Visiting a regular's flatmate

[speedygonzal]

I kind of feel bad (i know I shouldn’t) but my regular always been very nice with me ( I really want to keep seen her) but last time I visited her I meet her flatmate which was very pretty,  sensual  and also sent me some signals 

Now my question is what will you do if the day you visit this new girl your regular is the one that open the door ( I would prefer not to but is how things may end)  I know what the more pragmatic folks will say, she see many mens blah blah but honestly she walk always the extra mile to make our meeting very real.

Please don’t judge me and give me some advice about that you will tell her 

[jamiekinkxxx]

- Book a 3some
- Mention to your regular the next time you see her
- Just don't worry about it!!!

BTW what 'signals' did she give you?! 

[daviemac]

I kind of feel bad (i know I shouldn’t) but my regular always been very nice with me ( I really want to keep seen her) but last time I visited her I meet her flatmate which was very pretty,  sensual  and also sent me some signals 

Now my question is what will you do if the day you visit this new girl your regular is the one that open the door ( I would prefer not to but is how things may end)  I know what the more pragmatic folks will say, she see many mens blah blah but honestly she walk always the extra mile to make our meeting very real.

Please don’t judge me and give me some advice about that you will tell her 

It's not dating, it's paid for sex, if your reg thinks you should be 'faithful' to her then she's in the wrong game and if you think you should be 'faithful' to one escort you're in the wrong game.

In my experience escorts are quite happy to share a good punter and will talk to each other about who they've seen, but at the end of the day you have to do what you feel comfortable with, what anyone else would do is irrelevant

[Stevelondon]

I’ve been in a similar situation so can speak with some authority here.

Regulars flatmate let me into the flat one day and told me my reg was busy at the moment. I could come back or wait in the kitchen and she would make me a cup of tea.

Anyway. Was getting signals from her. The sweet smile, she kept mischievously winking at me suggestively.

I thought why not, if my reg is busy then why don’t I just go with her mate.

But then my reg appears and takes me into the bedroom.
Noe I’m an honest sort of guy so I mention to my reg about her flatmate and how she’s been coming on to me. She says,
“Been winking at you suggestively has she”

I reply in the affirmative.

“She’s got a fuckin tic you muppet” 😂

[speedygonzal]

- Book a 3some

That’s one of my resolution for this year hopefully can have some chemistry witb the flatmate

It's not dating, it's paid for sex, if your reg thinks you should be 'faithful' to her then she's in the wrong game and if you think you should be 'faithful' to one escort you're in the wrong game.

For some, not everything is always black and white. as much as I wish

“She’s got a fuckin tic you muppet” 😂

Hopefully we are not talking about the same girl 

[Hobbit]

I kind of feel bad (i know I shouldn’t) but my regular always been very nice with me ( I really want to keep seen her) but last time I visited her I meet her flatmate which was very pretty,  sensual  and also sent me some signals 

Now my question is what will you do if the day you visit this new girl your regular is the one that open the door ( I would prefer not to but is how things may end)  I know what the more pragmatic folks will say, she see many mens blah blah but honestly she walk always the extra mile to make our meeting very real.

Please don’t judge me and give me some advice about that you will tell her 

Why do you feel bad about it? She is not your wife or girlfriend! She is a hooker and is providing you a service to you which may seem extraordinary real but is providing the same service to other punters as well. You are entitled to see anyone else if you desire and the way you have written this you come across like you have EAS.

[daviemac]

For some, not everything is always black and white. as much as I wish

And that's where the danger lies, it should be.

No matter how well you get on with a reg it's still a business transaction. If you or her can't accept that then it's time to stop seeing her.

[big-al93]

Often, not always, it's a good thing that they know you are not just seeing them. It saves them worrying about you developing EAS. However if you want to make sure, just ask your reg at your next booking if she would be ok with it? If she says no, it's probably time to ditch her as a reg anyway.

[daviemac]

Often, not always, it's a good thing that they know you are not just seeing them. It saves them worrying about you developing EAS. However if you want to make sure, just ask your reg at your next booking if she would be ok with it? If she says no, it's probably time to ditch her as a reg anyway.

Are you serious??? asking any service provider if it's OK to use another one is ridiculous no matter what the service is. Do you ask your local pub if you can go somewhere else for a night out.   

[speedygonzal]

at least for me there is a thing line between business and reality that what excite (encouraged)me about going to escorts (off course most of the time this is hard to archive and make most meetings a business transaction). I understand some seeing differently, in a more mature and pragmatic way (great for you),  not everyone enjoy it the same way.

[Atlas1957]

If you have a regular barber or hairdresser, how would they react if you stopped using them for your hair cuts and instead started using the colleague who works the chair next to them?

[speedygonzal]

If you have a regular barber or hairdresser, how would they react if you stopped using them for your hair cuts and instead started using the colleague who works the chair next to them?

Thats exactly my fear and my intention with this thread was asking for advice in what should I say to my regular if she realises

[Punterperson1971]

Thats exactly my fear and my intention with this thread was asking for advice in what should I say to my regular if she realises

I have a regular I’ve known for many years and she’s suggested to me a while back if I wanted to see her friend so she sent me a picture and I ended up seeing her a few times even a threesome with both of them until they fell out over personal stuff,good fun while it lasted

[Atlas1957]

My experience is at parlours. There WGs can see you booking other WGs very easily. You can also see WGs going into bookings with other punters. If the walls are thin enough you can then hear the WGs enjoying their time with other punters. Keep in mind that if you aren't seeing or hearing other punters, the odds are good that this WG is fucking loads of other punters.

Generally you don't need to ask the WG if you can see other WGs. If you've just seen her 2/3 times, then book the other WG no worries. If you've seen her 10 times but she keeps it friendly but professional at the same time, then you should be fine. If you've seen her 20+ times and it is a hot and heavy full on GFE each time with her just short of crying out "I love you speedygonzal" as you pound away, then maybe ask her thoughts.

Some parlour WGs do get quite territorial or jealous if you aren't booking them. But, rather than think they love you, it helps to think they are instead looking at you as a money bag on legs and going "why is that money bag going off with that other girl he should be giving all that cash to me."

[yesbby]

I’ve often been told ‘you’d like my friend’. The nice ones tend to be supportive and prefer to see the economic boom kept close to home.

[willie loman]

I sympathise ,changing girls , dropping your regular can be "un mauvais moment a passer", cant offer any advice though, after initial chagrin the girls are usually ok.

[Stevelondon]

Thats exactly my fear and my intention with this thread was asking for advice in what should I say to my regular if she realises

So your worried your reg may give you a bad haircut 😂

Seriously. This is not something you should even be concerning yourself over.
It’s business. That is all.

But hey……… we are all different emotionally and if the OP does have worries. I’d look at it this way.

Your reg may just up her game if she feels she may be losing your business. 😂

[jesse4585]

...my intention with this thread was asking for advice in what should I say to my regular if she realises

If she raises the subject, not reacting as though you have anything to be ashamed of  may be even more important than what you say.  Possibly she'll be cool about it even if you display signs of guilt - but it's best not to. 

I'd not look at it the same way as walking past your reg barber to try a new guy -  that's something few would do, unless they weren't happy with the service from their reg.   But it's different with a reg WG.  Almost all men have a desire for sexual variety  - this is one of the two main reasons there's demand for punting in the first place.   So it's natural for a punter to sometimes try other WGs even if they've got a reg who's totally adorable, good VFM & great at giving all the services the punter likes.

As for what to say,  in the  event she's made it clear she wasn't happy with it,  I'd say something reassuring,  short, simple, & honest.  E.g. " You're always be special to me - I fancied her and I like to have new experiences, that's all it is."  (Obs change the exact words so it's more something that  comes from your  heart)

[Clarence Boddicker]

In fairness, I understand your predicament, I'm freelance in a small industry where everyone know everyone and although I can't do every job, I  always want to be offered every job, just so I can turn them down.  My thoughts are speak to her, she'll likely be more understanding than you think

[Hornydevil666]

And I'm sure that your regular will feel bad for pumping the 4 other guys that day after you leave too

Suggest 3 threesome and see what happens.

[Bonker]

If I may give some advice, without wishing to be pompous or self righteous.

Despite all the evidence to the contrary, much of it on this site, there are still blokes who can't see the difference between dating and punting.

Yes the line can become blurred. A little is OK. Stray too far and you're in shit up your pants.
There are exceptions, they're rare.
You need to keep a grip on reality.
Just fuck em and forget em.

[boardyhell]

And I'm sure that your regular will feel bad for pumping the 4 other guys that day after you leave too

Suggest 3 threesome and see what happens.

DOUBT SHE WILL BE OUTRAGED

[Bru1901]

My advice is to book your reg but try for a slot where shes booked and you have no other free time

Then book the other one

Your excuse was that she was unavailable and the flatmate is a plan B

Wont be an issue then

[Stevelondon]

I still can’t believe there are people offering advice on the Op’s predicament.

What fuckin predicament.
This reg of his couldn’t give a flying fart who he punts with. Whether it’s her flatmate or any of the other SP’s in the world.

Get a grip man. If you can’t. Then it’s obvious to me you need to express your true feelings for your reg, that you love her and have concerns about her feelings she could be having if you were to shag her flatmate.

At least give her the chance to think about this as she is sucking several dicks that day. !!!! 😂

[alabama1]

I still can’t believe there are people offering advice on the Op’s predicament.

What fuckin predicament.
This reg of his couldn’t give a flying fart who he punts with. Whether it’s her flatmate or any of the other SP’s in the world.

Get a grip man. If you can’t. Then it’s obvious to me you need to express your true feelings for your reg, that you love her and have concerns about her feelings she could be having if you were to shag her flatmate.

At least give her the chance to think about this as she is sucking several dicks that day. !!!! 😂

I beg to differ. As a reg, she gets a regular income from the OP. She would be concerned that the new girl could become his new reg surely. 

[Jonestown]

I beg to differ. As a reg, she gets a regular income from the OP. She would be concerned that the new girl could become his new reg surely. 

Yes indeed, I've witnessed more than a few dust ups in TCMs when changing girls and one gets outraged than a regular is being stolen from under her nose.

[RedKettle]

I beg to differ. As a reg, she gets a regular income from the OP. She would be concerned that the new girl could become his new reg surely. 

That is true but as we are talking about women I would suggest the greater anger will be over the perception that he finds the other woman more attractive…….

[speedygonzal]

I still can’t believe there are people offering advice on the Op’s predicament.

What fuckin predicament.
This reg of his couldn’t give a flying fart who he punts with. Whether it’s her flatmate or any of the other SP’s in the world.

Get a grip man. If you can’t. Then it’s obvious to me you need to express your true feelings for your reg, that you love her and have concerns about her feelings she could be having if you were to shag her flatmate.

At least give her the chance to think about this as she is sucking several dicks that day. !!!! 😂

Really? I'm asked for advice, you only one have just been bitching and complaining about how other people like me handle situations different than yours.

Great !  Your mom must be very proud of you for being so mature and  clever. I tried my best not to judge other people's actions because I found that the only thing that this archive is show to other how miserable I feel in that moment.

[Cheltclient]

OP, I would try to not overthink it. It didn’t seem from your post that you were suggesting that you would stop seeing your regular. So it sounds like you just fancy a booking with her flat mate and you’ll still see the regular. Ok, if your regular gets a steady income from you she might be a bit miffed if you stopped seeing her and regularly saw her flat mate, but as others have said, this is a financial transaction and you are not her only exclusive client and it would be unrealistic for her to think she should be yours. My advice, book the flatmate and have some fun. There’s no need to feel awkward. But if you did, use it to turn you on. It sounds like a turn on, banging someone else so ‘close to home’

I saw a girl a few years back. Was an ok booking but her flatmate answered the door to let me in and I followed her up the stairs in these hot pants. So had fun with the first girl in the morning and didn’t quite scratch the itch. Booked the second girl in the afternoon. Roles reversed and the first girl led me in. She did seem surprised but I didn’t care.

[Maak]

Escorts always assume punters see many different other escorts.

[jesse4585]

As we are talking about women I would suggest the greater anger will be over the perception that he finds the other woman more attractive…….

Thanks for posting this.  I think between us, all the common attitudes to the sharing situation have now been covered.
FWIW,  my guess at the weighting is something like this:

* Professional , dont care at all attitude: 50%
* Jealousy / reverse EAS related:  20%
* Concerned about revenue loss: 15%
* Actually prefers sharing with friends: 15%

Like Yesby,  I've had WGs actually recommend their friends to me  (Happened most recently with Edgara,  who recommended Ribena & two other friends / cousins) .  I've also had at least one brothel WG say she didn't like it when she sees her regs trying other girls - something she said was an especially common thing on the week a new lass joined the establishment.   Can't remember a lass saying she was worried about revenue loss, but then it's the sort of thing you'd expect most to keep to themselves.  So I see nothing wrong with asking for advise on what to say if a lass does turn out not to like sharing a reg with her flat mate.

[Stevelondon]

Really? I'm asked for advice, you only one have just been bitching and complaining about how other people like me handle situations different than yours.

Great !  Your mom must be very proud of you for being so mature and  clever. I tried my best not to judge other people's actions because I found that the only thing that this archive is show to other how miserable I feel in that moment.

For christs sake grow a pair. This is a forum for grown ups and if you don’t like my response then ignore it.

As for those commenting on wether this guys reg will be annoyed if he starts seeing her flatmate. Surely she will be well aware that these things happen. Up her game so she keeps him …….. I said that befure remember 😂

I also said we all handle our emotions differently and the connections we make with some of the SP’s we are buying sex from. It’s a simple matter. If the OP doesn’t want to upset his reg by punting her buddy.
Then bloody don’t.

As for my mum being proud of me.
Yes she was. Very !!!!

[Stevelondon]

That is true but as we are talking about women I would suggest the greater anger will be over the perception that he finds the other woman more attractive…….

This 👍🏻😂😂😂

[Sperminator22]

It's good to let the regular know that you're seeing other SP. Otherwise, if she thinks there's no competition, she takes you for granted, and service might decline overtime.
Furthermore, a good regular could recommend you some of her "collegues SP" to meet.

[big-al93]

Are you serious??? asking any service provider if it's OK to use another one is ridiculous no matter what the service is. Do you ask your local pub if you can go somewhere else for a night out.   

I wouldn't, and I wouldn't personally be asking the escort either, but the OP seems to be concerned that she will be upset. That wouldn't bother me, if the SP gave me attitude about it I wouldn't be seeing her again anyway.
That I thought would be clear from the full quote, but seems stupid reading the bit you chose to quote in isolation.

[daviemac]

I wouldn't, and I wouldn't personally be asking the escort either, but the OP seems to be concerned that she will be upset. That wouldn't bother me, if the SP gave me attitude about it I wouldn't be seeing her again anyway.
That I thought would be clear from the full quote, but seems stupid reading the bit you chose to quote in isolation.

You seem to think the OP should be asking his reg if it's OK for him to see other SPs, I happen to think that is a stupid thing to do, which is why I quoted it. The punter is the paying customer and as such can spend his money anywhere, he doesn't need an escort's consent.

[big-al93]

You seem to think the OP should be asking his reg if it's OK for him to see other SPs, I happen to think that is a stupid thing to do, which is why I quoted it. The punter is the paying customer and as such can spend his money anywhere, he doesn't need an escort's consent.

I don't think the OP SHOULD be asking his reg if it is OK, but he seems to be concerned that it would upset her. What I was suggesting was that he sounded her out to see if it would be an issue, and that if it was maybe it was time she wasn't a reg any more. That was what I meant about taking a little bit of what I said in isolation.

Personally I would just book the flatmate and if there was any drama from the reg, I just wouldn't see her again, but that is me and it didn't feel that would work for the OP.

[SoapyTW]

lol

[Jonestown]

Where there's a will there's a way - have the flatmate on an outcall.   

[RandomGuy99]

You might have to be careful leaving feedback for the regular's flatmate.

[Steely Dan]

I would tell my regulars that I 'cheat' on them all the time.  I sometimes tell them about particular adventures - who else am I going to tell - not my friends and family!  They like to hear about sex parties and adventures in Thailand - or at least they pretend to.  Whatever.

But I certainly don't ask for permission or sound them out or report back exactly what I am up to.  As soon as the hour is up, we have no relationship.  Until I choose to book again.  A 'regular' is not a commitment on either side - it is just an escort that you want to fuck again so you do.

[Captainhowdy666]

Had a couple of different situations with this dilemma.
Saw a reg for about 2 months then a new girl moved in and had a threesome.

Few weeks later I booked the new girl on her own and you could see my reg wasn’t impressed and she let me know the next time I booked and put on the performance of a lifetime and told me her pussy was better than her mates and said I’d given her an orgasm that she had been dying for.
Another time I bumped into a girl at the door as I was leaving so messaged my reg to ask get name.
A few months later I met up with the girl and told her how and when I’d bumped into her and thought she was fit as fuck from the second I saw her back then.
It worked a charm and she really put an effort in for an absolutely brilliant session where we did things on her list she was normally charging extra for (owo/ro/fk)

[Stevelondon]

Had a couple of different situations with this dilemma.
Saw a reg for about 2 months then a new girl moved in and had a threesome.

Few weeks later I booked the new girl on her own and you could see my reg wasn’t impressed and she let me know the next time I booked and put on the performance of a lifetime and told me her pussy was better than her mates and said I’d given her an orgasm that she had been dying for.
Another time I bumped into a girl at the door as I was leaving so messaged my reg to ask get name.
A few months later I met up with the girl and told her how and when I’d bumped into her and thought she was fit as fuck from the second I saw her back then.
It worked a charm and she really put an effort in for an absolutely brilliant session where we did things on her list she was normally charging extra for (owo/ro/fk)

I’m glad it worked for you.


I too have used charm in the past and got something like OWO without paying the extra for.
I’m sure some SP’s give OWO just cos they can’t be arsed to buy more condoms 😂

[LLPunting]

Have you reviewed your regular?

Is she an non-pro from Seeking, an indie SP, with an agency or working out of a brothel with a rota of girls so her room isn't her "home"?

If she's working from where she lives is her flatmate a long term arrangement or just one in a long line of girls she rents to or shares with?

Is her flatmate her friend?

What behaviour has your regular shown that would make you think she cares about you fucking other women?  Does she know you're cruisin' seeking?

[shagmore]

You are paying her for a screw, she is not your girlfriend, fiancee, wife so it does not really matter what she thinks.
Her job is to service the punters, do you think when you leave her she has remorse fucking the next guy that comes along - I doubt it very much
If you like the look of the flatmate, book her fuck her and see how it goes, you never know, she could be better .
And the consensus of opinion on here is to have a 3sum.

[speedygonzal]

Happy to. report that I survived without any wound. Luckily I didn't encounter my regular that day. The roommate experience was OK, maybe not as good as I was hopping (and I was willing to take risk)

I was more concern about a negative impact in my future booking with my regular,  Nothing related to any sentimental attachment but rather to a human condition of jealousy that can occur in any trade.

[Clarence Boddicker]

Happy to. report that I survived without any wound. Luckily I didn't encounter my regular that day. The roommate experience was OK, maybe not as good as I was hopping (and I was willing to take risk)

I was more concern about a negative impact in my future booking with my regular,  Nothing related to any sentimental attachment but rather to a human condition of jealousy that can occur in any trade.

Happy it went well for you. I’ll be interested in the reaction of the flatmate when you next see you’re regular, there shouldn’t be any issues of course, but there nowt as queer as folk and some people are naturally competitive. let us know how it goes.

[Munter84]

I didn't chime in earlier but I'm actually very sympathetic to the sensitivity around not making it too obvious you're seeing other service providers, whether those are adult services or otherwise. Once you're a client on the books there's often an unspoken agreement of fidelity - and if you're going to use somebody else's services, it better not be on their doorstep. "Cheating on your barber" has entered the mainstream consciousness and I think that speaks to a broader phenomenon.

I remember a mate of mine retelling the story of his mum always buying stamps at a certain shop. For a brief period she went elsewhere (convenience, temporarily altered route to work, whatever) and then after a few months went back to her previous routine. The "regular" shop keeper was so incensed by her perceived infidelity that he initially refused to serve her, and later suggested he would take her back as a customer if she paid a fine to atone for the lost business he felt he was owed - in the end somebody gave his head a wobble and he saw sense, but can you imagine, this kind of principled indignation over fucking postage stamps.

Does it make logical sense? No. Do people make logical sense? No.

[Nagilum]

Yeah, you are overthinking this. She is probably good at her job and makes you feel the way you do. She is not going to care when you visit, which will make you realise.

[Golovkin]

If your regular quit and disappeared what would you do? Just book the other girl does your regular ask you which clients she’s allowed to see? Really over thinking this don’t get attached to a girl you are paying to spend time with. She won’t give you a second thought she maybe good at her job but that’s what you are another job.