Cheers Camcorder, very informative! I'm now narrowed down to Mistress Lilith and Mistress Scarlet. Like the idea of Mistress Lilith not being for the faint hearted but your glowing review of Mistress Scarlet might have swung it!
How have you met Mistress Lilith not in session capacity of you don't mind me asking?
Over the years I have been in Lilith's playspace for sessions with Mistress Savannah (who moved to Scarlett's dungeon years ago - not sure if she still works but if she does, she is also excellent), Rubber Mistress Ana (who now has her own place), Mistress Argenta. Lilith has occasionally been in when I've been coming and going and although I never saw her at any of the fetish clubs I have some mutual friends through the fet scene and I have also met her in a few Glasgow pubs when with mutual friends. From photos she is an ice maiden and in person has a devilish slighly scary persona. I don't think I ever spoke with her and smiled in her direction and left it at that!
With any mistress meet it is always a very good idea to say what you are looking for, what you definitely aren't into and set boundaries before the start and any decent pro-domme will want a consultation before a first meet.