Regular Punt - Developed into Bareback Option (not taken)

[Home Alone]

40 visits in a couple of years spins this into a dynamic that I just can't comprehend. There must be levels of connection and familiarity after that much intimacy so its unsurprising something arose. I'd have predicted some sort of EAS or clinginess developing...... maybe the BB was a sort of manifestation of that? As I say, well beyond my level of understanding but you did well to resist.

Or it could have been a 'farewell present' from a Regular. It happened to me about 8 years ago when I'd become close enough to her not only to be certain that she was retiring, but also to know why.

I was even fluffier back then but I got my sensible head on as I made the journey home and was sufficiently realistic to be sure that I wouldn't be the only one to have had such an offer.

So I contacted my local clinic the next day and eventually got the all-clear. A narrow escape which taught me that if I were ever offered a similar 'present - I never have been - to decline it with thanks.

[catweazle]

Everything said in this thread is accurate. I have had numerous offers of BB from girls who have become regulars. It seems that once they get comfortable with you the guard drops. On one occasion, l pulled out to change position and left the condom behind. She pulled it out, discarded it and instead of reapplying it or getting a new one she tried to guide me back in BB.

I have also had girls say "you don't need a condom do you? You're clean, right?".

I agree with the earlier comments that (whatever they may say) virtually every SP will do BB in specific circumstances.

[MrMatrix]

Could this be a case of EAS OP I ask myself. And thats the trouble seeing someone regular. If you are married this is a risk you shouldnt take no matter how tempting. Could be you are the special one. Could be she has most likely offered this in the past to long term regulars.
Even if you arent married it represents an unnecessary risk. But I do understand your temptation. 

[Jonestown]

Why not invite her out for a spot of lunch or even just a coffee, see how you get on when you’re both fully clothed and in public, then decide if you want this to go in a different direction.

[django0700]

She is lying, she is doing it with everyone.

Either that, or you are so truly special to her. If so ask her to see you for no money now and she will say yes.

Here is another hat to throw in the ring. She doesn't know that you have not been banging every skank in town. So even if she now feels comfortable to do it after 40 bookings. She doesn't know what you've been doing

She is doing it with everyone. Trust me...

Agreed, 100%. The OP should consider meeting other SP's since the lines with this SP may get blurred and the temptation too hard to resist.

[RogerBoner]

I have also had girls say "you don't need a condom do you? You're clean, right?".

What country were they from?  I'm trying to guage this.

[misterali]

OP there is a lot of logic here with a healthy dose of cynicism. I think it’s very key to remember that this serves long term punters well but you have to evaluate your situation and what you want.

Yes she could be offering BB only to you but experience and logic states that it is unlikely, but not entirely impossible! Try and see the situation as if your mate or sibling has asked you for advice, then apply your response to yourself.

In response to some of the information posted on here: YES you can catch Herpes even with a condom on!! It only requires skin to skin contact while it is at its infectious state (look out of the tell tale bumps/spots). NO it’s not safer to BB a civvie than a WG in fact the risks are usually higher. WG would normally focus on sexual health more as they are more at risk in their profession but civvies would not visit the clinic as often. Hell if I wasn’t punting I would probably skip a visit to the local clinic too!

[ipreferbutts]

Serious question/scenario, so please bear with me before cracking your keyboard with the most predictable outrage:

I've been seeing an SP regularly for about two years. She generally only offers massage and HE - no sex.

I've probably seen her about 40 times. For the first year, it was definitely just a massage and HE play. Then, after about a year, it progressed into protected sex (at my suggestion). On my last visit, it became obvious by the way were we together that BB would be an option if I wanted it. I tactfully abstained (although, if I'm honest, it was difficult) and only had protected sex.

She has indicated that things have only progressed this way because we have known each other for a couple of years and she trusts me. Given how long it took to go from HE to protected and then to BB potentially being on the table, I am becoming persuaded that the situation might be genuine.

I was tempted. Am I being an idiot here? Or could a situation like this exist where something organic does genuinely develop?

I say go for it dude, you only live once. Seems genuine, the way you describe things. She clearly wants to feel your flesh inside her, why not give her that? At least do it once. If you don't like it, don't do it again. If you like it, keep doing it.

[SlamBoy]

Thanks for all of the great advice guys. UKP at its finest. 

I've decided that I need to move on and find another regular SP.

It will be difficult though, as we have built a good rapport over the last couple of years, as it had got to the stage where we enjoyed each other's company just as much outside of the sex (I'd often stay behind for a wine or tea for an hour or so after my punting time had ended just to catch-up and chat - obviously without charge). The BB'ing issue aside, what convinced me to move on was the points made by you guys about what I actually wanted out of it - could I actually be in a relationship with her? In reality, the answer has to be no. Our relationship is built on fantasy and even if we have become close and socially compatible, the idea of mingling our lives is completely unrealistic, and must be discounted.

Again, thanks for not jumping in with the unhelpful  'BB - WTF??' type responses and actually addressing the real issues which go beyond BB - I can see now the possibility of BB was just a conduit through which those other issues were manifesting.

You guys are great! 

[LLPunting]

Fuck!  I thought we were fer shure on for our first UKP marriage!   

Lorra, lorra, happy batter wasted.   

[MrMatrix]

Fuck!  I thought we were fer shure on for our first UKP marriage!   

 

[catweazle]

What country were they from?  I'm trying to guage this.

Here in the UK with British WGs