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Author Topic: This secret life we lead?  (Read 7042 times)

The only people who know of my "guilty secret" are those now-retired WGs & fellow-punters I've met through punting and who, over the years, have become friends.  None of my non-punting friends or my relatives knows about my punting.

Because I live in a urban area which is well-provided with WGs, it's possible for me to make sure that I don't punt too locally or in towns where family and/or friends live, thereby reducing the risk of bumping into people I know in any other context.  Also being retired, I'm "time-rich" so can go punting when most of my friends will be at work.

I'm fortunate that I took up this addictive pastime some time ago after the late Mrs Rochdull lad had died.  As I said on another thread some weeks ago, if I ever got into another relationship, that'd have to be the end of my punting career because: 1] I hope it'd be a full  ;) relationship; and 2] I'm such a bad liar, that I'm sure I'd be found out which would spell the end of the relationship.

Offline smiths

I can see all angles of the discussion in this thread,all are valid,in an ideal world i wish I could talk openly like JRC but I can't  and never will be able to. My only thoughts  are that should I die unexpectedly that I can protect those I care about from hurt. So I have a "doomsday" letter in care with my will - it will be sent to 2 separate friends I can trust and contains instructions on how to find my punting phone and passwords etc for forums etc so my online persona can be totally deleted (apart from here due to rules)and messages to post before they do this,I'm 100% certain that  the people I've selected would do this discreetly.

Some may think this creepy or excessive ,but I knew of a WG who died suddenly,her partner knew what she did but it took him over 12 months to get access to some of her accounts as he didn't know the passwords  etc.

Its a lot like punting really,plan for the worst and it can only get better!!

Blackburnian

Certainly not excessive or creepy in my view, i have discussed this with punters myself. If a person believes it will save their loved ones further heartache i think its a good idea. The only downside is if you fall out with the trusted friends of course.

I can see all angles of the discussion in this thread,all are valid,in an ideal world i wish I could talk openly like JRC but I can't  and never will be able to. My only thoughts  are that should I die unexpectedly that I can protect those I care about from hurt. So I have a "doomsday" letter in care with my will - it will be sent to 2 separate friends I can trust and contains instructions on how to find my punting phone and passwords etc for forums etc so my online persona can be totally deleted (apart from here due to rules)and messages to post before they do this,I'm 100% certain that  the people I've selected would do this discreetly.

Some may think this creepy or excessive ,but I knew of a WG who died suddenly,her partner knew what she did but it took him over 12 months to get access to some of her accounts as he didn't know the passwords  etc.

Its a lot like punting really,plan for the worst and it can only get better!!

Blackburnian

I think that's an excellent idea, Blackburnian.  I've done something similar with a pal who I know is trustworthy because we first met as fellow-punters, although he's now retired.

Offline Jimmyredcab

I can see all angles of the discussion in this thread,all are valid,in an ideal world i wish I could talk openly like JRC but I can't  and never will be able to. My only thoughts  are that should I die unexpectedly that I can protect those I care about from hurt. So I have a "doomsday" letter in care with my will - it will be sent to 2 separate friends I can trust and contains instructions on how to find my punting phone and passwords etc for forums etc so my online persona can be totally deleted (apart from here due to rules)and messages to post before they do this,I'm 100% certain that  the people I've selected would do this discreetly.

Some may think this creepy or excessive ,but I knew of a WG who died suddenly,her partner knew what she did but it took him over 12 months to get access to some of her accounts as he didn't know the passwords  etc.

Its a lot like punting really,plan for the worst and it can only get better!!

Blackburnian

I find this post rather strange.
I assume your real name is Mr Jones or Mr White and not Blackburnian.

Why on earth would you want anything deleted in the event of your death. ???????

Maybe I am missing something. ??

Offline moondance

I find it strange how people talk openly about visiting Thailand, A'DAM, Prague ect, & then think it wrong to  visit a WG here  :dash:

Agree.
Maybe as on holiday, there is a sense of "not real life" when in Thailand/etc.

Offline Panda989

Though I don't have a dooms day plan, I have made sure that I am very good about keeping the lives I lead very separate.

My partner would not be thrilled for sure as I would never see my kids again even though in her culture (Asian) punting is very well accepted though illegal, it's tolerated by partners as the sexes are separate though not equal.

Seeing a WG isn't so bad, it's having a mistress that will really get you bent over a barrel.

So since I live with a VERY legitimate fear of never seeing my kids again knowing that my partner can kidnap them and her government will protect her and I can do nothing about it I have no choice but to not lie but rather omit. If asked I would for sure lie. But she believe no women would want me anyway because I'm such a pain in the ass to live with.

But it's much easier being smart about what I do and just leave out the details of what happens whilst away on business.

I love my partner but I also have needs that she can't fulfill and because I love her I understand her position on things and fulfill the needs elsewhere.

Tbh I'm sure she knows to some extent. I mean not many blokes will be gone for 3 months straight and not start seeing what options they have available to them. She cant be that stupid to think otherwise.  But I think she just believes that since I'm not a idiot about it, she can over look it as long as I keep up my part if the family dynamic and love and provide for them.

It does help that I can lie like a politician though just in case.

yep i dont get it either Bb.

Is it not enough to just log out and delete history? 

Before you die :D

Offline tootingpopfront

life is all about experiences and this life lets us sample all types of girls and scenarios-no one gets hurt-girls get paid-guys are serviced -no problem at all-enjoy it

Offline Knick

It doesnt bother me that no-one around me knows, just that I continue having fun. Keeping it a secret just makes life easier because that way you dont have to deal with judgemental coworkers & family members

my mate had no qualms about telling friends he was mongering but it definately puts off potential girlfriends if they find out which is what happened to him.

Offline Melb

I quite like having a secret life and don't feel the need to share with anyone else.

Tony Montana

No one knows my secret hobby, which can be a bit frustrating when you are with mates or colleagues and you think they might be a kindred spirit.  But I guess it is better that way and the only contact I have with other punters is by anonymous forums.

Although sometimes I think that the only thing I have in common with other forum users is paying for sex, I don't seem to agree with, or have affinity with many members.

Offline Jimmyredcab



Although sometimes I think that the only thing I have in common with other forum users is paying for sex, I don't seem to agree with, or have affinity with many members.

That is because forums attract different types of punters, some are truly devoted fluffies and some are more realistic about this industry.
I disagree with many of the lads on here, especially the ones who seek out the cheapest punts with no regard to the quality of the girl or the service she offers.

Offline Whore Of Babylon

That is because forums attract different types of punters, some are truly devoted fluffies and some are more realistic about this industry.
Very true. The 'type' of people on this forum is diverse and very often the only thing we have in common is the pay4play industry. Shows that punting is an all embracing hobby. Stereotypical views on the average punter are just that narrow and often incorrect.
I would also say the same for prostitues.

I keep my whoring secret from my parents and work colleagues  (not my whoring ones obviously). All my friends and lovers know. I couldn't be really close to someone and keep such a secret.
« Last Edit: February 08, 2013, 02:23:23 PM by Whore Of Babylon »

Offline Knick

No one outside the business knows. And I plan to keep it that way till I die. Or get found out..

Offline bestbefore

The only creature I tell is my cat, and he is sworn to secrecy!

Offline dilettante

Dani's POV makes some sense to me as I am always "rehearsing" conversations in my head, then thinking, "Hang on, that's too much information!" - but then the conversations would probably never happen anyway!  I love the idea of a secret life though, I always try to arrange punts while or before I go away so I can enjoy the euphoria of it on my own without all the sharks at work getting in on the case - it's like turning the tables on Life, at the end of the day money doesn't matter (at least, not while you've got it) but being able to pick some 20-something and shag her on demand keeps me going for weeks before and after!

Offline willbred

Whether I like it or not, punting carries a social stigma. Against this background,I am simply not prepared to put my(well-paid) job, marriage, home and all I have worked bloody hard for at risk by telling ANYBODY, end of.

I respect JRC's viewpoint but he doesn't give a feck - sometimes, wish I didn't but I do and I have to live with that.
Banning reason: Multiple accounts (willbred, Diplomat65)

Offline kong

i personally don't give a fuck who knows

only people i don't tell are my family
some co-workers because i require to not get fired from my job because i need money for punting
and girls that i want to hook up with obviously  :D

Offline smiths

Whether I like it or not, punting carries a social stigma. Against this background,I am simply not prepared to put my(well-paid) job, marriage, home and all I have worked bloody hard for at risk by telling ANYBODY, end of.

I respect JRC's viewpoint but he doesn't give a feck - sometimes, wish I didn't but I do and I have to live with that.

Sounds very sensible to me, as i always advise if a punter has anything to lose by telling people dont tell anybody just in case.

Years ago i very nearly told a very good mate of mine, it was very fortunate for me i didnt as a while later we had a terminal falling out and i have no doubt he would of told my then partner out of spite. :hi:

Offline theotherside

Its a vicious circle. Its got such a sigma because many men dont come out of the closet and they don't come out of the closet because there is such a stigma.

The only way the stigma dies is if more of you came out of the closet which is incredibly difficult when you get vilified in the media everyday. I find it hard living a secret which is why most my friends know what I do. My parents dont but they never really know about my sex life.

The stigma gets on my nerves. When I get womens lib types telling me that all of my clients are evil blah blah blah. :manhater: I will often be the first prostitute they have ever met and when I tell them they are chatting bollocks they won't listen to me. I ask them if they have ever met a punter and they say things like "god no, I don't hang around in those circles" I delight in telling them that they have more than likely met one and they don't know about it.

Don't get me wrong I am definitely a feminist I just dont hate men.

Offline James999

Its a vicious circle. Its got such a sigma because many men dont come out of the closet and they don't come out of the closet because there is such a stigma.
The only way the stigma dies is if more of you came out of the closet which is incredibly difficult

you sound like a bloke worried about telling his mum he's a poof  :scare:


Offline skittish

i personally don't give a fuck who knows

only people i don't tell are my family
some co-workers because i require to not get fired from my job because i need money for punting
and girls that i want to hook up with obviously  :D

Are you sure you don't give a fuck who knows?  :lol:

Its no secret that I enjoy punting. People at work love my stories and most wish they could do the same. I've given links to my reviews to atleast half a dozen colleagues. Then again I don't work in the corporate world. Some think its disgusting but then I do explain why I do it.

Here's why. I've just got divorced and was separated for over two years. I remained faithful and sexless for this entire time. Now I don't want to go a pick up some girl in a pub and then bang her. Too much hassle. I just need to get laid. I also don't want to lead some girl on that actually likes me. What if she is potentially a good long term option, and I fuck things up by just using her for sex? Sure there's some girls that are easy lays and are easily picked up.  For now I'm going to punt and enjoy my hit and misses.

I'm telling myself this is just a temporary situation and will end up dating again at some stage. The ink is still drying on my divorce papers. I'm surprised at how acceptable punting is to most people I work with. And even those that don't approve seem to understand why I'm doing it. Funnily enough the woman think it OK. As long at the girls are doing it voluntarily, they quite like the idea of them making money from men. Girl power kind of thing.

I've even got a few male mates at work that are thinking about escorting. If woman can charge for sex then so can they. Fucking hell I've even considered it.

Offline theotherside

you sound like a bloke worried about telling his mum he's a poof  :scare:

Haha well I suppose it is the same. Homosexuality used to have a massive stigma but now with more and more people being open about their sexuality its no longer taboo. We all have a closet I suppose.


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