Punting as a couple

[happily married]

Just wanted to say hello as I've been lurking for a while trying to gather some information. A few months ago wifey suggested hiring an escort which was a little out of the blue but I've tried to make the best of the situation 
I've started looking around and this weekend we actually booked a lady however unfortunately she stood us up despite having a confirmed booking (should I review / name names?). Nevertheless we're going to try again so I was just wondering whether anyone else has done this as a couple and has any experience or tips to share? We have never done anything like this so it's all very new to both of us!

[Steely Dan]

If the booking was confirmed, then you can review.  Or at minimum, name.  No politically correctness here.  Just say it.  We are pretty good at detecting BS.

Not done as a couple, but the basics are the same.  Book a well reviewed girl who offers the service you want. Tell her in advance as much as you can, but be factual, or she could (reasonably) think you a time waster.

Bon chance.

[happily married]

To be honest I was going to name her however she's been in contact today saying that it was a genuine emergency, she's very apologetic and has offered another time and discount. The cynical side of me doesn't believe her however to be fair she has excellent reviews on here so we'll give her the benefit of the doubt and try again

[ClarkeOfTheCourse]

saying that it was a genuine emergency

It always is! 

Family emergency was it?

[happily married]

Funny you should say that   

[anonyorks]

You need to name and shame

Out of curiosity is it half term this week where you're from?

[happily married]

I will name and shame if this doesn't work out, as said if it wasn't for her good reputation I already would have.

Half term was last week here!

[Billy no mates]

She was 100% bullshitting you. Its harder than you can imagine to get somone to join you and even harder to get someone good.

Advice
No.1 top advice.. the FIRST TIME you do it, concentrate on your wife, kiss and caress her, and (as much as you can) ignore the escort.
Get somone for your wife not for you (looks,figure wise).
Do candles/music/wine all the bollocks you have (probably) stopped doing with your wife when you are horny and just want a shag.
If you have AW feedback already yourself, then you need to speak to the girl and expalin things like outfit/hairstyle/underwear that YOUR WIFE likes.
Break the bank cost wise.

The first one should be perfect for her and a headache for you, to ensure plenty more 

If you're interested in some names of escorts I might be able to help depending on the area.


Definitely name and shame, she was bullshitting you, backed out, and had no intention of ever seeing you and your wife. You wil be saving other couples the same bollocks you had, and giving back to the site.

[Midori]

She was 100% bullshitting you. Its harder than you can imagine to get somone to join you and even harder to get someone good.

Advice
No.1 top advice.. the FIRST TIME you do it, concentrate on your wife, kiss and caress her, and (as much as you can) ignore the escort.
Get somone for your wife not for you (looks,figure wise).
Do candles/music/wine all the bollocks you have (probably) stopped doing with your wife when you are horny and just want a shag.
If you have AW feedback already yourself, then you need to speak to the girl and expalin things like outfit/hairstyle/underwear that YOUR WIFE likes.
Break the bank cost wise.

The first one should be perfect for her and a headache for you, to ensure plenty more 

If you're interested in some names of escorts I might be able to help depending on the area.


Definitely name and shame, she was bullshitting you, backed out, and had no intention of ever seeing you and your wife. You wil be saving other couples the same bollocks you had, and giving back to the site.

Great post. The problem with threesomes the first time is someone can end up feeling a bit left out. It's better that it's you rather than your wife, if you want a repeat performance. Let your wife suggest that she wants to see you with the escort, dont just jump straight in. And if this is your first time having a threesome, give your wife plenty of aftercare, tell her how sexy it was watching her with the escort, you appreciate how amazing it was that you both had that experience together, that kind of thing.

[RedKettle]

To be honest I was going to name her however she's been in contact today saying that it was a genuine emergency, she's very apologetic and has offered another time and discount. The cynical side of me doesn't believe her however to be fair she has excellent reviews on here so we'll give her the benefit of the doubt and try again

I have developed over time a zero tolerance to this sort of thing and have done several negative reviews where I have been let down at the last minute.  However if I was given notice and offered a discount I would probably roll with it, make the new booking and see what happens.

Not saying I would believe the "genuine emergency", more like I had been bumped for someone else.  However we all have to rearrange things in life and business so if done well with good comms and compensation then I would go with it.

[Richthescouser]

Just wanted to say hello as I've been lurking for a while trying to gather some information. A few months ago wifey suggested hiring an escort which was a little out of the blue but I've tried to make the best of the situation 
I've started looking around and this weekend we actually booked a lady however unfortunately she stood us up despite having a confirmed booking (should I review / name names?). Nevertheless we're going to try again so I was just wondering whether anyone else has done this as a couple and has any experience or tips to share? We have never done anything like this so it's all very new to both of us!

Hi,
I'm based in the NW with my wife who enjoys a good threesome.  The best tip we've found so far is look for girls who swing in their "real' lives.  We've found a few and the meetings have always been a lot of fun.

As others have said - let your wife enjoy the first time more than yourself, and make bloody certain that after the threesome you give her plenty of attention over the next few weeks, so she sees that it'd not instead of having sex just the two of you, that it's as well as.

If you're after suggestions round Manchester way let me know.

[happily married]

Many thanks for the tips and suggestions. I'll certainly be paying a lot of attention to wifey on the night although I think the idea of seeing me with another woman is more of a turn on for her then anything. She's never been with another girl so is very unsure of what to expect, I'm obviously hoping they'll have fun together but even she doesn't know if she'll be attracted to another lady or not. It's also going to be my first time with an escort so I'll admit I'm pretty nervous about it!
We've been married now for over 20 years (got together very young!) and I'm pretty confident that our relationship is strong enough to cope no matter what the outcome............

[Lovinlife]

My husband and I did this as a first over a year ago now. We have our second adventure planned. Escorts aren't new to him, but before he knew me and it was his first threesome and my first experience not only with an escort, but a woman. To say I was nervous was an understatement. Posts on here are spot on. He insisted it was all about me. He was involved, but he didn't take centre stage. We booked a lovely hotel room, we had a selection of music playing and wine on ice. We booked a beautiful woman that I chose. It was brilliant. It isn't something I want to do too regularly, but as something to add a new dimension, it's hard to beat.
I did a lot of research on this site before choosing. It was Mollie Matthews from Cardiff who lived up to alll expectations! From my perspective it is definitely worth breaking the bank to make sure it goes according to plan. Certainly if you ever want a repeat performance! Which I do.

[happily married]

Great post lovinlife, it's good to know others have done this as well and she called me at lunchtime today and said it's given her reassurance and she seems even keener on it now! I think being stood up was probably for the best as it's given her a little more time to prepare and to be honest I'm pretty damn nervous about it too as it's my first time with an escort as well.

We have a booking with the same lady again in a couple of weeks and the hotel is booked etc however after last time I'm going to have a backup plan (or 2!) so hopefully it will happen one way or another.

[Lovinlife]

I hope it does. Good luck!

[happily married]

Well tomorrow night is the night just really hoping she shows but either way I'll make sure I add a review on Saturday. We're both getting quite nervous but still very excited now that it's so close. 

[Billy no mates]

Well tomorrow night is the night just really hoping she shows but either way I'll make sure I add a review on Saturday. We're both getting quite nervous but still very excited now that it's so close. 

Good luck
 
Trust me, seriously, as boring as it sounds, play the long game, be smart, concentrate on the missus

[Midori]

Good luck! Hope it goes well! X

[tazz]

Why dont you try going on swing sites, plenty of girls who screw with couples.

[Richthescouser]

Why dont you try going on swing sites, plenty of girls who screw with couples.

(1)  Some girls on these sites are absolutely mental - stalker, bunny boiler, cause real trouble kinds.
(2)  Paying for the meeting helps clarify to the female that it is a business transaction to some degree.  Helps avoid blurred boundaries.
(3)  Paying for it means you can pick and choose exactly who you get to see naked - rather than who is willing to see you naked on a swinger site :-)

Plenty more reasons why I go for paid sex with my partner than swinging.

[happily married]

We did consider a swinging site but to be honest the idea of having a simple paid for transaction appealed more. In theory it should be simpler to arrange (although not so far!) and when it's done, it's done! If we don't like it we simply don't do it again whereas from what I can see with swinging theres more of a personal element to it which at this point neither of us want. That said if this goes well we're very open minded about these things 

Billy, that's exactly the plan, I'm pretty damn sure that I'll have a good time regardless so my focus will be making sure that she does. If it all goes well then I'd love to think there might be repeat performances 

[Billy no mates]

(1)  Some girls on these sites are absolutely mental - stalker, bunny boiler, cause real trouble kinds.
(2)  Paying for the meeting helps clarify to the female that it is a business transaction to some degree.  Helps avoid blurred boundaries.
(3)  Paying for it means you can pick and choose exactly who you get to see naked - rather than who is willing to see you naked on a swinger site :-)

Plenty more reasons why I go for paid sex with my partner than swinging.

I would agree with all this, and add..

Swingers implies that its a swap, and when we have tried these places, its tricky to explain "My partner wants to do your partner, but you cant touch etc". To be honest we have had some success, but invariably it is easier to pay and know exactly what you are going to get.

[arthur]

Well tomorrow night is the night just really hoping she shows but either way I'll make sure I add a review on Saturday.

So did this go ahead then?

[cueball]

Well tomorrow night is the night just really hoping she shows but either way I'll make sure I add a review on Saturday. We're both getting quite nervous but still very excited now that it's so close. 

Hurry up, it's Sunday now and we're all eagerly waiting your first review 

[Richthescouser]

I would agree with all this, and add..

Swingers implies that its a swap, and when we have tried these places, its tricky to explain "My partner wants to do your partner, but you cant touch etc". To be honest we have had some success, but invariably it is easier to pay and know exactly what you are going to get.

Glad to see someone else understands the issues :-)  Given the expense involved if things turn nasty between you as a result of this kind of fun, paying a few quid for an hour or two makes a lot of sense.  We try and go with girls who are swingers in real life anyway, we've found they tend to be the most fun.

[king tarzan]

If I had a wife or girlfriend a big fat never!!
Would or could not bear the thought of another man even touching her!!

[happily married]

Sorry for the delayed update, still trying to come to terms with what happened! 

Very glad to say the meeting went ahead and the lady met us in the hotel bar as arranged. We had a few drinks and then went up to the room for what can only be described as one of the best sexual encounters I've ever had! We were both very nervous however the lady put us completely at ease and it all seemed to flow really well, so well in fact that wifey already wants to arrange another meet! 

It turned out that my wife isn't hugely bi-sexual however she really got off on watching me with the other woman......which I suppose I can live with!

I'll post a review over the weekend but suffice to say I'm one very happy chappy right now.

[vt]

If I had a wife or girlfriend a big fat never!!
Would or could not bear the thought of another man even touching her!!

No, it's a female escort, not a male, that they're talking about.   

The OP is getting his cake and eating it!!     

[vt]

It turned out that my wife isn't hugely bi-sexual however she really got off on watching me with the other woman......which I suppose I can live with!

The sacrifices husbands have to make to keep their wives happy!! 

Lucky sod!! 

[Horizontal pleasures]

looking forward to his (their?) first review.

[Thecunninglinguist]

HM, It might be quite nice if you and the OH each wrote some of the review just to give us the perspective from both of you.
Not necessarily all the intimate details, just how each of you saw the experience. It's unusual and as is obvious quite a lot of us are genuinely interested.
Of course if you both would like to go into detail.......... 

[Home Alone]

looking forward to his (their?) first review.

That'd be interesting, happily married.

Could you and Mrs h m both do reviews? 

It'd be fascinating to see the difference in the way each of you saw the situation.       

[Richthescouser]

That'd be interesting, happily married.

Could you and Mrs h m both do reviews? 

It'd be fascinating to see the difference in the way each of you saw the situation.       

I'd be interested in this as well :-)

[Richthescouser]

Sorry for the delayed update, still trying to come to terms with what happened! 

Very glad to say the meeting went ahead and the lady met us in the hotel bar as arranged. We had a few drinks and then went up to the room for what can only be described as one of the best sexual encounters I've ever had! We were both very nervous however the lady put us completely at ease and it all seemed to flow really well, so well in fact that wifey already wants to arrange another meet! 

It turned out that my wife isn't hugely bi-sexual however she really got off on watching me with the other woman......which I suppose I can live with!

I'll post a review over the weekend but suffice to say I'm one very happy chappy right now.

Made up it worked out well for you both.  It is amazing fun I think, but there's only a few women who would be able to enjoy it properly without getting jealous.  Be wary about pushing for it again too soon, and make sure that you have some fun with the wife remembering what you got up to.  make sure she understands that she's the one you love, and the other woman was for the added fun, and away you go!

[Billy no mates]

That'd be interesting, happily married.

Could you and Mrs h m both do reviews? 

It'd be fascinating to see the difference in the way each of you saw the situation.       

This review was written by my partner of the time she spent alone with an escort https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=109077.0

[tazz]

Sorry for the delayed update, still trying to come to terms with what happened! 

Very glad to say the meeting went ahead and the lady met us in the hotel bar as arranged. We had a few drinks and then went up to the room for what can only be described as one of the best sexual encounters I've ever had! We were both very nervous however the lady put us completely at ease and it all seemed to flow really well, so well in fact that wifey already wants to arrange another meet! 

It turned out that my wife isn't hugely bi-sexual however she really got off on watching me with the other woman......which I suppose I can live with!

I'll post a review over the weekend but suffice to say I'm one very happy chappy right now.

So is you wife gonna join this site and book more escorts. Have to admit one thing id love to see is a women paying another one for me.

[Turtle Z]

Just wanted to say hello as I've been lurking for a while trying to gather some information. A few months ago wifey suggested hiring an escort which was a little out of the blue but I've tried to make the best of the situation 
I've started looking around and this weekend we actually booked a lady however unfortunately she stood us up despite having a confirmed booking (should I review / name names?). Nevertheless we're going to try again so I was just wondering whether anyone else has done this as a couple and has any experience or tips to share? We have never done anything like this so it's all very new to both of us!

Wasn't Maya of the North by any chance was it because she did this to us?

[Billy no mates]

Wasn't Maya of the North by any chance was it because she did this to us?

Yeah, the number of 'bi' escorts who suddenly get a family emergency on the night, is incredible 

[Grumpy Pumpy]

We're all, I'm sure, pleased to hear it went well.

But we're still waiting for the salacious detail via a review 

[Mr and Mrs Combs]

Made up it worked out well for you both.  It is amazing fun I think, but there's only a few women who would be able to enjoy it properly without getting jealous.  Be wary about pushing for it again too soon, and make sure that you have some fun with the wife remembering what you got up to.  make sure she understands that she's the one you love, and the other woman was for the added fun, and away you go!

Richthescouser........The whole jealousy issue can be avoided if both partners are completely honest beforehand, do a lot of research, and don't rush into it. That certainly worked for us.

Agree completely with what you say about not pushing too soon for it again. It's been about 18mths since our first time (hence why hardly any posts) and only now considering it again. Originally thought it may be a couple of times a year but decided that would be too often, it is a lot fun but by doing it this way it makes it extra special. And FUN is the key..........I hope the OP had great time.

[Marmalade]

With many women, not all, the fantasy is more desirable than the event itself. I've been asked by relationship o/h's and civvies thinking they 'might be interested in swinging club'. In nearly each case it has blown over or gone wrong. They really have to feel pretty committed to what is regarded traditionally as a bit of sheer fucking perversion. But good luck.

[Marmalade]

Yeah, the number of 'bi' escorts who suddenly get a family emergency on the night, is incredible 

funerals and periods are quite popular too.

[Marmalade]

If I had a wife or girlfriend a big fat never!!
Would or could not bear the thought of another man even touching her!!

I imagine if you ever have a wank with your left hand you will have to develop an alter-ego to avoid giving yourself a kicking (aiaiaiaia) 

[Midori]

I'm so glad it went well for you both! X

[Richthescouser]

Richthescouser........The whole jealousy issue can be avoided if both partners are completely honest beforehand, do a lot of research, and don't rush into it. That certainly worked for us.

Agree completely with what you say about not pushing too soon for it again. It's been about 18mths since our first time (hence why hardly any posts) and only now considering it again. Originally thought it may be a couple of times a year but decided that would be too often, it is a lot fun but by doing it this way it makes it extra special. And FUN is the key..........I hope the OP had great time.

I've met about five or six different girls with the wife, and probably 10 more on my own (with her full knowledge).  Fifes a lot easier when you can go window shopping with the wife rather than hide things ;-)