Unfortunately I’m at an age where my sex drive is rampant. So the physiological need helped you to control it…but is there a mindset to help control? Any tips?
That is a really good question. Sexual addiction or addiction to sex workers is a really hard thing to break. I used to be addicted, but a combination of factors helped be to become less so and begin to control the addiction to want to see sex workers. I think the final piece in the jigsaw was Covid and lockdown. I saved so much money during lockdown and I began to spend it on other things, which gave me as much pleasure and lasted longer then 30 minutes of soulless sex.
Furthermore, I couldn’t punt during lockdown either and that was for an extended period of time and I was busy in my job, so I started to think a lot less about sex and more about work and making sure my client was happy. At the same time I began to experience a further downturn in my interest in having sex all the time. So really it was a combination of other factors.
The other thing was I found previously that I was not enjoying the act of using sex workers - it was like I had to do it just in order to remain feeling in balance or ‘normal’. What I have found now I have it under control is that I really enjoy the experience and find it pleasurable.
If I was to advise you, I would say a couple of things
1. Recognise your triggers and try and respond to them in a different way which diverts you away from the usual course.
2. You have to find something to fill the gap if you cannot throw yourself into your work. A vacuum nearly always led me to punting more - time and money where the key factors. So having something to fill the gap is vital.
3. I swim and run alot and that gives me time to reflect and think about other important things in life.
Don’t get me wrong, I still have the odd day where I think, I’ve got to punt today, but to be honest they are very few and far between.
The other thing that I have changed is that I hardly see any new girls. I tend to rotate the same 2-3 girls. In the old days I would constantly seek out new girls and when they didn’t satiate me or they were disappointing punts, I would start the cycle again. I punted 5 times in a single day once just searching for the ‘perfect session’. Of course, that concept of the perfect session doesn’t really exist.
At the end of the day, this activity should be used to enhance your life, not just used to keep you sane or stop the sirens in your head (as I used to describe it). It should be pleasurable. It should be fulfilling. If you leave a punt feeling shit, feeling remorseful, feeling guilty or like you could’ve spent the money on something else - that’s a big red flag.
I don’t know whether all of that helps or not.
