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Offline Dime

One of my colleagues (a fellow punter) told me tonight that other people at work are talking about me; the fact that I punt. Last week I went out with 2 colleagues and I stupidly said something when I was drunk about me visiting prossies. My fault totally, I hold my hands up.
My punting colleague said they asked him if he'd  heard that I'd visited A prostitute, as in only one prossie. He obviously knows I'm a regular punter like him and asked them to keep their mouths shut from now on, as I could lose my job if the boss ever hears about it.I totally understand I was a complete idiot telling them, but am terrified the worst is going to come to the worst and the boss will find out. Advice- denial etc?
« Last Edit: June 13, 2016, 01:38:23 am by Dime »

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Depends on your job what the outcome of your boss finding out would be. 90% of the time its none of their business and your not in breach of any code of conduct.

With regards to your collleagues, if they mention it just laugh it off, claim a stag do or something. No need to give personal details about yourself to anyone as to why or how often you see prostitutes.

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Depends on your job what the outcome of your boss finding out would be. 90% of the time its none of their business and your not in breach of any code of conduct.

With regards to your collleagues, if they mention it just laugh it off, claim a stag do or something. No need to give personal details about yourself to anyone as to why or how often you see prostitutes.

Whoops. That's a bit of a boo boo. Seeing as you were drunk when you told them continue the drunk theme and say it was a one off.

Offline Donnie69

If anyone asks just deny.  Never confirm it'll come back to haunt you.  Say you were drunk and just joking.

I told someone about punting when drunk once.  The next week I got quizzed, and I stupidly admitted to my hobby.  It was the worse thing to ever do.  I should've denied fully.  Certain people would bring it up years later. 

I never got sacked, but I got out of the job.  I think the bosses were a bit scared of me getting revenge if I got sacked.

Online RedKettle

Your mate might have made things worse if when telling them to keep quiet he actually confirmed that you punt!!!

Perhaps he could go back to them and say he has discussed with you and it was a misunderstanding, you were drunk and ended up in bed with a girl who you called a slapper!?

As others have said - deny, deny and then deny again.

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I did something similar a while ago. A work colleague was the one to asked me about it but I laughed and commented how they actually believed me  (as I have said some rediculous things whilst drunk)

Offline MJ.spritzen

Can they sack you for being a punter?

If i were you i'd claim it was a one off, but go with the "high class" prozzy thing. Most non punters think prozzies are those bag heads you see on the side of the road at 11pm sniffing glue from a paper bag.

Other than that you could make it into a funny story about something that happened years ago on a holiday with the lads or a stag do.

Offline ArtVandalay

Goes to show why you should be super careful about telling anyone, even close friends or confirmed fellow punters about your hobby.

Offline joe diddley

I think that for all but the very few (e.g. Hells Angels and those who don't give a fuck about almost anything) the golden rule is DON'T TELL ANYONE ... EVER!!! Too late for the OP but it might help the penny drop for one or two readers of this thread.

Offline irwell

Say you picked a girl up, had sex and gave her money for her taxi home. It cost you £20/£30 (or whatever) so you felt it was just the same as being with an escort

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Dime, from my own experience the key information is not in your post.  About 10 years ago a cunt secretary hacked my emails and started circulating information about me in the company I worked for; nothing particularly scandalous but some very personal and intrusive gained from reviewing my sent items on issues unrelated to work that I had referred to in passing.  I was later able to fire her. :yahoo: 

The fact I was of good character in the company, was married and that said cunt secretary was recognised as a contagious little slag meant she was generally disbelieved and the shit did not stick - even though all of the stuff she circulated was true. 

If people rate you and you are generally respected I would bluff it out.  If your reputation is chequered, particularly anything of a sexual nature, that challenges the values of the company, or that calls your judgement or conduct into account in relation to your work, consider looking around for another job.

I find people are much more sympathetic since I have been married, but I also suspect that a boss was involved with said cunt secretary and may have put her up to it.  Consider how you are generally viewed in the business.

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Offline thefoxman

The whispering will follow you around. Seen it happen, and people bring it up years later.

How does your "fellow punter" colleague know ? Do the other people at work know he's a punter (thought not)
Sure he's not shit stirring ?

I'd go with denial, or saying it was a one-off when drunk. Your fellow punter sounds dangerous to me though.

Offline MJ.spritzen

If someone in work told me they punt i'd play dumb and still wouldnt tell him that i do.

Even the WGs i see each think me going with them is my first time with an escort.

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Just deny deny deny

They already think you are a dirty cunt so just deny  :hi:

Offline stampjones

One of my mates used to have this thing where he tried to get girls to pay him (not prossies). Just say thats what you meant - you were a prossie cos someone gave you some cash

Offline Cunning Punt

Personally, I'm wary about getting drunk with work colleagues anyway. All sort of things can get said and done and misinterpreted, not just about private lives but generally.
If you're sober, you know what you said and did.

Offline DiFontaine

Am I missing something with this? If it was in your own time and unless you hold some position of public standing, why on earth would your job be under threat?

Offline stevedave

As long as you're not doing it on work time, using the company dollar, or wearing an easily recognisable uniform associated to work, then it's really none of their business. It's your money, you can do whatever you want with it and you're not doing anything illegal.

Personally, I haven't told anyone about my punting activities, and never would. The less people that know, the safer you are.

Offline claretandblue

Am I missing something with this? If it was in your own time and unless you hold some position of public standing, why on earth would your job be under threat?
+1 I suppose in certain lines of work it could be a problem but I don't see how on earth you can be fired for doing something which isn't illegal.

As for gossips at work just deny it if asked and knock the drinking with work colleagues on the head for a bit,the gossips will soon get bored and move on

Offline webpunter

IMO it depends.  On the amount of info you gave out.  Or can remember.  Two options

1/ mention a stag do / boys night out.  Quick HJ.  The women in the office will hate you & the blokes will be secretly jealous, OR
2/ deny everything & just say you were winding up the bloke who blurted out the info.  And as a test - to see if he could keep something under wraps.  Which he can't.  Untrustworthy cunt

It'll blow over.  Just like the BJ you had  :sarcastic:

Offline cueball

I never tell anybody of my punting activities except my buddies on here.

Yes, the prossie convo comes up regularly amongst the lads at work.

I say along the lines of..... "there's nothing wrong with it, it does nobody any harm and there is much worse things to spend your brass on"

Obviously, I don't state I'm an active punter or post on here.

I wouldn't have taken a work colleague into my trust even if he's a punter, too close for comfort is that.

My advice to the op is deny deny deny, without proof it's gossip. I'd cut ties with your so called trusted buddy too.

Offline howrude

There are fourn types of people who know that I've been punting: a) The gitrls I've seen, b) The staff at the parlour c) any other punters who were there and d) anyone who saw me entering and/or leaving the premises and who knows what happens there. No matter how drunk I've got, I've never told anyone. I don't need anyone to know. It's not like I woyuld get more out of it.

Offline hullad

I have told no one and never will it always bring out the worst in colleagues, friends and family. Its also a trust thing I have some close mates, ex forces mates I can trust with my life but I regard this as beyond trust. I have never met another punter to my knowlege and I like it that way, the two parlours I visit keep punters strictly segregated.

No one needs to know unless you like the attention of course, there is only this phone with stuff on and very little. Password protected, no stored numbers at all, this site, a local one and aw with nothing stored at all wiped clean on exit or coded into a cloud file...

Trust no one .... 
« Last Edit: June 13, 2016, 09:24:43 pm by hullad »

Offline OakTree

Well I have a bit of a confession to make, most of my work colleagues are fully aware of what I do and have done for years. I've no idea what they whisper or gossip and frankly I don't care. It certainly hasn't made any difference to my apparent social standing at work. No one shuns me or threatens me with blackmail or looks down their nose at me. To be perfectly honest they aren't that interested. I learnt long ago that worrying what you think people might think is totally irrelevant. The only thing I do keep secret is my AW and forum identities.

Offline latecomer

Lots of sound advice in the posts above and my own advice will only duplicate it: DON'T ever tell anyone, ever (and getting drunk with work colleagues perhaps isn't a great idea either).

andhisnameisjohncena

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I haven't felt I've had anything to add to a thread so far so this is my first post..

Anyway, I went on a colleague's birthday party to Amsterdam at my old job and everyone knew what sort of things we would get up to before we went, let alone the stories of how prolific I as well as others were in the RLD as well as the drugs and other general debauchery. The managers just stood there and listened with a look of slight disbelief on their faces as I proudly stated to a crowd of employees that I'd done four WGs in one weekend and got off my nut on magic mushrooms which led to everyone I was with thinking I'd died. So my contribution is, like a lot of others have said it probably matters more how much you care about people knowing unless you're a politician or stand to lose everything if word gets around
« Last Edit: June 13, 2016, 10:33:10 pm by andhisnameisjohncena »

Offline Malvolio

Tell them it was a wind-up - you were drunk and looking for something outrageous to day, and thought your colleagues would obviously be able to tell that you were joking.

Hope you didn't mention that you post on this site though...

Offline Silver Birch

Tell them it was a wind-up - you were drunk and looking for something outrageous to say, and thought your colleagues would obviously be able to tell that you were joking.

Although they won't believe you, this is what I would say, and stick to it.

Offline peter purves

Can they sack you for being a punter?

Yes , they can depending on what job you do.

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Offline momochan

There is a couple of guys who I work with that go thailand every year and they kinda get looked down/despised by the women here and even some of the men , that is why it is better to keep it a secret.

Offline spud jizz

you need to confront the guy you told and tell him you just said it because you were drunk. I once told a fellow punting work colleague about a new girl that had turned up touring in our city and within 2 years everybody knew i visited hoors, lost my job, wife and dont talk to my family, so dont let it get out of control nip it in the butt now.  :( 
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nip it in the butt

Hate to kick a man when he's down but I believe the saying is 'nip it in the bud' which is a botanical/horticultural reference  :lol:  :wacko:

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I have a pal (a former work colleague) who is entirely open with his male friends about that fact that he sees hookers now and then. He says he only goes with agency girls and wouldn't pay less than £250 an hour. And his favourites are always Romanians, would you believe. I was genuinely curious about that end of the market so was able to ask him about it without giving anything away. I'd like to tell him my experiences, but I simply won't. He's single and I'm not and it's too much of a hostage to fortune.

Offline threechilliman

I have a pal (a former work colleague) who is entirely open with his male friends about that fact that he sees hookers now and then. He says he only goes with agency girls and wouldn't pay less than £250 an hour. And his favourites are always Romanians, would you believe. I was genuinely curious about that end of the market so was able to ask him about it without giving anything away. I'd like to tell him my experiences, but I simply won't. He's single and I'm not and it's too much of a hostage to fortune.

Great cover story. Nobody on earth would believe you paid a Romanian £250/hr. Hidden in plain sight. Like it!

tcm

Offline Simon32123

I've had a very close friend mention "a friend" of his visits escorts and a colleague at work mention he "stumbled" across AW and I should check it out.
It was almost like they're hoping I'd bite and reveal all, but it's my dirty little secret and I wouldn't ever think about mentioning it to anybody.   :cool:

Online RedKettle

I've had a very close friend mention "a friend" of his visits escorts and a colleague at work mention he "stumbled" across AW and I should check it out.
It was almost like they're hoping I'd bite and reveal all, but it's my dirty little secret and I wouldn't ever think about mentioning it to anybody.   :cool:

I had a similar experience with a colleague saying the same - I just looked horrified that such a site might exist!!

Offline Superman77

Shit.. It really depends where you work. I guess you're worried that even if you don't get sacked it might affect promotion prospects etc...

I have to admit, Ive done the same. regretted it a lot the next day. need to keep hold of my tongue when i'm drunk :diablo:

Its out there now, denying it will prob make it look like exactly what it is. Depending on exactly what you said, its my suggestion that if challenged in the t bar, embarrassingly laugh it off, keep eye contact and say it was a dare when you were 19, what a fool you were etc. at least then people won't think you're still doing it, which is what really counts. everyone makes mistakes.

I would also grab your mate to one side and say - thats the deal, don't say otherwise.

Offline horsa

Say it was in the RLD of Amsterdam, it then shouldn't be a big deal like they are making it out to be
« Last Edit: June 14, 2016, 12:51:33 pm by horsa »

Offline howrude

I work with a bloke who in a previous job would unofficially take clients he was working withto massage parlours. Although he didn't use them himself and I believe him. I was always quite eager to ask him about it and he would tell me about the places which unknown to him, I'd already visited. And girls I'd seen. It was quite surreal. I'd be saying "I've been there", "I've nobbed her" etc.

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There are fourn types of people who know that I've been punting: a) The gitrls I've seen, b) The staff at the parlour c) any other punters who were there and d) anyone who saw me entering and/or leaving the premises and who knows what happens there. No matter how drunk I've got, I've never told anyone. I don't need anyone to know. It's not like I woyuld get more out of it.

You forgot one more group  :yahoo:   :lol:

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Nobody knows everything I do or have done, and nobody knows what has been done to me.  I can't imagine EVER telling all, unless I write an autobiography that will make me millions, and then I wouldn't care who knew.

Online char45

If anyone asks just deny.  Never confirm it'll come back to haunt you.  Say you were drunk and just joking.

I told someone about punting when drunk once.  The next week I got quizzed, and I stupidly admitted to my hobby.  It was the worse thing to ever do.  I should've denied fully.  Certain people would bring it up years later. 

I never got sacked, but I got out of the job.  I think the bosses were a bit scared of me getting revenge if I got sacked.

I couldn't agree more with this, don't raise it yourself with anyone and if anyone raises it just deny it completely, don't bother inventing complex stories because no one will believe them and certainly don't say you did it when drunk/as a one off or whatever as that confirms it. Most likely it will come to nothing but I've dealt with this kind of thing as a boss where one employee complained about what another employee said he had done, obviously I couldn't care less what he had done but once HR are involved it's taken seriously. If it can be looked into and dismissed as he said/she said stuff and all parties told to stop drinking and stop gossiping that's one thing. If the person complained about confirms it in any form it's very different.

Offline GreyDave

 :hi:  in the real world we all talk bollocks and lie fact we put a polish on things so to speak some of my mates at work boast of the slappers they have shagged and look at me piss taking some days when they ask what have you been up to I calmly reply I shagged a bit titted blonde and had a coffee then another before returning to the real world of work.... they never believe me I tell them the truth but in an open micky taking way they always think I am joking and think an old greying git like me is just talking B.. But I would never talk of details and when where ect.

I think what I am trying to say is don't worry about it its a bit like saying yeah "I ve driven a Lambo " when you just sat in one at an exhibition NOBODY cares mate calm down. Try "Did I say that really? I think I was just shooting my mouth off trying to be entertaining :D adding a bit of spice to their boring enquiry's "

The firm I work for is aware of the AW site in fact I think that the reference agency who checks the references double check numbers and postcodes as some of the flats it has re fitted have been used by WGs As in past the landlord only finds out after girl has gone ie new tenant learns so its a way of filtering the renters as Sergi or as has happened an English man fronts them to get references!  We call them Sergis here but I reckon a lot are really  John or Barry

Roulette

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Before I started punting, and was wavering about will I/won't I, I made a few jokey comments about call girls and escorts to friends. I guess I just wanted to float a few trial balloons to gauge their response. Really regret that. I wish I'd just got on with it. They correctly deduced that I was either seeing escorts or thinking about it. Since then I've had a couple of occasions where people have tested me back by bringing up escorts/prostitutes and watching my reaction. I try very hard to keep a poker face. Nobody knows for sure, but a few definitely suspect. Just glad I've never let on to guy who I know have paid - they would definitely blown my cover at some point.

Offline Lucky Luke 70

Although sharing experience(s) with friends/colleagues around a drink is tempting, I would say "NEVER EVER TO ANYONE".  :bomb:
I'm 2 different persons: Dr Luke ( :angelgirl:) and Mr Punt ( :diablo:) never meet  :D
Luke

Offline Thepacifist

I doubt they'll bring it up again and it should all blow over. If they do then deny and blame the booze. One of my young colleagues has mentioned going to a 'broth' I just nod and feign ignorance.

Offline BogBog1

Lots of sound advice in the posts above and my own advice will only duplicate it: DON'T ever tell anyone, ever (and getting drunk with work colleagues perhaps isn't a great idea either).

Absolutely agree with this and all the other similar posts. As I think I wrote ages ago, I am 99% sure that a mate of mine is a fellow punter. But there's no way I would ever admit to being one myself - even if he told me flat out that he is a punter, I would say that I don't judge him in the slightest, but it's not something I have considered or ever would consider. A flat-out lie, but it's just too fucking risky.

The only issue is that I'd love to try a MMF threesome, or even a gangbang/party situation. The thing that's been stopping me is NOT the "being in close proximity to another bloke's cock" - as you'll see on here, I occasionally dabble in the world of TS escorts. The ONLY thing that's stopping me is if I turned up and knew the other bloke/blokes. Immediate end of total anonymity, forever. That thought gives me the heebie-jeebies. 
« Last Edit: June 17, 2016, 04:32:55 pm by zakkmorrison »

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The ONLY thing that's stopping me is if I turned up and knew the other bloke/blokes.

Obviously not ideal, but not necessarily the end of the world. If you both have as much to lose as each other (i.e., both attached, or in jobs where it would be a problem if known), then a mutual silence pact would be the obvious course of action.

Offline myothernameis

suppose it all depends on your boss, and if maybe they have any values, which of course escorting isn't one of them, now......

There a colleague in my work, let slip many years ago, that he see prostitutes, now more or less everyone in work knows of this, including my boss; eventually no one cared, but they think he is a bit of a creep, but what do they think of me,  just a mate, friend, but they have no idea I'm the same, I see escorts

Offline momochan

suppose it all depends on your boss, and if maybe they have any values, which of course escorting isn't one of them, now......

There a colleague in my work, let slip many years ago, that he see prostitutes, now more or less everyone in work knows of this, including my boss; eventually no one cared, but they think he is a bit of a creep, but what do they think of me,  just a mate, friend, but they have no idea I'm the same, I see escorts

I like the way you say he sees prostitutes but you see escorts  :lol: