I hardly ever have sex on a punt, I have a tight foreskin which can make it quite painful at times. Also I have some ED issues and putting a condom on very quickly makes me go soft.
And there's no way in hell I'm even going to consider bareback.
So yeah kissing, cuddling, hand relief, oral and RO make up most of my time. Unless I'm feeling kinky and then I like being dominated. But rarely sex, maybe 10% the time for me?
As for recommendations, pretty sure there's not a single WG who won't be smiling internally about the prospect of not having to have a dick inside them for an appointment
Post on one of the regional boards for advice on who's the best in your area.