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Author Topic: Breaking the ice witha new escort  (Read 9205 times)

Not sure if this has been covered before but sometimes I find that when seeing a new escort, they seem a little apprehensive when the door opens and I step in. I try not to look nervous or anything, in fact I do smile and be cheerful but it sometimes doesn't work. It's possibly a natural response to a situation as the escort will never really know what the guy is like. Is there a certain way to break the ice and tactics fellow punters might use to turn slightly awkward situation in to a more less tense one? Is the escort at fault here for not being as welcoming/professional as they should be or am I not trying hard enough?

Offline Cactus

I find handing over the cash tends to break the ice rather nicely.

Offline toolboy55

Not sure if this has been covered before but sometimes I find that when seeing a new escort, they seem a little apprehensive when the door opens and I step in. I try not to look nervous or anything, in fact I do smile and be cheerful but it sometimes doesn't work. It's possibly a natural response to a situation as the escort will never really know what the guy is like. Is there a certain way to break the ice and tactics fellow punters might use to turn slightly awkward situation in to a more less tense one? Is the escort at fault here for not being as welcoming/professional as they should be or am I not trying hard enough?

I usually break the ice by getting my kit off and fucking them.  :P

Online EnglishRebecca121

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just be polite
escorts are used to all types of guys esp nervous ones

i normally offer a drink to break the ice

Offline Louise 100% British

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I find handing over the cash tends to break the ice rather nicely.

+1 :)

Offline sarahjayneleeds

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I usually go for a kiss, doesn't have to be a full on one if you don't want to  ;) followed by a "Hi" seems to work even with the nervous ones and generally starts a conversation going.:)

Offline Matium

Is there a certain way to break the ice and tactics fellow punters might use to turn slightly awkward situation in to a more less tense one?

Yes.

You give her the money.

 :D

I guess this was always difficult to pinpoint! :wacko: In my experience, not even handing the cash over does anything. Perhaps I was thinking telling a joke or coming up with ways to make her feel comfortable without freaking her out. Personally I feel that this initial start point could be the difference between a good and bad punt.

Offline smiths

I usually go for a kiss, doesn't have to be a full on one if you don't want to  ;) followed by a "Hi" seems to work even with the nervous ones and generally starts a conversation going.:)

Thats usually though no means always a sign of a good WG in my experience. I try to inject a bit of humour, it often fails with EE WGs though who dont get it or understand it. ;)

Offline Melb

I usually go for a kiss, doesn't have to be a full on one if you don't want to  ;) followed by a "Hi" seems to work even with the nervous ones and generally starts a conversation going.:)
Yes, something like "Gerroff grandma, eugh".

Offline LL

Give her a hug and find something to compliment her on - e.g. pretty eyes / nice hair / great outfit (but never bullshit - she'll know!)

Not sure if this has been covered before but sometimes I find that when seeing a new escort, they seem a little apprehensive when the door opens and I step in. I try not to look nervous or anything, in fact I do smile and be cheerful but it sometimes doesn't work. It's possibly a natural response to a situation as the escort will never really know what the guy is like. Is there a certain way to break the ice and tactics fellow punters might use to turn slightly awkward situation in to a more less tense one? Is the escort at fault here for not being as welcoming/professional as they should be or am I not trying hard enough?

That's something which has occurred to me, fmg; because before I retired, I had a job in which I had to visit people in their own homes and could never be totally sure about the reception I'd get on my first visit.

I'm an older punter who does his homework before usually selecting a mature/milf SP to visit.  Once I've booked an appointment, I usually send the girl an e-mail telling her a bit about me [including my approximate age and the fact that I'm disabled, but that the disability doesn't stop me enjoying myself in the bedroom].  This has two purposes: the girl gets a mental picture of what I'm like before we first meet; and, although I don't spell this out for her, she the option of declining the appointment if she wants to.  So far, none ever has.

Similarly, as was noted on another thread recently and as I know from personal experience, it can be an icebreaker if you're seeing one of the WGs who contribute to this Forum.

One little problem I've noticed on both my last visit to a local Parlour to see someone who'd been recommended on here and on a visit to a WG's flat in a modern block which is so energy-efficient that the corridor lights turn off automatically when sensors indicate that nobody's around is that my "Reactions" glasses couldn't adjust sufficiently quickly to dim lights!  In future, I'm wearing my spare [non-"Reactions"] pair!!

Offline Lz-129

Perhaps I was thinking telling a joke

I may be wrong here as I have only very limited experience but I am not sure many WG's like jokes especially with a guy they have only just met,
I tried it a couple of times as I was new and I thought it might help me but it really met with tumble weed
Jokes only seem to work with people you know well and tbh to the WG this is business and should be treated seriously
Of course with regulars I guess that will change


Offline toolboy55

I guess this was always difficult to pinpoint! :wacko: In my experience, not even handing the cash over does anything. Perhaps I was thinking telling a joke or coming up with ways to make her feel comfortable without freaking her out. Personally I feel that this initial start point could be the difference between a good and bad punt.

I know I've been a little flippant on this thread but it's a good question.
Punting is a false environment, ie having sex with someone you've just met is not how things work in civvy life (usually!)

You both know exactly why you're there so no real ice breaking is neccessary I find, a bit like going to the dentist (open wide! lol).
Massaging is a good starter if you don't fancy just getting stuck in.

A regular I have seen loads of times just strips off and lies on the bed while we're talking about the weather, traffic, holidays etc, I join her and away we go, although I still find it a bit of a shock (a nice one)

I usually joke about things cos I'm that type of person, mostly it's fine but if it falls flat it's a bit sad!  :D
« Last Edit: April 28, 2013, 01:00:53 PM by toolboy55 »

Offline Dani

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Any prossie who is good at her job should not need the ice breaking.  It i after all her job to make you feel welcome.

I find a quick snog int he hallway always a great way to break the ice as some do not expect it and are a little shocked as they assume nothing will happen until they have handed over the money.

I always greet everyone with a big smile which does tend to make them smile in return, follow it with a kiss then drag them into the bedroom or lounge depending on how long the booking is

most of the above, certainly a kiss or embrace and if you are put off a kiss or embrace by something, maybe a smell or a lack of attraction walk out. On the other hand I like to bring a modest gift, usually a bar of Green & Black chocolate or a bag of strawberries or something like that.
Voila, the ice shatters.

Offline Ben4454

I have personally never found this at all. I suspect you are just looking a bit nervous when she opens the door. Maybe it makes her think you do not find her attractive. Just be confident and talk to her like she is a old friend. Probably not the best idea to hand the money over right away as soon as she opens the door. A lot of girls like a bit of discretion.

I don't know about going for a kiss/hug right away either. Probably best to pay her a small compliment to make her feel more confident and enable her more sexy side to come out and warm up to you.

Jokes: Probably not a good idea if you're not funny naturally.

I know you are paying a escort a service and you expect these things to just happen without question but she isn't a machine a woman is a woman whether you're paying her or not. Just got to open them up just like you would if you were not paying for it.
« Last Edit: May 06, 2013, 06:23:53 PM by Ben4454 »
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Offline AnthG

I guess this was always difficult to pinpoint! :wacko: In my experience, not even handing the cash over does anything.
Know exactly what you mean and this is the time you basically can tell off the bat if this girl is cut out for this business or not.

All the ones who do poor at this stage are usually gone from this business for good within 2 months. All the ones who do poor at this stage likely also will not do any eye contact during sex too.

A girl who is good at this can make you feel welcome and enjoying your time if you suddenly started talking about socks to her.

And its not a shyness thing. As even girls who are shy can make you feel very welcome and can have eye contact during sex.

I have personally never found this at all. I suspect you are just looking a bit nervous when she opens the door. Maybe it makes her think you do not find her attractive. Just be confident and talk to her like she is a old friend. Probably not the best idea to hand the money over right away as soon as she opens the door. A lot of girls like a bit of discretion.

Jokes: Probably not a good idea if you're not funny naturally.

I know you are paying a escort a service and you expect these things to just happen without question but she isn't a machine a woman is a woman whether you're paying her or not. Just got to open them up just like you would if you were not paying for it.

I usually have the money ready to hand over; so, speciallly if they aren't wearing a dress [i.e. are in a negligée] is to say, "I can see your purse; can you pop this in it, please?"

Offline Tailpipe

Not sure if this has been covered before but sometimes I find that when seeing a new escort, they seem a little apprehensive when the door opens and I step in. I try not to look nervous or anything, in fact I do smile and be cheerful but it sometimes doesn't work. It's possibly a natural response to a situation as the escort will never really know what the guy is like. Is there a certain way to break the ice and tactics fellow punters might use to turn slightly awkward situation in to a more less tense one? Is the escort at fault here for not being as welcoming/professional as they should be or am I not trying hard enough?


Try having a straighter before you go on the punt , one off the top self just to chill.
Avoid looking like you have only been let out for the weekend as that tends to stress them out.


I usually have the money ready to hand over, "so, specially if they aren't wearing a dress [i.e. are in a negligée] is to say, "I can see your purse; can you pop this in it, please?"

Sorry; a drop too much Aussie Shiraz this evening; that should have read, "so, specially if they aren't wearing a dress [i.e. are in a negligée] is to say, "I can't see your purse; can you pop this in it, please?"  Mea culpa!

Online Marmalade

If you are very old and/or ugly, ask in advance, "Do you mind seeing someone who's very old and ugly?" Then they commit themselves in advance, ooze non-discrimination and can practice their false smile in the mirror as you ring the bell.

If you've got boogers hanging from your nose though, maybe dislodge them with a car mirror before ascending the heavenly staircase of her run-down tenement flat.

Offline AnthG

If you are very old and/or ugly, ask in advance, "Do you mind seeing someone who's very old and ugly?" Then they commit themselves in advance, ooze non-discrimination and can practice their false smile in the mirror as you ring the bell.

If you've got boogers hanging from your nose though, maybe dislodge them with a car mirror before ascending the heavenly staircase of her run-down tenement flat.
I do not think the awkwardness funkeemonkeeguy is describing, or the one I am, is due to the girl looking at him and saying, jesus what an ugly guy.

It is the girl has very little social skills, or is absolutely a nervious wreck, with poor social skills at dealing with things when a nervous wreck. So she is making up very forced small talk as she does not know how to handle the situation.

The best girls make the meeting a breeze. I remember some of my best bookings I was laughing as soon as I walked through the door as the girl was so happy, hyper and infectious.

The ones where the girl is cold and myserable have either been those who have been in this job far too long and are close to mechanical robots now. Or more likely given the girls I mostly book are new to this and finding out the hard way they are way not cut out for this type of work as it means actually interesting a guy and holding a conversation and not just opening her legs and getting paid (It sounds awful when I put it like that but that is the nitty gritty of what I bet most girls think this job is when actually its about giving a guy a fun time really).
« Last Edit: May 06, 2013, 09:45:52 PM by AnthG »

Offline Mr Choosey

Always wanted to have the balls to do it. But why do t you try walking in, saying hey. Then immediately pull your dick out. Might be a priceless reaction.

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Anth: I'm just trying to cover all the options. If it happens a lot then the guy is maybe doing something that doesn't help. It should make no difference with a first class prossie unless he's wearing his policeman's uniform and carrying King James Bible, but every little helps as they say. Shit prossies are so numerous that sometimes its more efficient for the punter to take control.

Mr Choosey - probably giving her some money first might help.  :sarcastic:


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