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Author Topic: Punting v. Girlfriend  (Read 4834 times)

Offline dave123

What are the advantages? What are the disadvantages? Of course I have my own views but I'd really like to know what everyone else thinks. Cheers. Dave.

Offline k

The grass is always greener on the other side.  When you're punting you're thinking a gf is what you want, and vice versa.

Offline Lurtz

Punting is hollow and meaningless, but after a while you begin to see these as advantages.

I prefer girlfriend anytime.

After every punt i feel like i never got my money's worth and my girlfriend would have done so much more than the WG

Offline Jimmyredcab

I prefer girlfriend anytime.

After every punt i feel like i never got my money's worth and my girlfriend would have done so much more than the WG

Then why carry on punting. ??????????

Offline Lz-129

That depends on money's worth...my other half is expensive too. But she don't want to know me

I've no idea if that's a good thing or not

Offline Lz-129

When i joined the site the 1st post I read was someone claiming a gf would blow you better that a wg

I took that with a pinch of salt, can't find that post now but I find that hard to believe in every case


A perspective from a 40-something guy with 2 serious failed relationships behind him...

I realised quite recently that 95% of my desire to be in a sexual relationship with a woman was about what friends and family would think, and 5% was about what I actually wanted.

I had my first serious (sexual) girfriend at 17 and was never alone until I married for the first time at 23.  I stayed with her for 9 years & 2 kids, then was single for 3 years, then married the second one and had a 3rd child, then it all fell apart a few years ago.

Luckily for me, I have a good relationship with my daughter and sons, even though we all live in different places, and ex-wife #2 is a horrible, bitter harridan (#1 was a bit mental but basically a sweet girl).

I married the first time for love (or so I thought), (met her through my sister - they worked together), and stayed married through lust (she is an ectomorph with nice tits and was even skinny throughout both pregnancies).  But she was clinically bi-polar and in the end the fabulous highs just weren't enough to compensate for the atrocious lows.  The second time I was a bit lonely and I kind of fell into it, unfortunately she was the same so it kind of fizzled out, but not before we had both had affairs and treated each other badly and basically converted a pair of good friends into bitter enemies...

Anyway, I am now reconciled with my true nature, which is to have sex from time to time with hot young women, and fill my free time with life-affirming friends both male and female.  It is true that I am currently seeing a WG as a civvy, and she is very lovely, but I have no emotional commitment, it's more about getting a free shag (though she seems very happy with the deal).

So, after all that rambling - for me, PUNTING FOR EVER.  I will die alone, but then we all do tbh, and at least I'll have the memory of 1000 bjs to comfort me into the grave...









Offline lovingfacials

It's simple for me

Punting = hooby, an escape from reality for an hour, an interest, etc........its not real and shouldnt be viewed as such

G/F or Wife = Is life......kids, houses, family, relationship, Soul mates, watching a movie on a snowy night, getting old together........

They should be viewed for what they both are.

I punt when when I'm single, after the breakdown of my second marriage I'm in no rush to enter another relationship , I've found that I'm a happier person when I'm single, it allows me to indulge in my selfishness , but if I meet a woman tomorrow who changed my perspective , I'd stop punting.
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What are the advantages? What are the disadvantages? Of course I have my own views but I'd really like to know what everyone else thinks. Cheers. Dave.

A girlfriend for love and kids if thats what you desire, but it usually in my experience leads to earache sooner or later, and punting for no strings sex and variety of women and the ability to just walk away afterwards. It can involve being stitched up by scumbags though and be an expensive pastime.

If you dont want kids and/or arent looking for love, a girlfriend for as much sex as you can handle if your lucky and especially during the honeymoon period and as a best friend and companion in lifes adventures. On the downside having her trying to wear the trousers and spend your money as though its her money costing a lot and dictate to you in general.

Offline Dani

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I do not think they can be compared.  A punt is a one off bit of fun with no ties and no come backs.  It is an hour or so of fantasy.

A relationship is real life.  It comes with all sorts of complications, kids, a mortgage, arguments, make ups, family involvement, weekly shopping, shared bills etc

How can the two possibly be compared,  They have nothing in common and are not even on the same playing field.  One is fantasy and one is real life

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Punting is hollow and meaningless, but after a while you begin to see these as advantages.

Well observed, its its meaninglessness thats its appeal to me. Punt and go, the fact i can punt and then never see that WG again if i choose not to. All for the exchange of cash, it suits me sir. ;)

Offline Lurtz

Well observed, its its meaninglessness thats its appeal to me. Punt and go, the fact i can punt and then never see that WG again if i choose not to. All for the exchange of cash, it suits me sir. ;)

Yes, I think experienced punters have a different view to newbies; they fall into the trap of thinking punting is something that it isn't. They may even desire it to be more than it is, but if it were, it would bring with it unwanted complications. I rarely see the same girl twice. Keep it simple. Keep it fun. View it as a treat - like scoffing a box of Thornton's chocolates, then throwing away the box.

I didn't start punting until the late Mrs Rochdull Lad had passed on.  I couldn't imagine that I'd ever get another gf and punting seemed the only way to get the sheer physical enjoyment.  Additionally, it came with the advantage of no ties, even when seeing a regular.

I've heard mates [who don't know my "guilty secret"] being very scathing about "blokes who pay for it".  In my opinion, they're paying as much or more in other ways.

If ever I got into another relationship, I'd have to give up punting because I'm such a rotten liar [and blush very easily] and would doubtless give myself away.  That, and the fact that I enjoy the lack of commitment, is why I'm not looking for another relationship and will keep punting for as long as I'm physically able.

Offline haystacks79

Haven't had a girlfriend in a very long time, but hope to have one again sometime.

That's sort of why I'm punting, to regain some confidence, and some recent sexual experience, so if/when I do meet someone, I'm not completely hopeless!

And until then, I'm having fun and enjoying myself :)

Offline Ali Katt

It's a cliche, but many people say punting is cheaper than dating, there's no strings and most times you are guaranteed sex. Someone mentioned a post that said their girlfriends BJs are better than an escorts - I've not experienced it, a lot of civvies are embarrassed to even get naked.

Who would tell a girlfriend/wife that they punt/have punted?

Or is it very much two separate lives?



Offline Joe Blob

Who would tell a girlfriend/wife that they punt/have punted?

Or is it very much two separate lives?

Best not to tell, I think,  You have to be 100% sure it's the right thing to do before telling, once you tell someone, you can never untell them.

Punting is hollow and meaningless, but after a while you begin to see these as advantages.

Reminded me of the woody allen gag; sex with out love is an empty experience, but as empty experiences go it's one of the best.

I didn't start punting until the late Mrs Rochdull Lad had passed on.  I couldn't imagine that I'd ever get another gf and punting seemed the only way to get the sheer physical enjoyment.  Additionally, it came with the advantage of no ties, even when seeing a regular.

I've heard mates [who don't know my "guilty secret"] being very scathing about "blokes who pay for it".  In my opinion, they're paying as much or more in other ways.

If ever I got into another relationship, I'd have to give up punting because I'm such a rotten liar [and blush very easily] and would doubtless give myself away.  That, and the fact that I enjoy the lack of commitment, is why I'm not looking for another relationship and will keep punting for as long as I'm physically able.
I know what you mean. Mrs madeinwales sadly died 11 years ago and she was not only the love of my life but also a very naughty girl! At my time of life match.com ain't for me so I punt to relieve the tension.

Offline James37

Best not to tell, I think,  You have to be 100% sure it's the right thing to do before telling, once you tell someone, you can never untell them.

Yeah. I'm guessing 'hey honey I was only joking' wouldn't really wash would it.

Offline MrMagik

The only thing I get out of punting that I want but don't get from the girlfriend is BJ/CIM, but even if I did, I'd probably still punt for the variety and excitement. Don't think I could eat the same meal every day for the rest of my life, no matter how great it tasted.

Offline mutualrespect

Who would tell a girlfriend/wife that they punt/have punted?

Or is it very much two separate lives?

I'm always completely honest about my sexual history with girlfriends. Some people think that's fucking stupid and they are probably right but I wont have it any other way. I'm always honest with my partners and that's probably why I'm currently single.  :lol:

I don't want to go into too much details but I'm a very complicated individual with a very difficult past which leads me to having a very dysfunctional relationship with sex. Punting works for me because it is purely for me and I am completely in control of the situation within the confines of the agreement. That appeals to me and allows me to cum. Simples.

In relationships I find sex is difficult. I'll go through periods I'm an actual relentless, hedonistic stud but then I'll go through periods where I have no sex drive or some other complicated bullshit. That said when I'm with a girl I'm with her and I don't punt and wouldn't. I suppose the only exception would be if she knew and approved... but I don't see that happening.  :D

Please don't take that as some form of veiled criticism of those that do. In the end I can completely see why people punt in relationships. I have been temped because of the circumstances described above but I wouldn't do it. I'd like to say it's because I'm a saint or something but it's mostly because I hate lying and think if you're doing that in a relationship it's going to infect and destroy other aspects of the relationship and before you know it you're caught gaffer taping together a rotting relationship trying to figure out where it all went wrong. That said... what the fuck do I know? All my relationships have been fucking train wrecks.


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