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MilesPrower

Evening chaps,

So I'm new to punting, 4 punts in now but I'm having issues getting/staying hard and cumming too quickly.

I saw one girl twice and the second time I was much better albeit not fully hard.

When I pickup random women is clubs (drunk or sober) I'm fine and have no issues. Again with the wife I'm fine. As soon as there is paperwork involved I have issues.

Any advice? (Proper advice!) I'm in really good shape, 30 and have no medical issues. (just FYI)

It's annoying as hell and preventing me from achieving my punt goals!

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Get some cock stiffeners fella. :D :D

Viagra, Cialis, Kamagra etc etc. Guaranteed to get a rise out of the most flaccid of dicks as long as you have the right mindset.

If you still ain't got wood then you have IMHO a guilt complex  :scare: :scare: and its all in your head.

Offline ickydicky

sounds like you feel guilty about paying for sex. but if you getting plenty from your wife and you getting variety from pulling civvies in pubs and clubs you dont really need any more. you cock is telling you what your brain already knows
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Offline Marmalade

I think one trouble is that prostitutes tend to be rather boring. Pick up a civvie and, drunk or sober, there's some sort of interest there, some sense of achievement when she lets you into her knickers, and hopefully some interaction on her part that keeps your interest while you're shagging her all over the house (or apartment or bedsit, unless you live with your parents, in which case maybe a knee trembler quickie would be better anyway).

With prossies it's different. It's more like some slops at a fastfood restaurant than a meal someone has prepared for you as a prelude to exciting interaction. There's many a time a prossie's taken her gunk-and-cheap-perfume stained knickers off, looked at her gash and thought, "I'm bored." Or after five minutes of pumping thought "the only reason I'm staying another 25 is cos I've already paid."

But having said that I still think there's a psychological -- and possibly a physical -- benefit of shagging over not shagging. So sometimes I'll pop a nibble of something as a precaution in case she's as useless as a turd on a warm day. Just practical.

Offline LL

I think one trouble is that prostitutes tend to be rather boring. Pick up a civvie and, drunk or sober, there's some sort of interest there, some sense of achievement when she lets you into her knickers, and hopefully some interaction on her part that keeps your interest while you're shagging her all over the house (or apartment or bedsit, unless you live with your parents, in which case maybe a knee trembler quickie would be better anyway).

I agree with this. I would also add that on a punt I feel under much more pressure compared to a civvy encounter (not that I've had that many of those!). If I've paid my money I don't want to waste it. Not being able to get hard would be a disaster. I worry about that and then it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Also we're under time pressure. I almost always book 30 minute punts. My head's buzzing with all the things I've pictured doing to the girl and I'm frantically trying to get them all in. Imagine the same situation with a civvy girl. She'd think it extremely odd if I kept checking my watch as soon as we got to her bedroom. Not to mention the 30-second shower. If I can relax then I don't have any problem with my cock. On most punts I'm far from relaxed.

Viagra is the answer!

Offline Ben4454

Evening chaps,

So I'm new to punting, 4 punts in now but I'm having issues getting/staying hard and cumming too quickly.

I saw one girl twice and the second time I was much better albeit not fully hard.

When I pickup random women is clubs (drunk or sober) I'm fine and have no issues. Again with the wife I'm fine. As soon as there is paperwork involved I have issues.

Any advice? (Proper advice!) I'm in really good shape, 30 and have no medical issues. (just FYI)

It's annoying as hell and preventing me from achieving my punt goals!

I would quit the porn i think this is the main problem.

you say you cum quick so masturbation isn't the issue. Start wanking without porn.
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Offline Llama32

Similar issue with myself, I can usually get semi-erect but never fully hard. Cutting the porn and masturbation has helped somewhat. Guess those reports of porn desensitising us weren't a complete load of crock. Take a viagra too if I really wanted to be safe.

Offline Marmalade

I agree with this. I would also add that on a punt I feel under much more pressure compared to a civvy encounter (not that I've had that many of those!). If I've paid my money I don't want to waste it. Not being able to get hard would be a disaster. I worry about that and then it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Also we're under time pressure. I almost always book 30 minute punts. My head's buzzing with all the things I've pictured doing to the girl and I'm frantically trying to get them all in. Imagine the same situation with a civvy girl. She'd think it extremely odd if I kept checking my watch as soon as we got to her bedroom. Not to mention the 30-second shower. If I can relax then I don't have any problem with my cock. On most punts I'm far from relaxed.

Viagra is the answer!

Very true. I got into the habit of being quickly erect when punting with low-cost foreign whores. If you have an erection within two minutes of walking in it generally helps to get the message across. Nice if she wants to work at making you aroused, but at least you still get a shag if she's a lazy boot. I also find that doing a lot of shagging (when the opportunity arises) really helps. The body seems to get into the swing of things.

If a guy comes too quickly he can get a viagra-dapoxetine combination pill or ask the doc to prescribe dapoxetine separately. (Looking at the stupid-as-ever NICE recommendations it seems they don't like the idea of men taking it with Viagra though, so get them from different suppliers unless you have an overseas one. (It's licensed and manufactured as a combi generic by Astral and other major pharmas.


Offline Malvolio

If you're 30 you should be able to manage a second round without any problems - so make sure the booking is long enough so that you can do that.  Check with the WG that you can come twice in the time before you hand the cash over.

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I'm having issues getting/staying hard and cumming too quickly
IMO the points mentioned above are spot on.  My suggestion would be to get a burd to give you a massage / HJ 1st b4 slowly ramping things up & moving on to shagging.  Then if you feel like you're about to shoot your bolt you can ask her to stop.  A bit more difficult if she's bouncing around / grinding on you in cowgirl  :lol:  As you become more relaxed then things will come naturally.  Or more rather not as the case may be !

MilesPrower

Thanks for all the advice chaps!  :)

If you still ain't got wood then you have IMHO a guilt complex  :scare: :scare: and its all in your head.

It most likely is. I think I get myself wound up before I get there?

sounds like you feel guilty about paying for sex. but if you getting plenty from your wife and you getting variety from pulling civvies in pubs and clubs you dont really need any more. you cock is telling you what your brain already knows

Never though about that. I get a decent amount in general I suppose.

I think one trouble is that prostitutes tend to be rather boring. Pick up a civvie and, drunk or sober, there's some sort of interest there, some sense of achievement when she lets you into her knickers, and hopefully some interaction on her part that keeps your interest while you're shagging her all over the house (or apartment or bedsit, unless you live with your parents, in which case maybe a knee trembler quickie would be better anyway).

That makes complete sense, I love the chase. Even just getting a women interested does wonders for me.

I agree with this. I would also add that on a punt I feel under much more pressure compared to a civvy encounter (not that I've had that many of those!). If I've paid my money I don't want to waste it. Not being able to get hard would be a disaster. I worry about that and then it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Also we're under time pressure. I almost always book 30 minute punts. My head's buzzing with all the things I've pictured doing to the girl and I'm frantically trying to get them all in. Imagine the same situation with a civvy girl. She'd think it extremely odd if I kept checking my watch as soon as we got to her bedroom. Not to mention the 30-second shower. If I can relax then I don't have any problem with my cock. On most punts I'm far from relaxed.

Viagra is the answer!

haha Imagine clock watching a civvy! Pressure is definitely something I feel.

I would quit the porn i think this is the main problem.

you say you cum quick so masturbation isn't the issue. Start wanking without porn.

Not so much porn but cam girls, and a few girls I fap with on Skype....


Similar issue with myself, I can usually get semi-erect but never fully hard. Cutting the porn and masturbation has helped somewhat. Guess those reports of porn desensitising us weren't a complete load of crock. Take a viagra too if I really wanted to be safe.

I think cutting down on extra curricular is something I'm going to try!


Very true. I got into the habit of being quickly erect when punting with low-cost foreign whores. If you have an erection within two minutes of walking in it generally helps to get the message across. Nice if she wants to work at making you aroused, but at least you still get a shag if she's a lazy boot. I also find that doing a lot of shagging (when the opportunity arises) really helps. The body seems to get into the swing of things.

I wish I could walk in erect!

If you're 30 you should be able to manage a second round without any problems - so make sure the booking is long enough so that you can do that.  Check with the WG that you can come twice in the time before you hand the cash over.

Yeah the 2nd round is my saving grace really. 2 out the 4 of my punts have been OK, 2 have been shite. The 2 good ones I've managed to go again. The other 2 I just wanted to leave.

Online OakTree

Evening chaps,

So I'm new to punting, 4 punts in now but I'm having issues getting/staying hard and cumming too quickly.

I saw one girl twice and the second time I was much better albeit not fully hard.

When I pickup random women is clubs (drunk or sober) I'm fine and have no issues. Again with the wife I'm fine. As soon as there is paperwork involved I have issues.

Any advice? (Proper advice!) I'm in really good shape, 30 and have no medical issues. (just FYI)

It's annoying as hell and preventing me from achieving my punt goals!

The problem with punting is that it's perform on demand and with someone you've just discovered you might not fancy that much. As per usual Marmalade paints a very realistic picture of what punting is like and it does lack the challenge and excitement of pulling and getting to fuck a civvie. It really does pay to take a bluey as insurance. If your shelling out 100 quid and upwards you really don't want to be worrying about wether your cock feels like keeping up. It's a no brainier really.

MilesPrower

The problem with punting is that it's perform on demand and with someone you've just discovered you might not fancy that much. As per usual Marmalade paints a very realistic picture of what punting is like and it does lack the challenge and excitement of pulling and getting to fuck a civvie. It really does pay to take a bluey as insurance. If your shelling out 100 quid and upwards you really don't want to be worrying about wether your cock feels like keeping up. It's a no brainier really.

And where would one purchase such a thing *ahem* safely and not going to my doc...

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And where would one purchase such a thing *ahem* safely and not going to my doc...

Lloyds online pharmacy. Fill out an on line form, a doctor approves it, make an order then go to your nearest lloyds pharmacy and pick them up.

You can get them from asda too but you have to have a little face to face chat with their pharmacist first.

Wooddot. Take yourself down to your local ASDA store which has a chemists shop built in and ask there. A quick consultation and you can get what you want and cheaper than a lot of other places. They need to know if its OK for you to take such meds and they won't tell your GP unless you want them to.

The one near me has a very sweet pharmacist, female of course, and I just wish she escorted. I have ascertained that she is married;(

As to your other problem, yep been there dun that indeed saw a girl earlier hardly any point doing a review but it just didn't happen. It does now that I'm older mid sixties, take a lot more than it did years ago. But even so there are some girls who do it for you and others do not. I have a sort of friend with benefits, benefits all too rarely, and she does it no problem in fact it's a PITA seeing her sometimes, damp trousers and the like and bumps etc and frustrations but when she does come on its go and then some more but shes a civvie and escorts yes there is that difference. I'd agreed with you on the find a girl seduce her shag her as perhaps there is that attraction build up element rather than pay and shag let alone that having to find the place, park rush to get there, get wound up etc dosen't help.

Course some WG's are better then others but there're getting few and far between these days and in our neck of the woods mainly Rom's and not much else and there hardly any good ones of them either so perhaps not that surprising:(

More surprising when the girl matches the pictures well perhaps that's a start;!.

Offline MrXYZ987

viagra-dapoxetine combination pill or ask the doc to prescribe dapoxetine separately. (Looking at the stupid-as-ever NICE


Dapoxetine delays ejaculation by a mean of 30 seconds (studies in those suffering the prems); was amazed it actually got approved.
« Last Edit: July 08, 2016, 09:02:47 AM by MrXYZ987 »

Offline char45

I had the same when I started, issue for me was that I thought I wanted to fuck stunning models for 30 minutes when really I wanted a more interesting session with girls who aren't 10/10. If I get any performance problems now I just take a breather, massage, RO or whatever and the wood usually returns

Offline purple_t

Weirdly, I have the opposite issue. Hard as a rock for prossies, but often have trouble getting hard for civvies. I think it's because there is more pressure involved with civvies, they have greater expectations and will not be so kind if you cannot perform. Whereas a prossie has seen it all, and it's her job to relax you, get you hard etc.

My only advice would be, as others have said, viagra or cialis. It sounds like there is a psychological reason for it, rather than physical though, so maybe you need to get to the root of that. If you have a wife AND shag random civvies, it's interesting that you feel the need to see WGs on top of all this. Maybe the guilt of spending money on them is fucking with your head, I don't know

Offline rogercock00

Purchase a cock ring, they will keep the blood in your bell and as a result will ensure you stay hard.

I have moved away from taking the pills to using a rather nice cock ring, works wonders.

Offline Llama32

Purchase a cock ring, they will keep the blood in your bell and as a result will ensure you stay hard.

I have moved away from taking the pills to using a rather nice cock ring, works wonders.
You ever get any comments from the WG about cock rings?

Offline nuts4you

You ever get any comments from the WG about cock rings?
. No only guestions about engagement rings from the other half  :lol:

Offline char45

Purchase a cock ring, they will keep the blood in your bell and as a result will ensure you stay hard.

I have moved away from taking the pills to using a rather nice cock ring, works wonders.

Which one do you use, I bought one but found it uncomfortable


Offline Marmalade

Dapoxetine delays ejaculation by a mean of 30 seconds (studies in those suffering the prems); was amazed it actually got approved.
We can discuss the stidies if you like. Results vary. If a young man can only manage thirty seconds without coming, an extra couple of minutes will be a massive plus. It may also give someone the pause to use psychological or physical methods (eg thinking of the meeting with your accountant or using tantric muscle control).

If you type in "dapoxetine ncbi" to a google search you will get many studies.
e.g. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/26665676/

For other methods, "The Tao of Love and Sex" is probably worth a look through (I found it helpful in my younger days).

Offline Marmalade

"Walking in erect" etc. I think the body gets used to (and can be trained to) a routine. Nothing mysterious about it. In my own case, I used to enjoy overseas walk-in brothels where the girls would be flirting provocatively, flashing their tits or even feeling you up before you walked in or chose one. They were less than a fiver each once one chose, so I wasn't making a big deal of it. In that atmosphere it is easier to listen to the body's responses of "which one I find naturally a turn on." At that price, there was not much messing about, so I tried to make sure I was reasonably primed before saying ok to one of them. I think a similar attraction lay in shagging streetwalkers (for those who used to indulge) as you'd eye them up first. Modern punting can be a bit sterile by comparison but I try to hype my bodily responses in a similar way as much as possible.


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