identify a few potential WG's and fire off a quick email or two saying "any chance?". Never got anywhere.

But last couple of times I've been on site it appears that you have to upgrade (from free membership) to search for intimate encounters, and I've been barred from any search outside a few years of my own age. (Don't know if coughing up dough also sorts that out.)

Not been remotely tempted to pay to upgrade membership: happy to while away time sometimes, but got better uses for my money than making POF owner even richer.

If you search for intimate encounters you've got very little chance. Most female IntEnc profiles are fakes, plus using that search gives you a default blacklist or block from the majority of women. You need to be reasonably good at chatting up women and enjoy meeting them even if you don't succeed. I've had maybe a 1 in 6 success rate at a guess but it's a lot of work. Badoo is faster in the sense of no time wasted filling in long questions and long emails but the success rate was not much higher. I can't see any point in searching for WGs on those sites. Just use AW for goodness sake.

I never used to bother about POF being a waste of time. Just occasionally when I'd nothing better to do would do a quick search, identify a few potential WG's and fire off a quick email or two saying "any chance?". Never got anywhere.

But last couple of times I've been on site it appears that you have to upgrade (from free membership) to search for intimate encounters, and I've been barred from any search outside a few years of my own age. (Don't know if coughing up dough also sorts that out.)

Not been remotely tempted to pay to upgrade membership: happy to while away time sometimes, but got better uses for my money than making POF owner even richer.

POF have a relatively recent policy, of barring contact between those of a 12 year age difference or something similiar, owners decision that I read about in the press, be interesting if he suffers commercially from this.

Offline Daffodil

If you search for intimate encounters you've got very little chance. Most female IntEnc profiles are fakes, plus using that search gives you a default blacklist or block from the majority of women. You need to be reasonably good at chatting up women and enjoy meeting them even if you don't succeed. I've had maybe a 1 in 6 success rate at a guess but it's a lot of work. Badoo is faster in the sense of no time wasted filling in long questions and long emails but the success rate was not much higher. I can't see any point in searching for WGs on those sites. Just use AW for goodness sake.

What are you defining your success ratio as marms? Meet ups that lead to sex? Initial emails that lead to meet ups?

I reckon that with well worded initial emails, that don't read like a cut-and-paste job, you can probably get a meet rate approaching 1 in 6. If targeted at the right profile of course.

I agree with regard guys using pof to search for prossies. Horses for courses surely, guys should use aw for prossies.

Offline Kram

As for Pof I've had varying degrees of success it's defineltly a numbers game that's for sure

For every ten messages I send I probably get 3-4 replys of those 3-4 1 may turn into a "date"

I'm no oil painting I'd say average at best ... And my photos are shockers

You just have to weed out the vain I love myself girls (you can spot these by how many photos they have on the profile the more there are the more they love themselves )

The nutters (usually da 1s dat talk lyk dis )

Read the profiles that are left and pick something out and message them about that and don't think that the girls on Pof are waiting for messages they get tons send and wait (it took a week for a girl to get back once ... It was worth the wait )

Offline hollysbeenabadgirl

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I did the whole POF thing ages ago, so I am sure a LOT has changed. I only bothered for a week or two, but in that time I met a guy who has essentially been one of my best friends for 6 years and I'm in contact still with the other 5 I bothered to reply to.

The reason I never bothered to reply to the others, was simply because gentleman were not conveying to me that they had read anything I had written on my profile. The main body of text was not only freaking hilarious, but it screamed 'I am a sapiosexual', nevertheless I still got messages written in text speak. Not only that, but it also talked about my interests. My interests are not the typical "I luv clubbin, being wiv mi mates and havin a laf", they are conversation starters.

I also deleted any cooing over my photos.

I can only suggest for those contacting a lady, whether for a shag or LTR, that they make it INTERESTING. Find a way to stand out and grab their attention and they will not give a damn if you are not Russell brand, or who whoever it is that gets them juicy.


Offline akauya

I think my approach has been completely different to some of you guys. Perhaps that counted for my positive experiences of POF.

You see I looked at POF to find relationships not sex. Ultimately I did get sex but it wasn’t my primary motivation. Like I said before I like dating women and when you find lovers sex is part of the relationship. 

As I posted on the first page I was extremely selective as to whom I wrote. Never wrote to people looking for ‘intimate encounters’ because they are just nutters. The one woman I was lucky to find who was actually looking for intimate encounters had her profile as looking for friends. She said she originally had her profile as looking for intimate encounters and all she got was loads of emails from guys sending pictures of their cocks - she quickly changed it.

Also I always went for the very clever profiles (intelligent women turn me on). The way I saw it at POF it was like a battle of brains. Because in real life I’m an ugly fucker am I going to be clever enough to seduce this woman with words alone?

Dani and Holly have given great advice if you still want to try your had at POF. And yes it takes a lot of effort but I see that as part of the game. Also your profile is very important. Be different and funny, remember we are competing with hundreds of other guys - we have to stand out.

Don’t think that it was easy though, I had to sift through hundreds of profiles, write loads and loads of emails, I never sent a cut and paste, always wrote specific emails related to what women said on their profiles. It’s a lot of hard work but in the end it pays off. As I said I looked for lovers not a quick shag; for quick shags I always punted.

If things improve at home I will try my hand at POF again, right now my free time is tightly controlled by 'er indoors.



« Last Edit: June 25, 2013, 01:03:55 PM by akauya »

Offline Kram

I wasn't saying that my experience of Pof was a bad one I was actually quite successful I'm still friends with benefits with some of the girls I met there ( although this had dried up due to them wanting a relationship or getting involved with a relationship with another guy )

I agree with everything you said akauya
« Last Edit: June 25, 2013, 01:15:17 PM by Kram »

Offline Kalium

You see I looked at POF to find relationships not sex. Ultimately I did get sex but it wasn’t my primary motivation. Like I said before I like dating women and when you find lovers sex is part of the relationship. 

That's the male approach, or rather what they assume when they are young and stupid - a phase they don't all escape from! Doesn't always turn out to be true, and in fact rarely it does. When I was younger I wasted an awful lot of my life anticipating something like that, but it usually didn't work out. Including 18 months with one girl I was very fond of. She was just stringing me along and it took one of my mates girlfriends to break that to me. Many years later I have found much to my surprise that the same game is played along just the same at all ages. I'll make a serious point while I'm thinking about it, and that is that we're constantly being told that it's an absolute myth that women aren't particularly interested in sex. The thing is though is that it's quite correct, not a myth at all, in the sense that they do enjoy it, but their priority is the power that it brings them, not the pursuit of it for it's own sake. A woman explained that to me, so it must be right - lol

all she got was loads of emails from guys sending pictures of their cocks - she quickly changed it.

Some guys are unbelievably stupid aren't they. That's about the last thing they want to see. Just think about how much you want to look at another guys cock (and how much you'd like to see graphic close-ups), and that's about how much interest they have until it's getting near time to make use of it.

Offline Kalium

I wasn't saying that my experience of Pof was a bad one I was actually quite successful I'm still friends with benefits with some of the girls I met there ( although this had dried up due to them wanting a relationship or getting involved with a relationship with another guy )

I've never got beyond reams and reams of bullshit correspondence. It is amazing how much they can churn out to avoid meeting for a cup of coffee and an informal chat. I think they play a game in their heads. Gives them a sense of power or something, which also shows up in the baiting techniques.

I once met someone off a magazine ad once. She acted like she had been expecting a white version of one of those Nigerian princes itching to pay all his money into her bank account, that she'd heard so much about. Never again!


Offline Kram

I've never got beyond reams and reams of bullshit correspondence. It is amazing how much they can churn out to avoid meeting for a cup of coffee and an informal chat. I think they play a game in their heads. Gives them a sense of power or something, which also shows up in the baiting techniques.

I once met someone off a magazine ad once. She acted like she had been expecting a white version of one of those Nigerian princes itching to pay all his money into her bank account, that she'd heard so much about. Never again!

I agree with the message ping pong it never ceases to amaze me how many are on there just to "chat" if I wanted to chat if ring my mates and get them down the pub for a giggle and drink

Offline Kalium

I like dating women.

I should have said before, that i do too. Very much so.

I get on really well with women generally, but the sex or lack of, soon becomes too much of a pressing issue for me. I hate wasting my life on futile and unfulfilling nonsense. I like the fun stuff, so I end up resenting the games that they play. Being self absorbed I think Nikki said. I don't think they fully realise what they are doing when they do that, or they simply don't care.

Hence why I'm here.  :)

Offline victor407

« Last Edit: June 25, 2013, 04:30:27 PM by victor407 »

Online Marmalade

What are you defining your success ratio as marms? Meet ups that lead to sex? Initial emails that lead to meet ups?

I reckon that with well worded initial emails, that don't read like a cut-and-paste job, you can probably get a meet rate approaching 1 in 6. If targeted at the right profile of course.

I agree with regard guys using pof to search for prossies. Horses for courses surely, guys should use aw for prossies.

I was thinking a shag. But stats are hard. I'd do an initial 1-2 sentence email as a standard enquiry to a possible, a bit more thoughtful for a high probable that looked genuine match of interests. Boot em out if a meet up not arranged within about 3 exchanges of email. Then 1 in 6 shag rate on meet ups.

I'm meeting someone from POF tomorrow evening!  ;)

I've punted on and off for about 15 years, but never when I've been in a relationship. My last one lasted 7 years and finished a couple of years ago. Ultimately, I want to be with someone so punting - for me - is 'treading water' (and at my age, keeping things in good working order too).

I have a bit of time on my hands at the moment and joined POF a few days ago. My profile is honest - my picture is recent and I say what I'm after - which is to have some dates, with a view to finding someone special.

Had a nice email chat today with a lady who lives about 15 miles away (not too close, not too far). She's a pretty good-looking blonde and pretty intelligent, with a good job in a good company. And she's seen my pic and gone for the pub meet...wish me luck!

I have an outstanding outcall appt. with PrettyPorcelainDoll on Friday night (also a pretty blonde!) which I will go through with unless it's love at first sight tomorrow night!  :D

What I must be VERY careful to do of course, is not to confuse the two dates and get a slap round the gob tomorrow night, and a very uneventful 'nice, chatty' meeting with PPD on Friday!  :wacko:  :D

Offline steviemac

Spotted loads in the Sheff area.

Offline what-a man

Why not just pick out a few you like the look and sound of and write something amusing instead of the normal all about me type of email.
I met one guy on there for sex for about a year after he sent me an email. He had read I love Rudyard Kipling poetry so he changed the end of each line in one of my favourite poems to mean something else totally (about sex), I then did the same back and we held a conversation like this for about a week each time changing the ending of each line of the poem, until I got stuck so just asked for his phone number as he had made me laugh so much I just wanted to meet up with him

Find something she has said she really likes and write your email from that, if it is quirky and not the same old you will get a response.  You need to stand out from the crowd as so many men are using it now and literally emailing everyone within a couple of hundred miles hoping for a free shag.  Even if you don't know anything about her hobbies you can always say I have never tried doing that but it sounds like something I may enjoy, can you tell me more about it.


Women are self absorbed, we want to know you are more interested in us than yourself, that our hobbies will be something you will be willing to be dragged along to without moaning, that you wont brush off spending time reading poetry to go out with your mates (even if that is what will really happen we don't want to know it) .  By all means talk about yourself but talk more about her

If this is what it takes to get a free shag, I'll rather pay for it. I dont know about other guys but this will be hard work for me.

Offline Andre 3000

I've seen while browsing one or two women on POF who had AW accounts.

As for me I have always found myself quite successful on these sites. But the competition is high and most guys don't do the groundwork to get through the door that and they probably have awful pictures or write blatant cut and paste messages. Trust me women will know.

On POF don't bother with the 'intimate encounters' part they're all trannies and timewasters. The exciting stuff is to be found in the Hang Out section I've met plenty of women just browsing this section. With some of the women you can get straight to the point after one or two messages others it takes a week or so. Meet for a coffee and maybe go back to their place.

Another good site is OK Cupid although unless you're moderately good looking and up to date on your music,film and general popular culture forgot it. Mostly arty women and creatives but oh so horny once you crack them. I had two women from there on the go last summer while the missus was away. One sexy thing from Switzerland and an aussie. Both with their own places and both up for fun.

The aussie girl sucked my dick on the second 'date' when I came over to watch a movie with her and she swallowed.  :cool:

The main hassle is finding the time though. Both to seek women out and meet them. That's why just meeting an escort is more smarter to me.
But hey sometimes it does feel better when you get to use your skills not your cash to seduce a woman.


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