I too saw Scarlett Cavalli in September and had what I would rate as a Neutral time with her. She didn't seem happy, a shield of ice around her that needed to be defrosted first. No DFK any more just added to the sense of disconnection and distance. What a stark contrast to the girl who I once shared one of my most natural and thrilling girlfriend experiences with just a year or so earlier, the kind that blur the lines in your mind around whether this is just a job for her or if she really feels something, such was the naturally flowing passion. She was very good at this line of work alright and a smart but sweet girl with it.
I've met her more times than I can remember off the top of my head, but not so much recently. The previous time I saw her in the summer was positive, she was still the same happy slightly eccentric little bundle of enthusiasm as ever. So I can only conclude that she's not in the right place mentally right now coming back from the break she took after seeming to make a shit storm for herself on UKE turning the North East WG community against her. I noticed the girls she used to duo with no longer do, I wonder if girls she considered friends have turned their back on her.
I can understand that a lot of guys wouldn't "get" Scarlett. She's not like any other WG I've met, she's unique and has her own special ways, but that's what makes her interesting to me. She has an obsessive kind of personality, I can see why some say a little uptight, highly strung perhaps. I've actually wondered several times if she's on the aspergers spectrum. Let's get one important thing dealt with, this girl is a motor mouth, she can't stop talking. And the topics of conversation don't have to be that interesting, she'll just keep going to the Nth degree of detail about something that you'd think nobody would ever care that much about. But it isn't a time wasting tactic, I explain why below, it's just the way she is. Other working girls who know her have told me she is like that 24/7, none stop natter box.
To clear up a couple of points that may come across as unwilling she has always squeezed her thighs closer together while receiving oral, it's like an involuntary muscle response for her, it's not that she doesn't want you doing it. Also she's always reached for the phone in the downtime moments in between the action, but that doesn't bother me. I can see how guys could get annoyed by the phone being her source of conversation and see is as time wasting but but that's probably because they haven't got on terms with the other big thing that most guys won't "get" about Scarlett. That is that she doesn't initiate the physical contact, she doesn't make the first move. That's just her way of doing things too, it's not a time wasting tactic but combined with the none stop talking it could come across as that. I'm smart enough and experienced enough with women to have realised quickly in my first booking with her that this is her style, you have to go and get what you want from her.
So with Scarlett you do the driving, you go in for the kiss, you undress her, position her where you want her, ask her to do the things from her likes you want to do. I've talked about this with her and that's what she prefers, if you're new to her she doesn't really know what you like or want and doesn't want to offend or do something you don't like. That may not suit some guys, there's a feeling in the back of your mind that you're crossing some kind of line as you get her boobs out and pop them in your mouth while she's nattering on none stop about switching her utility providers at home for a cheaper deal or some such small talk. But that's the unique appeal of her for me.
Or it was. Maybe it's just a phase of unhappiness she's going through because of recent events on UKE, maybe she's unhappy because of something else. Either way the last time I saw her in September left me feeling sad for her. I didn't talk about it with her, I think I cheered her up a little, I defrosted the ice and made her burst out laughing a couple of times and for a few minutes saw the happy Scarlett again before the sad face returned. I don't think it's that she hates this line of work now, and she's not trapped in it, she doesn't absolutely need to do this, but something is eating her up inside.
Maybe her whole life is a twisted web of secrets and lies and it's taking its toll on her, this line of work can chew up and spit a young girl out a jibbering wreck. Maybe she just feels sorry for herself after misjudging things badly a couple of months ago, who knows, but I hope if she carries on feeling down that she takes a longer break or stops altogether as this line of work is not going to be the thing that helps her get back to being a happy positive energy bunny again. And we won't have a positive feeling time with her until she's happier again.
