I think your right re adversity betwixt girls and punters but lets say sometimes, not all the time, and some girls are orgasimatic some are not. One regular of mine i think just refuses to or can't "let go" another loves her "shakes" as she calls it ! Also remeber that your not the only bloke shes seeing that day either, their not exclusive.
Even civvies are much the same, not that I tangle with many nowadays.
Just a word of advice, do knock out a review or two it, shall we say, improves your standing and credbility on the old board here;)..