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Offline hairer

What the ever living fuck?

I am 19 years old (yeah, I know...) and took one 25mg Viagra pill, I was nervous as fuck as I was going to lose my virginity, and I just couldn't really stay that hard. I was about 70% hard and tried missionary, was able to insert into her but any time I tried to rapidly fuck her missionary style my dick just became softer. I never went fully limp but at age 19 with the aid of viagra I was still only semi hard.

It was embarrassing, I am willing to bet a 70 year old man could have done better. The escort herself was lovely, but my god I don't know how the fuck I was so bad.

Anyone with similar experience? Solutions? Was it just nerves?

On the plus side now that I lost my virginity I don't really feel anxious anymore.

Offline cueball

It's nerves, don't sweat it.

Ten tons of viagra won't get rid of your nerves.

You've done the (semi) hard bit, keep plugging away, relax and enjoy yourself.

Offline hantshagger

viagra shouldnt really be necessary, but it sounds like nerves were biggest thing for you. 

Next time try and relax a bit more, just enjoy the company for a bit, and let her lead you, this might help  (I hope).

LL

  • Guest
Not everyone here would agree but my tip is to find a prossie who knows how to do a decent sensual massage. Book an hour with her, let her just massage you for half the time then in the latter half let her turn things up a notch and just do whatever feels natural and comfortable for you. But above all just relax.

Or... What the absolute living fuck?! A 19 year old booking prossies. It's true what they say then - youth really is wasted on the young. If I was 19 again I'd be out looking for civvy girls to fuck not spending all my cash on whores :D

GolfNut

  • Guest
Probably not the best way to pop your cherry me old fruit but spilt milk and all that.

As the others have said a young lad of your age shouldn't need to use Viagra, but if you're going to use it make sure you are fully hydrated, take it on an empty stomach at least 3-4 hours after eating and drink lots of water. Maybe try 50mg if 25mg didn't work so well and ensure you take it an hour before sex.

That should get you up and ready which in turn should boost your confidence.

Good luck on your next punt kiddo  :drinks:

Offline OakTree

I wouldn't knock 70 year olds. Some of them on here could fuck for Britain.

It's highly unlikely at your age you have physical problems and it's almost certainly nerves. It's a bit of a vicious circle. You're anxious therefore your cock softens, because it softens you become more anxious.

Losing your virginity is a big thing but remember this, the WG isn't bothered, she's not going to think anything of your piss poor performance and once you're out the door you will be a faded distant memory. Once you get your head round that and realise you're not there to show her what a stud you are you will find you'll be more relaxed. You're going there for your enjoyment not hers.

Offline Rockhead

Solutions? Was it just nerves?

Assuming you're in reasonable physical health, it was definitely just nerves. You were understandably on edge in this potentially intimidating / embarrassing situation and unable to let go. The good news is, the way to get around this is: lots of practice :)

You could also try going without wanking for a long time before a punt, and try to focus on enjoying the experience for what it is, rather than hanging on to any preconceptions about what should happen or how you should perform.

Offline hairer

Thanks for the responses guys!

As for why I saw an escort? I wanted to lose my virginity before I sought out "real" girls. Because I thought an escort would be more forgiving of a bad performance, whereas if I had my first time with a non escort she'd likely gossip and be less understanding.

I very much plan to pursue sex with non escorts but here and there I'll punt.

Offline cueball

Just relax and enjoy yourself at your pace.

The massage advice could be a good starter for you. A nice, easy going massage and take things slowly at your pace.

You'll wonder what all the fuss was about once you've learned to relax.

Choose a well reviewed lass though, you're not savvy enough to go toftting yet.

To help you, me and you will look after your pretty civvy girlfriend.... You can be the good looking fucker that takes her out, treats her like a princess and showers her in gifts and I'll be the old cunt that nails her and makes her squeal :D
« Last Edit: September 15, 2016, 10:48:07 pm by cueball »

Offline MrMatrix

Out of interest hairer who did you see :unknown:
The preceding advice is good listen to it young man and you should be fine :thumbsup:

Offline OakTree

Thanks for the responses guys!

As for why I saw an escort? I wanted to lose my virginity before I sought out "real" girls. Because I thought an escort would be more forgiving of a bad performance, whereas if I had my first time with a non escort she'd likely gossip and be less understanding.

I very much plan to pursue sex with non escorts but here and there I'll punt.


I very much plan to pursue sex with non escorts too, have done for years. Strangely though I always end up fucking escorts. As with most things in nature, it always finds its easiest course. Good luck though.

Offline hairer

I actually had a massage and got rock hard, it was when the penetration began that my nerves sort of kicked in, it was weird, I guess...lol

Saw a girl from NorthernBelles, she was terrific

Offline SJ772

As others have said sounds like nerves/performance anxiety. It's good that you got hard to start with, probably anxiety over you performance once rubbered up is the issue.   

When I have problems maintaining wood, most girls dive on and try to suck me back hard, it never works, so I just ask them to 'make out' for a few minutes and it always works, take the pressure off having a hard on and it normally recovers all on it's own.

LL

  • Guest
As for why I saw an escort? I wanted to lose my virginity before I sought out "real" girls. Because I thought an escort would be more forgiving of a bad performance, whereas if I had my first time with a non escort she'd likely gossip and be less understanding.
Find a virgin like yourself. And one that won't gossip no matter how shit it turns out.

Offline Plan R

As others have said its probably just nerves.

One thing springs to mind though
If your 19 that would mean your sexually formative years 13 - 19 have all taken place in the era of high speed internet.

High speed internet (HSI) enables viewing hundreds of beautiful women getting fucked every-which-way during one internet wanking session. There is a lot of credible research out there saying that this level of choice re-wires the dopamine (pleasure) centres in your brain. The effect is heightened at your age as the brain is still forming.

The re-wiring, and the choice of hundreds of porn beauties to view each day lowers your pleasure in the real thing.

In my formative years (early 80's) I was lucky to get 1 new wank mag a month
(at the risk of sounding like a Monty-Python sketch)

Anyway - give the porn a miss if you can for a week or two before seeing your next brass (prossie).
Check out these websites for what I'm on about - it might be the answer;

Your Brain on Porn
Your Brain Rebalanced
NoFap

I'm not coming at this from a moralistic standpoint (obviously).
I think porn is neutering generations of men and we don't even know it!
I'm happier/hornier since I've been cutting it right back

All the best!
 

rbh

  • Guest
Just go again, you'll be fine.... or maybe try guys out.

Offline hairer

Find a virgin like yourself. And one that won't gossip no matter how shit it turns out.

I'm not a virgin anymore though...

I did penetrate her, so I am no longer a virgin.

Offline hairer

As others have said its probably just nerves.

One thing springs to mind though
If your 19 that would mean your sexually formative years 13 - 19 have all taken place in the era of high speed internet.

High speed internet (HSI) enables viewing hundreds of beautiful women getting fucked every-which-way during one internet wanking session. There is a lot of credible research out there saying that this level of choice re-wires the dopamine (pleasure) centres in your brain. The effect is heightened at your age as the brain is still forming.

The re-wiring, and the choice of hundreds of porn beauties to view each day lowers your pleasure in the real thing.

In my formative years (early 80's) I was lucky to get 1 new wank mag a month
(at the risk of sounding like a Monty-Python sketch)

Anyway - give the porn a miss if you can for a week or two before seeing your next brass (prossie).
Check out these websites for what I'm on about - it might be the answer;

Your Brain on Porn
Your Brain Rebalanced
NoFap

I'm not coming at this from a moralistic standpoint (obviously).
I think porn is neutering generations of men and we don't even know it!
I'm happier/hornier since I've been cutting it right back

All the best!

I was actually doing NoFap for a bit but half-arsing it, edging to pictures on AdultWork. I'll try the full NoFap but I always panic whenever I hit a flatline.

Offline mrdiamond77

It's mainly nerves i'm sure.  Just relax, quit watching any porn, if you do, and go on a wanking break for a few days, that may help you. :hi:

Offline binbag

Interesting post about the internet. I hadn't really thought about that.
But that's not why I'm posting this . I just wanted to add my voice to the advice you've been given here -  try to relax a bit. And, at 19, I would definitely avoid the Viagra. Accept that it's normal to be nervous especially at first, and it's not normal to perform like a porn star. Some of the best fucks I've ever had (and I'm approaching 70 yrs old) started out pretty relaxed and lazy and then the thrusting gradually got deeper, stronger and more vigorous and then developed into that mad sweaty frenzy of being fucked senseless. Even at my age I haven't quite said goodbye to the "mad, sweaty frenzy"  but I have to admit it is less frequent than it used to be. However, slow and lazy is still as enjoyable as it ever was so just relax into it and see where it brings you. Remember too that a lot of women prefer a slower gentle approach and don't like to feel rushed. A professional working girl, unfortunately, has to pay some attention to the clock so if you do continue to visit escorts check out the reviews and look for a girl who might be less of a clock watcher.  Enjoy your sexual exploits and remember, sex isn't dirty - but it is when you're doing it right!
         

Offline Happiness

It's nerves and anxiety. I had the same thing happen to me on my first punt and I'd fucked 100's of times before (obviously not 100's of girls, I just mean total fucks)
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Offline stevedave

How long prior to the session did you take the Viagra? Maybe it hadn't had enough time to kick in, especially if you'd eaten beforehand.

Like the guys above have said, sounds largely like nerves. At 19 you shouldn't really need it, but each to their own, I'll not knock you for trying it.

And yeah, next time you punt, no wanking for a few days beforehand...I've been guilty of this a few times myself  :D

Offline NIK

What the ever living fuck?

I am 19 years old (yeah, I know...) and took one 25mg Viagra pill, I was nervous as fuck as I was going to lose my virginity, and I just couldn't really stay that hard. I was about 70% hard and tried missionary, was able to insert into her but any time I tried to rapidly fuck her missionary style my dick just became softer. I never went fully limp but at age 19 with the aid of viagra I was still only semi hard.

It was embarrassing, I am willing to bet a 70 year old man could have done better. The escort herself was lovely, but my god I don't know how the fuck I was so bad.

Anyone with similar experience? Solutions? Was it just nerves?

On the plus side now that I lost my virginity I don't really feel anxious anymore.

Welcome to the limp dick club.  :rolleyes:

DannyJames

  • Guest
And one that won't gossip no matter how shit it turns out.

All women gossip. My advice to the OP is to quickly learn how to not give a fuck and just accept that women will always talk to someone about you.


Offline SamLP

Kill the nerves, you're there to fuck, not impress. Each person is different, but I love to kiss during sex and it helps me stay rock hard so that could do the trick for you. Find someone who's very sensual, passionate, kisses non-stop and fucks the virginity out of you.

Offline regular_guy

Did you take the viagra one hour beforehand ?

I do find that works and then start off quite slow with them,  put yourself at ease and it just happens.  The worst thing is to overthink the situation and keep thinking "what if i'm doing ti wrong" or "what if she doesn't like it" or "i'll do this in a minute".  Just do what makes you happy at that moment in time.

If you still want to try one again to see if it happens again then,  i'm unsure who you saw,  but go with a bit more mature ,  more experienced WG and they will know how to handle you.

Offline Anadin

Nerves and poor health killed any chance of an erection on my first punt. Nerves will improve with time and the right WG.

potato

  • Guest
Unless you are planning a 6 hour sexathon I would kick the Viagra into touch if I was you at your age. Leave it to when you really do need it. There is a danger of you falling into psychological need to use it all the time.   If it's nerves then the Viagra won't help anyway..

Offline threechilliman

Yeah, I agree, it's the nerves. Try again and you'll be fine as you can never do that first punt again. Make sure you pick a decent girl though - use the reviews in your area to find one.

tcm

Offline Maltese

Taking viagra at your age does not make any sense. Also, viagra can be unreliable, it depends on people. In your case, abviously it's nerves.
Why don't you go to a massage parlour, it might be less intimidating than an escort.

Offline dc0582

First time I went for a punt, all I managed was a hand job, nerves and brain freeze got the better of me. Second time though, a while later was all great. Give it some time and have another go. You don't need viagra!

Edit - pints are beer, punts are women
« Last Edit: September 16, 2016, 01:16:16 pm by dc0582 »

Offline stevedave

First time I went for a pint, all I managed was a hand job

Fuck, where do you drink?!  :D


Offline two20

I couldn't walk past a bakery without getting a hard on at your age. You don't need viagra, just don't try too hard and relax. I know it's easy to say but it is the answer.

Offline rathbone

I couldn't walk past a bakery without getting a hard on at your age.
Know what you mean, but your comment made me smile..  :D

OP - I agree with everyone else who's contributed, hopefully you can relax and enjoy it next time and things will go fine.

Offline zigzag

I honestly wasn't sure if I'd be able to get it up with a WG, but luckily chose a really good one who does proper DFK and is really good at her job and put me completely at ease and was up like a rock in seconds harder than its been for years, and im in mu 50's use this forum to find a good one and you should be able to relax and enjoy