Married Men

[Willy_regal]

Hi,

I was wondering, do you guys think that escorts and other adult workers care that you are married? Do they judge you? Act differently with you than if you were single?

Would really like to hear your thoughts on this matter?

Many thanks

Willy 

[Jumping Jack Flash]

They're only interested in your money not your domestic situation.

[Springheeledjack]

I don't think it really matters t WGS...it's all about the ££££

[PussyLover789]

As long as you show them £££££££££ they couldnt care less

[ickydicky]

cant understand why the op has posed the question. all a hoor cares about is £££££££££££££££££ and how easy can she do you.

[azrael]

As the chaps above have stated, just as long as you turn up pay up then leave they couldnt care less. They only time they give a shit is if you get obsessive then they'll introduce you to "Sergei"

[fairfield]

Must be choosing the wrong prossies. Surely most ARE curious about punters?
Many ask me as an OAP - not 'are you married?' but - 'how can you afford me?" Always at end of punt, except 1 memorable rom - who demanded to know before I handed cash over. Was dumbstruck - was she really gonna refuse business? Maybe it's cos my other car is NOT a Ferrari?
2 even lectured me to give up punting and find a woman of my own age. (tho at time, took it as warning not to book them again.)     

[CovPunter]

Last year a WG I saw frequently and adored began to ask me questions about my wife which escalated into quite a judgemental conversation. I don't think she meant it but it was a clear sign to me that the boundaries had become blurred so I opted not to see her again. Which is a shame as I've not since nor before had the natural rapport with a WG I did with this particular girl. It'd be unfair for me to name who.

Other than that, in my experience... It don't mean a thing.

[bigfish]

They wouldn't make much money if they didn't see married men

[CovPunter]

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This is interesting

[two20]

Well you do get asked so that must mean something, unless it's just conversation, but I don't think so. It probably reinforces the "all men are bastards" opinions a lot probably hold.

[ickydicky]

Must be choosing the wrong prossies. Surely most ARE curious about punters?
Many ask me as an OAP - not 'are you married?' but - 'how can you afford me?" Always at end of punt, except 1 memorable rom - who demanded to know before I handed cash over. Was dumbstruck - was she really gonna refuse business? Maybe it's cos my other car is NOT a Ferrari?
2 even lectured me to give up punting and find a woman of my own age. (tho at time, took it as warning not to book them again.)   

ive been retired for years and am near 70 but no hoor has ever asked me if i can afford her after ive handed over the cash. sure some hoors have asked me if i am married after i have seen them a few times but never in a way that was anything otgher than just small talk as i was getting dressed.

[threechilliman]

They couldn't give a fuck whether you're married or not provided you turn up with the cash.

tcm

[fairfield]

... It probably reinforces the "all men are bastards" opinion....

Think you are right. Have had Chinese, Thai and Rom WGs all bitterly state at end of punt that they've been driven to this job after being left in the lurch by a cheating rat of a husband.
Thought at the time - they're only trying to justify to themselves letting an old git like me shag them. (most of my punts don't end well.)
...But maybe given their own hang-ups, they DO want to know if you're married. 

[Steely Dan]

I think it more unusual if a young attractive single guy punts.  Or an older average-looking single guy. It is fine with me if they do, not saying they shouldn't or don't, just seems to me more unusual.

[fairfield]

....no hoor has ever asked me if i can afford her after ive handed over the cash.....

So Icky, what's like to drive a Ferrari then? And wish i cd punt north of the border, seem less complicated there.
Expect the pro$$ies asking me that question are really saying - don't darken my door again, even if you do have the cash.
They don't give a shit about my bank balance. ...but could resent you if you're a cheater like their evil ex.   

[ickydicky]

So Icky, what's like to drive a Ferrari then? And wish i cd punt north of the border, seem less complicated there.
Expect the pro$$ies asking me that question are really saying - don't darken my door again, even if you do have the cash.
They don't give a shit about my bank balance. ...but could resent you if you're a cheater like their evil ex.   

ferrari. what the fucks is that all about? i dont give a fuck why a hoor hoors and hardly listen to them when they babble on as i am getting dressed. only time i ever listen to a hoor is when she talks durty to me. what the fuck that got to do with a ferrarii dont know. my only car is a clapped out old vauxhall.

[Sir Lance-a-lot]

Must be choosing the wrong prossies. Surely most ARE curious about punters?
Many ask me as an OAP - not 'are you married?' but - 'how can you afford me?" Always at end of punt, except 1 memorable rom - who demanded to know before I handed cash over. Was dumbstruck - was she really gonna refuse business? Maybe it's cos my other car is NOT a Ferrari?
2 even lectured me to give up punting and find a woman of my own age. (tho at time, took it as warning not to book them again.)   

So a couple of presumably young women suggested you should find another OAP to shag?  WTF?  How many men would want to do that?

Some do, of course.  But personally I've never understood what can be sexually attractive about an elderly woman.  I stop finding most women attractive when they hit their mid-30's, and I can't imagine that changing as I get older.

[ickydicky]

So a couple of presumably young women suggested you should find another OAP to shag?  WTF?  How many men would want to do that?

Some do, of course.  But personally I've never understood what can be sexually attractive about an elderly woman.  I stop finding most women attractive when they hit their mid-30's, and I can't imagine that changing as I get older.

spot on

[uutarn]

Never got asked if i was married because i'm not, and probably never will be.
But have got asked why i do this (punting).

I would have thought its blatantly obvious?

[cueball]

I rarely get asked if I'm married, I never get asked why I punt (my looks must make it obvious  ) but I do get asked if I've seen a lot of lasses 

[wannabe]

I've been asked on quite a few occassions whether I'm married. Probably just making conversation, but I always lie anyway.

[twister]

nearly all the working Ladies I have seen , have asked me if I have a girlfriend?...I never wore a wedding ring all the time I was married, didn't see the need for one?....im now divorced , they can obviously see no sign of a wedding ring mark on my finger..and ask if I have a girlfriend?....lol...or are they checking to see if i'm secretly gay? or time wasting? or just being nosey?...like woman usually are?......lol

[mrdiamond77]

I have only been asked myself a couple of times when I have been punting if I am married (I am not). The girls are interested in the money and not your marital status.

[fairfield]

ferrari. what the fucks is that all about?....

Sorry Icky, car theme has been playing on my mind since yesterdays punt. Only parking space in road for my 20yr old Cat C write off was right outside the WGs flat. She asked "is that REALLY your car?"
I need one of those bumper stickers saying - 'my other car is a Ferrari/Porsche ...etc'
WG's don't seem bothered if you're married or not, but bizarrely a punter being poor does matter to most, even if you can afford their fee. Does it feed their ego if they think they only punt with Ferrari driving high-rollers?   

[fairfield]

...but I do get asked if I've seen a lot of lasses 

Cuuee, if its not prying - what's your best reply? Do you play the naïve ingénue or the sophisticated roué? And which works best with the WG?
So marital status doesn't matter, but experience/its lack does?

[Rod trotter]

They ask out of habit.its small talk, its all eating into your shag time.

Tell them to stop being a nosey kunt and keep sucking

[cueball]

Cuuee, if its not prying - what's your best reply? Do you play the naïve ingénue or the sophisticated roué? i just say I've seen quite a few over the years

 And which works best with the WG? i can't say what works as  there is nothing to fix, it's all post podge conversation


So marital status doesn't matter, but experience/its lack does? no idea, none of it really matters as its all after the event

Read the  red bits ff

[bushman]

(most of my punts don't end well.)
...

Can I ask why your punts don't end well?

Multiple WGs have asked about my relationship status....answer is always the same...in between girlfriends and you are the one that caught my eye.

[fairfield]

Can I ask why your punts don't end well?....

...aaah, that's the 64k $ question. Tbh, am not sure, but most punts don't start well either. Tho it is becoming easier to spot when a WG is thinking - has she sunk so low that she has to shag this.
So if married men get better service, then i can be one of them again - did 23 years before the mast, man and boy. Or if single staus helps - then they only gotta look at me.   I need all the edge i can get.
Bushman, that's a brilliant line of yours btw. Wish i could use it. ( But wouldn't the WG would have to be convinced you are girlfriend material in the first place?)

[fairfield]

Read the  red bits ff

Cool as cuecumber, Mr cb. Its a privilege to hear a master at work.
Sadly my questions all come at the start. They seem to wanna suss me out first. Its like - are you for real or is this a scene from Beadles About?
Threw my wedding ring in the sea when my time was up - but could get a cheap s/hand dummy one if being married gets you better service.
You do see some AW profiles where the WG boasts she is better than anyone's missus and wants going to prove it. Have always skipped those, but this topic makes you think..... 

[Rockhead]

Never noticed any interest in my economic situation. I have been asked about partners a few times, but I think it was conversation-making rather than any real interest. I'm single anyway, and wish to remain so.

[Sureshot]

I get asked if im married frequently. I assume its just small talk but it pisses me off.
The whole point of booking a prostitute is to escape the reality for an hour.  I normally mumble some shit and crack on.

They dont give a toss if youre married, single or david koresh - they just want your money and for you to fuck off as soon as youre empty.

Im guessing the reasons your punts neither begin or end well is down to your behaviour rather than your wealth or maritial status.

[ickydicky]

got to agree

[DG]

Nope

[ickydicky]

yup

[Willy_regal]

Thanks so much for your input gents. For those of us who are married, do you take your ring off when punting?

[johnthomas69]

leave my ring on, better than losing it and they know what I'm there for, ie empty my spuds and then disappear into the night 

[Turtle Z]

I do remember one deluded prossie stating that all her clients were single and that she wouldn't entertain married men due to her high moral code. That was quite some time back now but it stuck in my minded as being the ultimate in delusional prossie speak.

[DrJackDaniels]

Sometimes take wedding ring off, stick it somewhere safe, and hope to fuck I don't lose. Bit of a pain in the summer as I tan easily, so have a clear white band on my finger. Used to swap it to my other hand, but was asked once if my wife was from the continent as men typically wear the ring on the right hand 

The OPs question did make me think about this a bit, and I realised that I'm often asked if I'm married at the end of the meet, or in the rest after after round 1, when I've had a bloody good punt. But when the punt has only been average or worse, I've never been asked. I've got no idea why though - I don't delude myself that I'm Richard Gere 

 

[RedKettle]

I keep the ring on to avoid losing it.

However I would anyway, I am married and punting which so far as I am concerned is not something to be ashamed of, either for me or the WG.  I have my reasons (common to many married men) and I am comfortable with the decisions I have made.  I assume that the WG has her reasons for choosing to make money from sexually pandering to middle aged men like me, which is her business.

My only concern is security, both personal and of course secrecy as I do not want the world to know what I am doing.  Not because I am bothered but because with my OH  and my work it would cause issues that I prefer not to face.

I believe most WGs will in any case assume I am married and not give a fuck - which is the position of my OH but in a slightly different way

I have never been asked about my OH, probably because I am wearing a ring.  Sometimes when chatting about stuff I may have mentioned kids etc.

So overall I do not see it being relevant or an issue at all.

It has been said loads of times that punting is not a risk free game, so married punters need to accept that their OH may find out and that might create a shit storm.  That could be created by a WG telling them - personally I think very unlikely for lots of reasons, but we need to be reconciled to that and have plans in place to minimise the risk and deal with it.  What those plans are will vary depending on our own personal circumstances, tolerance to risk etc etc

[davison]

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This is interesting

That's dead on for me and very well written.

[JamesKW]

Whenever I get asked personal questions I normally lie as its easier,I never wear my ring,always say I am in between relationships,say I have no children and always underplay my job and status,never tell them where I live.I even had one ask me how I was voting in Brexit so I lied about that as well as I thought it might effect service.

[notcalledchris]

Whenever I get asked personal questions I normally lie as its easier,I never wear my ring,always say I am in between relationships,say I have no children and always underplay my job and status,never tell them where I live.I even had one ask me how I was voting in Brexit so I lied about that as well as I thought it might effect service.

Agree with all of that.  Take my ring off and tell them I am not married.  Not for any reason other than I don't want to think of my wife when I am fucking someone else.

[JW.Bobbitt]

For those of us who are married, do you take your ring off when punting?

Been ecstatically divorced for many years now and in the last few, have avoided long-term relationships (as I have become a selfish 'ol git),
but oddly enough have occasionally contemplated buying a new wedding ring

In the years after divorce, noticed that advances/flirtation/offers of affairs, from civvies, drastically diminished and I have put this down to the unfathomable female brain that determined that:
(a) there must be 'something wrong with him - he had such an attractive wife'
(b) 'he must be desperate'
(c) despite the outward high-minded virtuous morality 'oh well, there is no challenge now to show him what a better fuck I am than his wife'
(d) witness how many fall for the serial philanderer

Obviously when judging punters (after the obvious "where are the dollars?", "Is he going to beat me senseless?" )
as most? wg's are female too, possibly a tiny little of that civvie-thinking creeps into their brains, when determining for e.g 'how much effort I am going to put in to get repeat business' etc

To spice up my punting journey, I think I will discontinue willingly being brutally honest as to my status (whilst catching my breath, pre-/mid-/post-coitus)
slip on a wedding ring, act furtively and woefully moan "my wife has lost interest in sex" and see if I get treated differently 

[tdh]

Questions like this always seem like phishing to me. Seems like a way of gathering info on punters who are married.

Questions like this, location questions, work / profession questions seem like the 'mumsnet' question to 'try and catch a cheat'.

Each to their own but to me it may leave people 'open to.....'

May be me just being paranoid 

[Jimmyredcab]

May be me just being paranoid 

Yes, you are.       

[JamesKW]

May be me just being paranoid 

Not really there have been instances on UKP where the punter has been outed to the O/H by a WG.

[JamesKW]

Been ecstatically divorced for many years now and in the last few, have avoided long-term relationships (as I have become a selfish 'ol git),
but oddly enough have occasionally contemplated buying a new wedding ring

In the years after divorce, noticed that advances/flirtation/offers of affairs, from civvies, drastically diminished and I have put this down to the unfathomable female brain that determined that:
(a) there must be 'something wrong with him - he had such an attractive wife'
(b) 'he must be desperate'
(c) despite the outward high-minded virtuous morality 'oh well, there is no challenge now to show him what a better fuck I am than his wife'
(d) witness how many fall for the serial philanderer

Obviously when judging punters (after the obvious "where are the dollars?", "Is he going to beat me senseless?" )
as most? wg's are female too, possibly a tiny little of that civvie-thinking creeps into their brains, when determining for e.g 'how much effort I am going to put in to get repeat business' etc

To spice up my punting journey, I think I will discontinue willingly being brutally honest as to my status (whilst catching my breath, pre-/mid-/post-coitus)
slip on a wedding ring, act furtively and woefully moan "my wife has lost interest in sex" and see if I get treated differently 

If you have nothing to lose I cant see the harm in wearing a wedding ring.