Ah good Intel! I was just way too horny and ultimately didn't do the research I usually do 😬😬
So the giveaways were broad shoulders with decent muscle and the hands were big and not feminine fingers. Plus the sp had a bottle of lube ready in a way that wasn't normal. As it dawned on me I looked at thier face and it was reasonably male esq. Also the voice was not particularly feminine.
No “touch your toes and brace yourself” for her natural strap on then

Really appreciate the heads up.
There’s a lack of decent SPs in Berkshire at the moment. Understand why you TOFTT.
I did similar a few weeks ago and had a shit time too, though in fairness, not as shit as yours!
Interestingly, she didn’t use lube, read the review for further details.
Guy