You are morally confused, pal. All these weak arguments are ways of getting yourself off the hook. It would be much braver to put yourself on the hook and deal with it.
I would say I mostly do things for a reason so no, I don't relate to this statement. But even if I was aimless, there would still be a moral dimension to my actions. If I punched someone for no reason, I could still judge that it was wrong and that the other person was right to feel aggrieved. Your little self excuse is the way of the psychopath - no reason. no big deal.
No you can't. But you can judge to a large extent the moral content of your actions without knowing their effect. It is possible to do something good and for it to have a bad effect, for example.
When you spread peanut butter on your toast, you are intending to produce an edible meal to satisfy the desire of hunger. You do it for your reasons.
When you spit on someone you gather the phlegm in your mouth and project it onto them. Everyone knows its is a disgusting thing to do, intended to humiliate. There's a reason you don't go around spitting on people randomly. It's not 'who knows why?'. We all know why and so do you.
You took up a moral position yourself. WTF? was your reaction to her showering herself. Then you accused her of time wasting. Then you rated her performance down based on these moral acts as you saw them. You didn't just say 'who knows why she did them?'
You are being much kinder to yourself than you were to her. That isn't impressive.
Starting from the start this time.
You say "...I mostly do things for a reason..." How about giving her a cheeky slap while in doggy? Ever done that? Premeditated or did you just do it? Ask permission first? Don't give me any bullshit. Of course you just did it.
I guess now you're going to say there's a difference between a lighthearted slap and a spit. I'd say that the difference is between strangers on a street and someone with whom there can be some assumption of intimacy and acceptance.
No, i didn't '...have to gather phlegm in my mouth...and project it...' I'm naturally a very heavy saliva producer. Have to work hard to avoid being a sloppy kisser. The saliva was already there. You can accuse me of taking an easy way out rather than swallowing it. Project it? Not particularly. Yes it was a spit but not in any anti-social way. Disgusting...intended to humiliate? Out on the street, yes. In the bedroom with someone the second time round, ON HER BACK, no. I know you'll disagree but thats how I see it.
"You took up a moral position yourself..." Now there you have a point. Yes, I interpreted her reaction just as she (presumably) interpreted my action. Actually we don't know that, whether she reacted to suddenly feeling a dollop of liquid on her back, or whether she reacted to her interpretation of my motivation. It occurs to me that she might not have been confident that it was just saliva.
A memory comes up of several months ago with a masseuse, my third visit. Good rapport, good session. All done, chit-chat time, I offered her some home-made grape juice. To my surprise, she refused it, saying "But I don't know you, there might be anything in it" My reaction was like wtf? (again !) All that good stuff between us these last few sessions, and this is how you trust me? So your rapport is just an act? Well, goodbye. I never went back.
Yes, I'm kind to myself. I like to think I'm pretty kind to others, too. That doesn't mean I have to take shite from anyone who wasn't there.
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