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Author Topic: Lowering expectations to enjoy it more  (Read 1079 times)

Offline SJ772

Hi,

I think I've become a punting snob to my detriment in that I am only interested in absolutely in 9/10 and above drop dead gorgeous girls, and often they are pretty disappointing.  I read the exploits that many of you on here are having and sounds  amazing by your reviews, and then I look at the girl I think, eww she's not that hot despite how hot your experiences were I just don't want to pay for an average looking girl.    I need to disassociate paying for sex with you must be paying for a stunner, I guess knock off of the porn?  I wish I could enjoy what some of the regulars here are enjoying and think I am missing something.  I need to focus on the experience and not how desirable the girl is, but not sure how, there are some enlightened folk on here, any advice.

SJ

   

Hi,

I think I've become a punting snob to my detriment in that I am only interested in absolutely in 9/10 and above drop dead gorgeous girls, and often they are pretty disappointing.  I read the exploits that many of you on here are having and sounds  amazing by your reviews, and then I look at the girl I think, eww she's not that hot despite how hot your experiences were I just don't want to pay for an average looking girl.    I need to disassociate paying for sex with you must be paying for a stunner, I guess knock off of the porn?  I wish I could enjoy what some of the regulars here are enjoying and think I am missing something.  I need to focus on the experience and not how desirable the girl is, but not sure how, there are some enlightened folk on here, any advice.

SJ


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And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.
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Sorry wrong lesson  :rolleyes:

...Not an easy one the changing of attitudes.

If you are going to change I think you are just going to have to start with your behaviour by punting with not so stunning WGs until you become 'happy' with this. Hopefully you will not be unfulfilled during this process since this is also a real distinct possibility which could lead to cognitive disonnance. (ie acting contrary to one's own belief system)

All the best mate!!

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the attached is a review I posted recently which sort of ties in with what you are saying.  Bizarrely (and i do not really understand why) I visited a girl that I knew from a previous time years before and from reviews on here would be terrible!  I can only say that I had an urge for quick and dirty shag.

It actually turned out very well, partly she had improved but also because my expectations were so low it easily exceeded them.

I know what you mean. I don't want to pay to shag an ugly bird no matter how great the service. Of course I don't want a good looker who provides a shit service. The one's who provide both usually turn into darlings and the vfm/lesser known one's into gems..

Online The_Don

Hi,

I think I've become a punting snob to my detriment in that I am only interested in absolutely in 9/10 and above drop dead gorgeous girls, and often they are pretty disappointing.  I read the exploits that many of you on here are having and sounds  amazing by your reviews, and then I look at the girl I think, eww she's not that hot despite how hot your experiences were I just don't want to pay for an average looking girl.    I need to disassociate paying for sex with you must be paying for a stunner, I guess knock off of the porn?  I wish I could enjoy what some of the regulars here are enjoying and think I am missing something.  I need to focus on the experience and not how desirable the girl is, but not sure how, there are some enlightened folk on here, any advice.

SJ

 


Some times punters need to step outside, of their conform zone. Punting about, taking a chance (a punt) IMO  :)

How they chose to do that (with in reason), is up to them.


I rank service and attitude above looks and body type. But to be blunt some punters don't see it as that. There happy (to pay over the odds) for a sub standard service/attitude. If a W/G fits what they are looking for (looks and body type). Its their money not mine, so if that how they are willing to spent it so be it. If they do a review that great that there willing to share, some one else may find it useful.

but also because my expectations were so low it easily exceeded them.

Over time I've learned that expectations (when punting) are best left at the door (before I start), when possible.


« Last Edit: July 14, 2016, 08:34:30 AM by The_Don »

It happens in life to, most find snobs and people that put appearance before substance to be complete cuntish people that I would hate to spend time with.

Their are types so obsessed with appearance that will wear dirty stinky clothes to look good, yet they stink  !  :vomit: :thumbsdown:

As Don says, something it is good to get outside your comfort zone, you may shock yourself and find you like it there rather than the media portrayed ideals that many idiots seem to hold dear theses days !


Some times punters need to step outside, of their conform zone. Punting about, taking a chance (a punt) IMO  :)

How they chose to do that (with in reason), is up to them.


Although fine in principle and in every day life too, very difficult in the punting world when money is involved. With my finances I am not sure I can afford this luxury. I think if my circumstances were different then I probably would take a few more "chances"
« Last Edit: July 15, 2016, 01:13:50 AM by peter purves »

Online Marmalade

Sometimes punters need to step outside, of their conform zone. Punting about, taking a chance (a punt) IMO  :)
How they chose to do that (within reason), is up to them.
Over time I've learned that expectations (when punting) are best left at the door (before I start), when possible.
Although fine in principle and in every day life too, very difficult in the punting world when money is involved. With my finances I am not sure I can afford this luxury. I think if my circumstances were different then I probably would take a few more "chances"

Do you go to a casino expecting to win on roulette or for some other reason? On the rare occasions that I visit such places, my tendency is to go for stud poker, by which device I can make whatever money I have allocated for the evening's entertainment last longer while gambling than on most other tables. I don't expect to 'win' -- or even break even. I simply feel indifferent to the result. I enjoy the free or cut-price food and drink, the atmosphere (if it is a pleasant one) and compliment myself on the experience.

On occasion, I go to see a Romanian floosie who I know, almost beyond doubt, will overcharge me and provide sub-optimum service. There's one I've been to see twice. She really isn't very good at all. I amuse myself wondering what ridiculously awful thing she will try next. even going to a top provider, there is always the possibility that it will not be as good as the time before. Mostly I try to aim at 'slightly better than ok' and fifty percent of those might end up as 'quite a bit better than ok' if not exactly earth-shattering.

We too easily become like 3rd world visitors at a rather shitty second-hand car dealership. The money we pay seems a fucking fortune to what we would pay in Wongastan. We think, "it should at least work and get me where I want to go." We are influenced by the price thinking, "If I pay all that cash it must be pretty good really." And it isn't. It's just a second-hand piece of crap. But occasionally you can get lucky, even buying a second-hand car. Come to think of it, even new cars are not always that good, and our expectations then are even higher).

I've given up expectations on mobile phones as well. Whatever they tell you on the ads, whether it is iPhone or Android, the reality is that after a few months and you've tried all the wonderful gizmos, it's a piece of pissing hardware that can't be relied on to do things you really think it should do. If you buy it with that in mind, and still make do, it can seem less annoying.

Do you go to a casino expecting to win on roulette or for some other reason? On the rare occasions that I visit such places, my tendency is to go for stud poker, by which device I can make whatever money I have allocated for the evening's entertainment last longer while gambling than on most other tables. I don't expect to 'win' -- or even break even. I simply feel indifferent to the result. I enjoy the free or cut-price food and drink, the atmosphere (if it is a pleasant one) and compliment myself on the experience.

On occasion, I go to see a Romanian floosie who I know, almost beyond doubt, will overcharge me and provide sub-optimum service. There's one I've been to see twice. She really isn't very good at all. I amuse myself wondering what ridiculously awful thing she will try next. even going to a top provider, there is always the possibility that it will not be as good as the time before. Mostly I try to aim at 'slightly better than ok' and fifty percent of those might end up as 'quite a bit better than ok' if not exactly earth-shattering.

We too easily become like 3rd world visitors at a rather shitty second-hand car dealership. The money we pay seems a fucking fortune to what we would pay in Wongastan. We think, "it should at least work and get me where I want to go." We are influenced by the price thinking, "If I pay all that cash it must be pretty good really." And it isn't. It's just a second-hand piece of crap. But occasionally you can get lucky, even buying a second-hand car. Come to think of it, even new cars are not always that good, and our expectations then are even higher).

I've given up expectations on mobile phones as well. Whatever they tell you on the ads, whether it is iPhone or Android, the reality is that after a few months and you've tried all the wonderful gizmos, it's a piece of pissing hardware that can't be relied on to do things you really think it should do. If you buy it with that in mind, and still make do, it can seem less annoying.

I understand your analogy but I am still not sure. Perhaps you have more money to play with relatively speaking off course why you can afford the gamble.


Offline Gspotter

For me, the expectations are price sensitive just like any other consumer product. If I dine at a Michelin starred restaurant my expectations are going to be different than at the Burger King.
If I'm paying £100 or less per hour, I appreciate that it's the lower end of the market. There will be some diamonds in the rough and there will be others where you wish you'd stayed home. Sites like this can help find a girl who is good vfm and help weed out the bad ones.
If I'm paying more than £100 then my expectations are increasing linearly (or even exponentially) the more I pay. Some of the most disappointing punts I've had were higher priced at the £150 mark where I felt the service was not worthy of the price. However, I've had some really good meets where I've paid more and the quality was clearly deserving.
I think the uncertainty is one reason that keeps us punters going, it's an addiction like gambling. You never know if you'll be pleasantly surprised or have a bad experience.
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Online Marmalade

I understand your analogy but I am still not sure. Perhaps you have more money to play with relatively speaking off course why you can afford the gamble.

You are maybe missing the point -- which is admittedly easy to do if you feel condtrained by a tight budget. (fyi I don't actually alliw myself to spend more than a set amount. Same policy if I go in a casino, though my tops there is much lower).

Your chances of getting a shit punt, all else being equal, is precisely the same whether you are on a tight budget or not. The only thing you can change is your memtal attitude. It is maybe a bit infuriating to listen to others spending bloody like they don't care but the downside for them is that they are probably not even thinking about it as gard as you are. If you can't afford to punt regularly what you can do is go through the punting wiki tips pages thoroughly, absorb them, and also lokish you technique in analysing AW profiles. That can give you an edge. What it can't do is guarantee you a perfect punt. You'll probably learn more that way about what will work for you rather than asking for advice too.

For me, the expectations are price sensitive just like any other consumer product. If I dine at a Michelin starred restaurant my expectations are going to be different than at the Burger King.
If I'm paying £100 or less per hour, I appreciate that it's the lower end of the market. There will be some diamonds in the rough and there will be others where you wish you'd stayed home. Sites like this can help find a girl who is good vfm and help weed out the bad ones.
If I'm paying more than £100 then my expectations are increasing linearly (or even exponentially) the more I pay. Some of the most disappointing punts I've had were higher priced at the £150 mark where I felt the service was not worthy of the price. However, I've had some really good meets where I've paid more and the quality was clearly deserving.
I think the uncertainty is one reason that keeps us punters going, it's an addiction like gambling. You never know if you'll be pleasantly surprised or have a bad experience.

Agree with everything in this post.  Especially as I have had some better punts at around £100 than £150 myself.


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