Do you have aggressive sex?

[Gspotter]

OK, I swallowed the bait and had a look at the sex users survey. One of the questions asks you to tick what services you are getting from escorts. There's the usual stuff, but one of the tick boxes is 'aggressive sex'.
How hard do you have to push a cock down her throat or pound a pussy before it counts as 'aggressive sex'? There's a separate box for BDSM so it doesn't imply those aspects are involved.
Would any of you agree you have 'aggressive sex' and how would you define it?

[Davido0007]

I guess where you are lightly throttling them and making their body forcefully shake around a lot during penetrative sex. Making them gag, pulling their hair and spanking their bum hard.

I like hard and firm sex but certainly wouldnt want them to be feeling any pain or displeasure. So I stay away from anything that I would see as aggressive personally.

Could have done with some kind of definition though, especially as its for academic purposes. Perhaps something for improvement if they do any evaluation of the process afterwards.

[pewpewpew]

I would say that i like it hard and fast as opposed to slow sweet and gentle. No kissing no bullshit just straight fucking. Is that aggressive sex? If so I'm all about that

[peter purves]

OK, I swallowed the bait and had a look at the sex users survey. One of the questions asks you to tick what services you are getting from escorts. There's the usual stuff, but one of the tick boxes is 'aggressive sex'.
How hard do you have to push a cock down her throat or pound a pussy before it counts as 'aggressive sex'? There's a separate box for BDSM so it doesn't imply those aspects are involved.
Would any of you agree you have 'aggressive sex' and how would you define it?

I am surprised that the researcher did not define the term.

I am guessing that the researcher may well be suggesting any  sex act and/or sexual advances that the WG finds 'inappropriate' all things being equal off course like the WG is doing her job and not ripping punters off

[uutarn]

I thought the "aggressive sex" was a bait from them.

If its consensual, its ok in my book.

I have aggressive sex with one girl i see, the others not.

As well thought out as the survey is (IMO), there are many grey areas you can't pigeonhole.

[fairfield]

Does it count if the pro$$ie is the aggressor?
Have had 2 who threatened to punch me but only 1 who just laid into me without warning. (Actually think its a bit disrespectful of a Wg to start on an old man 3 times her age, even if he is an ugly old git.)
...but doubt if such real life scenarios even enter the closed minds of the survey takers. 

[pewpewpew]

Saw a post yesterday from some guy who likes getting kicked in the balls. Bought her new trainers for it. Does that count?

[Tierney]

I don't have aggressive sex but I'd define it as physically restraining a girl, either pinning them to the bed by their arms or neck, or grabbing them forcibly by the hair so that you've got full control over them. Or carrying on pounding away when you know that the girl is feeling uncomfortable.

Having said that, one persons term of aggressive sex is another's term for "slow and sensual".

[Titi]

Aggressive prone bone anal Sex. Sometimes you just wanna dish out some pain after a long day in the office. Only whores can handle and take that sort of pain IMO. Civvies will bitch about how sore they are all day long.

[fredpunter]

Aggressive prone bone anal Sex. Sometimes you just wanna dish out some pain after a long day in the office. Only whores can handle and take that sort of pain IMO. Civvies will bitch about how sore they are all day long.

    

[Blackpool Rock]

I've not looked at the survey but my concern with this sort of question is whether it ends up portraying punters as being aggressive women haters if the question isn't put in context.
I've had aggressive sex with quite a few girls but it's always been consensual after discussing boundaries and normally only with a girl that i've seen a few time before to build up some trust.
On occasions during normal sex girls have taken my hand and placed it on their throat then asked me to be rough with them 

[ickydicky]

love grabbing their hair and slapping their arse when banging doggy

[agent47]

I don't know but recently banged the living hell out of a sloot in doggystyle really fast and furious so that her arse is clapping like thunder, then got her to hop down to her knees and spat a massive load in her face at 100 mph making her flinch and squeal. That's as aggressive as i get but to some that's nothing.

[G.Raff]

Interesting thread.

The definition is very subjective so there is no "one size fits all"
Many girls love rough sex, in my experience, mainly civvies with a fantasy rather than prossies who see it as a job and will try to act it out.

For me, it has to be consensual and with boundaries clearly discussed and agreed.

BTW I don't buy the survey story, the problem being that any study concerning sex and prostitution tends to be sensationalized and taken out of context by the time it gets published so it loses any value it might have had, however well intended it was to begin with.

[WhattheFlip]

Hmmm. Hadn't read the survey, but am now highly wary. You just know that the leader is gonna be "so many % men who use escorts have violent sex with them, what will be done about these monsters harming our poor innocent daughters etc etc"

For the record, I have discovered this year that I rather enjoy being sexually dominant-Choking, hair pulling, spanking hard whilst fucking, calling her names, slapping her a bit, face fucking etc. But it took a kinky WG to bring it out of me, and was lucky to meet another girl (non-WG) who enjoyed the same recently. I have always been curious, but it's pretty hard to bring the subject up, isn't it? That way lies a blocking, or a swiftly ended romance, unless you're very very lucky. Or rich.

God I bet some rich fuckers do some terrible things to girls! Super-Hot ones too.

[agent47]

God I bet some rich fuckers do some terrible things to girls! Super-Hot ones too.

Yep. One wg told me about one punter that fucked her regularly that one day he decided to lower a barbell onto her neck and shove coin in her mouth. She ended up having to pay a grand to put a restraining order on the fucker.

[WhattheFlip]

God I bet some rich fuckers do some terrible things to girls! Super-Hot ones too.

Yep. One wg told me about one punter that fucked her regularly that one day he decided to lower a barbell onto her neck and shove coin in her mouth. She ended up having to pay a grand to put a restraining order on the fucker.

Well, as long as he paid her

Sorry, couldn't resist.

[agent47]

  Yeah she got a tip as well. She kept the coins he shoved in her mouth 

[ickydicky]

maybe he should have given her arm a good yank to see if the jackpot popped out her arse

[pewpewpew]

BTW I don't buy the survey story, the problem being that any study concerning sex and prostitution tends to be sensationalized and taken out of context by the time it gets published so it loses any value it might have had, however well intended it was to begin with.

Well let's look at the ukp forum for evidence. Normal guys pay girls for sex. Some don't have partners and some do. Some like anal some like eating pussy some like getting tied up some like black girls some like midgets some like lady boys. Not very sensational until it becomes poor black midget girl had to grow a cock in order to satisfy the queue of sweaty gentlemen kicking down her door and kicking in her back door