Those contact sites are a complete waste of time. For men at any rate.
I disagree. In between punting I have lovers. POF has been a very useful hunting ground for me. Met a few, shagged a few. Maybe I've been lucky.
However the likelihood of finding a 20-odd year old, size 10, stunning woman, wanting to go out with me is beyond negligible. Thus I punt to achieve that. The kind of women I go for (as a lover) are around my age. Middle age, married, with an average body size. I prefer that because, apart from sex, I like the other aspects of dating a woman, meals out, theatres, art exhibitions, etc. Sex is just a small part of what I look for in a lover. For, raw sex with beautiful women, I punt.
Girls could have a whale of a time with the odds so much in their favour. But then again they don't need websites to meet guys.
I agree with the odds being stacked against men. But from what I gather. The quality of men is dire. Most idiots who contact women with cut and paste jobbies or one liners get deleted by women. Also if you have a good profile and write sensibly and are humorous in your communication you will get some success. It’s the old adage, make women laugh and you will get far.
As for your last comment about women not needing websites to meet men; I also thought that. And I was surprised to see some very beautiful women (young and old) looking to meet someone. It seems some women do find difficult to meet a “suitable” man. Some because their job or lifestyle gets in the way or because they want to go beyond their social circle or so they say. You have to read their forum.
Who knows maybe they are lying or perhaps the really beautiful profiles on POF indeed belong to sad old men pretending to be women.